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heyy. im lori and im 16. i am currently in senior high school but i can give really good advice if i know what im doing. feel free to ask me anything: love life, sex, friendship, school (im a straigt A student btw), health, music (i play guitar, piano, violin, and i love to sing), etc. hope to help you guys out! :p

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I have a child with my boyfriend (been together 3 years with an almost 2 year old). I love him, but I am not "in love" with him...like I don't feel deep down and really don't miss him when he's away, and recently have not even been sexually attracted to him. I have been in love with someone else for 8 years and I believe in my heart that one day we will find eachother again...but it could be a very long time from now. Recently I have decided that I am ready to expand my family (have another baby) and settle down, purchase a home. My boyfriend wants to move to alaska and buy a home together and have another child. I just don't know if I should wait for my true love, or pursue my other dreams with the man I already have...like the song that goes, "If you can't have the one you love, love the one your with". thanks for the advice

wow that is a complicated situation. you're in love with another guy but you already have a child with this guy. i definitely think that you should stay with the guy you already have. if yall seperate, think what would happen to the child. but you seriously need to get over that other guy. if you're in love with him, then you're never gonna live in peace wiht this guy yoiu already have. just try it. good luck!

lori 16/f

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This is sort of a rare question. You see my father died in August of last year, and now it's just me and my older brother living in the house for now. My mom moved, and I am the only daughter of my dads, therefore half of the house is mine. Anyways at first I was paying all the bills up until 4 months ago. Now I only give so much and my brother is paying mostly everything. The thing is he has ALOT of friends that come over all hours of the day and night. shower,eat,party etc. And I feel it has gotten out of hand because he's a nice guy and they take advantage of that. I was not comfortable in my own house. So I asked him if he could tone it down. Do I have that right? He agreed but I feel like I have some nerve. I just don't want to lose the house or end up in jail. I am 39 and hes 46. Still very popular

it's technically your dad's house, but now whoever is blood related takes over. so you do have the right. umm you said you're 39 right? no offense but shouldn't you be getting your own apartment or something? i mean you and your brother are both old enough to live by yourself. if you did, then maybe you won't have that problme anymore. just a suggestion.
but like i said, you have the right to ask him to do that. dont be worried or anything.

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So I stole from my job and was terminated a couple days ago. the cop wrote me a ticket for $600 as bail and a court date.

I went to pay my bail today and the lady said I had to show up at court. And that my bail wasnt even in the computer yet. So she told me to come to court.

Does that seem right, is that what usually happens?

Well I still have to pay and what should I be expecting when I go. Ive never been in trouble like this and Im only 18 so Im pretty worried.

Please help me! Thank you!

umm.. it's usually not good when someone tells you to go see a judge for a rather simple situation. maybe you should just wait a few days to pay your bail. by then, your bail might actually be in the computer if what she said was true. good luck!

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Theres a boy i've liked since forever, and well we started to text, but we lost contact of each other becuase i found out i was a hit and quit ( i found out and left before anything happened) and i was shocked that a guy like him can actually break my heart after telling him that i liked him for a while, and im wondering if i was just some one he tells his firends that he got some some action, for he can look good. i really wonder if he liked me back does anyone know how you can find out if someone really liked you? does he still me if he talking to another girl? does anyone have advicce on what to do and how to react around him?
-loverslanecrashedcar

loverslanecrashedcar, (lol)
umm i think you should just ask him. youll never get the best answer from anyone but him. you should just go straight up to him and ask. get him to tell the truth. maybe all this time, this guy was just trying to get to konw you. but the thing about your relationship that would've helped you guys is if yall had real dates. just by instant message, you cant tell what the opponent is really thinking. yoiu can't tell sarcasm or exaggeration as well.
but just try and talk to him. get all the information you need from him.
good luck!!

lori 16/f

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There's this guy that I just met [well, not really "met", but I knew who he was but then I got to know him] maybe like, 2 weeks ago and we've been talking almost every day since last week and I've kind of started to like him. We just went to the movies together the other day, but it wasn't a "date", we mutually agreed to go together and my friend tagged along, but she didn't sit with us. However, on the phone, we talked and he kept saying we were just "good friends" who are going to the movies together and how he didn't understand why my friend kept thinking we were more or something.

