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Am I in the wrong to ask my older brother
This is sort of a rare question. You see my father died in August of last year, and now it's just me and my older brother living in the house for now. My mom moved, and I am the only daughter of my dads, therefore half of the house is mine. Anyways at first I was paying all the bills up until 4 months ago. Now I only give so much and my brother is paying mostly everything. The thing is he has ALOT of friends that come over all hours of the day and night. shower,eat,party etc. And I feel it has gotten out of hand because he's a nice guy and they take advantage of that. I was not comfortable in my own house. So I asked him if he could tone it down. Do I have that right? He agreed but I feel like I have some nerve. I just don't want to lose the house or end up in jail. I am 39 and hes 46. Still very popular
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I know nothing about the legality behind this situation, but I think since the house is half yours, I don't think it was wrong of you to ask him. I mean since it's your house AND his house, if something is happening in the house that both of you aren't in agreement with, then there should be some compromise, naturally. So asking him to tone it down isn't rude, and I don't think he will take it as rude. If he does, just let him know that's not how you meant it.
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it's technically your dad's house, but now whoever is blood related takes over. so you do have the right. umm you said you're 39 right? no offense but shouldn't you be getting your own apartment or something? i mean you and your brother are both old enough to live by yourself. if you did, then maybe you won't have that problme anymore. just a suggestion.
but like i said, you have the right to ask him to do that. dont be worried or anything.
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As legal co heirs you both have the same rights as the other. The real question here is does he care enough about you make sure you are comfortable and secure in your own house. You have every right to let him know of your concerns. He is only half owner so he doesn't have a monopoly. He has the right to invite his friends over and you have the right to make their stay miserable or even call the police. He can paint the walls black and you can have the power turned off. You both really need to actually sit down and find some common ground and work your differences out. Neither of you can control the other but you both can make the other one hate to come home, or you can work it out!
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No, i mean you should always feel comfortable in your own house and if they are taking advantage of him, maybe it will stop if he does tone it down a little. The house is half yours so you can make suggestions to him like that and i'm sure he would understand. Hope this helps.
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You definately have the right to tell him. you pay some of the bills, you live in the house, and you cant let anything go wrong. if anything, order is needed in the house, you know? therefore, you did the right thing. why dont his friends shower at their house? eat at their house? theyre friends but theyre not paying the running water, the food.. so dont feel like you did anything wrong. im sure he probably wouldve done the same if the case was reversed. good luck!
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Hi!!!
well you're probably thinking why am i listening to advice from a 14 year old...
well truth is i will try to give good well rounded advice (as i try to do with everyone). Anyways No, you didn't do anything wrong. You not only did it because you weren't confortable but also because you think his friends take advantage of him..(so cheers to you for caring about your brother)... If you still feel badly about this (which is the case) just talk to him, tell him your motives for why you told him that... I don't think he minded much (or maybe he knew it was getting out of control), but anyways tell him that you didn't mean anything but you just don't want anything bad happening to him, you, or the house. I'm pretty sure he will understand... So take lots of care and remember communication DOES work...
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Aly~
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