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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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Okay, I'm sure this title sounds weird. But it's really not bad. It's kinda gross, but I popped a zit on my back and I didn't know it started to bleed. So I put my boyfriend's shirt on that he gave me, and there's a small blood stain. Like really small, even a little smaller than a pencil eraser. But it dried by the time I noticed it. How can I get out a dry blood stain?

Try a Tide to Go pen! Or, just try and scrub it off with soap and water! Hope I helped.

-Brina

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what is the BEST and SHORTEST way to loose ten pounds.

i want to loose ten pounds in two weeks idealy but whatever advice u have im all ears.

i need to loose TEN POUNDS AS SOON AS POSSIABE.

By eating smaller portions and doing a ton of exercise is the best and shortest way in two weeks to lose 10 pounds. I lost 12 with eating correctly in two weeks without heavy exercise, but, since I don't know your eating habits, exercise if you've already been eating correct portions. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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I have been having my period for like 2 years now and I always use pads. My best friend is really pressuring me to wear tampons so we can go swimming next week but I'm afraid to. I really just don't want to do it. I've read things like it can hurt and I really don't want my vagina parts to hurt because I put a tampon in during my period. Im happy with using pads. Is that normal to be afraid to use tampons?

It is totally normal to be afraid to use tampons. Don't let your friend pressure you into doing anything you don't want to. Tell her you'll go with her to go swimming, but won't swim, or she can get some patience and wait until you CAN go swimming. Putting a tampon in can hurt if you put it in the wrong way. Just because their are tampons, doesn't mean you have to use them. I'm 19, and didn't start using them until about two years ago.Do what you feel is best. Here is a website to help you with using tampons in the future when you decide to:
http://www.beinggirl.com/en_US/yourperiod_inserttampon.jsp?gclid=COSXo9zZhaMCFVt95QodS0Itew

Good Luck! Hope I helped!

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Does anyone know where I can watch season nine of Degrassi for free? I tried youtube but they don't have it.

Thanks in advance!

Hey! Definitely check out hulu.com!

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I have liked my friend for almost a year now and I think I really love him. I want to let him know how I feel but I am afraid of jeopardizing our friendship. I don't know what to do. I am 17 and he is older than me, but we don't judge each other by age. I am a girl and I am 17. Thanks in advance for advice.

I say its worth a shot. I told one of my really good guy friends that I liked him, and he didn't feel the same way, but we still are great friends. Hopefully you're guy will like you as much as you like him, and if not, will still be happy with being friends. If he doesn't and doesn't want to be friends, then he isn't a good friend! Good luck, hope I helped!

-Brina

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I'm looking to get gifts for all of my friends before we go away to school. I want to get either shot glasses or legit glasses with their monograms on it but since we obviously all have different initials- its a problem because most websites require you to bulk order. Does anyone know a good website that you can custom glasses but not bulk order? I also don't want to spend a ton of money.

thankss!!

Hey I found some websites that you might be interested in checking out for what you're looking for:

http://www.discountmugs.com/nc/style/11-3/personalized-glassware/shot-glasses/?gclid=CPzjosvWhaMCFSRM5QodoHiZKg

http://www.branders.com/ds.jsp?q=shot%20glass

http://www.glasswithatwist.com/category_shot_glasses.html

http://www.cupsonline.com/shot-glasses.htm

Hope I helped! Let me know if you need any more sites!

-Brina

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I rrecentl just went through a break up and my mind hasn't been right. I keep forgetting to take my birth control and have to double up. I took it monday but forgot tuesday. So I doubled wednsday. But I forgot thursday so I doubled today. Is this going to affect me in a bad way. Like physically because of the hormones?

