Member Since: March 25, 2007
Answers: 40
Last Update: May 13, 2007
Visitors: 3389
|
| |
how long are they supposed to last .
minute wise !?!? (link)
| |
lol at chuckweed. That's not necessarily a good thing! Like sex, blow jobs shouldn't be all about getting it over with quickly, sometimes it's fun to play around and make it last - licking, teasing, stroking, getting the breasts involved etc etc! Personally my boyfriend is disappointed with himself if it only lasts 5 minutes. But there's no set time for how long it should or shouldn't last, anywhere between 5 and 15 minutes is great - in any case, if he's hard the whole time you know you're doing it right.
|
if you have sex when your sick
ex cold, flu, nothing serious
will your child be deformed in any way, or is there any chance. (link)
| |
No, a cold or mild flu won't cause any problems. However some viruses can cause birth defects, for example rubella can cause foetal brain damage, so if you suspect you might have something worse than a cold I would see a doctor before you tried to conceive.
|
ok there is this kid, lets call him josh for example. Well josh definitly likes me and there is no doubt about that and well i cant decide if i like him or not. he's a great friend and he listens to me and he cares about me and he doesn't think im pathetic when i cry and get depressed. He's a really nice guy but i can't see myself being intimate with him. He's not very attractive and sometimes he can be really dorky and he is also obsessed with the army which i am not so i don't know what to do. He has really small lips and they are sort of curved inward so i cant imagine kissing him. But he has muscles which is a turn on. Any advice as to what to do would be greatly appreciated.
im afraid if he asked me out i woldn't know what to say. but lately he's always on my mind and i want to see him all the time. I'm so confused. Please help me. (link)
|
When I started dating my b/f I was 15, he was 16 and he was shall we say, pretty dorky (though he too had muscles, lol). But he was the nicest, most genuine, funny, wonderful person in the world. I was one of the pretty, popular girls (apparently) and I had the same feelings - I liked him as a person, even loved him I guess, but the physical attraction wasn't 100% there. However, I hung around with him more and more as friends, and after really getting to know him I found him irresistable! At the time noone could see why I went out with him, but I have been with him for four years now and 1) he is now VERY handsome - dorky boys often just have to grow into themselves! and 2) I couldn't possibly be happier.
You should ask him to spend a day with you at the mall or something, as friends, and see how it goes. If you look past the fact that he's maybe not immediately attractive and focus on the great personality he has, pretty soon you'll find that he starts to looks pretty good too... and you'll probably have a great relationship.
|
|
i need some new rap or hip hop music for my ipod is there a website where new music that just came out is? or does anyone know any good new songs? or even old songs like remixes of them something lol? (link)
| |
Have you ever listened to trip-hop? Try 'Tricky' if you haven't yet. It's a little older but pretty cool, a bit more mellow than most rap and hip-hop and great music to wind down to.
|
OK i pick my lips 24/7
i pick them until they start bleeding, and they hurt ALL the time
I use chapstick all the time, and never go any where with out.
So can anyone giving me somthing that'll maybe help my lips stop pealing.
i don't want chapsticks though (link)
| |
I used to do that. It helps if there is no loose skin to pick, so in the morning/evening after your shower when your lips are soft, take a toothbrush and scrub it over your lips to exfoliate the dry skin away, and instead of using chapstick try a balm, like Elizabeth Arden's 48 Hour Balm or Blistex. After a few days your lips will be free of dry skin and the new soft skin will take its place, leaving no more skin to pick! Hooray!
|
Well I straighten my hair everyday because its really curly. But a few hours later it starts to curve inward. I see all these girls at my school with PIN straight hair and it lasts all day. Does anybody know how to keep my hair pinstraight all day.
PLEASEEEEE HELP.
THANKS A TON :). (link)
| |
The girls with pin straight hair probably don't have naturally curly hair, but hair with a slight wave. It's hard to keep very curly hair straight. What I would recommend is either to embrace your natural curls and go for a styling product that keeps them sleek and in control (that's what I would do - I love curls), or to consider permanent straightening. Permanent straightening is a chemical procedure which is damaging to hair, but so is straightening your hair every day. But permanent straightening gives fantastic results, so you really will have sleek, pin straight hair every day without having to touch it!
