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ok so here is the deal. there is this guy me and him are close friends and what you would call "friends with benefits", but i want more than that we have talked about having a realtionship and i know that he likes me and i like him. but it is the same old same old, he says i am not ready for that, you need to be with someone who deserves you. i told him i thought he meant i did not deserve him and he said that i had it all wrong. that all it was, was that he did not have the time and energy into making a relationship work. what the hell does that mean. he said darlin if it meant to be it will happen. can someone please help. (link)
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Hey,
Well if you really want a relaitonship for him then be patient and give him time to think about it from what it seems he's only after one thing from you and thats it i'm afraid however the decision is yours we can only advice you but be careful that you don't end up getting hurt
Goodluck
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hi..
i really need ur help..
actually ive missed my period in feb i got it on da 9th and in april i got it on da 22 (dat is 13days late) and da whole of march i didnt get it...
well i havent had sex but yes me and my guy do indulge in oral sex..but he has never inserted it into me. all what he's done is..rubbed his penis onto my pussy on da top.. is it cozof dat i havent got my period...well lately we have even used a condom but not inserted..just for oral sex.. is there a way i could get pregnant and so ive missed my period plz let me know... (link)
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Hi,
The only way to find out for sure is to do a pregnanacy test or also speak to your doctor
Takecare
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well ok i was seeing this guy for almost a year and i loved him so much and still do and mah best freind who has been mah best friend for leterally mah whole life was gonna go out with him shortly after we broke up...mah question is that even though they didnt why do i still feel mad at them, is it the fact that they even thought about it i wana get over it but it so hard ya know what should i do???
yours truly CeCe (link)
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Hi There,
When you split up with someone that you still have feelings for it's tempting to let them make all the rules in order to keep them in your life. The problem is, if there's no hope of reconciliation, you're just prolonging the agony - and it will take even longer for your broken heart to mend.
This is so difficult, but until you accept that the relationship is over you'll probably keep reading 'secret' messages into everything connected with your ex. It's particularly hard to believe you really have been dumped if you're still seeing each other. The best way to get over a relationship is to sever all connection - even if just for a while. Of course this is very difficult if you're in the same job or at uni together - but the less contact you have the better.
If your ex has said something like: "Of course we must stay friends", be wary. Do you need this person as a friend? Well, perhaps it would be good long-term, but right now you want them as a lover - and being treated simply as a friend will prolong the agony of coming to terms with the split. The truth is that it will probably help your ex's guilt about dumping you, but you're the one who needs help right now, not your previous partner. The best thing to do is to keep your distance for a few months - and after that time, decide whether or not friendship is possible or even desirable.
Takecare
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Ever since the guy that I liked told me that he likes me back, it has been really awkard between us. The thing is that we liked each other since 7th grade but we never really said anything til this year. When we see each other in the hallways in school we just look at each other and we don't say anything. I'm told that I should be the one to talk to him first but I'm just scared and I don't really know what I can say besides hi. When I see him or when we look at each other itz like I just freeze up and I get these butterflies in my stomach. What should I do? (link)
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Hiya,
Approaching someone for a date can be scary, especially if you feel lacking in confidence. You replay the scene in your mind, again and again, imagining the very worst. The thing is, though, the thought of asking someone out is usually much worse than actually doing it. After all, the bloke you like will more than likely be really flattered you made the effort to seek him out. If the tables were turned, wouldn't you be?
As far as actually asking him out is concerned, you don't have to make a big song-and-dance act out of it. Just make sure to approach him when he's alone, not with his mates. That can be intimidating even for the most confident of Casanovas. Begin by just being a friend, rather than a girlfriend-in-waiting, and just aim to get to know him better. You'll soon suss if he shares your affections, without any awkwardness or embarrassment. If it's clear he's not interested romantically, he's likely to respect you as a friend, and if there's a spark then consider taking things further by arranging a date.
You also don't have to ask him on the most elaborate date in history. Rome wasn't built in a day, so start slowly. Invite him out for a coffee, or maybe to the cinema if you know he's into films. The benefits of catching a movie together are twofold: you'll both be entertained and have something to talk about afterwards.
First dates are often the toughest, but the more time you spend together the more relaxed you'll become. So give it your best shot, and enjoy the experience, whatever the outcome.
