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Hi!
13/f

Well, I just recently talked to my first boy friend from like 2nd grade and we technically didn't call each other that but ...we were. Well, his name is Andrew and he's a nice guy. Well, I really have a big crush on him now...even though we just started talking on Sunday. Well, today I asked him if he had a girl friend he said " No". I was nervous to ask him ..but he made me . Well, I told him that I didn't have one and he said " Cool". Well I told him I liked him and he said " Oh, we don't even know each other much". I told him that I knew that and I think we should be friends for now until we get to know each other and than we can go out or something and he said that sounded good. So, I was wondering if we would eventually go out. We have A LOT in common. It surprised me how much. Well, I asked him if he remembers much from when we were young and he said " yaaa , kinda". Well if he did he should of remembered that we almost kissed...but lol his mom ruined the moment...she opend the door soon as his face was up to mine. We had so much fun together...so do you think he'll eventually remember all that stuff? Do you think we could go out ? What should I do to keep patient?

Thanks!!

Oh, and I'll rate fair!

Of course, no one on an advice website can accurately predict whether or not you and this boy will eventually date. But, this sounds a lot like a lot of situations my friends have gone through, so I'm happy to help you out.

You can't make someone like you. But, before you lose hope, you can be his friend. So far, he's made that clear that he's interested in being friends. So be his friend! Hang out, play videos games, go for walks, go grab something to eat, hang out in groups of people- make memories & a connection. Make it a point to get to know him better. Find out his likes/dislikes, pet peeves, dreams, goals, best friends, his family, his favorite things to do. He sounds like he wants to get to know you better, so work on that first! You can be flirty, but don't lay it on thick. You don't want to scare him off early. The more of a connection that you two make, the more flirty-er you can be.

After a few times of hanging out and making a connection, then you can reminisce about the past. But then again, it was 2nd grade so you can't blame him for not remembering everything :)

Good luck!
Kymmy

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ok this is embarrasing.
13/f
i have a sore on my bum, not in it but on it. it is all pussy and infected. i tried putting antiseptic on it but it doesn't help. i took it off once to try and squeeze the pus out but it didn't help. the thing is it keeps cracking when i walk and sit down. it really hurts sometimes. does anyone know of something that would help?
thanks

This may sound crazy, but it could be a butt zit. I read that almost everyone gets one sometime in their life. They're usually tender, puffy, and very hard to squeeze. Usually they go away in about 5 days, just make sure you wash the area in the shower often.

If it keeps cracking, it sounds like your skin is dried out. Oil-free lotion should take care of that. Its probably just irritated.

If it does not go away within a week, it may be a boil. In that case, a doctor can remove it if it does not go away on its own.

Good luck!
Kymmy

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My boyfriend fingered me for the first time last week. It was the first time Ive done anything like that, I dont even masturbate or anything, and it really hurt. How long does it take for it to stop hurting usually? I just feel bad cause I think he thought he was doing something wrong or something..

16/F

It may take several times, especially if you don't use tampons because you vagina will still be tight. I'd estimate after 3 or 4 times, things should get a lot easier.

Sometimes, it still hurts even after many times being fingered. If the pain doesn't go away after several times, you may want to check with a doctor just to make sure everything is okay. In the mean time, ask your boyfriend to be gentle. Always be sure his fingernails are short and clean. I had a friend get scratched and infected because the boy's nails were too long. Just fyi.

Good luck!
Kymmy

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For prom I have picked out a multi-colored dress , is that okay? Because for most, alot of girls pick out one prom dress that is only one color. I want to stand out, but I'm kind of scared to wear this dress to prom. It is a prom dress though. So is it okay to wear a prom dress that is multi-colored or is it too over the top for prom?

(P.S.) This is not my prom, this is my boyfriends prom.

Its absolutely okay :) I'm thinking about going with this adorable tribal-bohemian print I found. A local high school just had there prom recently. I was looking at the pictures from it, and nearly 1/2 the girls had on pretty multicolored dresses with some sort of pattern whether it was paisley, floral, or bohemian.

I'm sure you'll look fine :) Just go simple on the shoes & accessories since your dress will get all the attention!

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what does being eaten out feel like? my boyfriend wants to do it to me so i kinda want to know what to expect and what should i do while he's doing it?

You'll love it. Its an incredible feeling and nearly impossible to describe. It'll tickle and feel wet. But, I can almost guarantee you'll love it. During it, be sure to let him know what you do and don't like by moaning or even saying whether or not you like what he's doing. You can run your hands through his hair, leave them by your side, or have them resting on your stomach- it doesn't matter what you do with them. Just be comfortable and enjoy it!