|
|
are fruits & vegetables fattening at ALL? i mean, they HAVE to be atleast a little! if i ate 900 apples a day, i would HAVE to get fatter.... right? (link)
| |
It depends on the fruit or vegetable. Apples for example have a lot of sugars in them so yes, too many apples can make you fat because you are storing excess sugar, which turns to fat. But celery for example you can pretty much eat all day and still won't put on weight, you're expending more energy consuming it than it gives you in kilojoules. Potatoes, for example, also a vegetable, are high in starch and carbohydrates so they will make you fat if you eat too much. It's all about moderation and knowing what foods do to your body. If you're concerned about how much you should be eating, the accepted rule for fruits and veges is five handfuls a day - so say, one apple, an orange, a handful of raisins and two potatoes is a healthy amount.
|
|
Ok well I don't know any good styles that would suit me. I would go for the preppy style but ti wouldn't look good on me because I have a strawberry shaped head, my hair is so crazy and stuff so I always tie it in a pony tail so my head looks big, and a pony tail doesn't really match everything, espeically that now it's going to be summer and then It'll look like my head will be small with the poney tail ontop of HUGE shoulders. Yeah so my hair is always in a ponytail..would a trench coat look good on me? I have black hair and im 14 (link)
|
For your hair, have you thought about getting a fringe (or bangs, as you call them in the states)? It could balance your face shape nicely, and fringes look great on black hair, and with light coloured headbands they're very pretty prep chic. Fringes are also good for wild hair - straighten the fringe and hold it in place with a bit of styling product, the rest of your hair can be as wild as you want and you'll still look great, tied up in a pony or left out.
For big shoulders I wouldn't go for a trench, which could come across as quite a masculine style, but instead opt for something trench-inspired but a little more tailored.
You say you like the preppy style, so how about taking elements of the prep style and making them work for you? I've put together an example outfit that seems like it would suit you really well, it's at the top of the page called 'put-together prep'. Please leave me a comment and let me know what you think:
http://www.shopstyle.com/page/BrowseStylebooks?searchString=put-together+prep
|
if your ex asked you to go to the movies with her/him - as friends - and you have a girlfriend/boyfriend, would you still say yes or no?
i'm thinking of asking my ex to go to the movies during our spring break, which is in about 2 weeks, but i don't know if he would say yes or no since he has a girlfriend. all i really wanna do is see him since i haven't seen him for like, 2 years. so i was wondering what YOU would say.
thanks. (link)
| |
If you really want it to be on a friends only basis, why not invite his girlfriend too. Go out for dinner or something with them before the movie so you have a chance to introduce yourself to the girlfriend and establish that you really just want to catch up. I'm sure that would be fine for both of them.
|
Just 13/f my mom and I used to get along really well but now not at all. Im gothic its what I like and I talk about making out and stuff like that around my friends but not at home im totally different I sit in my room waiting till school the next day or an excuse to leave and sneak to go with my friends places. I love my friends with my life. But my mom hates my friends and me. Everything about them and me. Im gothic and my friends are gothic. But their all I got I love them with my life. And my mom hates everything I wear and how I act and who and what I like. But she has no idea what im going threw. I cry my eyes out without my friends they are the only people in my life that understand me. Around my friends im myself without them im very depressed and very very mad. I cant tell my mom anything she tells everyone everything! So I give up on telling her. I tell only my gothic friends anything and everything. But my main best friend is a guy which I can never ever see as friends. Because my mom found out we both love eachother. Hes the kind of ?preppy?depressed? dork but I love him. Im either with him or my other bffs. Hes the first person to fix my life evey morning. I hate my life when im home in the morning but I love it at school. No mom! But if my mom knew my life shed be so sorry if she had this life but shed kill me if she found out. Im the kind of freaky girl whos never had a boyfriends but a lot of guys love me I turn them down I break to many hearts and im just waiting for my bff to be my bf hes the one I love and he loves me we even talked about what would happen if we would happen to date but both of us said what would happen to our friendship. Hes depressed but wont show it to anyone but me and one other person and my bffs. And everyone is dying so im used to death is that normal? So many people that loved me have been getting killed dieing or suicide. So I cant cry at all I just cant I try. That’s another reason why I have no one else they die. Im gothic I get yelled at and have to change it every time I listen to music I like or dress how I like. Even for any black. im going to explode and I get violent. im so messed up confused and depressed. Every time she says all that’s wrong with my friends I get extremely mad and yell. She hates them but their all I got. And my best friend that’s a guy I cant see either because she found out we liked each other. Our moms are even very close friends. But we convinced our parents we didn’t like each other anymore (but we do) were just hoping about getting in a relationship once this all levels out. But pretty much if you didn’t no it you’d think we were dating. We hug we laugh we kissed we are the closest ever. We have never been sexual together were not even dating and I don’t think I will till im like 15. but we sure talk perverted. But all I want is for my mom to leave me alone about everything. I cannot get a therapist. But what should I do to change her thoughts about my friends, clothes, personality, guys, grades, jewelry, music I can even go on and on about what all she hates about me. also my life is explained by the band Evanescence listen to It youll under stand my life.