Go for it i'm sure you can do it otherwise you will always be wondering and thinking
Goodluck
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Heyy. I just wanted to know what clothing stores you reccomend. I'm looking to buy new clothes for summer. Maybe links and such. Just cute clothes from different sotres that you like. Just not super duper expencive. I like Delias, but I can't fit into they're jeans (too big), and I like forever 21. I even like Abercrombie. I would aslo like to know some stores that you might think I could fit into they're jeans. I'm rather small. 00's don't fit me, unless they run small.
Thanks so much for your time! (link)
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Hi There,
you could try catalogue shopping you can request for catalougues online and they will send it to you that what i do coz i'm also in to cute clothing being tiny and petite i need that kind of clothing to suit me.
Goodluck
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I'm14 and i'm not crash dieting but i'm trying to tigheten up my tummy for the summer but the thing is i really don't want my breats to shrink what do i do to loose weight while avoiding that?
thanks,
Becky (link)
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Hi There,
Healthy eating means getting a wide variety of the right foods into your diet. A balanced diet is not rigid or miserable, and has room in it for the occasional treat.
To keep running smoothly, your body needs:
Carbohydrates (sugars and starchy food), for energy
Proteins, for building muscle etc
Fats, for energy and making cell walls, etc
Fibre, to keep the gut healthy
Vitamins and minerals, for a wide range of functions
Water, to flush out the waste products of your metabolism
Getting the balance right
Eat regular meals based on carbohydrate in the form of unrefined starchy foods. This means potatoes in their skins, rice, bread and pasta. The wholemeal versions are the best as they are thought to contain more vitamins and release their energy more steadily, as well as containing fibre.
Refined sugary food can cause tooth decay and cause fluctuations in blood glucose levels. Sugar is 'empty calories' and contains only energy without other nutrients (the same goes for alcohol).
Protein is needed in moderate amounts. Go for lean meats, poultry, eggs, fish, beans, lower-fat cheeses, semi-skimmed milk, yoghurts, or soya products.
Fats are essential to health in small amounts. You need roughly equal amounts of saturates (e.g. butter), monounsaturates (e.g. olive oil) and polyunsaturates (e.g. sunflower oil). Try to avoid hardened vegetable oils as they usually contain trans fatty acids that are unhealthy forms of fat.
Vitamins and minerals are best obtained from eating a wide variety of foods. The ones in the tablets (and added to fortified cereals etc) are often not in the same natural forms that are found in food, and may not be absorbed as effectively. Try to eat at least five portions of different kinds of fruit or veg every day to stay in top condition.
Eat breakfast and don't skip meals. You'll be more alert and your metabolism will be better. People who eat breakfast regularly are more likely to be slim than people who skip it.
Combine a balanced diet with regular moderate exercise to feel and look your best.
Make friends with food, it isn't the enemy. It's there to be enjoyed. If you eat something unhealthy, try not to feel guilty, just aim to eat more healthily the next day.
If you stick to these guidelines most of the time, it will be fine if you occasionally eat small amounts of sweet foods and fried foods.
You need to look up your body mass index (BMI), which is a formula that takes into account both your height and your weight. It will give you a healthy range of weights, there isn't a single correct weight to be for your height. Go to your doctor to be weighed and measured, and ask her or him for some medical advice about weight loss. The bathroom scales at home are not accurate enough to give you an exact reading of how much you weigh.
Goodluck
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So, last night (Around 1:30 in the morning?) my boyfriend and I had sex and whatnot. We used a condom and all, but it ripped. I don't know if he realized it at first, so I don't know if he got his sperm inside of me or not, but I'm reallllly paranoid. We've had sex a few times before without a condom but he swears he pulled out before anything happened. I have no idea what to do, I'm really scared. Should I go get an ECP? I'm not sure when I was supposed to get my period but I was expecting it sometime this weekend/week. Any advice you can give me us greatly appreciated.. Please help? :/.. (link)
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Hi There,
When condoms are produced, great care is taken to ensure
that they are of a high quality and not defective -
especially by well known brands.
If you are worried about a condom breaking, using it
properly is far more effective than any checks you
could carry out beforehand.