It seems like he likes me though because we just talk SO MUCH and I don't know a lot of guys that talk that much. And we talk at night until like, 1AM. What do you think?

mayube he just wants to get to sorta try it out for awhile, you know see how it would feel to date you, but he deosn't wanna admit it until he is sure. but if you really want to know, just go straight to him and ask. demand that he tells the truth. he just might really like you! :)

if he says no, then maybe he's telling the truth.
if you think he's lying, just wait for it. if he does like you, he'll wana date you. he'll ask you out. but if not, then maybe yall can just be good friends like wat he said.

lori 16/f

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15/f
Right now i am "talking" to this really cute popular guy that goes to my school. I'm really excited and everything but there are some problems i don't know what to do about.

Problem 1- He has a lot of girls that are his best friends and he talks to them about us and sometimes the conversations we exchange. I mean, i don't care if he has a lot of friends that are girls but sometimes i don't want the stuff we say or do for them to know. Also, the first time we started "talking" he called his friends and told them only 5 minutes after we did and they all called me and were like "aww, you guys are talking now?" I can't tell him about this because i am just now getting to know him and i really do like him and i don't want to scare him away.

Problem 2- I haven't ever been kissed before and he found that out and he was talking to one of his friends (leads back to problem one) and she called me and she was like "you don't care if he kisses you right?" I really don't care but i have never found a guy that i want to kiss. I am very unexpierienced and let's just say he is very expierienced. I don't care but his friend which is one of my friends to kind of said that if we date, we will be doing a lot of kissing.

Problem 3- I don't know how to make out and i really do like this guy and we will probably make out if we start dating.

Problem 4- Even though there are some problems so far i still like him and i don't feel like i am giving him emough clues that i like him. He dosen't call me everyday and that's okay but i think he thinks i don't like him that much so i want to give him hints or clues so he knows. Can you give me any clues on how to do this?

I'm really sorry about how long this is but i really need your help. Please help me on each problem. Thanks so much!

well... you can just tell him about not sharing your conversation with his friends, but nicely. hope that he'll understand. if doesn't, well.. maybe he's just too concieted to understand how a girl like you might feel.
if you really like him, you'll know when to kiss and it'll come to you.
making out is just like kissing... and again, it'll probably come o you naturally. making out show how couples are really sexually attracted to each other.
kiss him, not necessarily on the lips, but maybe on the cheeks or forhead, or something. make him feel your like for him.
goodluck!

lori 16/f

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15/f
Okay, i went to a party a couple weeks ago and this guy thought i was cute and i thought he was cute to. We exchanged numbers through our friends and started texting and talking to eachother and so now we are "talking." We onlysaw eachother from like 10 or 15 ft away so he might not of seen my facial features. The only bad thing is that i don't get very many boyfriends and this popular cute guy thinks i'm cute and i think once he sees me up close that he won't think i'm pretty anymore. I mean why would a cute guy like him fall for a girl like me? I mean i'm not the prettiest girl in the world but i don't think i am the ugliest either. What do i do?

well he obviously likes you for a reason. maybe not just because of your looks. just try it out and don't jsut stick to texting. go on a real date and see what he really thinks of you.
good luck!

lori 16/f

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so my boyfriend and i have been dating for 7 months now, and i was always very mean to him, just because i was truly scared of him breaking my heart. i would always threaten to break up with him just because i was scared that he would do it first, but i knew that i would never really break up with him because i love him, with all of my heart. well yesterday he was talking about a break up due to all the mean hurtful things that i sometimes say to him. well obviously it tore me apart and i literally begged for forgiveness. we came to the conclusion that we should trial date for a week and see how that goes.. and see if i can stop my mean ways, and if i can regain his trust.. just try to get back to normal again.. well i slept over his house last night and we had a conversation about how he does truly love me and how he still wants to marry me.. and i thought that this meant that we were back to normal and everything.. so we had sex.. twice.. well then today he tells me that he isnt sure about whats going to happen and that we still have alot of work to do before we're normal again.. he told me that theres still a chance that this wont work out.. and so here i am devastated.. and clueless as to what i should do.. any advice is greatly appreciated.

umm... i don't think your relationship is a good idea. both of you need to work on how to be part of a good relationship. well, you obviously need to work on that trust problem and he needs to learn to, you know, not have sex when the situation isn't right. so there you are, happy that he truly still loves you, and yall have sex..twice. then the next day he tells you that he still doesn't trust you. that means that the sex you had last night didn't mean anything. well, you thought it did, but he apparently only did it for pleasure, not bc he really loves you. i think you should really consider this b4 you decide if you want to stay with him or not. i suggest yall both lay off a while, to think this over. i mean i can see you two love each other, but i also know that relationships shouldn't just continue just because both sides have sexual feelings for each other. just think about it.
good luck!! (i know this was really long. sorry)

lori 16/f

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16/f

ok. so there is this guy named jeffrey and he and i have been on and off liking each other for over two years. we would talk, become really good friends and usually ending up making out or something then we would just stop talking and eventually he would call me again and the process would repeat. so we stated talking again in march and in may he ended up taking my virginity. he knew i was a virgin and he was reallly sweet about it. well he just graduated and he drinks all the time and does some drugs. and we arnt talking. i hevnt talked to him in a month or so and im really upset because i feel used. i know he didnt use me because he is too sweet and i know he cares about me but im still so hurt and depressed. what should i do?