A I wana change my mom hating everything about me.
B whats so bad about being gothic we have our own ways of fun and people hate us because when we go gothic but we go gothic because people hate us so leave us alone.
C is it bad not being able to be myself without my friends.
D im depressed at home then at school it all changes. How do I change that.
E is it bad that we wait for eachother and I turn down other guys.
F I hate his mom so does he also. How do I help his life.
G whats wrong I cant cry. To many people die so im used to death?
H how do I get her to like my friends.
I how do I make it so I can see my bff again (the guy)
J is it bad for us to be to … lovey together
K is it bad to think and act perverted I do now my friends are
~please help me~ (link)
|
Hey, it sounds like you're going through the same thing as another girl I gave advice to on this site a couple of days ago. Please have a look at my answer to her, I think it will really apply to your situation as well.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=482312
|
|
how can you get a curvy body? (link)
| |
haha, what do you mean? If you're not naturally a curvy person then, short of surgery, you're probably never going to be. AND THAT'S FINE! I for example am a curvy person, and I can't even count the amount of times I've wanted smaller boobs, for example. But short of having surgery, it's not going to happen. Just be happy with the shape you are! Guys like girls whether they're straight up and down or curvy. Trust me, I know guys that like Keira Knightley and Scarlett Johannson in equal amounts, and it's nothing to do with the shape of their bodies, but the fact that they are beautiful women, despite being beautiful in totally different ways. Don't worry about it!
|
|
Ok, if I just have sex with another guy, but end up not enjoying it, am I still bisexual for having sex with another guy? Also, is having sex with another guy the only way to really know if I am bisexual or not? Thanks. (link)
| |
I wouldn't be in such a hurry to box myself in if I were you. It sounds like you are just experimenting and exploring your sexuality, and that's fine. You don't need to have a label! Just go with what's natural to you, and what you enjoy the most. Even 'straight' people are attracted to the opposite sex on occasion, but if it's not something you really connected with and you couldn't see yourself having a relationship with another guy whereas you enjoy sex and relationships with girls, you're probably just a straight guy who's a bit more open and comfortable with his sexuality than most. Don't stress about it!
|
|
ok so i really want to loose weight. im nto that fat. but im chubby. but i suck in my stomach.. so i look fat. people say thats good this way it builds up stomach muscle but i dont know. its jsut a habit now i automatically suck in but not when im sitting. only when im standing or walking. well im 14/f and i weigh 120 pounds and are about 5 foot 4 i guess. aroudn there. ok you guys wil lsyaim the perfect weight its good. but i have a st omach. and i want to loose it. so dont say you dont need to. well what do i have to do? i dont go running but im going to try? so probably since i have school i might go on saturdays or sundays. in the summer i will run more. or try too. but what foods should i eat or avoid? and what are some snacks that are good for you? that liek arnt only fruit? liek ome junk food that arent bad for you? liek is chex mix good or? and when i get bored. i eat. so what can i do? thanksss soo much. sorry this is long. my schedule is basically school then friends then home. i do a sport but thats not that much exercise its colorguard. and thats from august to like thanksgiving. so then im good at maintaing my weight. but now i cant. and ifeel soo fat around my friends becuase there so skinny. and i want to loose wieght. thanks. (link)
|
You are a healthy weight, but I understand why you want to lose weight in your stomach. First of all - you're only fourteen so understand that some of this weight is 'puppy fat' for lack of a better term and it will go away as you mature. Secondly, if you want to lose fat and gain muscle tone in your stomach area, the best way is to do crunches, and avoid sugary snacks, soft drinks and caffeine, which make you retain water and bloat. Try eating mixed nuts and things as a snack, almonds are a 'good fat' and fill you up. Also if you eat when you are bored try sugarless chewing gum, this could be something to keep your mouth occupied.
Hope I have helped!