By this, I mean that you should make sure that the
condom has not expired before using it;
that the condom has a reservoir at the end (a thin, rounded
tip to catch semen) to reduce the risk of them breaking
when the male ejaculates;
ensure that after ejaculation, the penis is withdrawn
promptly and the condom disposed of, otherwise after the
male loses his erection, the ejaculate could spill over;
and that you use only water based lubricants. Stay away
from lotions (hand, face, suntan etc..), vaseline, cooking
oil or any other oil based lubricants as they will begin
deteriorating the condom within 30 seconds.
Lastly, high temperatures can also damage the condom, so
it is good practice to keep them out of sunlight and
not to store them in locations such as a glove compartment.
I hope this helps you, and wish you all the best.
Takcare
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I've made the biggest mistake of my life letting him go. Now he is with another girl, and it is too late. No matter how much I convince myself that I dont care for him anymore, everything always comes back to him. We actually had something together, and I pushed him away, just like that. I was afraid, I didnt want to get hurt. But I pushed him towards another girl, and I hate what I've done. He was my secure foundation, and now he doesnt even want me in his life. I cant stand knowing that its so easy for him to just erase me from his life, while its the most difficult thing I have ever been put through. We both liked eachother from the beginning, and I was too afraid to admit it, he was just too shy. But now that I've admitted it to him, he and his friends all make a joke about it. he comes around every single day with his new girlfriend and I cant even look up because I dont want to give him the satisfaction of my jealousy. and it doesnt help that his group of friends tell him and his new girl to walk by me a million times just to see my reaction. It hurts like nothing that Ill ever be able to explain (link)
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Hi There,
When you split up with someone that you still have feelings for it's tempting to let them make all the rules in order to keep them in your life. The problem is, if there's no hope of reconciliation, you're just prolonging the agony - and it will take even longer for your broken heart to mend.
This is so difficult, but until you accept that the relationship is over you'll probably keep reading 'secret' messages into everything connected with your ex. It's particularly hard to believe you really have been dumped if you're still seeing each other. The best way to get over a relationship is to sever all connection - even if just for a while. Of course this is very difficult if you're in the same job or at uni together - but the less contact you have the better.
If your ex has said something like: "Of course we must stay friends", be wary. Do you need this person as a friend? Well, perhaps it would be good long-term, but right now you want them as a lover - and being treated simply as a friend will prolong the agony of coming to terms with the split. The truth is that it will probably help your ex's guilt about dumping you, but you're the one who needs help right now, not your previous partner. The best thing to do is to keep your distance for a few months - and after that time, decide whether or not friendship is possible or even desirable.
God Bless
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Theres this girl i really like in my class when she found out i liked her she told her friends well im dating someone and she actually was and she told me this that she had a bf like 4 or 5 times and she wrote me a note saying i should repsect dat she already had a bf. Now could this mean she likes me but she has a bf at the moment and maybe i could be her bf in the future when she breaks up wid him and she is like kinda nervous and shy around me and quiet and i catch her looking at me my fair share of times help plzzz i really like this girl. (link)
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Hiya,
So far, it sounds like you've played this situation to the best of your abilities. You've made your feelings known to this girl, which is further than many lads would go. All too often, people keep a lid on their affections for someone because they're uncertain of the response, but ultimately you have to speak up, just like you have.
Of course, putting this girl in the picture doesn't guarantee she'll feel the same way about you. You say this may be the case, but often it can take time for such feelings to emerge and grow.
Only you can decide if it's worth pursuing her, and whether you can handle things if she doesn't fall for you eventually. If things have got too intense then some distance will help to get your feelings in perspective.
Should you feel able to deal with it, the key is to keep an open mind. This means being a mate to her first, rather than a lover-in-waiting, and just see how things develop. Who knows? In time she might realise what she's been missing out on, but even if she doesn't then at the very least your efforts will have earned you a friend.