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I've been friends with this guy for a couple of years now; we get along great, we spend time together whenever we can (we both work full time so it doesn't happen often) but whenever we can, we do.
I know at one point in our relationship he liked me for more than just friends, but now i don't know if he does or doesn't. He has an on again off again girlfriend whom he says he doesn't really care if she's in or out of his life, so as bad as this may sound, the girlfriend isn't really a problem.
so my question is... how do i know if he likes me as more than just friends. I don't want to ask him because what if he doesn't, i wouldn't want to ruin our friendship. So what signs should i be looking for? or what do you suggest i do? i'm so confused.

I actually had this happen to me one time. My best guy friend, Jonathan, and I spent all of our time together. I started to wonder if he was into me when my friends started asking me if he liked me. So, I began to look for some signs.
1. Did he make time for me when he could have spent it with his other friends? And/or, did he cancel other plans to spend time with me?
2. Did he touch me when he talked? (Ex: When people get flirty, they sometimes touch your arm or leg. Most people just don't notice it)
3. Did he get jealous when I talked about other guys?
4. Did he hug me goodbye? Hold doors open for me? Etc.

Well, he did. So, naturally I assumed he liked me. It freaked me out because I wasn't into him & I didn't want to lose the relationship we had. I sucked it up and flat out asked him, "Do you like me as more than a friend?" There was an awkward moment, he said no, and we laughed it off. We're fine now, still best friends, and he's got a girlfriend of 7 months.

Moral of the story? By looking for the signs, I totally got it wrong. Honestly, just try to suck it up and ask him. If he doesn't, laugh it off and do YOUR best to keep things as casual & normal as possible.

Good Luck :)

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My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time, and it was amazing! The only not so good part of it is I got pregnant. I used three different kinds of tests and they all said I was pregnant. I am not sure what to do. I am so afraid to tell my mom because I am only 14 and she wants the best for me. Please! I really don't know what to do and I'm scared. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

Your mom needs to know about this. For me, when I'm trying to talk to my mom about hard stuff, I do it in the car. Its just me and her. We can concentrate on the problem instead of her trying to pretend she's just really into watching something on tv or whatnot. Idk if you want to tell your dad right away, but I'd advise you to just tell your mom first. Together, you can find a way to tell your dad.

Remind your mom that you're sorry (only if you truly are, no one likes fake apologies.) Remind her that you can't take back whats happened and that you want her help to get through this. When things have calmed down, ask her what you should do.

99% chance your mom will be angry. Most moms would be-so just be prepared.

If you need anything else, just inbox me.

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I have these two friends one wants me to stay the night with them and the other wants to spend the night with me and thay don't really like each other. I don't seen either of them much and ones been my best friend forever and the other only a year I don't know what tod o! HELP!

Hey there :)
When it comes to this kind of stuff, you have to be honest with your friends. Who asked you to sleep over first? Pick that one. Tell the other friend that friend A asked first and you said yes to them. You can always reschedule with friend B for a later date. Sure, they might be upset at first. But trust me, it will pass. Just be sure to have an extra fun time when you do get to spend the night with friend B.

Good luck!

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My best friend is trying to set me up with her cousin, but i don't know him . she gave him my number and he texts me everyday but I'm not sure what to talk to him about. We don't even go to the same school.

Don't worry about "having" to like him just because your friend gave him your phone number. No pressure.
That being said, just talk! "Hey, whats up? Do you play any sports? What kinda music are you into? Etc." Just normal conversation.

Good luck
Kymmy :)

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Can anyone give me like a list of ways to flirt with guys..some without being completely obvious. And if guys actually think its cute and like it..cause i know some ways really annoy them.
Thanks!

This site helped me a ton when I first started dealing with boys.

http://myjellybean.com/guys/flirting/flirting.htm

Good luck
Kymmy :)

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Does anyone know where Kyndra Mayo and/or Cami Edwards are now? i mean not literaly obviously, but like what are they doing and such.

Thanks!

I googled their names, a ton of results come up. Just surf those sites for a bit.

This is Kyndra's "official" Myspace so it says:
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewProfile&friendID=266412125

Google is your friend.
Kymmy :)

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im 16 and my moms boyfriend is an ass.

he talks constantly and gives 2 hour lectures about random stuff and gets pissed if i try to walk away (he lives in the house). Recently Ive been getting into a couple fights with him and I told my mom next time i'm going to go on the run. She said she loves me and doesnt want me gone but she still refuses to get rid of him. so basicly, I go on the run and go to jail (im on probation) or i live through this hell for 2 more years.