EDIT
*** In response to your comment, it's great to drink lots of water, in fact the more water you drink the less water your body will retain, so don't worry about water bloating you. However I would lay off the gatorade as it does have unnecessary sugar and calories, so unless you're drinking it as a supplementary meal, I wouldn't use it to quench your thirst. Just stick to mineral water.***
|
|
13/f i used to be spoiled but now they do not care about me, mainly just my brother. i got along so good with my mom. now my mom is against everything i do. so im going gothic. but now im alot happier? exept with my family especially my mom! im just so happy in my room and around friends or at school. but then i even see my family i get VERY deppressed i just get very mad and cry and confused and have to just leave.but i hate her she says i do everything wrong! ~A~how do i change this i HATE it? i can not talk to her or get a theripist. ive been alot better now with headphones in all evanescence. she doesnt like my jewelery, clothes, friends, music, how i act and what i do. and its a fact. THE HOLE FRIENDS THING STARTED WITH MY HUGGING MY BEST FRIEND CUZ I WAS CRYIN SO HARD I HAD A SUICIDE THOUGHT. should i tell her i had a thought, someone i knew also just died from suicide i would probly get sent somewhere like rehab for deppressed people. she also wont let me go anywhere or be with guys. or my best friends. my main best friend is a guy. then im in a group with 5 girls and 2 other guys. so i sneek. shes taking away all i have. im deppressed enough as it is. my friends say shes the one making me deppressed. i sneek with guys and my friends. i have nothing without my friends. i say im at the mall with other people i could care less if she catches me but i want to be with my friends the only people in my life who i will talk to and have fun with. she HATES my friends becaus their gothic and my best friends because he a guy but hes preppy were in total oppasite groups we dont care. but im so mad and crying my head off! if i ask her she gets pissed so i cant ask ~B~how do i make it so i can go with my friends and guys. also tell me honestly anything you think i should do and any questions i forgot. (link)
|
I know my answer is long but please read it, I really hope I can help because the issues you have really need to be addressed.
It seems that your mother is the cause of all these feelings - she doesn't understand you and you think she doesn't love you because you are different. Trust me, this is NOT the case.
It is just that you have changed so much in such a short time, that she suddenly doesn't know how to connect with you. She is worried (and rightly so, since you have been considering suicide) that the black clothes are a reflection of what you are feeling inside, and she feels powerless to do anything about it. You're 13, your mum still feels like you're her little child, of course she's going to be concerned and confused when you go from wearing cute tops and dresses to goth outfits and wild hair!
And I am NOT being patronising, I went through the exact same thing when I was about your age. There is nothing at all wrong with being goth or a bit different, but don't see it as an excuse to cut your mother out of your life or to look down on people who think in a different way. That's just another form of the prejudice that all individuals claim to hate, but seem to practice anyway. The best way to fix the problems in your life is to CONFRONT THEM.
Your mum is probably desperate for you to reach out to her and be her daughter again but you are not letting her - you lock yourself in your room, you retreat to your friends. How is she supposed to know what to say and what to do? We all put mothers on such high pedestals but they are just people, they're not always going to be able to understand what their children do.
PLEASE, go to her. Maybe without the goth-armour, as it is only going to be a barrier between the both of you. Just go and say mum, I know you don't like the person you think I am now but really, I am still the same girl, I'm your daughter and I'm a teenager and things are hard for me at the moment, but I do still need your help and support. I wish that we could talk more, and be close again. I want you to know that my choices aren't dangerous and my friends are good people, and it really is OK for me to be a bit different.
STOP lying to her because you are only making her feel more justified in not liking your friends. Maybe get her to meet some of your friends at your house and talk to them, if they can bring themselves to be open and friendly it will be a big weight off her shoulders. Remember how she must be feeling! If, say, your mum's friends came around and they just glowered at you from under their hair and kept to themselves, and she spent all her time with them and never talked to you about anything, you wouldn't like them either!
|
|
okay, so i love swimming, but i DREAD wearing a bathing suit! I'm really insecure about it. I'm absolutely not fat, but i don't have a bikini body either. I'm also very self conscious about how much is showing. i always look and feel so awkward in a bathing suit. i have acne on my back that i can't get to go away, so thats embarrasing. i almost always get a once-peice bathing suit, but i'm thinking about a tankini this summer. but i want to find one i don't have to worry about. any suggestions on where to get a good (and inexpensive) one? preferably not low cut and boy-short bottoms. and also, how to overcome the insecurity. help, please?? (link)
|
How about something like this? http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=ZL-207232&page=2&cgname=OSSWMTNKZZZ&rfnbr=157
It's absolutely sexy and would give great shape to a not-so-toned body, and noone's gonna be paying attention to your back if your front looks that great! Not too expensive, either.