As long as you get on track as soon as possible you should be fine. I have forgotten to take my BC a few times and I was fine. A way to remember to take it is by setting an alarm on your cell phone if you have one. That way every day at the same time your phone will go off and you'll remember to take it! No worries! Hope I helped

-Brina

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Hey in 19/f and I'm 5'7 and weigh 144 lbs. I want to become more in shape, tone up my legs mostly and start eating healthy. The only problem i have is that i have no motivation at all to exercise. When i get home from work i'm always too tired and have other things i need to get done around the house. Can anybody give me any encouraging words of advice to make me want to exercise? Also is there a certain exercise routine i should stick to and how long should i do it and how many days a week? Anything would be helpful! Thanks everybody and i do rate.

-Ashley

I am in the same boat as you. I work a lot, get home late, and don't have motivation to exercise most of the time. Technically, I get loads of exercise at work but that's because I run around with little kids at a day camp all day. But still, you need to "WOMAN UP" and start exercising!haha just kidding. If you want to tone up your legs try doing some squats against a wall and also walk up and down the stairs a lot [stairs will make your calves look amazing]when you get to the top step, stand on your tippy toes for five seconds. 15 minutes of exercise a day would be a great start for you, and every week at 15 minutes more. A way you can be more motivated is by having a family member or friend join you in exercising! Hope I helped! Let me know if you need any more tips!

-Brina

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19/f, Do most girls not like giving blow jobs? I am really just curious because I love love love LOVE to give my boyfriend head, so I cant relate. I am just wondering exactly how lucky is my boyfriend? :P

It just depends on the person, I think its disgusting personally haha. Most of my friends don't "love" to give blow jobs, but, they do to make their boyfriends happy, and in return...get happiness back...lol. Hope I helped! Be safe, have fun!

-Brina

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17/f
at my school there was this really pretty girl that i guess you could say i had a gradeschool crush on, but i'd never go out with her. maybe like kiss her at a party if i was drunk or something but not like have a full on relationship. i don't think of girls that way, i'm totally straight. anyways, i haven't seen her for months, let alone, thought about her, and a few nights ago i had a dream that she and i had sex. like full on sex. clothes off, kissing, etc, without going into too much detail.

why the hell would i have a dream like that when i'd never do that with her, or any other girl?

It's totally normal to have dreams about the same sex. As long as your being true to yourself, don't worry about a thing. You're straight right? So don't worry about it!
-Brina

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I'm starting to get a feeling that my boyfriend is losing interest. Its temporary long distance relationship (LDR), we'll see each other again in September.

What do I do? I love him and I don't want it to be over.

In the beginning of the summer we used to text everyday, and then it turned into one word answers on his part, but he'd still text me back right away. Now, if I text him, I'll get a reply late at night with a one word answer.

Things changed about two weeks ago. A week ago we got into a minor disagreement where he lost his temper a little bit, but I apologized the next day and he said I'm good. Since then he won't text me back til the end of the day. I texted him twice first, and he texted me once first.

How much time should I give him before I mention whats going on in our relationship? And I'm not texting him first for a while, unless he texts me first (oh the rules of texting, lol), just to give him some time to himself.

Any advice will be much appreciated

19/f

Hmm, maybe try and calling him instead of texting. That way, you don't have to wait sooo long for a text, and be down about it. If you speak on the phone, he won't say just one word and hang up. When you do talk to him, talk about something fun you both did together, so that he thinks of the great times you two have had together. Hope I helped! Good Luck!

-Brina

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Noone in my family gaets me. I thought that visiting my cousin for some wweeks before school would be good for my head. I still feel depressed and my cousin dosen't help at all. She is constantly making things worse then it already is. What can i do to make things bettter for myself?

I'm pretty much positive that like you, everyone feels that no one in their family understands them.Even though they are your family, they might not feel the same way about certain things, or have thigns in common with you. Try meeting some new people that DO get you. Maybe a joining a new club when school starts that you're interested could help you meet new people. Or, you could suggest a game night to your family, that way you guys grow closer together. A family is a family, and not matter what, they should always be their for you, if not, you have friends and other people around you that can be there :). Hope I helped!

-Brina

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seriously, I can't stand him.
he has NO personality, you try to joke with him he takes it seriously & gets mad.

he doesn't get along with my sister & he's completely ruined the relationship between my mom & my sister.

his wife died in 2005, his wife & my mom were best friends before she died. now he's dating my mom, I lost all respect for him after that.

