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i feel like a HORIBLE friend! One of my best friends...someone who i can tell evrything to even though we hang out with different crowds... told me he was gonna take half a pill of ecstacy... and well i talked to him about and i told him how i felt and he said he would consider it well i found out right now that he did take it since a message on a myspace syas he was doing it right then... and i feel like the worst friend... i dont know what to do.. I mean did i do everything i could. Its like ugh why would u do something so stupid!! I hate my self right now i keep asking myself if I still respect him and i dont know... i need advice cause i feel like the worst friend in the whole entire world since i didnt do a good enough job talking him out of it.
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Good for you for trying to be a good friend, but this is really your friend's fault. You did the best you could, but he has already taken it. Call him now and talk to him. Ask him if he's ok and tell him how strongly you feel about this. Tell him you care about him and you don't want him to suffer. Say you'll always be there for him if he needs anything, and no matter what, BE FIRM. You have to show him how he's harming himself, and that he needs to stop. If you find out that he does it again, tell your parents, his parents, a counselor, a teacher, the school nurse, etc. For the time being you didn't do anything wrong, but keeping this problem a secret is very wrong because it is hurting your friend.
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As you said yourself, you did everything you could. That's all you can do. Your friend is morally responsible for himself, and whilst it shows you are a good friend that you worry about him and want him to look after himself, when it comes down to it only he can make decesions about he behaves. If he chooses to take drugs, that's ultimately his decesion and though you can try as you did to reason with him, you can't actually forcibly prevent him from doing so. You shouldn't feel bad, you did all you could to try to help him. All you can do know is to reassure him that whilst you don't condone what he did, you are still his friend and there for him if he needs you.
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Why do you feel like a horrible friend??? You're the good friend since you voiced your concern about him about it. He's the bad friend for doing it anyway. Drugs (especially ecstasy) are stupid to do, and only cause pointless problems like this. Lose respect for him, let him know you're upset, he's a dipshit for even getting the stuff.
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Odds are, he's just saying it to be cool. I used to use drugs, and I didn't brag on the internet about it. I'm guessing it was probably a bid for attention.
If he did try it, you did everything you could, and he's being an idiot. You can't control him, he has his own free will - and the BEST convincing can't talk someone out of what they're going to do anyway.
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Hey Gurl,
It sounds like you need a good friend right now well if you do I'm here. Don't feel bad hun you did everything you could do. Sometimes people just do messed up things for no reason or maybe he has some issues going on in his life right now. You might not be able to help him lay off the ex. but maybe you could ask him if he needs a friend to talk to. Remember if you ever need a friend I'm here.
Good Luck,
Advicegodesses2
P.S.Please write me back and tell me how my advice was and if it helped.
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It is not your faul that your friend did something stupid. If you did everything you could to prevent and he still did it then it is his fault. While it may be bad, you shouldn't beat yourself up over the fact that it WAS NOT YOUR FAULT. You should talk to an adult about what your friend is doing. With luck, they will help him with this problem. Unitl then, just continue your friendship if that's what you feel is right.
You shouldn't feel bad. If my friend did something stupid, I would tell him/her that they are an idiot.
It's not your fault.
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