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My name is allie and i'm here to help everyone with their problems.

I am a 15 year old girl so i can relate to most problems having to do with that kind of stuff & i love helping people. i hope to be a guidance counselor or something close to that profession when i grow up. i like most stuff that 15 year olds like and thats basically everything you need to know about me :)!

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Ok well, my dad got offered this job in Philadephia and he took it. And we were all excited me expecially because i really want to move but i think my mom is selffish because, she doesn't want to quit her job she doesn't even like to move up there with him and therefore i can't go because we can't afford it. What should I do? Is she really acting selffish?

if moving is the best for your family then yes i think she is being selfish. but if you look at it through her perspective, there might be a lot of good things in her job so she might not want to leave it if she cant get anything better later. but in general i think she is bein kinda selfish

its kind of a long story, for those of u willing to read......this guy... we'll call him james. james and i have been together for a year. everything was perfect. my family liked him, his family liked me, or so that is what i thought. everything was falling perfectly into place. One day, my mom was with me while i was opening an email. this was about two months ago. i opened my email and there was this song that he dedicated to me. The words of the song were really nice, but he didn't just send the words. He sent the music video, which had gays and lesbians kissing all over it. i asked him why he would send that to me, because usually guys who like girls are grosed out by two guys kissing each other. He said that he was sorry, he only meant to send the words to me, but my mom had a fit an a half because she did not think that it was normal for a young man to be sending his girlfriend those kinds of things. then, she did not want me to talk to him any more, which i remember was right before the hurricane. so, after that, i had no communication with him because there was no power due to the hurricane.my mom made me tell him i didnt want to talk to him anymore infront of her and wouldn't leave until i did. as soon as i had power, i sent him an email telling him i was sorry and everything... but we didn't have power for almost two weeks, so i was super worried... and i didn't talk to him until a week after because i was really nervous. he said that it was fine and stuff and that he really wanted to be with me and all that. so, then there was this party that i didn't know he was going to, and i saw him there cuz he showed up. he came up to me and the whole night he was hugging me and kissing me and holding my hand i was really happy and had all of these butterflies in my stomach, but like two days after, he told my best friend to tell me that he wasn't really that interested in me. and i was very hurt because he always told me that he loved me and that he wanted to marry me and stuff. this happened like two months ago. so, i get a myspace friend request last night right when this other guy was asking me out. but, i was still hurting from the other guy... but then i saw him and when i looked at his myspace it said that he loves this girl and all he can do is think about her. and now i don't noe whether or not to approve him because what he did really hurt but i still want to be with him, and his dad might have something to do with what happened because i don't know if his dad is at me. please help me... should i approve him even after all he did????? because i might want him back..

dont add him, hes not worth it.

Okay does anyone know how to get Smiley Central off my aim?!? It is KILLING me! I tried to delete my aim then redownload, and I also went to add/remove programs and it didn't even shop up there...it is bothering me so much! I asked this question a while ago but I didn't get many responses...so I will rate a 5 for ANY input. PLEASE HELP ME! =D thanks

well if i were you i would 'search files and folders' (if you have windows XP you press start > search and then click files and folders) and search for smiley central and that will show you where all the files are hidden about it and just try and delete them all from there

i think i have anger problems... yesterday, i got mad at my parents and i dug my nails into the palm of my left hand until it bled. now there is a huge chunk of skin out of my left hand. I am a cutter. I cut when i get depressed. any idea of what to do when i get mad other than drawing blood? i dont want to go see a doctor... because my parents dont think i have problems.

an easy way to let your aggression out when your mad is talking to people about what your mad about, sometimes it helps. even if its not a doctor but a trustworthy friend :)

if you dont like that then take it out without hurting yourself by maybe punching your pillows or doing something like that

So.. wow this is kinda embarassing..
Since I'm the one usually giving advice, and now I really need some! Please help :)

okay, well I heard that when people are stressed/depressed or stuff like that they can either start eating a lot, or eating less and getting an eating disorder.

Well today was really bad, and I just want to keep eating food, and I dont know why, I feel hungry, but I dont want to get fat. I'm upset, but ahh how do I control this?

definitely keep eating, dont think about your weight. the last thing you want is an eating disorder because it scars you for life. just ignore the fact that your body doesnt want to eat and force food down because if you dont do it now your gonna regret it later =/

ok, here's the situation: i was at a dance Friday night and i met this girl(whoo hoo!), and i got her phone number. I said that i would call her sometime.
what i was wondering is when i should call her. should i wait 2-3 days or do it right now? and when i do call her, what should i say? Should i be like "hi, remember me from friday?" or what should i say?

definitely call her right now because if you dont then she might forget about you. when you call her tell her who you are and tht you met at the dance and if you like her ask her if she wants to hangout sometime and take it from there :)

I had Corel Paintshop Pro X or something like that, but I ran out of the trial. I tried redownloading it, but it still says my trial is up.

