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15/Boy.
I have a problem with my mom's way of life.She
doesnt care what she wears or looks like. She wears always nasty dresses (kinda exposing ). I hate the way the men stairs at her.On last tuesday I was watching tv with my friend (boy), she came in the room, wearing a loose frock, when she bend to collect magazines from the floor, her frock was up and her nude hips were exposed to us (she was not wearing panty as usual). I was soo embarassed in front of my friend.
How should I mend the ways of mom. Pl. advice.
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That is a terrible example she is setting for you, thankfully you recognize it as embarrassing and not attractive. You really need to talk to her (in a nice way) and tell her that this bothers you, and embarrasses you in front of your friends. She may get defensive, but if she refuses to change I would tell her that you don't want to bring your friends around anymore and you would prefer to not go out in public with her when she dressed like that. She needs a wake up call.
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If your Mother's behaviour is upsetting you, you really need to talk to her about it and explain that although she feels comfortable in the way she looks and the way she acts, it reflects badly on you and it is making life more difficult for you, at age where things are already a struggle.
However, there may be a deeper issue here with your Mum. A lot of people dress this way because they have low self esteem and getting attention from men by dressing like this boosts some of their self esteem for a while. You haven't mentioned a Father in your prolem, so I am guessing your parents are divorced? If this is the case, it might be that the divorce was a messy time for her and acting like this makes her feel wanted again. If your parents are still together, I would be very interested to know your Father's take on the situation.
Ultimately, the only thing you can do is try to talk to her about it. If this doesn't work, trying buying her a sweater or some jeans for every birthday or Christmas until she gets the message.
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You need to confront your mother that what she wears is affecting your life and you cant take it no more. Mothers wouldn't understand how they really are making a mockery of your life until you tell them. If your mother doenst understand, if your dad doesnt want anything to do with it then take matters in your hands. Tell her that until she could respect you and your company then you feel as though you cant continue to live under those circumstances maybe she wouldchange her mind before you have to go to drastic measures.
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well if her birthday is coming up soon then maybe you can get her some clothes that are more suitable for her age.. or since mothers day is coming up you can try that and since your her son she'll probably feel that she HAS to wear the clothes so maybe that'll fix her.. idk i hope it works
<3 allie
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