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Ok this may sound kind of wierd but bear with me while I give the set up please. I am a teenage male and I have been dating this girl for about 2 1/2 months. When we hang out in a group of friends we have a mutual friend who is a boy. When ever my gf walks into the room he is always hugging her and sitting with her and she lets him. The catch is that this boy is gay so I should have no problem with it except that I want to be the one she hangs all over and sits closely with. She is not big on PDA but I would like her to be able to walk up to me and not act like complete strangers when we are in public. Is there something I can say to her about this mutual friend and also on a general note of mild affectionate PDA as a whole. Please help, I am not sure what to do and it is ruining the relationship. Thank you. (link)
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i think your gf is cool. some girls get too clingy and ugh in public it's embarrassing. you could just show a little jealousy and be playfully like 'hey, why do you hug him but not me? i'm your bf'. or you could initiate it and be 'i just wanna show the world you're mine'. but slow down on the PDA. holding hands and cute kisses on the cheek is fine, but more than that is just plain rude (especially if you have a friend with you)
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Okay. Well. Lemme give you the backstory. Me and my roommate went to Foot Locker to buy stuff for her boyfriends birthday and we met this guy that we see on campus in there (he works there)and so when we were checking out, i asked him if he goes to my university, and he said "yeah, howd you know?" and i said "we see you at the black parties and at the gym" and he replied "oh yeah i train at the gym sometimes" and then continued with small talk.
So later, I asked my neighbor if he knew him, and he does, but i told him not to say anything cause i didnt want to act like im in 8th grade passing messages but he said something anyway:
He asked his coworker where the guy was when he went into foot locker for shoes, and said "oh well my neighbor wants to holla at him"
and the coworker replied " Which one?"
My neighbor: "The white girl"
Coworker" Mann. You know he dont do the white girls. hes never even kissed a white girl in his life"
Then after he told me that, it wasnt a big deal, I wasn't his type so nbd.
but then, last weekend, my neighbor calls and wakes us up asking if we want to go to the mall with him and his roommate and we do, so we get dressed, we look nice cause its a saturday and were going out.
and we ran into the guy and his friend walking to the food court. we said hi, but then the boys had their own separate conversation.
Then my roommate and i sat down to eat lunch and the guy left, but he came back, and apparently behind us, they were pointing at me like "is that the girl?" and my neighbor gave him a thumbs up, asking "is she good?" and he smiled, then looked at me again. My neighbor said he did a triple look at me, then we were properly introduced to eachother.
Then that night we saw him at the party, but we all had to pee so i was being tugged along to the bathroom and the guy passed us by and tried to give me a hug but since i was moving, he just like grazed my lower back and grabbed my shirt. it was an epic fail of a hug.
After that horribly long story, I'm wondering from an outside perspective if this situation sounds promising? I'm gonna continue to talk to him and get to know him. Thank you if you help me out.
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i hope im not blunt, but i think the guy was just being nice. no matter if you're his type or not, a guy would feel flattered if a girl likes him. So the double look was probably acknowledging that 'oh, this is the girl that likes me'. the awkward hug, too, was him acknowledging that he knows you and he's being friendly.
all hope is not lost though. if you like him, 'stumble' upon him more, get to know him, chat more, then maybe he'll find out that you're his type after all.
Good Luck, i hope this helps.
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okay, tomorrow im going to black light party at a bar and i have white shorts that i wanna wear. the shorts are cloth like cheerleadin shorts kinda but thicker, but im trying to figure out what color underwear to wear with them lol. i dont want anything too dark that'll show up under normal light, but cant have anything that'll glow through the shorts in a black light. i dont have white or nude underwear. i only have nright yellow, pink, red, teal, or lavender. i'm leaning towards the lavender but i feel like thats gonna glow really bright under the black light. do you think it'd be bright enough to glow through the shorts? i just dont want to look like an idiot hah (link)
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i say just go with your pink or yellow underwear. black light parties are supposed to be fun and colorful. or, well, i dont think that your underwear actually shows in blacklight (i could be wrong), so how about you borrow any black light from friends (or secretly see in shops that sells them) and see if it show.