Its getting pretty bad, every day it gets worse and sooner or later im going to snap and punch him in the face if one of us dont get out.

Obviously running away won't do much.
Most of the time, I don't get along with my mom. To avoid it (and not get in trouble with the law) I spend as much time as I can away from home. I go to school early and stay late to get help. I go to the library to do my homework and study. I spend time with my friends as often as possible. I go exercising, running, and to the gym often as well. I do whatever I can to get out of the house.

I recommend the same for you.
You can also talk to him. Tell him he's your mom's boyfriend, not yours. You'd appreciate if you guys could have as little conversation as possible. But be respectful of him, don't just bitch out at him. Be calm and cool. Be polite often when you do have to talk with him.

Good luck
Kymmy :)

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All I would like to know is, what is your opinion on finding love online? It could be an actual dating site or just random falling in love, didnt see it coming. Do you believe it can be true love if you have never even met or talked to the person besides online? Or do you think that there is no possible way?

One more question...
Do you believe you can fall in love at any age?

Thanks!!

People say you can't fall in love with someone you met online because you've never seen them. Have you ever heard of the famous quote, "Love is blind"?
Love is a mystery, so one person's opinion doesn't dictate the rules of love. It can happen any way.
Personally, I could easily become very interested in someone I met online, but love would develop more when I spent personal time with them and saw how they acted in real life. I'm pretty picky.

My brother met his girlfriend online. They dated for three years and he proposed a few weeks ago, they're set to be married soon.

Anything can happen.
Good luck
Kymmy :)

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I want to learn a good workout routine in order to tone my belly. I have a small, tiny body with skinny legs and arms but I have put on a little "pudge" on my belly. The lower belly, so to speak. I just want a good routine to tone my belly back up.

I'm doing cardio and ab workouts, but what else? and how long? just a good routine, anyone?!

Hey :)
Kill the junk food, sodas especially.
I lost 7lbs after quitting soda, actually.

Keep up with the cardio and ab exercises. Try to stretch your abs as well, there are a ton of ab stretches on Google.com if you need help finding some.
Drink a lot of water, eat right, and keep up the routine. You'll be there in no time.

Good Luck
Kymmy :)

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Does anyone know where i can find pictures and information on all of the old laguna beach cast members as of 2008/2009.

Thanks so much!!

Google is your best friend in this case:

http://mytvgossip.com/tv-shows/laguna-beach/laguna-beach-cast-members-where-are-they-now/

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0426738/

There's a few to get you started.
Good Luck
Kymmy :)

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I always get asked if I've had braces. I did, I had them for a few years in middle school. But I never feel the need to ask anyone if they've had braces. I mean, my teeth aren't THAT straight, because I don't wear my retainer anymore. But I'm starting to wonder if my teeth look different or something... why would they be asking me this?

Did everyone just randomly start asking you this or has it been going on for a while?

Where I live there are two orthodontists, and its very evident if you've been to them. A great majority of patients from the orthodontists have the exact same results-the teeth end up looking just like everyone else's. Its weird to explain, but just the shape, the way they sand down the teeth after the braces come off, and things like that are very, very similar. It makes it clear they're have braces as opposed to the natural, not-always-perfect-looking teeth other people who haven't have braces have. So people often ask, "Have you had braces?" here because its easy to tell when you look at their mouths.

Just my knowledge about it.
Good Luck
Kymmy :)

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hi. my boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 months now. I am not sure about my feelings right now but i think i am not happy anymore with our relp. I don't know but until now he hasn't even let me check his cellphone. Not that it's his obligation to fetch me after school or buy me simple gifts but he hasn't done any of that until now. I am happy when im with him but he's not putting too much effort in our relp for it work and stay strong. i haven't talked about it with him coz maybe it's just his personality that he's not expressive but im starting to get used to it. Another thing, when some girls admit that they like him, he entertains them. and is it ok for him to call them Babe? do guys are really born flirts? I'm afraid that he's pushing me away and i might lose him. But i can't take it anymore. One time, he doesn't call or text me for a day. As if he doesn't care about my feelings...

Pls. Help. My relp is on the rocks!


thanks!


~yssa

You might not like my answer, but I'm not here to tell you what you want to hear- I'm here to help.

You can't expect a guy to be OK with you checking his cell phone. A phone is private. Trust is imperative in a relationship. My demanding to check his phone is an invasion of privacy and a loop in that trust. Like you said, you can't expect him to pick you up when you need to or buy you gifts. Sure, its nice. But its not mandatory to show someone you care about them.

