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So i dont know what i want..
Okay so ive been dating this guy on and off for the past year and 4 months. We have had some pretty bad issues that lead to our break ups but we've worked through them all i guess. I've always felt great wen i was with him and like everything was perfect, excluding when we were fighting.. Except out last break up we spent 5 months apart and we both dated 2 other people before we got back together. Now that we're back together (Mind u this is the 6th time we have got back together) i thought everything would be great again, cuz well i love this kid and this is what ive wanted the whole time we were apart.. Butt i guess i was wrong.. Wen we got back together he just seemed to be more controlling and really distant.. it even feels weird to talk to him on the fone. I tryed to talk to him about it the other day and he told me he kinda thought the same thing but he didnt know wut to do about it and well neither do i. Also lately i found myself starting to get feelings for someone else.. Friends ive asked for advice told me that maybe we shouldnt be together. Im so confused, please help.
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i agree with your friends you dont belong together i understand you had feelings for him before but they have obviously changed for the both of you and if you broke up six times already that should be a sign to you that it wasnt meant to be so why dont you talk to him about just being friends and give this other guy you have feelngs for a chance
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it you really love him, just try it out for a while more. it just might work out. and dont break up with him too easily right after a fight. see if you can make up before the break up. if it still doesnt work out, you can consider breaking up with him for good. but think evrything over before you make your decision. does he love you? is he serious? etc.
and about your falling for someone else, its completely normal for people who are jsut beginnging to feel pessimistic about their relationship. so in your head or write it out: compare your boyfriend with this other guy. write out the pros and cons for both. THEN make your decision. goodd luck! :p
lori 16/f
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I too second your friends advice. It sucks to have to end it with someone whom you love and who you've been through a lot with, but sometimes it's just for the best. Maybe you guys are meant to be together -- just not right now. I think that if there's someone else you're developing feelings for and who you could see yourself with, then you shouldn't deny yourself a chance to be with them and to be happy. And if you're boyfriend feels the same way now then it's probably best to end it mutually and on fairly good terms. Who knows? You guys might end up together again in the long run. Or maybe this new guy might be exactly what you've been looking for. Just be with who you think will make you the happiest.
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I would have to agree with your friends' advice. If you and the guy your dating now feel as if though your feelings for each other aren't as strong as they used to be, then maybe it's better off to just remain as friends at least. And since you both talked about your relationship now (which I think was a great thing to do ) and feel the same way about it, then it's best for the both of you to move on.
Hoped this helped!
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