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First of all, my boyfriend and I have been dating for like 1 1/2 years. I love him and I don't think he's a bad person, but I've really been having a problem with the way he treats me lately. We always hang out everyday after school until 4 (so like 30 minutes) and then we hang out every friday night from 7-10:30. Now, it's not that I have a problem with the amount of time we get to hang out, I just HATE how it's so scheduled...I feel like he doesn't even want to hang out with me outside of the schedule unless he wants to do sexual stuff. He never wants to break the schedule :( I just want to have a carefree "see each other when we feel like it" thing so it's fun and spontaneous, but he's more focused on keeping everything in order so he can get home and play his videogames for the rest of the day. I guess I just feel like he puts my feelings 2nd to videogames. I've already tried bringing this up to him many times and he just says I'm "accussing him of being a terrible boyfriend and I need to understand that he isn't going to part from his hobbies for me"...but I didn't ever ask him to do that. I'm glad he has hobbies but I just don't understand why he has to schedule his entire life, including me, based on his videogames...I don't know it just makes me feel like I'm not very special, I'm just part of the schedule to him...I don't really know what I'm asking, I just need advice please. Thanks. (link)
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ahhh if you've talked to him and he wont listen, then there's no use beating around the bush. why dont you make plans with your friends after school or go out on friday nights with your friends? i mean, sabotage the meeting times. say you're busy and cant meet him up during those times. yeah sure, you'll miss him and you wont be able to meet him for a few days. but sooner or later, he's gonna start missing you more than his video games and be more than willing to be flexible with your scheduled meetings. right now, he probably feels that you will always be around and takes you for granted. you gotta let him know that if he doesn't work for it, he wont get you. plus, it's fun to spend more time with your friends or families once in a while.
Good Luck!
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I have a boyfriend of 4 years. Here recently, a couple days before our 4 year which was like a week ago I went on to my boyfriends Facebook, just to randomly check up on him. I go through his messages and come across a conversation that my boyfriend started up. It goes along the lines of " Hey so I just wanted to let you know I had the biggest crush on you back in BCIS class and I thought you were cute" she said aww why didnt you tell me? i feel the same kind of thing. and he mentioned he STILL thinks shes cute and that the vodka helps. Gave his number to her and the next morning puts "even sober I meant all that" After that, I was BEYOND pissed and confronted him about it. He claimed he got drunk with a couple friends and left his Facebook up and his friend talked to a couple people. Obviously I don't believe him and his friend called me up and wanted to make sure he told me he's the one who talked to her and sorry for getting him in trouble and that he thought it was funny at the time. Also, I went ahead and messaged that girl, and of course she didn't respond like I thought. Which makes it seem more supicious. With all that said, I am not sure how to approach this issue. I often bring up I am still upset with him and he continues to deny it all. I feel as though it is never-ending. I don't know if I should either brush it off or end it between us because I don't think I could trust him after seeing that.
Any ideas? (link)
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Onestly im not judging you cos i dont see anything wrong with looking at my bf's fb if he's doing the same thing (reading phone texts etc). but these things only happen if you dont trust your bf/gf. it's kinda worrying that he's flirting with this 'cute' girl. i suggest you drop the subject when you talk to him, but quietly check his fb or email without him noticing (note: he MUST NOT NOTICE). and if he's still flirting around with the girl (or other girls), take a screenshot and confront him.
but if he doesnt do anything of the sort for like, say, 3 months, then stop checking his fb and treat that flirting as a one time thing. and trust him. sometimes being drunk makes you do stupid things.
GOODLUCK!
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previously asked a question about my first kiss. also, i really could nto get into it. i kept turning my head, my body language was off. my arms were wrapped around myself; what does that mean? i was really nervous and i dont want to be bad again. i know the guy likes me but after this, im pretty sure he doesnt
help!
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the beauty about first kisses is that you don't have to think that much about it. if he doesnt like you anymore, or you're bad at it, dont care, just move on. for all that matters, it could be him thats the bad kisser. you have other chances to practice, it's alright. watch more kissing scenes, read kissing tips in magazines, use breath mints. when it's right, a kiss can be very exciting :)
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I Don't know what it's called even though I've been trying to for a long time now. For about 2 years now, I've felt little to no emotions, constant suicidal thoughts, no need to socialize, haven't been able to remember a single dream, and the need to be alone.
2 Years ago, I was the guy with all the friends, the happy person with the happy life. Now, I'm still considered to be the same person by at least 90% of people I know. The 10% that asked me if there was something wrong, I blew them off. I don't tell people my problems, and don't feel "alone in the world". I don't see the point in "white lies" and analyze all my conversations, thinking of what to say next before saying it. I don't feel happy, sad, regret, guilt or anything. But I still have suicidal thoughts. I can't explain it well. When I think of suicide I feel like a great weight will be lifted.
