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Am I being too mean? |this is a long story|
|16,F|
Ok so i was with this boy for a total of a little over 2 years kinda on and off. When we were about 7 months into the relationship he cheated on me and I took him back really quick. I felt like I couldnt be without him. We were together for a while when I went through his email and found emails from these girls. He had been talking to girls on the internet |not from his school, the one from the dirty websites| I told him the next time I found something like that it was over. Well he ended up doing it 3 or so more times. And everytime I took him back. Then almost 2 months ago we breakup for like a day and get back together. And I find out he was telling this girl that he wanted to be with her. He claimed he talked to her the one day we were not together, but you dont get those feelings in a day. We break up and this time I really don't want to be with him anymore. He begged and begged and I said no. It got to the point where he tried to kill himself 2 times. Everyone tells me I'm being mean because I wont talk to him or be his friend. He hurt me very badly. It was like 2 years of lies with him. What do you guys think? Am I being too mean?
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I think your bold and your not mean. This guy hurt you very deep, lied to you for almost 2 years, and try to comit suicide just because he "wanted to be with you" how selfish I think. Just be strong and tell him what he did to you. Face to face. He will sooner or later grow up!
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I'm sorry you had to go through all that! In my opinion, there is no way that you're being too mean! It was his own fault that he didn't treat you right. You deserve better. If he's been trying to kill himself, he needs professional help. Make it clear that you don't want to be with him anymore, but you want to help him. That way you've made your point, but you don't feel as if you're being mean because he's been hurting himself. Good Luck! (:
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you're not being too mean. don't listen to your friends about this. this is your relationship and i agree. its right to breakup with him. just don't let him commit suicide over this. that might get you in trouble. good luck.
lori 16/f
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Your not being too mean.
Im in a relationship like this. Not quite as bad, theres a little more trust, But Ive been cheated on and still am, and Im just glad for you that your out of it. The best thing that could have happened to you is you not liking him anymore; I cant stress that enough. Because you liked him he hurt you so much, two years of that is wearing, not fair on anybody, and quite frankly you needed to get out of it. I need to: and you cant let him have your ehart again and trample on it again.
He needs to move on, your not being mean: you just had enough of a bad situation, and for things to get better you just cant talk to him, cos when you talk to someone whose trying to gt over you ti gives them false hope and its harder for them to get over you :). so This is good for him, too:). it Just might take a while for him to get over it.
Toodles:)x
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Hi!!!
Nope you are NOT being mean...
you did take him back a few times and it DIDN'T WORK so that means no more chances for him...
so next time someone tells you you're mean tell them that mean is how he hurt you so many times and mean is how he WILL continue hurting you if you get back together...
It seems like it wasn't accidents he has a problem, he can't stay true to you and that means he doesn't deserve you...
so cheers to you and your decision you did the right thing...
ps. look for another cute, sincere guy (people say they don't exist but FYI they do)
hope everything works out
anything else inbox!
toodles
Aly~
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Who are these idiots who are calling you mean?
No! You aren't being 'too mean'.
It's not your responsibility to stay in a relationship with someone who cheats, over and over again. No one on the planet has any right to expect that of you.
And I wouldn't want to be such a person's friend either.
It's HIS job not to be suicidal and the job of those who love him to look out for him. It's not your job. His mental health is not your problem.
Anyone who tells you that you are responsible for him, and you must choose to be miserable to keep him from behaving like a dink, can be firmly told that they are wrong, and to mind their own business.
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