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he hurts my feelings, should I tell him?
This guy that I used to want to date is showing some less than desirable qualities. Firstly, I found out he's a gay basher. He says that when queer eye for the straight guy comes on the television he wants to throw his boot through the screen. He's also sexist, and has said to me that men are smarter than woman, and that woman are stupid. He also said that anyone over 30 who isnt married must be gay, and that I'm a prude for saving myself for marriage. He's also made nasty comments about my weight, and I'm not fat, just average.The funny thing is he thinks he's hot but he's really not, he's about 20 pounds overweight and has an ugly hairstyle and outdated clothes. I would love to put him in his place one day but am too "nice". But it makes me mad when he constantly puts me and his other friends down. Should I say something to him?
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Why are you even asking this question? The fact that you still spend time with, talk to, and think about this guy makes you less of a person. I mean it, people are only as good as the people they choose to spend time with, and obviously you are spending time with trash.
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It sounds like he is acting this way out of his own insecurity. You say he thinks hes hot but Im sure its just a front covering the fact that hes very unsure about himself. Acting the way he does makes him feel better about himself at the time, but sooner or later he will realize that he's hurting his reputation not helping.
If hes a true and real friend I would talk to him about that and find his true feelings, if he's just an aquantence and you have no interest in taking it any further, I would just leave it alone
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He's laughable. I suggest laughing at most of what he says-preferably to his face. If you can ignore him, do. Having a woman show complete disinterest in him will not sit well with him. If you have the misfortune to have to see himin class or something, again employ the laughing technique along with some well chosen comments indicating just how utterly insignificant his little opinions are.
If he gets personal assure him that if through some large and inexplicable error in judgement you desire his opinion you will request it/have it beaten out of him.
People like this are tiresome but can provide considerable amusement if toyed with in the right way. Enjoy.
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It's different when he makes random throwaway comments but when it's personal it is most certainly NOT okay. How dare he speak to you like this?! Sounds to me like this guy is so insecure about himself he puts other people down to make himself feel better. Yes you should definitely say something but the worst thing you can do is to get personal - you don't want to stoop to his level. Simply say firmly that you have your morals (and in this day of teenage pregnancy and casual sex some might say what you are doing is very admirable) and that you're not fat (and I'm glad that you haven't started to believe him when he says that), remind him that no-one's perfect and that he has no business saying what he does about you and your friends. And if this persists, just don't be friends with him - you're worth much more than that and he'll soon change his attitude when he realises all his friends have turned their backs on him.
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OMG! You should deff. say something to that slef-centered sexist jerk! I don't know how you can put up with him. You should deff. put him in his place before he goes to far. & a guy that hurts your feelings is not worth it, you either A. confront him about it or B. stop hanging out with him or C. just put up w. the bull shit he is saying. My advice for you is deff. A.
xo Erikanne
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I wouldn't say anything to him ever again, he sounds like an idiot.
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well, I think he is making a fool out of himself and everyone else can see through him. You won't need to do anything because he's taking care of it for you. kind of ironic!
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Jerk ALERT! why in the heck are you talking to this guy when he is being such a jerk that is my first question. About gay bashing well i dont see the problem with how he expresses himself about gays. the thing that i do have a problem with is if he is calling you fat and telling you all these things that are negative you should not even waste your time talking to someone like that! yeah you can tell him something tell him being rude and negative to people and more importantly you is mean and disrespectful and he isnt exactly a amazing catch. can you say self made loser? walk away. females can be just as smart if not smarter than males known fact all it takes is education.
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Absoloutly. This jerk needs to realize that his rude comments are no where desirable & not even needed. He`s just making people pissed off. You & your friends need to say something. I know that your too nice, but this guy needs to be kicked in the face[sorry]. If he doesn`t take what you have to say seriously, then whenever he says something rude, just tell him to shut the f*ck up.
PS- Call him tacky. :]
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