just try and lay off him for a while. if he doesn't talk to you or anyhting, find another great guy. chances are, jeffrey isn't The One. so just if he dosn't let you know how he feels, he might be wanting to end it. go find other guys. be happy.

lori 16/f

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hi. im a guy and i have been going out with this girl. now i would realy like to start moving in this relationship but we havent had our first kiss. i dont know whens the right time and what to expect and i dont know what shuld i do like what if i do something wrong. hope you can understand. i need of lots of good advice. thanks.

well if you dont know if your gf's ready for it, jsut slightly lean in at the right time. if she wants to kiss, then shell lean in too. if not, she wont. thats a good way to tell. but jsut lightly touch her lips ont he first try to make her feel romantic. good luck!!

lori 16/f

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I never have anything to talk to my boyfriend about on the phone and he always gets mad can u help me because i get kind of scared when i talk to him on the phone

yea. i had the same problem. and i still kinda do but just you know, ask him questions about his personal life and stuff. maybe once he gives you a good answer, yall will have something to talk about. if that doesn't work, keep asking or start talking about yourself. just don't let any awkward silences come into your conversation.

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im 18 yrs and its been 8 months with my boyfriend...i want to tell him that and prove him that i dont love or have any feelings for my ex boyfriend how can i tell him in a way he could believe it??

well, if you don't think he'll believe you, make sure he does. just convince him in everyway possible. talk to him and make it clear that your ex is outta your life. say that he's the one and only guy you're in love with. if that doesn't work, then maybe yall have trust issues. or maybe its jsut him. but there's gotta be a problem if a guy has trouble trusting his boyfriend.
good luck!!

lori 16/f

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|16,F|
Ok so i was with this boy for a total of a little over 2 years kinda on and off. When we were about 7 months into the relationship he cheated on me and I took him back really quick. I felt like I couldnt be without him. We were together for a while when I went through his email and found emails from these girls. He had been talking to girls on the internet |not from his school, the one from the dirty websites| I told him the next time I found something like that it was over. Well he ended up doing it 3 or so more times. And everytime I took him back. Then almost 2 months ago we breakup for like a day and get back together. And I find out he was telling this girl that he wanted to be with her. He claimed he talked to her the one day we were not together, but you dont get those feelings in a day. We break up and this time I really don't want to be with him anymore. He begged and begged and I said no. It got to the point where he tried to kill himself 2 times. Everyone tells me I'm being mean because I wont talk to him or be his friend. He hurt me very badly. It was like 2 years of lies with him. What do you guys think? Am I being too mean?

you're not being too mean. don't listen to your friends about this. this is your relationship and i agree. its right to breakup with him. just don't let him commit suicide over this. that might get you in trouble. good luck.

lori 16/f

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hi im a 15/m and im wondering Do women like men to have a clean shave in the penis area? would you rather it be hairy? or bald?

well if you're not sure, just make it medium. most women can deal with trimmed. so....

lori 16/f

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okay so im 15....



and



pregnant! i just found out...
yes i know i am very young to be pregnant.
i will be 16 in 2 months.
so please dont write about how im too young and blah blah blah...i already know....dont need to hear it more. thank you.


anyways....today i was on the laptop and my dad was next to me and i was looking at abortion pictures and saying how horrible it was. and my dad was like so if you got pregnant you would keep it? and i said YES I COULD NEVER KILL A BABY! and then we had this whole argument on how its not a baby at a certain amount of weeks and whatever...so i showed him an article on how they get nerves at 4 weeks so they do feel it and he was like I DONT CARE ID DRAG YOU DOWN TO THE CLINC AND MAKE YOU GET ONE! i just kept saying you cant make me..

