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Q: Hey, me and my friend are a lil over weight, but i dont think she notices it as well as i do!
Im gonna stop drinking soda and some other junk food, but she thinks its crazy for me to go on a "diet" but its crazy the way she drinks like 2 or 3 sodas a day!
i like to skateboard and supposedly she likes to rollerblade but its REALLY hard to get her out there.
Her daily thing is like go to school go home eat watch tv go on the comptuer and play video games.
weekednds its wake up, comptuer, tv and video games.
PLEAZE HELP IM SO SICK OF BEING INSIDE SPECIALLY SINCE SHES ONE OF MY ONLY FRIENDS NOW!!!
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This is a tough situation. You can't control your friend, and if your friend doesn't want to eat healthier or be active, that's her problem. It sounds like you care about your weight, so start eating healthier. When you're at her house and she offers you a snack, be like, "Yeah, do you have any apples?" Show her that it can be fun to bike or play sports. If she's still stubborn, put up with it. Stick to your new healthy lifestyle, and once you get some results, your friend will see it's good to be active. Good luck!

Q: Ok, i haven't gotten my period since middle JULY. My mom is getting worried but i keep saying nothings wrong. BUt im not so sure. Does anyone have an explanation for this?

I didn't get mine for almost 3 months once and it's scary. If you've had sex you need to go to the doctor and get checked for pregnancy or STDs. If you haven't gone past 2nd and you know you're clean, wait another month. You might be stressed or very physically active. If you're still scared go to the doctor because it's always better to be safe.

Q: well i am planning a camping trip for about 13 teenagers and adults. We'll have a 5th wheel (Camping Trailer) so we'll have a stove, Mircowave, oven, etc... but I'm having trouble of thinking of simple (but yummy) dishs to make that dont require too much cooking, or preperation. Our Campsites will also have a Grill. Anyone have ideas to help me with my menu?? Thanks so much!!

Macaroni and cheese and stuff like that which comes in a box and all you have to do is add water. For breakfast try some instant oatmeal.

Q: ok so my friend says how much i flirt and all and i really dont, she just thinks flirting is talking to the guy she likes, but any way so she tells guys that i flirt with everything that has a penis and that really hurts my feelings when she says it to me but when she says it to me, but to guys and all thats really embassesing(sp) and hurtfull. and today i was talking to a guy and he was like flirting with me and i kinda like him so i flirted back a little, and she pulled me by the hair and got me away from him and was like "stop flirting i just saved you from embasesment" and i wanted to scream "no you didnt you embarassed me even more" but i just kinda walked away from her and didnt say anything...what should say to her that wont piss her off cause she gets pissed off pretty eailsy..o by the way were both 13...thanks for any advice in advance!!

Your friend is trying to protect you from getting a reputation as a slut or a flirt or a ho, which is good. It means that she cares about you, and that you are so close. My friends think I'm a major slut, which is a little true but it's not as big a deal as they tell guys it is. Take your friend aside one day and say: "When you tell guys that I'm a flirt, it really hurts me and damages my rep. I know you're just trying to be a good friend, but please lay off." Try to stop flirting when you're around her, and hopefully she'll stop being so embarrassing.

Q: I learn about sex through sex education websites, such as sites for teenagers, and I'm consintly sharing such information with friends so that they will not do something wrong when they get infected or something. I taught everyone how to put on condoms, take them off correctly, and although my friend recieved the information gratefully, she thinks that I would only know this because I watch porn. Naturally, there are pictures but they are of infections and such. What do I do to convince them that I DO NOT watch porn (even though it is a healthy thing, I still don't), and that I don't have such access to it?

It can be tough to know such important stuff that can help protect you and your friends, and they completely miss what you're telling them. You need to help your friends understand all of this stuff. Try showing them the websites where you became so knowledgable. Or, you can lecture them about how porn is not safe sex, and it has almost nothing to do with STD's (except for when the stars get infected with them.) Have fun being right!

Q: Hi,

I have this friend that's a boy (i'm a grl) and i've liked him since the day i met him. We're now best friends and do everything together on the weekends and whenever we have spare time. He has a gf and talks about marrying her (even tho he's only 13), and i try to be a supportive friend, but really he's just ripping my heart out. I've tried to drop hints that i like him but i know how he gets when ppl tell him that they like him when he already has a gf...it's not a good site. I guess i just want a way where i don't have to listen to the full on details of his relationship w/ his gf cuz it really does kill me inside. thanx 4 the help

~broken heart

The same exact thing happened to me at camp! My best friend was a guy who I liked from even before we were friends. The thing is, he had a girlfriend at home and the farthest we got was hugging. If he is really your close friend, tell him honestly how you're having guy problems right now and would prefer not to hear about his girlfriend. If he asks you to tell him, just say you don't want to talk about it. Once he cools down a little bit on the whole girlfriend thing, call him and tell him you want to hang out "just the 2 of us." Then don't make any moves or anything, but keep dropping subtle hints like that. Good luck!