To be honest, I'm surprised i went through with this. I normally just read, not write. Oh and also please don't go "Please see a therapist, or doctor, or speak to someone." I've tried enough times. (link)
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think about suicide only once you've achieved everything in this world. sometimes suicide is just a sweet way of escapism. if there's something in your life that most trigger your suicide instinct 'eg life is meaningless, job is hard', just do the crazy and get out of it. life is short already, dont waste it with things you hate and make it shorter by suicide.
im not happy, im bound with work, social life is zero, gained friends lost friends. but sometimes i'll think about things i havent done in life, simple things like sleeping by the lake or going paris or eating authentic danish pastry (lol). things like that makes me wanna live just a little longer.
hope this helps.
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i am a freshmen in high school and i am 16 i have been in a long distance relationship for 4 months and he broke up with me because he said he does not know what to do anymore so what should i do should i give him space or what???? (link)
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long-distance relationship is hard. some relationships are just not strong enough. dont feel bad, even a decade long of marriage can crumble after a long distance. you're still young, it's better to experience a sweet on-the-spot relationship (you know what i mean) with a guy. holding hands, walks together, dates etc.
your ex knows you deserve better than a relationship with a phone and computer screen. so just accept the break up.
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First off sorry if this is long.
I have a really big problem trusting people, I know your probably thinking "baby" or something but ill try and explain. Well since I was born ive been lied to left right and centre by supposed friends, adults and family members, people who I thought I could trust have just blatently lied to me.
Too be honest its got me really depressed. I cant feel I can trust anyone anymore, people say "Oh not everyones the same." But what the people dont understand is that everythings been a lie, I cant trust anyone... Now ive met this girl and she says I can trust her, I dont know what did it but I believed her, I trust her more than I have ever trusted anyone in my life, I dont think I even trusted my mum as much. But I think everythings goin to go wrong or shes lying and I dont want to think that. I keep thinking shes going to change her mind about me or just say things that are lies... Its the same with friends. They seem nice enough but I just cant trust or believe anyone. Because of this ive become very to myself. When im in school im as hyper as ever but then when they look away my smiles fades and im just depressed.
So my question is, does anyone have any advice to tell when people are lying or to be able to trust people more?
Thanks for taking your time to read this, any advice will be taken in and thought about. Sorry if this is in the wrong section. (link)
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sometimes you just gotta take big risks in life. you never know who to trust and not to.
trust people, but in moderation. when i think about ppl who are close to me, they are people who have gained my trust. once you trust someone with a little thing, and they prove to be trustworthy, then you put more trust in them. and repeat.i have alot of friends that i trust on a varying degree. thats how it works. if you have friends who are untrustworthy, it's still okay to friend them. people can be friends without trust too.
however karma's a bitch. to trust people, you also have to be a trustworthy person. dont expect to be given without giving.
one trick. tell a secret to a person, just one person. and if the secret goes around, you know the drill.
(srry for overusing the word trust. at this time, my vocabulary is lacking.)
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i know this is probably a stupid question but bare with me im so desperate haha.
okay so a couple of hours ago i was at tacobell with 2 of my best male friends. i saw this really cute guy there and he kept starring at me. i was so shy and im guessing that he thought maybe one of the guys was my boyfriend.when i went to the bathroom he went also and i really wanted to talk to him but i just couldnt get the courage too. oh btw he was there fixing something i think he was a costruction worker he was about 23 years old/white male. and when i was leaving he was starring at me as if he wanted to say something to me but couldnt, since he was working. when i left i saw him looking threw the mirror glass. and i was so sad cause i didnt get to say anything. i guess my stupid question is how can i find this guy. i know i dont know his name or anything. but hey its worth a try. i tried posting it on craigslist in the missed connection section so hopefully he sees it. any other ideas? any other websites like that? ahh i wish i could find him :( i doubt ill ever see him again.. and i bet hes thinking the same. really wish destiny could help me out a little right now. (link)
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be a regular customer of taco bell.
