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Hello Everyone!! I'm Ashley and I am an 18 year old Senior. I'd be more then happy to answer ANYTHING and EVERYTHING! Giving advice is what I do best, so if your looking for someone to help you out I'm your go-to girl!! : ) I'm planning on going to Ohio University next year to study child psychology and I think this is a great start to my future career!ANYWAYS... enough about me!! Ask away and im more then happy to answer your questions, and by the way i NEVER reject a question! If you can take the time to write to me then i promise i will take the time to give you my best answer!
Oh and I would REALLY appreciate your feedback... whether good or even bad, I really like to know how i'm doing, so I can help better. I've had a lack of feedback lately so if you could help me out for helping you out, I would LOVE it!! 1 or a 5, just be truthful! Thanks so much!!!! And Goodluck!
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okay, i have this great guy friend he would do anything for me and if someone would bug me he'd get rid of them and i've liked him for a real long time and all and i would do anything for him too but i dont want to risk our relationship if he doesnt like me but he has been dropping little hints like lots of smiling hugs and when he gives me a high five i holds my hand for quit a while but i dont know if i should risk it or not cuz i have liked him for more then 5 months so plz help me on this one *i rate high*
Well my best advice on this one comes from my own personal experience. I had a best guy friend who was like a brother to me, we were so close that our parents even trusted us to spend the night at each others houses, and mind you i'm 18 at the time i was 14-17 and my parents wouldn't even let me have a guy in my basement with the lights off lol. Well anyways, we never messed around nothign we were strictling friends, however i was like in love with this boy. And he always told me how much he liked me but i wouldn't risk our friendship cause it was way to valuable to me. Well he finally tlaked me into trying something and we tried for like 2 weeks and then it just wasn't working and now our friendship is really messed up. We barely even talk anymore and i stil can't figure out why. We always promised each other if it didn't work we would still be best friends but it didn't work that way and it kills me inside and i still cry over it because i really did love this kid like he was my own brother.I kinda depends on how big of a risk taker you are and if you are willing to lose his friendship over this, if you really value his friendship more then anything then i would advise not to risk it, but if you are willing to go for it then you never know, somethign good may come out of it! but if you don't think its worth the fact that you could lose your friendship then don't. Friends are way more valuable then a boyfriend! Your friends will be there for you forever and boyfriends will just come and go!!
Im 15 and this Girl that i like is 17, i will be 16 in june. she is a junior and i am a freshman, is their anything wrong with us being together? And how should i ask my parents what they think about this?
No of course there is nothing wrong with that! I actually give you props for gettin an older girl, most guys can't pull that off... The whole parents thing just be honest with them. I don't think they will have that big of a problem with it, i mean i don't know your parents but your a guy. Parents trust guys way more then they trust girls. Well i guess it's kinda the other way around. When i was a freshman i wanted to date a junior guy but my dad wouldn't let me cause he didn't trust him lol. But if i had been in your shoes i think he would have been excited for me! So just approach them and be honest about it and unless they are real strict about things like that then i think that they will be cool about it!!! Good luck with that!
How do I tell this guy I love him? I know exactly what to say but I cant do it in front of his friends and theres never more than 5 minutes to talk to him. What should I do at this point because I feel as if I dont get it out soon Im going to pop!
Please help! Thanks!
Jacki
Well you could try to write him a note and explain your feelings, but i think it would be better to call him, its a little more personal. IT all really depends on well you know the guy, if you talk to him on a regular basis and calling him woulnd't be weird then go for it. But if you are a little aprehensive at the thought of callin him i think its a good idea to write it all down, i find it best to express my feelings that way!! If neither of those are options then although i think this is a bit more childish you could catch him on AOL or write him an e-mail!! These are just a few suggesetions! Hope i helped.... good luck! ; )
Is it required to go on the rino trip if you play club volleyball?
