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Question Posted Sunday May 3 2009, 11:47 am

My boyfriend fingered me for the first time last week. It was the first time Ive done anything like that, I dont even masturbate or anything, and it really hurt. How long does it take for it to stop hurting usually? I just feel bad cause I think he thought he was doing something wrong or something..


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bunnii15 answered Friday May 8 2009, 8:36 pm:
i think itz different with every girl. like the first time my boyfriend did that to me, it hurt really bad cause i was a virgin, but after a few times, it started to feel good rather than hurt.


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foxylady answered Sunday May 3 2009, 9:40 pm:
I agree with the others when they say that you should make sure that your boyfriend's fingernails are cut very short. Fingering can actually be fun and exciting. I think that when your boyfriend is doing this you should tell him exactly what you want and how you are feeling at that time. If you feel he is going to fast or doing it to rough tell him. Do not pretend, let him know that is the only way he will know how you feel and learn to please you the way you want to be pleased.

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duudee_advicer answered Sunday May 3 2009, 4:42 pm:
It may take several times, especially if you don't use tampons because you vagina will still be tight. I'd estimate after 3 or 4 times, things should get a lot easier.

Sometimes, it still hurts even after many times being fingered. If the pain doesn't go away after several times, you may want to check with a doctor just to make sure everything is okay. In the mean time, ask your boyfriend to be gentle. Always be sure his fingernails are short and clean. I had a friend get scratched and infected because the boy's nails were too long. Just fyi.

Good luck!
Kymmy <3

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Darby answered Sunday May 3 2009, 3:38 pm:
After he fingers you a few times, it will feel much better. Try to explain to him that you haven't done anything sexual like that and he needs to be gentle at first. The soreness should go away within a few days. But after he does this a few times, it shouldn't be very sore afterwards at all.

Hope this helps!

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