As for overcoming insecurity, accessories are always helpful. Big beachy sunglasses, a cool headscarf, some beaded flip-flops and a tote will all draw attention away from your perceived flaws - guys will still admire you, don't worry, and girls will be too busy looking at your style to make catty remarks about your body (and we all know that girls are the only ones who have anything bad to say about another girl's body anyway). Also, getting an all-over spray tan might help - a good tan hides a multitude of flaws, and would conceal a lot of the redness of the backne!
|
|
I'm 5'7" and I used to weigh 120 and then around 3 months ago i started losing weight but the past 2 weeks I've been losing alot more weight than usual. I mean I eat just as much as I used to and i still get the same amount of excersise but I weigh 99 pounds now and i need help. How do I gain any weight? (link)
| |
Please see your doctor. If your diet and excercise regime truly hasn't changed but you have suddenly started losing a lot of weight, it could be due to a serious health issue. You need to get that checked out - your BMI is 15.5 and the lowest healthy BMI is 18.5!
|
I'm 15, 5'1 and I weigh 85 pounds.
No, I never had an eating disorder.
I really want to gain 15 pounds.. Because I can't fit in a size 0 or 1 in jeans. I would like my hipbones not to stick out.. or my shoulder blades..
I want some fat on me. But I dont know what foods to eat. I know fatty foods, but list some meals. I'm going to do a milkshake a day. Or close to every day. (Is that healthty?)
I have a very high metabolism.. I heard, you should eat at night or before bed because you won't burn off the fat or something ?
If people think losing weight is hard.. gaining weight is even harder.
I've been struggling with it for 2 years.
(link)
|
Don't worry too much, you are still very young and your metabolism will slow down once you hit your twenties, as long as you are getting the nutrients you need there is nothing to worry about. Some people are just naturally slimmer.
Instead of focusing on gaining fat, as that won't make you any healthier, you need to have more protein in your diet to help build muscle. Try eggs for breakfast with wholegrain toast, and make sure there's a good amount of red meat in your diet. If you want to do the milkshake thing, try a protein shake when you get home from school.
Talk to a nutritionist if you want more advice. But don't start eating processed or sugary foods to gain weight, all they will do is make you unhealthy and tired!
|
|
Can anyone tell or give me pics of clothes I can wear for spring? I was thinking of a trench coat cuz it'll look cute with an umbrella but Im 13/f so I don't think it'll look good on me since I always have my hair in a pony tail (with no bangs). (link)
|
Hey, I would personally wear a trenchcoat anyway, they're always cool on anyone! Here's a great example of a super super cute trench that's classic but still really pretty and young-looking enough for a 13 year old: http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=238516&PseudoCat=se-xx-xx-xx.esn_results
Or if you're after something a little younger and more trend-driven, this is very cool and I think would work well with a ponytail, might be a bit warm for spring though: http://store.delias.com/item.do?itemID=46312&siteID=J84DHJLQkR4-dZmZ0zJ0yHiBe72iBiebHw
|
|
im think about getting my hair chemicaly straightened. is there antying bad about doing this? should i or is it a bad idea? (link)
|
It depends how curly your hair is naturally. Chemical straightening gives you wonderful results which last for ages, but if you have naturally quite curly or frizzy hair the regrowth looks really really strange.
As for the damage it does to your hair, yes it does make it very dry but if you just keep up with regular deep conditioning treatments or use leave-in conditioner you should be fine, as long as your hair isn't too damaged already.
Also, if you have a friend who speaks fluent Korean or Chinese, head to your local Chinatown/Koreatown to get it done. It's a lot cheaper and they actually have more up-to-the-minute technology than US salons.
|
http://www.coach.com/content/product.aspx?product_no=9367&category_id=256
i think i want this bag but i dont know.. do you guys think its cute? (link)
| |
If you are 16 or under, definitely - otherwise you'd be pushing the cutesey girliness a little much. It's a very cute bag though, and I love the scribble wallet as well. It's also cheap enough that it doesn't matter if it's seasonal.
|
|