Well I played JO volleyball for 5 years and I never had to go... I have lots of experience in volleyball and my coach at my high school like wrote a book and all this other crazy shit... i'm not sure if you've heard about this camp but he runs the "yes i can" camp across the country, he is like nationally known but he is psycho and i hated him lol and he was the assistant director of the club i played for and he didn't even make us go and if he didn't make us go then i KNOW it isn't required because he is seriously a psychopathic obcessive-compulsive volleyball addict. It's sad. Lol sorry i had to get that out.
I was wondering, where do your wisdom teeth come from? Are they on both top and bottom, or only on the top.. or the bottom?
Your wisdom teeth are just a set of molars that come in usually during your late teens or early twenties. They don't necessarily come from anywhere it'st just happens that everyone's grow in during this time in their life. They come in behind the rest of your molars in the back of your mouth. Most people get them removed before they begin to shift your teeth and cause problems in your mouth. You will have 4 widsom teeth: upper left, upper right, lower left, and lower right! The surgical procedure is quick and harmless usually with minimal pain! Just some swelling and lots of icecream and soft foods for a couple of days!! : )
that was a really great idea about the valentines day present. The box idea was GreaT*--Thanks! You helped me out alot
Well awesome i'm really glad i could help you out!! If you need any help with anything else i would be more the happy to help you out! Have a great valentines day hun and update me on how it goes!!! I'd love to know! : )
my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 5 months now but we have been involved i guess you could say for like 2 years....weve always been really close. now on valentines day we decided we were ready to lose our virginity to each other and i was just wondering if there was any advice you could give me...if you dont wanna answer this i understand i just liked your advice you gave
Well i would love to answer your question! However i'm not 100% sure what kind of advice you would like so i will give it a shot and if it isn't answering you question right then just ask me again a little more specifically and i will give you a better answer!! : ) First of all make sure that both of you are totally positive that this is what you want, and that you are ready for sex because it truely is a big deal. I lost my virginity when i was 16 years old to a guy that wasn't the right one for me. I kinda felt pressured into it and now i totally regret it. Your virginity is something really special and you can only give it away once and then you can never take it back. So think about the long run and make sure this is what you really want! Something i suggest to make sure its romantic, make it be something that you can look back on and be like wow, the first time that i was really intimate was magical. Trust me, that is something that is important! Talk to your boyfriend about it and tell him that you want it to be special. Also, make sure that he wears protection! The last thing you want is a baby, and something else that you may not know is that there are lots of places that you can go and get birth control with out your parents and free of charge. Do some research into this because birthcontrol is also something thats important when you are planning on being sexually active. If your not sure how to find a palce like this you can e-mail me your city and state andi will try to look into it for you! (crazyblonde0514@yahoo.com) You might want to also try to wear something sexy for your boyfriend to spice up the mood a little ; ) Something simple like a lacy red bra and matching underwear is easy and attractive!! And another thing is it's probably not going to feel so great, so make sure to let your boyfriend know to go slow... reallllly slow lol. And if it is hurting don't be afraid to let your boyfriend know! So I'm not sure but i tried to cover everythign i could think of about losing your virginity!! Lol, i hope i could help... if i didn't answer what you were looking for then just let me know and i'll be more then happy to give you a better response!! Have fun and be safe!!
Last night I had a party because my parents were away. This guy that my friend has a crush on was there and we both made out with him multiple times while she was there.
After she left we were both lying on the floor together and started making out again. Then it started to get a little more serious, and he put his hand up my bra. We went into a bedroom and continued to make out more, and then he sucked on my breast, and then we made out more.
Afterwards I felt horrible and guilty and bad. I talked to my friend and she asked me what happened after she left so I told her that we made out and left out the second part and she wasn't pissed. The problem is that she's going to be hanging out with him and he's probably going to tell people, and it might get back to her.
Do you think I should tell my friend?