But now, for the other girls. Having my guy call another girl "babe" would piss me off. I don't think that's okay. If he is friends with these girls and its harmless, I'd have no problem with it. But if this guy is going out of his way to be flirty with girls he KNOWS are interested in him- that's bull crap.

My recommendation?
Talk to him. I know, it sucks. But you gotta do it. I'll help you out. "*Name*, its bothering me that you keep making a point to flirt with other girls. If you don't mean to, its cool. I just hate when you do it, it makes me feel like you don't care about me." That should get you started.

Good Luck
Kymmy :)

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I am a 19 yr old girl. My major conern, my period. To get straight to the point. It comes when it wants, sometimes it will skip a month, or two. I am overallly concerned. This has been happening since i was probably.. 16-17 of age. I finally went to get a pap smear at age 18 (in Feb of 08) and I have another apt. scheduled for this Feb. of 09 and my last apt in 08 they said nothing was wrong and everything was completely normal and i had nothing to worry about. Although i had just gotten my period 3 weeks before i went in there so i thought it was regulating.. My mother says its because I have been off and on and off and on again and now off birth control so its got everything all funky.. my questions..


1) Shouldn't i be regulating?
2) Should I be worried?
-If so, what could it be?
3) Do I have to bring it to their attention, I will this time, in order for them to know if something is wrong or not? Or would they (tests) recognize something was wrong with or without me telling them that my period is irregular?
4) Anybody else or know somebody with a similiar situation?
5) Could I still have kids?!

I have the same problem. I have not been on Birth Control, but I have had friends with this problem that actually were prescribed Birth Control to solve the problem.

My doctors also told me "its nothing to worry about". But I know its a huge inconvenience. I fully recommend you bringing it back up with your doctors. Explain how annoying it can be and you really want to make sure its nothing to worry about. Don't let them blow it off.

I can't answer all your questions,
but I hope I helped a little bit.
Most likely you can still have kids,
but I am no doctor.

Good luck
Kymmy :)

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I want to buy nair - is it effective "down there" ? thanks

Ugh, no. Sorry :(
It didn't do anything when I used it, plus it smelled God-awful. I've tried Sally Hansen's depilatory too and it didn't do much either.

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Two weeks ago I invited 7 camp friends for a dinner party which I had last night. One of these people is a guy I like who worked in the same group as me and my best friend this past summer at camp (he sort of knew I like him, [long story] and I’m not sure if he still thinks it but I’m pretty sure he didn’t like me back but everything worked out cause we talked about it and we’re still friends even though it was sort of awkward for a couple days). I sent an email invitation to all the people I was inviting in the same message on Facebook so I wouldn’t have to send a bunch of different emails. People were sending messages back & forth within the message so I know he saw this invitation. Everybody answered within about 4-5 days after I sent it except for him. I sent him a separate message a week after I invited everybody asking if he was coming, and he never answered. Two days before the party, I asked my best friend to ask him, and he never answered her, and he was online all day so I’m sure he saw it. Some of my other friends and my cousin advised me not to say anything else to him, saying if he didn’t end up coming it was his loss, or I’d just be pissing him off if I kept bothering him. He didn’t show up last night. I briefly checked AIM during the night several times when nothing much was going & saw that he was on AIM, not away or idle, each time I checked. When I told some of my camp friends about it they were surprised saying that that’s not like him, and I do agree, because he is a really, really nice person, we’re still friends, and we always had fun working together during camp. I was also confused because I invited him to my birthday party a month ago that he legitimately wasn’t able to make it, but said something to me about it. I’m very confused and disappointed about why he ignored my invitation, didn’t show up, and sat on the computer all day instead. I know he doesn’t hate me and we’re friends, and I’m sure he would’ve wanted to see other camp people too. What might be a possible reason someone would do that? Should I confront him?
I apologize that this is long, I’m a really detailed person!

There could be a few reasons.
1) He could have actually not got the messages like you said. It seems somewhat unlikely however.

2) There may be another girl. He might not know how to break the news to you, so ignoring you was his next best idea.

I'd give it a few days. I'd say about a week then try to call him (if you have his number). Don't be accusing, don't harass him if he doesn't answer. A simple voicemail "Hey *name*! I invited you to a camp dinner but when you didn't answer I got kinda worried. Anyways, just checking up on you. Talk to you later, miss you bye!" Simple. Short. Sweet.

Good Luck :)

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