Q: i feel like a HORIBLE friend! One of my best friends...someone who i can tell evrything to even though we hang out with different crowds... told me he was gonna take half a pill of ecstacy... and well i talked to him about and i told him how i felt and he said he would consider it well i found out right now that he did take it since a message on a myspace syas he was doing it right then... and i feel like the worst friend... i dont know what to do.. I mean did i do everything i could. Its like ugh why would u do something so stupid!! I hate my self right now i keep asking myself if I still respect him and i dont know... i need advice cause i feel like the worst friend in the whole entire world since i didnt do a good enough job talking him out of it.

Good for you for trying to be a good friend, but this is really your friend's fault. You did the best you could, but he has already taken it. Call him now and talk to him. Ask him if he's ok and tell him how strongly you feel about this. Tell him you care about him and you don't want him to suffer. Say you'll always be there for him if he needs anything, and no matter what, BE FIRM. You have to show him how he's harming himself, and that he needs to stop. If you find out that he does it again, tell your parents, his parents, a counselor, a teacher, the school nurse, etc. For the time being you didn't do anything wrong, but keeping this problem a secret is very wrong because it is hurting your friend.

Q: I got my rabbit about 6 months ago. It's not trained and i dont kno how. I tried giving it treats when she does tricks but SHE NEVER DOES ANY TRICKS! How do i train her to sit, lay down, and all the basic things?

It will probably be really hard to train a rabbit to do these tricks. Maybe it will be easiest for you to hire a professional trainer. If you can't find anybody in your area, ask at the local pet shops. If you want to do it yourself, you can look it up online or buy a book on it.

Q: hey im 13/m, i know this is a basic question... but whats sum good ideas for a halloween costume?

i rate 5's for good answers

Be an M and M! lol :) Get a few friends (like 2 or 3 people) and plan something together. If you're going for scary, all you have to do is be the grim reaper, get one of those masks, and follow random kids around when you're trick-or-treating. If you want to be funny, get some guy friends and all of you dress up as girls with REALLY short skirts, padded bras, etc. Or be fairy princesses :)

Q: Ok, well, this will probably seem stupid to most people... but there's this guy in my grade (8th) and last year he told my friend that really liked me and he was really sweet to me and then I started to really like him and he asked me out and we "went out" for a while but the thing is, we hardly really talked. then i guess he just told his and my friends that he didn't really like me that much anymore and nobody ever actually broke up with the other one, but we just kind of broke up in a weird way. Well anyways, then it became awkward around him. He started being kind of rude to me. Then, during like the last week of school, we kind of started talking again and it was a lot of fun we started flirting a lot- like he took my sweatshirt which was way to small for him, and put it on, and we kept messing around with eachother... then summer started. Now, he is in one of my classes, but we dont talk, at ALL. It's really frusterating, because I still really like him. The thing is, my friend told me that she thinks he likes this new girl, who is by the way extremely rude and annoying, because he was flirting with her, kind of the same way he did with me. I found out that he is going to the same high school as me, though. Do you think I might get another shot with him in the future, or is it pretty much gone? Please help me! I rate!

I think there's probably hope once he matures a little bit. Also, when you go to high school, your social groups will probably mix up. Just hang in there, and start with small steps. Talk to him a little bit about stupid stuff, compliment him on his shirt, things like that. Take it slow and try to slowly become closer to him. Good luck!

Q: ok my best friend (hes a guy) was hangin out with 2 of his friends. he said to his friends "swear to god not to tell anyone but me and (my name) banged last night" and they believed him! and they were aaskin him a whole bunch of questions and he didnt even bother to say he was just kidding. Why would he tell them that when nothing would ever happen between us? he eventually told them that he was just kidding but rumors coulda started off of that! why would he tell them that though when it wasnt even true?

The sad truth is that guys can be jackasses. Sometimes, guys will randomly want to ruin your reputation or make your life hell, just for fun. But, if this guy is your best friend, this is probably not the case. Maybe this guy wants to "bang you," and he told his friends that and it got lost in the translation. Also, there is the possibility that he wanted to look cool by claiming to bang someone, and it was more believable to use you, who spends a lot of time with him, than some random girl. Ask your friend why he did it. Maybe he didn't mean to hurt you, or maybe there's a good reason why he did it. Maybe one of the guys he told is a creep and likes you, and your friend was trying to discourage him from doing anything to you. You have a right to be mad, but make sure you get all the facts before you do.