Oh goodness i know your situation all too well. From experience i would definitly tell her, it is going to make it a lot better if she hears it from you and not from a rumor flying around school. Be the first to let her know and explain to her how sorry you are and that you feel horrible. I don't think she will be that mad at you, she might be slightly hurt but if you guys are truely friends she will get over it. Besides, i think it will take a relief off of your conscience once you know that she knows and you don't need to worry about her finding out. And it is best to be honest with her, friendships have to be based on trust because without that then you are left with nothing.
what kind of things do you give guys on valentines day? Like really good things, or simple things are good to. I just need some ideas. i like to get my shopping done early so i wont have to woory about it later. but im completly lost on what i should get for him as a v-day present. Any Ideas? please help
I just went shopping for my boyfriends valentines present yesterday I like to get it done early too.. you're not the only one!! Okay well this is what i did for my boyfriend and i think its a really cute idea. First i bought a box, not like a cardboard one, a kind of nice wooden one with a lid. Then i bought a nice pictureframe and i put a pic of us in it, then i bought him a box of chocolates, and a teddy bear. I also bought him a movie that he really likes. I put all of the gifts in the box and i covered it with hershey's kisses and reeses and his favorite candys! And then i bought him a nice card!! I think the box idea is cute cause then he can keep it to put our stuff in there like notes, poems, pictures of us or whatever he wants to do with it! It's something functional but if you don't want to spend money on a box just put the stuff in a bag and cover it with candy! I got everything i needed at Target, they have lots and lots of cute valentines day stuff there, and it's pretty cheap! Let me know what you think of it : ) Hope i could help and have a fun valentines day!
hey.. aww your really pretty! but ne ways.. my boyfriend always wants to finger me.. i Really want him to and he has before.. but sometimes i wont let him becuz like i get razor burn somtimes and i have NO clue how to stop it unless i go like a week w/o shaving and then shave.. and anuther question... im 14 and i REALLY feel like i love him... and i Know he loves me becuz he's cried before when i got mad at him.. weve been together for 5 munths... i dont no what it is.. but i really no i love him.. do you think this is to young? thankss!
Well thanks sweetie i appreciate that!! Okay well my best advice for your razor burn problem is this, I suggest that you get a bath all ready and sit in it for about 15 min. Just soak yourself down there for a bit! Then i always use men's shaving cream, its a lot richer and thicker... then try shaving downwards and not up, if you do go up try going diagonally! I know it sounds silly but it def. works for me!! And you know what, i think that love has no age, i think that you can fall in love no matter how old you are 14 or 40. However, i think that you have to be mature to be in love. There is a lot more to it then you may think, and its a really big deal. I'm 18 and as much as i like my boyfriend, i know i don't love him and i personally don't think that i've matured enough to fall in love, i'm just not ready for it. So although you may think you are in love, it could just be infatuation. Which is always fun too! It's almost the next best thing! Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying you aren't in love, it all just depends on your maturity level and like i said love has no age. Love is an amazing thing that i am greatly looking foward to and if you are lucky enough to be experiencing it then that is awesome!! Have fun hun! Hope i could help ya!