REMEMBER....HE DOES NOT KNOW IM PREGNANT!

also when he found out my mom was pregnant with my little brother he yelled and screamed at her and dropped her off at the clinc..she sat there for HOURS crying...finally went in but they said she was too far along to get one...thank god.

so my dad is capable of having the heart to leave me at a clinc.

how do i tell him im pregnant without going through that? im keeping the baby, im still with the father and he is staying with me so i have help.

when i tell my dad should i immediately tell him abortion is out of the question?

can he really force me into an abortion? thats my right though isnt it? its not like since im under 18 he could make it get it by law right?

either way i need to tell him soon because i want this baby to be healthy so regular checkups to the OBGYN and getting put on healthy stuff is needed asap.


i live in florida if that helps?
thank you.

umm im only 16 but i know a lot since i was practically with my mom each and evry minute when she was pregnant with my little bro when i was 11. yes, you're right about the abortion and that its very wrong. it used to be illegal a long time ago in europe.....
anyway, well you should tell your parents asap cuz this has a lot to do with them. but just dont say nething yet about the abortion unless it is brought up. then you can make your opinion clear. if you dad forces you, put your feet down only if you mom is on your side. if both your parents want abortion, then....... you kno wats gonna happen. but good luck!! :P

lori 16/f

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At how many months can a doctor tell the sex of a baby? Also at how many months do women normally start to show? An answer to those or a timeline for pregnancy would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

doctors can tell the sex of a baby at 4 months. and women start to show at about 2-3 months. good luck with your baby!! :P

lori 16/f (if you're wondering how i kno, my mom had my little bro when i was 11 so i remember very clearly about going to the doctor wiht her and feeling my brother)

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I'm moving to Georgia and i really don't want to go. I do anything to stay in my hometown where everything was brighting up in my miserable life. And i belive i'm finally with 'the One' i can't just leave! what should i do??? I'm about to be torn between the west coast and the east coast!!!

just try georgia out. a lot of teens think that moving is gonna ruin their life and that they cant live without their current friends and love life. but if you think about it in an optimistic way,you'll realize that there are new and better things in a new place. you can start over, erase the mistakes you've made in the past, and make new friends. as for your bf/gf, you could always go with the online dating/phone calling/visiting each other occasionally in the holidays trick. now that doesnt always work out but its a start. good luck!! :P

lori 16/f

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my gf just broke up with me and she wants to be really close friends.

my Q is, how do i prove to her that i can be a great boyfriend instead of just a friend

well you have to know why she broke up with you. in the meantime, when you're hanging out as friends, drop hints that you're still interested. kiss her (not necessarily on the mouth but on the cheeks or forhead or hands), write love poems, take her out,etc. if that doesnt work then just be loud and clear with her. tell her that you want to be dating or ask her why she broke up with you. youll find an answer. that way, you can fix the problem, or you might realize that maybe yall arent meant to be afterall. good luck!! :p

lori 16/f

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anyway, i found out the guy i like likes me too (i heard from someone else who is friends with him) i told her that i like him but sometimes he is really nice and flirts with me and sometimes he acts like he dosen't like me at all, she ended up talking to him about it and she told me that he said he likes me but hes not sure if it would work out and all because of our age difference (5 years) and because we're in different stages in our lives (hes graduating college, i'm starting) and he dosen't want to start something if it won't work out. is there still a chance that he will still ask me out or what? i'm really confused...

well you should really talk to him yourself bc you dont kno if that girl is exaggerating. talk to him yourself and if you feel the time is right, ask him out yourself. there's nothing rong wiht a girl making the first move. good luck!! :p

lori 16/f

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Okay so ive been dating this guy on and off for the past year and 4 months. We have had some pretty bad issues that lead to our break ups but we've worked through them all i guess. I've always felt great wen i was with him and like everything was perfect, excluding when we were fighting.. Except out last break up we spent 5 months apart and we both dated 2 other people before we got back together. Now that we're back together (Mind u this is the 6th time we have got back together) i thought everything would be great again, cuz well i love this kid and this is what ive wanted the whole time we were apart.. Butt i guess i was wrong.. Wen we got back together he just seemed to be more controlling and really distant.. it even feels weird to talk to him on the fone. I tryed to talk to him about it the other day and he told me he kinda thought the same thing but he didnt know wut to do about it and well neither do i. Also lately i found myself starting to get feelings for someone else.. Friends ive asked for advice told me that maybe we shouldnt be together. Im so confused, please help.

it you really love him, just try it out for a while more. it just might work out. and dont break up with him too easily right after a fight. see if you can make up before the break up. if it still doesnt work out, you can consider breaking up with him for good. but think evrything over before you make your decision. does he love you? is he serious? etc.
and about your falling for someone else, its completely normal for people who are jsut beginnging to feel pessimistic about their relationship. so in your head or write it out: compare your boyfriend with this other guy. write out the pros and cons for both. THEN make your decision. goodd luck! :p

lori 16/f

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