Q: Ok 4 about 2 weeks I have been loosing alot of weight! I mean like I have lost 7 or 8lbs in that time period. What I have been doing is not eating ANYTHING from 7:00am to 3:30pm and I have pratacly been starving my self. When I think of Food I get so hungray. But I don't feel like eating. I weighted 220lbs and now I weigh about 212. Is this healthy. I eat when I get home. No Smartasses please. Thanxs

13/f

This is really not healthy. You are hurting yourself and could possibly have Anorexia Nervosa. You're overweight and you've succeeded in losing some weight, but look at the toll it will take on your life. Your skin, hair, and teeth will become disgusting because you're not getting proper nourishment. Your boobs may sag (gross but true) and you might become faint or dizzy. If you keep this up, you could need to be hospitalized or die. It's scary to be overweight, but this is not the way. You have to talk to somebody in your life who can help you figure this out. Try your parent, your big sister, even the school nurse. There's always somebody there for you. Whatever you do, EAT! If you don't want to eat a lot, just eat lots of fresh fruits and vegetables, which don't cause people to gain lots of weight. If you really want to lose the weight, keep eating because it is healthy, exercise more, and hang in there. You're gorgeous and you can definitely do it. Good luck!

Q: tomrorrow is our block party and i really want to raise money for the hurricanes... any good ideas that I can put together quickly??? thanks..

Get a couple of kids to stand around your booth or table or whatever and hace them wave flags that say: "Please help Hurricane Katrina!" Lots of people have a special weakness for little kids. :) Bake a batch of cookies and sell them for 50 cents. If you have a lot of time, make little badges that say: "I Helped Contribute to the Hurricane Effort" or something like that. Give free milk with the cookies, and have a bucket on hand for additional donations. Good luck!

Q: 13/m I have a sister, let's call her "Z", she's 2 years older than me. Niether of us have ever had dates before. But this last summer, I realized that I was in love with one of my best friends from school "M", and Z was in love with one of her best friends from camp, whose name doesn't matter. Well, of course I told M how I felt about her, because it was just burning up inside me and I didn't know what else to do. It turns out, she's not sure how she likes me, and also she has an ex who went through a painful breakup with her. Because he's a jock. I am not in any way, shape, or form, a jock, and also I can't thing of any reason why we would go through a painful breakup with her. So not only is she unsure of her feelings, but she also doesn't want to go through a painful deja vu. And to put it on top of everything, she had a huge argument with the popular kids, and they will do anything to get revenge on her or anyone close to her---namely, me. So I was insanely depressed for a long time...

About two months later, we learned that what Z was feeling was mere infatuation. She went to another school this year, and she met a really weird guy "R", first they just had a bunch of classes together, then Z realized that she liked him, and eventually she loved him, and her best friends were pushing her to ask him out, or else they could slap her really hard continuously for 3 straight minutes. So she asked him out, and they're going out in a few weeks---on his birthday!

A day or two before, I had asked M to the school dance, as friends or more. She might be rehearsing for a play then, but at least there's hope. But for some reason I feel like Z isn't ready to be dating yet... I don't know why. I've never met R but he sounds like such a great guy... I don't know... Maybe it's just a huge milestone in both of our lives... maybe I'm jealous... I don't know... And right now I feel like I'm going to burst out of confusion... I usually know what's going on, people always answer my questions with stuff like "Wow, how old are you really?" or "I know some people who are 21 and you're more mature than them!" And all that crap. But now this is the one time outside of social studies or having to do with M when I have no idea what's going on... why am I so jealous or worried for her? And has it ever struck you as difficult to have two people who happen to both love each other? Like, really, what are the odds? Thanks... I'm so distraught!

13/f

Lots of guys are nervous about their sisters dating. Even though you're younger, it seems like you care a lot about your sister and you want to make sure she's dating the right people. That's really sweet! You've been experimenting with some relationship stuff yourself and you know how tough it can be. Chances are, "R" is really nice. Her friends like him and she likes him, and he'll probably be ok. On a different note, M sounds really special, and you like her a lot. If you ask her again, you'll probably seem desperate. It's ok to call though, and casually ask if she'll be rehearsing for her play during the dance. It sounds like she doesn't hate you, but she's not sure if she likes you that way. Try improving your appearance a little (nothing obvious.) Work on your hair a little and wear shirts with funny slogans on them, as conversation starters. Good luck!