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My best friend, who is also one of my roommates (I'm a freshman in college), is depressed. She just told me that she is seeking help and going to a psychologist but I'm still really worried about her and I don't know how to help her. She is not herself anymore at all. I tried to make her laugh and cheer her up, but she wouldn't even crack a smile. She kept saying nothing interests her anymore. I don't know what could've happened that triggered it..we tell each other everything and I don't think anything happened in her family...we've actually had some of the best times this year together. Everything seemed to be going great.. Then all of a sudden she just wasn't herself anymore. The past week she has been going home instead of staying in the dorm room, and is just not herself at all.
What can I do to help her? What could've caused this? A chemical imbalance or something? And how long will this last... because I hate to see her like this, and I really just want my best friend back. :( (link)
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maybe it's a family problem? if it's really critical, advise her to visit a counselor or psychologist. and if you're close enough, call her mother and tell her about her daughter.
however dont corner your friend and harass her about it, it'll make her more stressed and depressed. give her space, but not too much space. just be there for her if she needs you.
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Alright, So I'm 15 and my boy friend he's 17.. we've been dating for a year and 4 months now.
From the beginning I knew he was the right one, I felt something different with him..I was dating someone when I fell for him though, I felt lonely and my boyfriend who I was with compeletly stopped talking to me, and I was really depressed over it..and I met him..and my god it was such an amazing feeling..It started with a simple crush and it grew into something amazing..
Pretty much like all relationships, rumors start people were saying he was cheating on me.. which he denied and he said with his past relationships..since people disliked him so they made things up.. There was only ONE time when he actually screwed up, and that was when he wrote a note to a girl he use to like before me..who was my friend.. he wrote to her saying some of his feelings came back, and he wanted them to be cleared up.. she didn't want to be with him, and he realized after almost losing me..that he made a mistake, and didn't want to be with her..and only me.
I'm getting tired of rumors..I really am..a new one just started about him cheating on me with someone in the 8th grade..he only knows to ppl in the 8th grade and he does not like them..
His cousin has this obsession with this one girl, and he was using my bf's fb to chat with her, when I saw that I FREAKED..and called him..he told me it was his cousin..and I told this girl Kait..and now I believe she's starting stuff because she use to like my bf..but she has a "boy friend".
I love my boy friend..but I have horrible trust issues.. I don't know what to do?
Please tell me your thoughts, don't be harsh please :/ (link)
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cant stop rumors from going on, nosy people unfortunately have mouths. being in a relationship, sometimes you just have to tune out the rumors and see things as it is.
besides the letter thing, has he ever gone alone with girls? does he flirts around with girls alot? judge it from what you see and know, not from something you've heard. not even from your bf.
it can be super frustrating when ther's no trust or security in a relationship, so give him a little break.
h'ever you guys are still young and green, whatever happens take it as a learning experience :)
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i go to a very small high school. probably 100 students max. i was walking in the hall with one of my friends and this guy bumps into me and smiles then my friend gave him a hug since they somewhat friends then as i was walking away he says "i can't get a hug?" with his arms open so i hugged him and started laughing. i'm not quite sure why he even did that. it wasn't awkward though it just left me and my friend a bit confused. any ideas? (link)
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He was just being nice and polite. dont think about it too much
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You guys i need serious help....
I am so scared of these people i met about a year ago... we got close, cause one of them made it her "mission" to be my friend because they "needed a pretty girl" in their crew... i could even tell how slick and psychopathic it all really was now... they have pictures of me partying and getting drunk and then sick everywhere... and i am so scared it would get out because it would ruin my career big time let alone my family (especially my dad's job would get effected) i don't trust these people and feel that should i leap into my new career (i just finished college) and leave them and make something of myself they might resort to blackmail or even just exposing me for publicity since they are stuck in a rut doing drugs and drinking all the time. i am over that phase and i've "seen the world and got it out of my system" and never want to go through what i went through (and wish it never happened) i admit i jumped into it being the naive overprotected girl that i am but i have learned my lesson with a biggg price tag plastered on it... how do i make these pictures go away? they have serious evidence! i don't want to hang around these girls and staying on their good side means having to play their game which is ruining my future! ditching them is digging my own grave.... time is sensitive and i don't know what to do!!!! please help me. (link)
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find someone you can trust and confide with them about these fears. a family member or long time best friends. then slowly divide your time between these people and other people in your life. it's alright. now is the time for you to find other people to trust, these special best friends. once you find these people who treasure and love you, no pictures or rumors can stop them for loving you. and no other opinions matter. just ditch them (subtly if you can) before you dig a deeper grave and more pics are taken. DONT PLAY THEIR GAME ANYMORE
if the pics come up and they're not so bad (eg drinking, dates etc), then just admit it. if worst comes to worst (your dad's job in jeopardy, drug pics), deny deny deny. photoshop works both ways. you can say its photoshopped, haha. (im not joking, deny deny deny)
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20 female.