this might be confusing. but here goes. ok i liek this guy named matt and ive liked him since last summer and he likes me too. every time i talk to him im so happy and i cant stop smiling but the thing is he lives in denton and i live in flowermound. (texas) so i never ever see him so it sucks. but the thing is at my school (FMHS) theres this one guy ive liked since the beginning of football season and he liked me and all but nothing ever happened besides we kissed one time during truth or dare but thats not the point. i still like him and he told me he likes me but neither of us want a boyfriend or girlfriend. he told me he just wants someone he can be really good friedns with and flirt with and he wants it to be me. well heres the bad part, this other guy likes me and i talked to him on the phone last night for like 8 hours. it was amazing. so i kinda liek all three guys and all 3 liek me and i have no idea what to do!please help! ill rate you veryy high if you give a good answer
Okay well first of all thats so weird that you go to flowermound because i live in ohio and one of my best friends moved there like 4 years ago and she just came back last year so thats so strange!! Lol, i guess it is a small world after all... well anyways getting back to your question, you said yourself that you don't really want a boyfriend right? So, if you really ment this then i don't think that you have anything to worry about! Just date around and have fun, thats what high school is for! : ) That way you can go out one night with your guy from another school, flirt with your boy that you've liked since FB season and talk for hours on end with guy #3! Lol, trust me, its sooo much more fun to be able to hang out with different guys all the time rather then to be held down by one guy. That way no one gets pissed at you for talking to other guys. But if that isn't really what you want and you really do want a boyfriend then make a list of pros and cons for each guy, and then anyalize it and figure out which guy would be the best one for you. Which one makes you feel the best about yourself and one that you can see yourself with for a long time who will treat you like the princess i'm sure you are ; ) Hope i could help. Go Jags! haha ~Ash xoxo
My former best friend and I have been growing apart over the last two years. Now to her I'm just someone she says hi to in the hall. It's been hard to stay in touch over the years because she is so busy and we haven't been in any of the same classes. We still consider oursleves "friends", but I wish things could go back to the way they used to be. Whenever I call her to do something with me, she always has other plans. Ever since we started fading away from being best friends I've really missed her. We had been best friends for over 4 years and we had this dream of becoming famous actresses together, and it really saddens me how apart we've grown now. I'm afraid that in a couple of years or so, we might not be friends at all. I feel like there is nothing I can do to just have us be best friends or even just good friends again, but I need to figure out something. This seems impossible since shes always so busy with her activities and her group of best friends. Can anyone help me on what to do? I rate high!
Well... i'm not sure if you've tried this but I think you need to call her. Call her at a time when you know she doesn't have anything else to do, and then start talking about all of the fun memories you guys have had together. Just do the reagular hey, how are you, whats goin on stuff then be like yeah i was just thinkin about the time that we.... and then just try to start bringing up all of the fun stuff you guys have done together. Then after that tell her how you miss her and how you miss being really good friends with her. Chances are when you guys have talked about all of your fun times she will realize that she misses you too... that might make it a little easier to get her to want to hang out with you too!! :) Let me know how it works out hun!!
well.. the guy i like wants to finger me and i told him he could and..i know that we won't talk about it anymore i know that its just going to happen, and i just started using tampons the really little ones and.. i've never done anything else .. "downthere" so im pretty tight, and i know all guys automatically think "ohh use two fingers" is it going to hurt really bad? should i judt deal with it and it will get better?
I assume your boyfriend knows that you haven't done anything for the most part... so if this is the case, chances are, if he is smart, he is goign to be gentle. Especially since it is yuor first time. Most guys are considerate and they aren't goign to try to put you through any major discomfort. But if you do begin to feel some pain, let him know... don't be nervous to tell him to be a little more gentle! However i promise that it doesn't hurt enough to be a big deal at all. At the most you may experience a slight discomfort but thats about it. Nothing that you need to be worried about! Have fun hun! ;)
i really really want a boyfriend. im so annoyed that every girl, ugly and pretty, has had a boyfriend. im way too shy to ask a guy out myself and i cant rely on my friends to hook me up with someone.please help!
I went through the same thing, all my friends with their boyfriends and poor lonely me all alone and jealous!! I searched and searched but no luck! Then i gave up, i never would have thought that the best thing to do is to stop looking. The more you look, the harder that it is going to become to find a guy! I was looking for a boyfriend for 8 months and it was nearly impossible... but then once i stopped one just fell right in my lap!! Sometimes something is right in front of your face and you don't even see it. I never would have thought in a million years that I would be dating the guy i am now, i had known of him for 4 years but he didn't seem to be my type, and boy was i wrong. Date around, if someone asks you out on a date that you don't think is your type, go out anyways... you may be surprised with your result!!
I have this friend (lets call her amy) and she always gets mad at me for nothing and I dont no what to do because we do a lot of stuff together but with her I cant say the wrong this or shell FLIP i dont wanna say like stuff to make her even more mad .. Sometimes I dont even think she is my friend because she takes it ALL OUT ON ME. What should I do ? HELP!!