Goodluck
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I am very upset by a particular rating that I received and this is more of a statement than a question. I guess this one is simply the straw that broke the camels back because in every answer I give I honestly hope I am helping someone in some way or at least opening a whole new avenue of thought process that may lead to the answer that will help them. I do not think myself impervious to mistakes. I know I make them and unfortunately will make them again. In the past I would stick to those "feel good" questions only to try to keep my ratings up. I don't feel good about that because it isn't really an honest effort at being there for people. I've started answering questions of a more controversial manner. Now my ratings are plummeting. unfortunately we cannot truly try to help mentally ill people because we can't always tell them what they want to hear and if we don't we are punished for our efforts through ratings. (I have included the article for you to view and my 2nd response she is going to give me an even lower rating for my second one.) I wasn't nice, though I didn't use inappropriate language and I was honestly trying to wake her up though I know it's no good. I want you all to know that from my heart I am here to help people no matter how misguided it may be at times. I post this because I am concerned that there are people who ask questions that they do not want to truly know the answer to. They want us to give them flowery feel good answers that won't help them at all. They simply want us to play into their illusions and allow them to repeat and perpetuate their problems rather than help them. I realize there needs to be some kind of governing system that keeps everyone in check. If they didn't have them this whole site would be in an uproar all the time and people would be truly mean to each other rather than helpful. I for one never say anything to be mean but to be helpful, even if it may come across mean. But, this system isn't fair to those of us who make an honest effort and yet I don't have the answer as to how to make it better, I wish I did. Now, below is my response only. I didn't think it appropriate to repost someone else's question. But to sum it up the question was written by a 15 yr/o girl who got in a fight w/another girl in school. The other girl posted her picture on the net by posting naked pictures w/her face imposed upon them. This 15 yr/o says this girl tried to ruin her rep, but she ruined her life instead and got her kicked off student council. She doesn't go into what her actions were, but whatever they were it lead the school to believe that she needed counseling. Her mental health professional diagnosed her as being a sociopath and she couldn't believe it. She felt that it was the other girl and not her that was the sociopath. She rated me a 2 and said that she didn't care if I had ADHD or had been diagnosed w/depression. This question was about her. Here is my response and my counter response:
A sociopath is someone who can fit in well w/society and mimic appropriate behavior because they are taught to. They can be extremely popular and likeable. They don't have empathy for others or remorse for what they do. They can't deal with the reality of their behavior and can't accept their flaws. They are talented in turning things around on people and making it appear to others that they are responsible for what is going on so that they don't have to take responsibility for their own behavior. It's less painful that way. They are really good with the technique of projection. This means that they project their flaws onto others and say things like "I'm not the sociopath, she is", or blaming others for why they have to do whatever it is that they are doing, such as your blaming this girl for your getting her into trouble. They do not consider other people's wishes, welfare or rights because they are incapable of understanding or caring about the damage they impart onto others. They usually make great serial killers.
Now having said all of that...I don't know where a mental health professional gets off telling a teenager that she's a sociopath. All teenagers are sociopaths. They are always laying blame elsewhere and doing truly mean things to each other w/o remorse. They do not want to take responsibility for their behavior and blame others. They lie and have no empathy for others and their situation. They are narcissistic and think the world revolves around them...AND THAT is normal. That's being a teenager. Oh, man, some of the things I use to do when I was young...I look back and can't believe it was me. I could never hurt anyone today physically or mentally. I was a cheerleader too. I had this one guy pay me $5 a week so I wouldn't beat him up. It was simply pathetic some of the things I did and said to people back then. At the same time I had some kids under my protection too (they didn't have to pay anything I just liked them). It's an unfortunate part of growing up. I was diagnosed w/ depression and as an adult w/ADHD (they didn't have this diagnoses when I was a child). It's up to the adults to help young people see where behavior is problematic and personally I don't think you are a sociopath. That's an awfully strong diagnosis. Most mental health care professionals won't diagnose this until a person is an adult. I think you suffer from a well known condition which is simple to diagnose, you're a TEENAGER. Yes, I know, that in itself is pretty scary, but that's all I think that is going on. If it were up to me I would insist on a second opinion. You would be w/in your rights and deservedly so. Just because someone is a therapist does not mean they know what they are talking about all of the time. Also, you might want to take a second look at your behavior in all of this too. Even though this girl did some pretty appalling things, you might need to look at what you did and how you did it. Were your actions the best course of action? Could you have achieved your goals w/o stooping to her level? I agree, she needed to be punished for what she did. That was not right, but there are always other ways to achieve the same goals. I can't go into them because I don't know what you did that lead your school to recommend counseling. It had to be pretty big considering what that girl did to you. Whatever you do, don't let someone else label you. We do that too much in this country and once someone is labeled they start becoming the label. You were hurt and reacting out of anger. Sometimes we let the anger cloud our better judgment. Sounds to me you need more anger management counseling then labeling. I feel for you in all of this. Don't loose sight of who you are and you know deep down who that is. Don't let anyone's mis-diagnosis take that away from you.