So every one tells me that i still look really pretty without make-up. I won't lie i will go out in public without make-up and it doesn't bother me. I do usually wear make-up when I go outbut I'm not like some girls where they have to always have make-up on. Usually when I'm around guys, and its night time or something I'll take a shower and so I'll have no make-up on and my hair will be all gross haha (my hair is kind of wavy, but not cute when i leave it naturally) My best friend that i'm always with freaks out whenever a guy might have to see her without make-up and I don't see it as a big deal. Sometimes I feel less pretty around her because I won't have any make-up after a shower and she will be all done up still though.
For instance. Last weekend we were at a hotel and four of our guys friends stayed with us in the same room. I just had to take a shower because I always do at night so I don't feel gross. So i had no make-up on and my hair not done. I guess I didn't really care. But my friend got in the shower and just washed her body off and didn't get her hair wet and didn't take her make-up off.
I guess my question is, do guys really care if a girl doesn't ALWAYS have her make-up on? I asked one of my guy friends that night at the hotel if i looked different without make-up because people tell me i don't look that different and he said "no, but that's a good thing!" i don't want to be walking around sometimes without make-up with me thinking it's not a big deal and guys are thinking "oh gross, whats she doing"
Any comments are welcomed thanks! (link)
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sometimes guys think its more sexy. whats more attractive than beauty is confidence. and if you're still good looking without make up, then thats the best thing ever.
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This is a very complicated story. It's also very long, but I'm going to make it as short as I can. Last Saturday (the 5th) I was talking to this guy on facebook. (I know him personally, I wasn't talking to some random creeper). We talked for about 5-6 hours that night, which is a long time. I was listening to the song "beauty in the breakdown" by The Scene Aesthetic. Heard it? No? Look it up :) Anyways, he liked my status and then he sent me the next part of the song through chat. Then I sent him the next next part. See a pattern? Haha, we sent it back and forth for a few minutes. About two hours later, we were talking about how everything strangely happens for a reason. So, as my status, I put "Sometimes it's the smallest decisions that can change your life forever." then he asked, "do you like my status?" So I looked, and his status was "....but it's the biggest things that will ruin your life forever." I was like, shocked haha. About an hour later, I got tired of my status so I put another part of the song as my status. Later, I went to his profile (cause I'm a creeper like that) and his status was the entire following verse. He kept like, finishing my statuses. I didn't hate it, haha. We talked for a few hours after that, then he had to go. On Monday in school, he kept looking at me in lunch. Him and his friend stared at me for like 9 seconds at one point. I got scared. haha. Then afterschool on facebook, I asked his friend why they were looking at me. He told me that "steve" (the dude is "steve", obviously) said something about me so he turned around and looked. I asked him what "steve" said, but he said he 'didnt remember'. So when I didn't believe him (lol) I asked "steve" about it. He said that his friend looked because he asked him what he was staring at, then turned around and looked. Then I asked "steve" "what were you staring at?" he said "who do you fucking thing i was looking at?" "me?" "no shit." (he's funny). So I ended up talking to him for a while. While I've been talking to him, I've had a boyfriend. Don't yell at me. I'm not a cheater. The thing is, my boyfriend never acted like he cared about me, and that sucked. I told "steve" that I was having trouble deciding between my boyfriend and this other guy I've been talking to. On one hand, I dont wanna lose my boyfriend. But on the other hand, I don't wanna be with someone who doesnt care about me. But I was afraid that if I lost my boyfriend over "steve" then "steve" wouldn't like me and I'd end up alone. So I was telling "steve" this, and he said "hmm... thats quite a pickle you're in" (he's so funny). He told me that if my boyfriend was like that, then I should get rid of him.. and he asked who the other guy was. I told him I couldn't tell him. So I told him it was him (of course). He said that he needed to focus on school and stuff, and that having an "in school" girlfriend would distract him. I thought that was just an excuse.. wouldn't you think that? So I told him, "you dont have to say stuff like that. If you really don't like me like that, then just tell me. Don't make up excuses though." and he replied "well, if you think about it, I'm saying the opposite." He told me that he thought I was cute, but he had to get to know me better before anything happened... and I