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I Have a Big Problem Trusting People...
First off sorry if this is long.
I have a really big problem trusting people, I know your probably thinking "baby" or something but ill try and explain. Well since I was born ive been lied to left right and centre by supposed friends, adults and family members, people who I thought I could trust have just blatently lied to me.
Too be honest its got me really depressed. I cant feel I can trust anyone anymore, people say "Oh not everyones the same." But what the people dont understand is that everythings been a lie, I cant trust anyone... Now ive met this girl and she says I can trust her, I dont know what did it but I believed her, I trust her more than I have ever trusted anyone in my life, I dont think I even trusted my mum as much. But I think everythings goin to go wrong or shes lying and I dont want to think that. I keep thinking shes going to change her mind about me or just say things that are lies... Its the same with friends. They seem nice enough but I just cant trust or believe anyone. Because of this ive become very to myself. When im in school im as hyper as ever but then when they look away my smiles fades and im just depressed.
So my question is, does anyone have any advice to tell when people are lying or to be able to trust people more?
Thanks for taking your time to read this, any advice will be taken in and thought about. Sorry if this is in the wrong section.
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sometimes you just gotta take big risks in life. you never know who to trust and not to.
trust people, but in moderation. when i think about ppl who are close to me, they are people who have gained my trust. once you trust someone with a little thing, and they prove to be trustworthy, then you put more trust in them. and repeat.i have alot of friends that i trust on a varying degree. thats how it works. if you have friends who are untrustworthy, it's still okay to friend them. people can be friends without trust too.
however karma's a bitch. to trust people, you also have to be a trustworthy person. dont expect to be given without giving.
one trick. tell a secret to a person, just one person. and if the secret goes around, you know the drill.
(srry for overusing the word trust. at this time, my vocabulary is lacking.)
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trust it something that takes along time to build up and this is 2011 everyone acts to fake and lies and tries to be something there not everyone turns on each other even your only family memebers its crazy trust is hard to build but so easy to break my advice to you would to be open with people but not to open you can keep somethings to yourself but you cantkeep everything to yourself you have to learn to trust others because if you dont then your always going to be the way you are smiling all the time bt then when no ones around you get depressed i was the same way its really bad to keep things bottled up i think that you just trust your friend and if she turns on you then you should find out things about her and turn on her to.
kk hope i helped.
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With trust i know EXACTLY Where you are coming from. My trust is EXTREMELY hard to earn aswell.
I do have a major hard time trusting people.
People are right. Everyone is differetnt,. Although there are alot of people who are the same.
My advice is to remember that Trust is not gotten, but Earned. Sometimes it takes a very long time to earn that trust. That is defintly not a bad thing.
one of my ex's i was with for 3 years,. It took me a full year to trust him.
Remember Trust is EARNED.
Hope this helps
*Jasmine;;
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