IF YOU HAD READ MY ANSWER COMPLETELY WITH HEART AND COMPASSION (WHICH YOU OBVIOUSLY DON'T HAVE)YOU WOULD HAVE SEEN THAT I WAS SHOWING YOU HOW, I THOUGHT, YOU WEREN'T A SOCIOPATH. YOUR LACK OF APPRECIATION AND UNDERSTANDING AS WELL AS YOUR INABILITY TO SEE THAT THIS WHOLE ANSWER WAS ABOUT YOU ONLY PROVES TO ME THAT YOUR DIAGNOSIS BY YOUR MENTAL HEALTH AUTHORITY WAS CORRECT. YOU ARE AN UNGRATFUL AND HEARTLESS PERSON AND NEEDS SERIOUS HELP. I WAS SHARING AND RELATING ONLYTO SHOW YOU THAT IT HAPPENS TO EVERYONE. YOUR NARCASISTIC ATTITUTE PROVES THAT YOU NEED SERIOUS HELP AND I DO HOPE THAT YOU GET IT. YOU'RE A SAD, SAD PERSON WHO I DO BELIEVE IS BEYOND HELP AS ARE ALL SOCIOPATHS AND YOUR RESPONCE TO AN HONEST EFFORT AT HELPING YOU ONLY PROVES IT TO BE SO. TO ALL MY READERS, I APOLOGIZE, BUT I AM TIRED OF UNGRATEFUL SPOILED PEOPLE WHO SET US UP SO THAT THEY CAN FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES BY PUTTING US DOWN. I FELT SHE NEEDED A GOOD TALKING TO, EVEN THOUGH I REALIZE IT WILL DO NO GOOD.
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Hi There,
Wow it was alot to read there but what you should do is not let it get to you so much everyone has their own opinions if how ti ask or answer a question some may feel offende by it but that reality i'm afraid and you just have to be thick skinned about it i'm sorry your feeling so let down but i'm sure with in time you realise anyways you takecare and we''re all here for eachother remember that your not alone.
God Bless
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I'm not sure if its "legal" on this site to ask this question, but if it's not, could to re-direct me to a site that could help me?
This monday, I have off from school. I'm giving myself a total makeover. Hair, nails, everything. What I need, and what I have NO experience in, is makeup. Is there a place where I could submit my picture and have people give me makeup advice?
Thank you so much!
Ali (link)
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Hi there,
Well how about looking on the google.com or ask.com and type in your request and see what options you have.
Good luck
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okay I was talking to this guy I'm starting like a lot now, and we were talkin tonight. He called me baby and I asked him if he was callin me baby or A BABY. and he said he called me baby and I go why? Not like I mind, but I wanna know, and he's like because I wanted to.Thennn;; he said he was glad his yahoo finally worked because he was gettin mad because he couldn't talk to me, so mad he was gunna cry, and I go awe you were gunna cry just because we couldn't talk? I feel special and he goes uou are.... and he knows I like him... and I was like you need to want a girlfriend, and he's like I have to much stuff to do, and i'm always busy so I'd never get to see or talk to them so thats why I dont want a girlfriend right now...
and I feel so foolish for saying that... but I mean does it sound like he'd ever really want me for a girlfriend? or was he just being nice? what do you think? we've known each other since 2nd grade and now I'ma sophmore and he's a freshman ((He failed)) but yeah he used to like me and I didnt like him... sooo did time change things like did tables turn... me likin him... but not viseversa... orr does he like me? is there a chance??
please? thanks so much! (link)
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Hi There,
Maybe your just reading to much into this, what you could do is just observe your relationship and see how things develop there is no point thinking so ahead of yourself and like he said he doesn't want a girlfriend at the moment he didn't say he doesn't want you he just doesn't want to be with any girl so just let time speak for it self and see what happens just be a little patient. Chill out and just have some fun
Goodluck
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can anyone give me advice -where can i get free example of scenario in online?i just need the structure ,instruction of it..i mean the way how to write it (link)
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Hi There,
you can try this webiste youtube.com or search engines such as google.com or ask.com
Goodluck
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im 13 yr old female.