--confused
It took me 3 full years of high school, and finally my senior year i found who my true friends are. Once you realize this it will make your life SO Much easier. I use to think i had to be friends with everyone... I was wrong, i only caught myself trying to please people who didn't really deserve my time, or my thoughtfullness. My best advice is to get rid of the people in your life who cause you stress and pain. Surround yourself with positive people who will always make you feel good about yourself and treat you with the same respect that you treat them and the respect that you deserve. You will find that you'll have friendships that are less full of drama and conflict, and much more gratifying and healthy!! :)
Ok there is this guy that I am friends with, and I found out that he likes me. Good right? No you see I am friends with his ex and she says she still loves him. he never talks to her or anything. he says that she couldn't handle just being friends and that he only treats her like that because she acts like that. I don't want him to treat me like that if we were to go out and break up, he says that he wouldn't,but I don't know if I believe him. And there is one more thing I have a boyfriend. we don't go to the same school and I was thinking about dumping him anyway,but I just dont know what to do. So should I dump my boyfriend for my friend?
Sorry about the length, and I'll rate anyone who answers. Thanks.
Hi!:) Wow, this is a toughy... i went through something very very similar between one of my best guy friends and one of my girl friends. Honestly i think your best bet is to just forget it. I know that it sucks, but i tried it out and it did nothing but ruin mine and my best guy friend's relationship we don't even talk anymore and it just crushes me. It's been abouta year and i still can't stand the fact that i gave in and that we don't talk anymore. i honestly get upset all the time. It just didn't work out being such good friends and then trying ot make it more. Also you don't want to jeopardize your friendship with your girl friend. Girls should be your top priority even if you really like a guy, chicks before dicks right!! ;) Yeah i learned that the hard way, but me and my friend got through it, not that i can say the same for my guy friend and I. I think that it will cause you way too much drama and pain then it is worth. If you're happy with how things are going wtih your friends right now don't risk messing everythin up over something that can be potentially worthless. That is my best answer from personal experience so i hope that it helped!
ok i met this guy off buddypic a while back and hes got a salute and a lot of pictures so i know its him for sure and we talk on the phone and stuff....well he wants to meet me next weekened and hes already talking about fucking me in the car next weekend....hes like oh well have SO much fun....i have a boyfriend though of 5 months...and we promised to NEVER cheat on eachother..and me and my boyfriend havent even fucked..should i do this??
Ummmm no... this guy sounds like a sick freak to me. No offense. If all he is talking about is fucking you, then he isn't a guy you should want to be with, or even have as a friend. I don't know the whole situaion but to me it sounds like he could be some psychopath who just wants to get into your pants. I know you've probably been told this a million and two times but no matter what i wouldn't reccomend meeting someone who've you met online. It's not safe and espcially this guy, he just sounds like a creep. You already sound as if you are considering messing around with him... well if you are going to meet him, don't do anything with him. You have aboyfriend, and you should respect him. Don't forget there are tons of diseases out there!!! But if you do decide to meet up with the dude, then be safe and smart hunny! Use your best judgement on this one!
Alright well here is the story hehe! I started going out with this boy and at first I didn't like him that much...well for Christmas he bought me a diamond ring! It kinda freaked me out...he kept being like way too clingy and I got kinda scared. I mean I liked him but I didn't think I liked him that much. Well I told him that I got punished and I really like him but I didn't think it would be the best time to have a boyfriend. Well he still wanted me back and I started to like him more and more well randomly out of no where he told me I was acting differently and now he said we are friends. Well you probably guessed...I like him A LOT now!! I don't know what to do...I told him I still liked him alot and he sometimes seems like he likes me like he kissed me on the forhead the other day but I don't understand. I don't know what to do, I really want him back! I asked my brother about it and he told me to just like fall back and don't beg him just kinda avoid him and not seem very clingy or whatever..I don't know if that will work...Does anyone know what I should do it seems I am fresh out of ideas!!...