He smokes in the house ALL the time, he knows I don't like it, my mom tried talking to him about it, to try and take it outside but all he said was "I was smoking in the house before she moved in, so she'll just have to learn to get used to it."


My mom used to never drink before she dated him, now she drinks all the time & also smokes.


he's only home for 4 days, then goes back to work for 4 days he works on the ship channel.
when he's home though he hogs my mom all to himself, I asked my mom if she wanted to go walking with me, he was sitting right there & asked my mom to stay home for the rest of the movie, then after that wanted to take her out to drink.


he's rude to both me & my sister & my mom doesn't realize it. my sister went to prom this year she got her prom picture & gave one to my mom, it was a magnetmy mom showed her boyfriend & all he said was "atleast they look half normal" my mom just laughed.

everytime I try to talk to her about how I feel she doesn't listen, she thinks her boyfriends perfect, & she thinks he treats her better then my dad ever did. i've tried accepting their relationship, but he just annoys me soo bad.

He's also super boring to talk to, I was in 5th grade & I asked him for help on my homework it was a simple problem that he could've answered in 2 minutes, NO he goes from talking about my math problem to knots in a boat I didn't get my answer until 2 hours later.


what do I do? I don't want them dating anymore, my mom is really pretty & she's really funny, and he's the complete opposite. she can do way better not just look wise, but personality wise also.

PLEASE HELPPP.

This is a really hard situation to be in. You have to try and talk to your mom again, maybe sit her down. Just let her know how he is effecting you in a bad way. It might not be the best idea to tell her you don't want them to be together, because that might make things worse. He's probably an asshole because of his wife that died still. Maybe schedule a counseling session with your school guidance counselor, or a psychiatrist in the area were you all can meet. Call him out when he's being rude, just say "I didn't do anything for you to be so rude, so please don't be rude to me." And as for the smoke, he is a complete idiot if he still smokes after seeing his wife die from lung cancer. Not only is the smoking effecting him, it is effecting you. Second hand smoke kills, truly. Keep being persistent with talking to your mom, and try and be there for your sister as much as you can. Hope I helped! Good Luck!

-Brina

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I'm trying to download a song but i dont know the name of it. It goes roll with me cus im headed to the hamptons, im headed to the hamptons, to the hamptons. I tried google search but i cant find it anywhere, anyone know the name of the song?

Hmm, could it be Lil Wayne's "Knick if you Buck Free"? If not let me know and i'll keep searching!

-Brina

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Okay lets say you knew this girl was fourteen dating a sixteen year old boy, if you found out that she (she's now fifteen) let him finger her, gave him a hj and a bj, would you judge her?? they dated for seven months. I think you can see that I'm the girl... haha

I don't judge people at all, unless what they do/did effects me personally. So no, I would not judge you at all for doing this. Personally I didn't do things like that when I was your age, but, everyone is different. Just remember to use protection, you can still get a STD from oral sex. Hope I helped! Stay safe!

