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Ignored Invitation
Two weeks ago I invited 7 camp friends for a dinner party which I had last night. One of these people is a guy I like who worked in the same group as me and my best friend this past summer at camp (he sort of knew I like him, [long story] and I’m not sure if he still thinks it but I’m pretty sure he didn’t like me back but everything worked out cause we talked about it and we’re still friends even though it was sort of awkward for a couple days). I sent an email invitation to all the people I was inviting in the same message on Facebook so I wouldn’t have to send a bunch of different emails. People were sending messages back & forth within the message so I know he saw this invitation. Everybody answered within about 4-5 days after I sent it except for him. I sent him a separate message a week after I invited everybody asking if he was coming, and he never answered. Two days before the party, I asked my best friend to ask him, and he never answered her, and he was online all day so I’m sure he saw it. Some of my other friends and my cousin advised me not to say anything else to him, saying if he didn’t end up coming it was his loss, or I’d just be pissing him off if I kept bothering him. He didn’t show up last night. I briefly checked AIM during the night several times when nothing much was going & saw that he was on AIM, not away or idle, each time I checked. When I told some of my camp friends about it they were surprised saying that that’s not like him, and I do agree, because he is a really, really nice person, we’re still friends, and we always had fun working together during camp. I was also confused because I invited him to my birthday party a month ago that he legitimately wasn’t able to make it, but said something to me about it. I’m very confused and disappointed about why he ignored my invitation, didn’t show up, and sat on the computer all day instead. I know he doesn’t hate me and we’re friends, and I’m sure he would’ve wanted to see other camp people too. What might be a possible reason someone would do that? Should I confront him?
I apologize that this is long, I’m a really detailed person!
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There could be a few reasons.
1) He could have actually not got the messages like you said. It seems somewhat unlikely however.
2) There may be another girl. He might not know how to break the news to you, so ignoring you was his next best idea.
I'd give it a few days. I'd say about a week then try to call him (if you have his number). Don't be accusing, don't harass him if he doesn't answer. A simple voicemail "Hey *name*! I invited you to a camp dinner but when you didn't answer I got kinda worried. Anyways, just checking up on you. Talk to you later, miss you bye!" Simple. Short. Sweet.
Good Luck :)
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