Wow! Okay sweetie i know EXACTLY what you are going through trust me... i just went through the exact same situtation, and i know... it isn't fun. My boyfriend and i had been going out for like 2 months and he told me he loved me and that totally scared the shit out of me!! Then i broke up with him and was totally sad and missing him after like a week. But now we are back together and i will tell you why!! Your brother is completly right, throwing yourself at him isn't going to make him want you. Think about it, guys and girls aren't that differnt. When he was throwing himself at you and getting you a diamond ring and whatnot it kind of turned you off or pushed you away... but now that he is sending mixed signals you want him so badly. It's because he is giving you a challange. Guys like a challange! Just as us girls do. So back off, i know it will be hard, it was so hard for me but once i stopped telling him how much i missed him and i stopped calling him, i could see the differnce in how bad he wanted me back too. Give him space for a week or so, act like you're happy and yu don't need him. Then maybe after a week or two talk to him again and ask him how he would feel about getting back together, tell him that you miss him but you don't want to play games and you don't want to wait for him forever. And let him know that if he doesn't want to get back with you you want to move on. And if that doesn't work then maybe you really should move on... I really think this is your best bet!! It worked for me and now my boyfriend and I are happier then ever, i like him so much more theni did before and i really think this situation will end up making you guys closer then ever!
Hey.....ok..There is this boy named Tom that i have a huge crush on. i think he is the biggest crush i have had. Well all my fiends keep going up to him and bugging him about me and i feel really bad. So im getting mixed signals from him. He stares at me all the time in chorus, everytime i walk by him in the hallway he watches me walk down the hall. Then my friend Mike got his number from him and told him that he was going to give it to me and he said sure go ahead i dont care. Then everytime Mike or someone else goes up to him and goes tom you should go out with Laura. He laughs and blushes and smiles. Then he told these other people he didn't really know that he didn't like me so i dont know what to believe.
What should i do to clear this whole situation up?
(oh by the way im 14 and in 9th grade and female, sorry about the lenght)
Well sounds to me like this boy that you like is a shy one! Going back to my freshman year i can remember how the boys acted, and yes, they were mostly all this way. From what i can see it sounds like he likes you but he just may be to shy to admit it. Maybe he is afraid that you don't really like him and that if he admits to likeing you he may end up being embarassed. Most of the time if a guy isn't interested he isn't going to blush and smile when someone tells him he should go out with a girl, usually they will be blunt and just say no. Well really you have 2 options... it all just depends on the type of girl you are. If you are bold then just talk to him about it, be open. You don't even have to do it in person if you don't want to, you could call him or even talk to him on AOL. Be upfront with him and be like hey i have something to tell you, i'm not sure how you'll take it, but I think its easier for me to get it out. And then tell him how you feel. He sounds shy you so may need to take the first step and you may be shocked with the result! But, if that isn't your style then another way to deal with this could be to just allow him to come to you, maybe hint to him that you actually DO like him so he knows for sure from you, flirt with him, and see what kind of response you get from it. But DON'T overdo it, remember guys like a challenge. If he starts to act not interested back off... but chances are he will take the initiative and if your lucky, make an effort! Hope i could help!
What does it feel like having sex.. And how do you "eat a girl out" im 15 and im wondering.. thanks
Ummm to be honest it's kind of difficult to explain what sex feels like... other then that, for the most part, it feels good! lol. It really is different with each person so you can't necessarly describe it. I've had a time where it has felt awesome, but i've also had time where it has sucked. It's all depending on the environment, your mood, your partners mood, how comfortable you are with that person, and all different types of variables like that. And when it comes to eating a girl out, i've never really done it so its kind of hard to tell you how to! I wishi could help you out a little more but these questions all depend on the type of girl you are with! Different girls like different things. You pretty much just do what will satisfy your partner, so if you have a girlfriend and want to experiment don't be shy to ask her what she likes or ask her to help guide you. Relationships are all about communication and belive me, she won't think any less of you for asking... when you're done she'll probably thank you!!!