Q: Ok, well I know it's a ways away, but my friends and I are getting a head start on Halloween. I was going to be like an 80's chick. I have the big jewelry and I was going to wear a side ponytail, a miniskirt, and a shoulder shirt, with some leg warmers and pink converse. But, I also thought of maybe being Marilyn Monroe. Another thing is, I will be with my crush. What do you think i should be? Which one would look cuter? Thanks in advance. I rate! :D

I think that you should do the 80's thing. It sounds really cute, and you get to show off your body a little bit. Also, dress almost the same way as your friend. It shows that basically, you've got friends :) Wear really big hoop earrings...Good luck!

Q: Me and my x friend areant talking anymore!! We used to be best friends and tell everyone that we were cousins and stuff... and now in middle school were not talking and we always get in fights. What do I do...because Ill have dreams that were friends then I wake up relizing it was only a dream...its really upset! HELP?!
From girl with friend problems.

Did anything happen that would make her mad at you? Was it sudden, or did you just grow apart? Making the transition in middle school can be tough-all of a sudden there's lots of new classes, new teachers, and unfortunately, new friends. Ask some of her other friends if she badmouths you, or thinks about you, or what. Maybe your problem isn't as big as you think it is. Try talking to her and apologizing for whatever you did. Say you miss her and value her friendship, and you want her back. If all of this doesn't work, try talking to your mom. Moms are amazingly good at this kind of stuff. Good luck!

Q: For Halloween I want to be a person from like the 1800's and I know what I'm going to wear but I want to know make-up to wear. Should I wear like nuetral, brown eyeliner, peach eyeshadow, pink blush? Thanks.

Go VERY natural. Try a very light pink blush with eye shadow that you can't even tell you're wearing (no sparkles, etc.) Wear a dusty pink nonglossy gloss on your lips that looks like it's been painted on and dried.

Q: well i just got my period and everytime i go to tell my mom i get really nervous and start to like shake and i don't know what to do!!!

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First of all, congratulations! Getting your period is special, because it means that you're growing up. You have to tell your mom sometime, because she can help you and it will be really hard to keep this big secret from her. Practice by telling your mirror, your stuffed animals, your best friend, anybody! Just say: "I have my period." When you think you're ready, ask your mom if you can talk to her. Take a deep breath and remember that she went through this too. Say: "Mom, I have my period." If that's too hard, leave her a note and go to bed or something. Good luck!

Q: okay, I am 21 and still a virgin. I have done other stuff just not had sex yet. The thing is I was almost raped by one of my ex boyfriends and I am kind of scared of guys now, not all but some of them. I feel really pathetice because I am still a virgin and I am 21. Plus my uncle has aids and that is another reason why I am scared. I don't have a bf right now but am looking for one. When I do find one and we have sex how can I make myself less scared to have sex? Is there anything I can do to calm myself down?
any help will be great, guys and girls

Wow! It sounds like you've been through a lot, but you're trying to get over your fears, which is good. It's hard to take the next step. There's no reason to feel ashamed for being a virgin at 21. If you think about it, you could go find a drunk guy and do it right now, but you're not. This shows that you respect yourself and have good values. Obviously you are going to be a little bit nervous because of your personal experiences, but if you decide that you want to lose your virginity, you have to throw your fears aside. You are going to become a new person, a confident, sexy person who gets what she wants. This is going to sound stupid, but stand in front of a mirror naked and look at yourself. If guys are going to love you, first you have to love yourself. Buy clothes that make you look really good (not slutty) and put yourself out there. Be aggressive, assertive, and have a good time. Sex is supposed to be pleasurable, so love every second.

Q: i am 13, and my boyfriend is 14. we are both goth-like, and we love each other. we do have sex, but all my friends say i should go to the counselor and tell her about it. but i have nothing to tell. can anyone think of why i should or should not go the counselor?

I'm 13, and in my opinion, it's too young to be having sex. Even if you do use protection, there are too many physical and emotional risks. You could get pregnant, get an STD, or get injured. (It sounds stupid, but you'd be surprised.) Also, it's unlikely that you're going to end up marrying your boyfriend because you are both so young. It's going to be devastating for you if you break up, because by having sex you bonded. Many people believe that you should wait to be married before having sex because it's such an important bond, and it hurts to lose such an important person in your life. See the counselor if you want to. Nobody can make you do anything, but I strongly recommend that you talk to somebody about everything that's going on in your life. I also think that you should stop having sex, but obviously I can't do anything about it. Just remember, that you may regret doing what you're doing now and be careful. Good luck, and remember, I'm always here if you need me!

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Hey! I'm Elana. I'm 14 years old and I'm always available if you need anything. Even if you think it's a stupid question, feel free to ask...Hope to hear from you soon!!