Do you guys know how I can get it back, or any other similar programs like it I can download? Kthanks guys =]

i tried that with JASC paintshop pro but its not going to let you redownload it so you'll either have to buy it or try JASC. i dont think corel and jasc are the same but jasc is a free trial and its easy to get used to

15/Boy.

I have a problem with my mom's way of life.She
doesnt care what she wears or looks like. She wears always nasty dresses (kinda exposing ). I hate the way the men stairs at her.On last tuesday I was watching tv with my friend (boy), she came in the room, wearing a loose frock, when she bend to collect magazines from the floor, her frock was up and her nude hips were exposed to us (she was not wearing panty as usual). I was soo embarassed in front of my friend.

How should I mend the ways of mom. Pl. advice.

well if her birthday is coming up soon then maybe you can get her some clothes that are more suitable for her age.. or since mothers day is coming up you can try that and since your her son she'll probably feel that she HAS to wear the clothes so maybe that'll fix her.. idk i hope it works

13/f this boy in my class slways flirts w/ me. Like thursday we went on a field trip and on the way home we were hitting ea/ other with our brochures. by the way, I had to write 100 sentences for that!!!! But he is always like that, if we're on different teams he tries to get me or get me our, first. I catch him looking at me all the time, or he'll do something funny and make sure I'm watching, he also seems happy when I laugh at his jokes and stuff. He also seems jealous when I mention My ex. Who is still my friend.he knows all about me some how and he got here after Christmas break, not long enough to find out all my "hidden" facts. He knows where I go and stuff like that. But when I go by someones house to sleepover its like right next to him. He is NOT a stalker. I've told him about my dad but I think the bays gave him more facts than I gave him, Like he know how old I was when he died, and I did NOT tell him that. DO you think he likes me?

i totally think there is a huge possibility that he likes you.. from what you said it sounds like you both like each other and thats a good thing :)!

okay so i'm not going to prom but i AM going to an after prom party that my ex boyfriends having and i want to look AMAZING! and i was wondering how i should do my hair? i'm not that good with stuff like that really. it doesnt scrunch and i straighten it like everyday. its medium length and i dont know what i should do or wear! so somebody please help me! i want my ex boyfriend to feel bad and want me back even though he has a girlfriend! thanks so much.

the best idea for your hair is to go to your hairdressers and look through books in there because they usually have those awesome books with all the different hair styles. or if you dont have the money to do that, pick a friend who does her own hair and ask her if she'll help you get ready :)

my friends and i can never think of things to do on the weekends. seeing movies is alright, but once youve seen the one or two good ones its pointless to go again, and the same goes for shopping i mean you can only go so many times and not see the same things and run out of money. what are some things that a bunch of 14 and 15 year old girls can do?

well i listed some fun things i like to do with my friends below :) i hope you like the ideas

- sleepover
with manicures, makeovers, and all the rest :)
- practice karaoke
lol its always fun to watch each other sing that stuff
- have a party
maybe you guys can throw a party
- talk about boys

i want to ask this boy to prom. however he has told other people that he does not go to school functions & isn't going to prom (he doesn't know i want to ask him though). should i still ask? i think it would be awfully embarassing if he said no & i would feel awkward around him after. however there is no one else to ask & this is very last minute (prom is may 13th) & i want to do it before this weekend ends. some people say it's wrong to do over the phone & it's better to do in person, others say it it's OK. so first of all do you think i should risk asking him? & also, is it bad to do over the phone because i won't see him this weekend? thanks!

okay well if he isnt planning on going to the prom anyway then dont risk asking him because it could be very embarassing. If you need a date to make yourself feel better ask a guy friend of yours to go with you as friends or just go with a group of your friends, its always fun with friends :)

Okay, one of my friends are bypolar...but i have no clue what that means. I know when he gets really mad, his eyes turn like, blood red and he shakes, i don't know if that has anything to do with him being bypolar any;thing....

i'll rate 5 for good answers

bipolar means they can be totally happy one moment and the next they could be completely angry or sad :(

if you would like the exact definition then go here.. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bipolar_disorder :)

and if i wanna add another color what should it be(besides blonde)? can you give me the site that you got those hair color from? and how should i get them thin, thick, or Medium?

okay well i got the pictures from google images when i searched for that color, and other than blonde maybe a redish color would be good.. it all depends on your style of like clothes and everything, and i would suggest either thin or medium because thick ones wouldnt look as nice :) lol i hope it all turns out great!

http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y14/candyshopchick/stephyanddanny020.jpg

yea thats me i wanna get highlights in my hair. i dont know what color. i know i want blonde but what shade? and i want a different color to what should i get.. everyones opinion matter. and i will rate everyone a 5.

p.s pictures r recomended

i think the best idea for a color if you really want blonde would be butterscotch light gold blonde.. some pictures are below..