understood that. And then when I had to go, he said "goodnight cutie(:" which was cute of him to say.. OH JEEZ. Tuesday. The most complicated day. He kept looking at me and smiling at me in lunch, right? Then I started talking to him afterschool on facebook (again). He talked to me, but then after a while he just ignored me. Long story short, my boyfriend ended up dumping me that day. I told "steve" "Look I dont know if you're busy or anything, but I really need someone to talk to. Could we talk? Please?" He didn't say anything for the rest of the day. Wednesday.. he still looked at me in school. Then on facebook, we talked then he ignored me.. again. Thursday.. he did not look at me at all. Of course, we talked on facebook for a while, then he ignored me. Big surprise there. I had this idea. I told myself that I'd just give him his space for a few days, you know, so he didn't get annoyed. I didn't talk to him on friday or saturday. Then on sunday, when I logged onto facebook, I saw he had blocked me. (I have my ways of finding out). I didn't understand. My relationship was over just because this asshole that told me he liked me told me to end it. Then after he tells me he likes me, he just ignores me. We have a mutual friend, "steve" and I. Lets call him billy. (his name is billy). He's been my friend for a while, so I knew I could trust him. I told him everything that had happened. He told me that if "steve" talked to me for that long on saturday and did all those silly status things, then he must like me, because he doesnt waste him time with/for just anybody. Then, billy asked "steve" if he liked me or not. "steve" told billy he didn't like me. Then billy told me that they don't really talk about girls that much anyways... they're not "best" friends. billy also told me that "steve" doesnt really tell a lot of people who he likes. I just don't understand though. We talk for hours. He flirts with me. He stares at me. He spends his time talking to ME. He tells me he likes me. The next day, he ignores me. He doesnt look at me. He tells his friend he doesnt like me. He blocks me. Did I miss something?? Note: none of his friends know what his deal is. Hes not the kinda guy that normally lies to girls like this. (link)
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a pretty long story. im sorry if im being rude or hurtful, but i think he's just messing with you. he's probably starting to like you (hence the fb statuses), but your enthusiasm probably freaked him out. especially when you just broke up with your then-bf, after you just insinuated that you're choosing between your bf and steve. he might think that you're willing to dump your bf after just a few chats with him.
looking at you during lunch is a good sign. i bet he still thinks you're cute. maybe he's just the type of guy who likes a chase. i say, do a 180. act uninterested, dont ask around about him, pretend you dont care about him anymore. sooner or later, he will remember how to unblock people on fb. good luck :).
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I'm really paranoid and it's causing me to waste a lot of my time and have many missed oppurtunities. I tend to apologzie for things a lot. Like if I'm being to loud in my cousins car I'll apologize. If I talk too much about the guy I like to my friends I apologize, (and I know that they really don't mind it, they've expressed that to me a lot). I'm always afraid that I'm bothering people. I suggest to some of my school friends that we hang out sometime and that I'll text them, and sometimes I wimp out because I'm scared that I'm bothering them. And I can't even talk to the guy I like outside of school or by text (I told him that I liked him about a month and a half ago, and it kinda freaked him out, and he never really clearly responded to it and things are still awkward but fortunately we're still friends. But the awkwardness makes me even more paranoid. Also, he's the type who won't talk much if he's not being talked to, and it can be slightly difficult to hold a conversation with hm if you have nothign to say, so that doesn't exactly help either). I'm too scared to even just say "Hey, what's up I'm so bored right now" or something like that. I'm just constantly scared that I'm a bother to people and that they're going to be like "wow she needs to leave me the hell alone" or something. I'm tired of not making plans with people and I still want to their to be some possibility that the guy I like will maybe start liking me back too, and I can't expect to accomplish that in only 3 periods a day in school, which will be over for the year soon. How do I get over this? (link)
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hey ya.
im like that too. i apologize for everything that my friends go tired of it. even random acquaintances will stop me and say 'hey you say sorry too much'. i think it's a form of politeness but it has become a habit. lol i dont like making initiatives too, it sucks if you text someone and they dont reply and you're arggghh they dont like me, im bothering them, you're so afraid of the rejection... i understand.