-Brina

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14-Female-5'6 5'7-220 pounds
Okay, so last week I was on the phone with a friend of mine Steven, and he said that if I lost weight and started straightening my hair I would be 'wickedddd hott'. Well I said that even if I did all of that he still wouldn't be-- which he didnt like but he had no right to say that to me. Well, my weight is a problem. I don't just have a little ponch- no im clinically obese.
Well I was told a good way to start is figure out why I eat, and I know why I do. Like every teenager Im unhappy, my parents fight constantly and I never see my Mother. I eat emotionally, to fill somekind of void. Sometimes I do it out of sheer bordom too. I am now recognizing when that is, but when I do it's like it doesnt matter I'll do it anyway.So I have to stop that.
I don't want to set a goal really, because for health reasons I should litterally lose like 90 pounds which is so overwhelming... So if I take it step by step, I was thinking like 20 pounds.
Money is a huge issue at the moment. We can't afford anything diffrent then what were getting now. Which is like cube steak, rice, and some kid of canned veggie. So I was wondering how much I should eat, and how much I should exersize. I can't do push ups in general so that's out of the question. It's weird my arms, and legs are tiny, like abnormally for my body. Its my belly, my thighs are becoming an issue but Im an xl[[sometimesxxl]] and size TEN in jeans. over the summer i went from a size 16-18 to 10. but nothing in my stomach went. How many sit ups should I do. And if I walk it would have to be around my neighborhood which is a circle. [[we know that 3 times around=One Mile.]] But it's getting cold.
I really wanna do this. and not for Steven because I honestly couldnt care what he thought. But we had this thing at school where everyone was like whats one good trate about someone. and we had to go ina circle and everyone said my best trate is my personalty, and confidence.
I DO NOT HAVE CONFIDENCE.
Ariele said she would kill to have the confidence I had. How I can walk around and act like I own the place. Say the speaches I do, and just not care what other people think.. Im glad I fool them so well. It was strange to have people think Im confidence when I know for a fact the very little self esteem I have..
anything you guys could say would be amazingg thanks for reading all of this.

Good for you for wanting to do this, and for telling that kid off. I'd say, the best thing for you to do would to just monitor what you eat. Only eat what servings it says to. Instead of eating junk when your bored, eat some carrots, or celery. Do something productive when you feel hungry, like reading a book, or going for a walk, or calling a friend up.
For the exercise part, i'd say start off with 2 sets of 25 for crunches. That means, do 25 crunches, take a one minute break, and do another 25. This website has a lot of different abdomen workouts:
http://exercise.about.com/cs/weightlifting/l/blcrunch.htm

Hope I helped. Good Luck. If you need anymore tips after you hopefully reach your goal, let me know.

-Brina

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ok so if i don't use proactive my forehead breaks out but when i do use it my whole face clears up EXCEPT my chin area and around my mouth...i hate it cause thats the least place i wanna have pimples...but whenever they turn white, i pop them...does that cause more? its a habbit and i want to stop...i almost put alot of coverup and concealer on my chin because they're red and ugly is that bad too? should i just leave them alone ? i just feel so self conscious if i go out with concealer on them


any advice?

I used proactive and it deffinitly helped, if you use it correctly, not saying you arent. Try not to touch the areas that you still have pimples on with your hands. Make sure you use the pro active it all over your face. Depending on how long you've been using it, it could get better [you won't get pimples on your chin]. If you've been using it for a while [more then 4 months] I suggest using Clearasil. Supposedly, if you stop using Proactive, your pimples wont stay away, but Clearasil keeps them away. Luckily for me, my pimples have just stayed away with stopping Proactive, but thats probably because I use clean and clear face wash every morning. Hope i helped.
-Brina

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my boyfriend and i had sex with a condom...but when we were done he cummed into the condom and then pulled out. the condom slipped off and it got stuck to me. when he pulled the condom off none of the sperm was in the condom...
could i become pregnant?...where could the sperm have gone?

You could get pregnant with anything that has to do with sexual intercourse. I can't really tell you were the sperm went, but, most likely it just stayed in the condom. Deffinitly get a pregnancy test just in case. The best way to not get pregnant is to stay abstinent.
-Brina

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So i really like this girl and she likes me. and i dont want to rush things but i feel like just talking on the phone isnt enough its been since summer we have talked i think its time to start takin more steps but i dont want to rush anything whats an awesome way to ask her out?

You should deffinitly get a group of friends together, including her, and ask them all to go to your house for movies. Its a relaxed way to hang out with her, wihtout it being awkward. Then, later during the night, ask her if she wants to go to the movie sometime. If she likes you, she shouldnt say no. Good Luck.
-Brina

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i dont go to church, and basically every one i know does, or is heavily religious. what do i say to people if they ask me where i go to church, or did i go to church today?

thanks for your help!

Tell them you respect their choice of going to Church, but its just not for you. Tell them you ocasionally will go to a Church out of town. Hope I helped!
-Brina

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