- http://www.wiggoddess.com/images/2500H.jpg
- http://www.internationalwig.com/catalog/charts/hmcolors/basic/2600H.jpg

i dont know why but i think you should stick with a blonde like that which would look sort of like your hair color now.. dont go too crazy with it lol :)

Okay so I've been to the tanning salon which was awsome and i got a really cute tan but my mom won't let me go back! And i am now white! Lik a gohst. So if i can't go to the tanning salon than I'm going to go tan outside but how long does it take to get a good tan? And does the wind like affect anything? I rate good!

instead of even tanning outside and risking anything i think i have a solution for you..

last summer i used Jergen's tanning lotion and it really worked.. and it works gradually so people will think your actually getting the tan more each day.. i only stopped using it because it became winter and i didnt need it in the winter but im using it again this summer.. just make sure you rub it in really well so there's no streaks or anything :)! if you want to try it and show your mom it first then go to this site.. (its called Natural Glow) http://www.jergens.com/products/index.asp?action=viewProduct&id=15 :)

I get pimples from time to time and I was wondering if there was a way I could stop that and make my face clear. I may go a week or two without pimples then will have five or six on my face. Please let me know what I can do to stop this.

if you've already got pimples while your writing this then here are ways to get rid of them.. http://www.free-beauty-tips.com/getridofpimples.html .. and if you want them to stay away then here are the causes and treatments of it.. http://hcd2.bupa.co.uk/fact_sheets/Mosby_factsheets/acne.html .. i hope those help youuu :)!

I don't know whats wrong with me. I might be depressed but I don't know. Well my dad died when I was 7 and my mom went blind (a lot of stuff happened but I don't want to say online...friends go here and stuff) so anyway. Lately everyting sets me off. I start to cry. Not just cry but hide under my blanket and half scream into my pillow. I used to cut myself a while back, but I stopped because all my friends didn't look at me the same way. My life is pretty messed up, but I've always been able to deal with it before. This one person said that I should talk to someone outside of my family, someone I trust. The thing is, I don't trust anyone so its hard to do that. So I have really kept all this in for like ever.... I have been having like panick attacks. I can't talk to a lot of people at once online, or I get angry and overwhelmed. I keep friends for a month, than I stop talking to them for a month and than the next month I talk to them again. I cry like every night. I don't want to talk to a counsler as everyone suggested because they get payed to listen to problems they don't really want too. Besides I don't cry in front of people. I have never cried in front of anybody except like maybe when I was like five. I feel so weird if I cry in public and people give me sympathy or w/e. I don't want sympathy. I don't want to talk to some stranger who just sits there and listens. Idk. I've been to one before right when my dad died and it didn't help at all. They released me after like two sessions saying I was a normal child. Even though I wasn't, I never talked during the sessions because like I said I just wasn't comfortable at all, and I don't feel like the counsler really wants to be there. There is a lot more stuff, I just don't really wanna type it all out. I know this is super long and hardly anyone is going to read it. But if you do, please help me. I don't know what to do anymore.

you've had it really rough =/

the best thing to do other than talking to a guidance councilor or psychiatrist is try to make yourself better. you said you've cut before so you must not have too high of a self-esteem so i think you should do more things for yourself, such as going shopping for stuff you want and doing anything that makes you happy. you've only got one life to live and even though yours isnt the greatest, you might as well live the rest the best you can. if you REALLY think your depressed then you should maybe talk to someone like me who gives advice but you wont have to talk to them in person, you can email or IM back and forth, that way you wont have to feel awkward and people on this site DO really want to help you so you'll know they're here for the right reasons. AND they dont get paid so thats also something to think about knowing they're here to help.

anyways if you need someone to talk to then im here for you and i promise i'll listen completely.. good luck

ok well my best friend and i always hang out because now she hate her former best friend well now her former best friend is now 1 of my friends and my best friend hates my new friend when my new friend sits with us, my best friend wont talk......especially to me. HELP

explain to your best friend that even though her and your new friends have had problems in the past, you still want to be friends with her and if that doesnt work then make sure they dont have to be near each other by hanging out with them on different nights or something.. thats just a suggestion =/

i broke up with my bf and he says he loves me real bad and wants to work things out. i dont wanna because dont really have anymore feelings for him but i didnt tell him that i told him that im gonna be to busy this summer to have a bf which is true. but i cant get him to stop wanting to be with me how can i get him to move on?

find out what kind of girl he likes and set him up with her, if he likes her enough he'll totally forget about you and both of you will be happy. if you dont want to do that then have a talk with him about why you two cant be together anymore.. tell him the truth and everything will turn out great

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