h'ever i also admit that it's a matter of low self-confidence. start small. talk more to your closest friends. text them, 'bother' them. if you mean something to them, they will def respond. those who dont respond, well they dont matter. once you're used to it, then you can start with acquaintances etc etc.
i always remind myself that when im in a social gathering, the people i remember the most are the ones who initiated the conversation first and say hi. so i try hard to be that kind of person.
about that guy, well, just be yourself and stay normal. if he doesnt respond, then you dont hv to do anything. if he wants to talk to you, he will.
hope this helps :)
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The topic says it all really! husband has a lady friend that works with him and she is married and in her 50's. Not bad looking for 50 but the fact is she IS MARRIED! We ran into her last night when we took our kids to superkicks she was there with her kid. This woman was all over a guy that was NOT her husband alot of flirting he was playing with her hair giggleing with eachother. If that were my man i wouldnt apprecitate this behavor from her. I told my husband I have lost alot of respect for her she is a disgrace to the married name. I took my vowels seriously and how do I know she is not like that with my man, well his responce you have to trust "ME". okay I do but I dont trust HER. How can she do that knowing she has a man at home. unmoral to me!! I told him as much as he was touching her leg and she was whispering in his ear she has no morals he disagreed with me on all points. What does that mean for him? Does it mean its okay to flirt and touch eachother just cause spouse aint there. How dare her and I cant stop thinking he is defending her cause thats how she acts with him.. I kindly let him know if I EVER see her touch you in a way I should only be able to touch you I will walk my happy ass to her office and give her a piece of my mind. So we agreed to disagree on it all and went to bed!! (link)
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You're overreacting. If he's cheating on you with her, he would not defend her so you won't be suspicious and blow on him like you did. He's just defending her because she's his friend. It's cool to have a good sense of moral but doesn't mean you are entitled to criticize peoples behavior based on your ideals. You should apologize to your husband for scolding him for something he didn't do wrong in the first place.
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So my girlfriend and i have been dating for almost a year know and before now she had hung out with me a ton like almost everyday possible. I'm not saying thats all we did, we definately had some free time and hung out with our bros or girls. but just now she didn't hang out with me this whole week and like was like i'm just out don't worry. Then she called me and told me that she was hanging with these dudes who have been like wanting to hookup with her for like ever.. and i was like its whatever and she was like "well i mean i didn't want you to get upset cause i know you know that they think i'm really hott and stuff.. it was just so much fun like i felt so special cause they like just talked about how attractive i was and how they were obsessed with me! i know it sounds weird but i wanna hang with them a lot more i'm sorry if it interferes with us but like they make me feel so wanted.." like i feel like scared and what not like i dunnoo.. am i overreactinggg i feel like they are going to like take her and stuff... There has been other situations too but this is enough for now.
idk but it's been worrysome.. Thank you
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If I were you, I'd dump her. What she says is very disrespectful to you as her boyfriend.
Okay, so maybe you haven't been giving her those kind of attention, like 'you're so pretty, I'm obsessed with you'. And she just wants to make you jealous and realize she wants to feel needed by you. If you still love her, then maybe you can spark some change in the relationship, more candlelight dinner etc etc.
But is she worth it? Just one week away from you and she decided to hang out with these bunch of guys who wants her sexually. And she plans to hang out with them more, knowing full well what they want from her. First of all, a good loyal girlfriend will stay away from this kind of attention. It's okay if she enjoys the attention, it's bad if she's looking for it!
The way I see it, she's not telling you that 'its nice that they make me feel wanted', she is telling you ahead of time that she's gonna cheat on you with them.
Step up and tell her this behavior is unacceptable.
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so i really liked this guy. we hung out and hooked up a couple times but i even though i tried to deny it i really did want more with him. so we were "talking" for a few weeks and then he just stopped texting me and stuff and then a week later i found out he was hooking up with one of my friends. i can't really be mad at her tho because i didn't tell her we were "talking", so she didn't know. should i mention it to her? and if so, how? helppp please:/ (link)
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Yes, you should tell her if you're close to her. Your relationship with the guy ended up just like that, with him deciding to stop calling you after hooking up with you a few times. Sorry, but I don't think he's a nice guy. If he can do that to you, he'll do that to your friend. If you care for your friend, you should warn her what kind of guy he is, and then let her decide if he is worth it.
And for you, get over him! He is so not worth it. Girl, you deserve better!
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