Okay i started talking to this one guy i really liked a while ago.He imed me and sadd that he wanted to get to no me better, we started cybering and i started liking him even more. He started getting orderly so i showed my friend what he was saying and we were mad at each other for sometime.he said he was sorry, and now he wants me to flash him a piece of my thong, or "pretend to slip and rub me" and i dont know what to do, hes really popular, so im afraid if i turn him down ill be even more hated than i already am...please help ill rate high!
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Hi There,
I understand how much you may like him and how popular he is but if you do not feel comfortable doing something then don't, you could try speaking to him and i'm sure he will listen to you and respect your feelings if he really likes you. Be careful especially on the net and just either speak to him or just forget about the whole things as hard it may seem i'm sure you can be strong and get over it but at the end of the day you can only decide we are only here to advice you and help you through it.
Takecare
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I know this is really stupid, but bear with me. There's nobody else I can ask
About a week ago, I accidentally slept face down and rumpled up my eyelid. It looks really bad---I'm Asian, so one eye has a normal double lid and the other is puffy and creased. If you don't know what a double eyelid is, then see:
http://www.beautifuleyes.com/images/photos/double-eyelid/4-after.jpg
Do you think it would be harmful if I cut a small strip of tape and stick it on where the double lid should be? I tried it and it worked (and the tape didn't show at all), but I took it off because I was worried it might be harmful. So if it won't damage my eye, could you also tell me whether it would last? Like, when I take the tape off, it would be normal again? (link)
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Hi
My advice to you is don't take the risk and get it checked out by your doctor or you may want to go to the health store and seek advice from them.
Takecare
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My best friend has been being a reall jerk lately. Shes been flipping out on me for the smallest things !! I dont want to fight back but I have to smack her into some sense. Yesterday when I told her its not my fault that her mom told her to go to bed she totally turned on me and flipped out ! I tried to calm her down but nothing i said would work. Then she just got me mad so I started yelling back at her! What should I do ? (link)
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Hi there,
It's perfectly normal for two people not to agree on everything, in fact that's healthy. It can be an interesting source of debate and you might both learn something interesting if you can keep your cool. But sometimes this can turn into a full-scale row, which is where you have to be careful.
By all means express your anger about whatever it is that's got your goat. Just remember not to start trading petty insults, making unfair generalisations, screaming at the top of your voice, or throwing punches. Nobody's going to respect your opinion after anything like that starts.
Say what you don't like and why you don't like it, then suggest what you'd like to happen instead. For example: "I really don't like it when you let yourself into my room and borrow my jeans, it makes me feel like you don't respect my privacy. Please ask me first next time," is more likely to get a more positive result than: "Hey, you bitch, give me those jeans back! You're always doing stupid things like this!"
If someone starts screaming at you, resist the urge to shout right back at them. If you're feeling brave, ask them what the problem is in a calm voice. It's quite common to find that there's a crossed wire somewhere and they're sounding off at you because they haven't got their facts straight. Being reasonably calm allows the other person to save face in this situation.
However, if they're pissed off at you for a genuine reason, the best thing to do is just suck it up and apologise. Admit you've made a mistake and look for a way to put it right or avoid anything similar happening again.
The worst arguments are often about nothing much, and tend to blow up when people are feeling tired and grumpy. It's up to you to judge how long things need to cool down for, before you try to patch things up. There is usually fault on both sides, so you might want to apologise first, or say that 'things got out of hand' and you want to make up. If you said something very hurtful or untrue in the heat of the moment, now's the time to take those comments back. If they apologise first, don't throw it right back in their face and start another row.
You may have to decide to 'agree to differ' on certain subjects. This is fine, and shows an ability to get on with all kinds of different people. Or you may just choose to tolerate each other's little quirks and preferences, in order to get along better. Perhaps you can work out a good compromise that makes it easier for all concerned. If one person has really upset the other, it may be sensible to agree to some reasonable ground rules to avoid future fights.
Most minor rows are worth patching up as soon as possible, especially if the conflict is making all your other friends uncomfortable. You may think twice about making the effort if it's just a passing acquaintance, or a friend who has really crossed the line, perhaps by stealing a partner/being violent/stealing money/spreading malicious gossip.
This kind of behaviour can ruin the original friendship completely, but you may want to partially make things up or give them a second chance. Just make sure they know that they're 'on probation', and you're not a pushover who will let them get away with the same thing twice.
Takecare
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When I met Mason and Sandra they were divorced. I'd have gone for Sandra, but Mason and I had hit it off well and became close friends. It turned out they got back together not much long later. I kept in touch with Mason, and tried not to let my feelings for Sandra get any stronger. Right after the birth of their first child, Mason was killed in a freak accident at work. Sandra came to me to help her with the baby and everything. After 2 years we started dating and got married. Then we had a son. Things were great when we were just friends but then we realized we liked each other a lot more and as soon as we got married everything changed. Her friends don't like me, she gets bored, she dreads sex, we fight over how to raise our son, she cries a lot, etc. I get real depressed because I catch her watching old home movies with Mason in them. I don't feel good enough. It's been 3 1/2 years since Mason died. Am I just horrible or is she just not over Mason? I hate being compared to him. (link)
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Hi there,
This seems a very complicated situation for you it must be very hard for all i can advice you is to seek counselling or confront her about the issues concerning you.
This is very deep i wouldn't know where to start but i do sympathise with you and i hope everything works out for yo remember there's always a light at the end of the tunnel
Takecare and all the best.
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im reading julius caesar in english class and i have like no clue what's going on [well sort of, but still..it's really hard to understand lol] anyway for homework i have to answer these questions and it's really hard. soo. anybody who has read julius caesar.. do you know the literary device used in the line "most mighty gods" and also what type of literary device is "beware the ides of march" ? there is a lot of other questions that i don't understand either but hopefully i can find those online on cliffnotes or something :) but if you can answer those two i'd really appreciate it. thanks :) (link)
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Hi there,
I can totally relate to you i used to find it hard understanding shakespeare as well what i can suggest to you is tell your teacher to give you help and support.
The other option is going to the library or looking over the internet but never be afraid to ask for help if you don't understand anything.
Goodluck
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my hair is a little longer than shoulder length.
i have very drastic layers and side bangs.
my hair is naturally wavy, just a little.
i have 2 questions::
my hair only dries curly when i let it air dry. is there any thing that i could put in my hair [wet or dry] that would make it wavy/curly but so i can blow dry it???
and secondly, my hair grows VERY slow and i want my hair longer, is there anything that i could use to make it grow faster?
ill rate 5s THANK YOUUUUUUU
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Hi There,
To get curly hair you can either go to a hair salon and get a perm or to a health shop where they may sell hair products to curl your hair.
To grow your hair longer just eat healthy and let nature take its course
Goodluck
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hey, well next weekend my parents want my family (my sister and me and my mom and dad) to go up to our cottage for memorial weekend. The thing is theres NOTHING to do up there. and i rellllly want to go to a graduation party. My sister who is a junior (2 years older than me) wants to stay home too because its her two best friends birthdays, and her birthdays tomorrow so she says its her birthday weekend. so we said to our parents to let us stay home with my older brother whos living with us right now hes like 26 and they trust him a lot, but they are having a problem with that. how do we convince them? we said to my mom it would bea nice relaxing weekend with out kids and that our bro could take care of us and its my sisters birthday weekend but she is being really weird about it. if we can convince my mom we can convince my dad so please help :( thanks (link)
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Hi There,
No family agrees on everything. In many ways, a difference of opinion is a healthy thing, especially between you and a parent. It can promote a constructive debate, or highlight individual strengths. As long as it's conducted with respect and sensitivity, then your relationship is likely to thrive. In many cases, however, one parent's values can be so rigid that anything you say or do can be met with pursed lips and a heavy silence. I had the most beautiful furniture in my bedroom," says Zella, 20, whose parents expressed their disapproval more directly. Admittedly it was bondage stuff, a whipping post and a bondage chair, but they just couldn't handle it and leapt to all kinds of conclusions."
It doesn't matter how many times you tell them that you can make responsible decisions for yourself, you can't beat showing them. It might mean toughing it out while you prove that you know what you're doing, but ultimately your welfare is what drives them to have their say. If they can see you're in control of your life, they should begin to leave you alone.
Goodluck
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