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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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well we are having a halloween party but me and my friends have no ideas on what to do...
any games and stuff will be great Thanks

Hmm.You could "bob for apples", play manhunt, or have a scary movie marathon. Hope I helped!
-Brina

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I want to do something in NYC for my best friends bday(just me and her). i want to go somewehere and then a resturant. I was thiinking a chris brown concert but he's not on tour as far as I know. Any ideas?

Hmm, maybe a broadway show? Or, you could take her to Sephora. Its a make up store...actually THEEE BEST MAKE UP STORE EVER. You could buy her some lip gloss, or eye shadow, whatever floats her boat. Hope I helped!
-Brina

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Heya,
first of all, im going to use letters other wise your gonna get confused.
Well, Me and K used to be really good mates with J and B,
but then J and B randomly started hating on K. So then i though it was really unfair on K because J and B were being real bitches to K.
So now ive stepped in. Now J and B are being really mean to me! not trying to sound vain here, but i normally wouldnt give if someone said stuff to me, and ive been in fights and all, but normally people would just stop this thng but J and B just wont quite with it. Its really annoying me, and im not going to ignore, and im not going to someone about it.

Because that will all make it worse.

What else could me and K do for them to stop.
because, K is not that tough, and she gets really upset about all this!

THANK YOU!

I know you don't wnat to ignore them, but, ignoring them might be the best thing you can do. THeir being very immature. You could always say to them to grow up and stop acting like such idiots. They are jelous that your a good friend to K, and thats why they are acting how they are. If it escalates to them hardcore harrassing you, just let a teacher or someone know that their really not being nice. Good Luck.
-Brina

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Do you think that people need social interaction to get by? Or could someone get by being alone? As in no friends, and pulling away from family members.
I ask because lately I've been having a way easier time being alone because people I get close to only end up hurting me. But then again, I'm pretty lonely. I can't really win either way. =\
I just wondered what your opinions are.

I'd have to say its good to have social interaction. Sometimes its easier to talk to a friend or family member if I'm having a problem with something. Or, if something exciting happens, I like to tell people about it to spread the joy. But, sometimes its nice to just, be by yourself, not having to worry about other things and people. Pets are great to have too if your lonely but don't really want to socialize with people.
-Brina

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so i have this friend, we'll call her sally. well sally and i have been friends since 6th grade, we are now in 11th grade. in 8th grade we got into a huge fight that lasted like 6 months. we haven't really gotten into any huge fights since then, but lately she has been treating me like shit. she acts like im not even a friend to her. although i do nothing wrong to her. EVER. im never rude to her. im ALWAYS there for her. shes never there for me when i need someone the most. she gets mad at her "best friend" well call her suzie, well they've been friends for a while but suzie always ditches her and is rude. and she gets mad, complains to me about it. she has no idea how she acts to me but everytime i try to talk to her about it she gets mad at me and turns it all around on me. she is not mad at me, wont talk to me. yet we were fine this morning. i have NO idea what to do. please help me

Thats really not right of her to treat you like that. If a friend is treating someone like that, there obviously not a friend. Try telling her how you feel one more time, if it doesnt work, then I say take some time from her until she realizes that she made the mistake. If she doesnt realize it, then you should tell her that when shes ready to be a friend then you'll be here. But, your not waiting around for her to change.
Good Luck.
-Brina

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Im under 20 and going to a concert this weekend. I haven't been to a rock concert before. Any ideas what to wear? Im a simple kind of girl and Im taking my boyfriend of a year, I've sort of slacked on the dressing up department, this concert is his kind of thing and I want to look good and be comfortable too. Any ideas?

Hey, deffinitly try to dres comfortable. I'd say, get a band t-shirt with their name on it, and wear it with a pair of jeans. Hot Topic usually has band t-shirts, and you they most likely have at least one of those two bands. If not, then just wear a t-shirt with the jeans. Have fun!
-Brina

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Well I'm sixteen, female, and I'm adopted, apparently I can't even begin to look for my real parents until... I'm 18?
And I think thats stupid. I'm afraid that it will be incredibley hard/expensive to find them too, is anyone on here adopted and found their biological parents? what did you have to do to figure it out, and what not?

thanks.

It's not wickedly exspensive. If your birth parents gave permission for you to learn about them when your 18, the adoption agency will give you the number most likely. If your birth parents didnt give you permission to learn about them when your 18...then, most likely theirs not much you can do about that. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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how many times should one urinate in one day

Well, i take a leak [lol] about 10 times a day. Only because I drink a lot of water. It deffinitly depends on how much you drink during the day. I say, if you drink an average amount of water throughout the day, probably 3-5. Unless you hold it in...then, evidently it wouldnt be that. Its not good to hold it in...could lead to urinary problems...so, peeing is good! haha. Hope i helped!

-Brina

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ok im a guy i really like this gurl and i told her everything and ive even told out friends, ok o today after school i walk up to where we usually meet and this random girl that i dont talk to comes up and says STAY AWAY FROM HER,and the reason she said that is because her bestfriend likes the same girl im going for. so ok long story short,i want this girl and this girl doesnt want me to talk to her at all ever what do i do ? BETTER FROM A GIRLS POV

Deffinitly talk to this chick. You dont know if that girl that yelled at you was telling the truth or not. If she was, then, this chick isnt right for you, shes pretty immature if you ask me, sending someone to tell you to stay away, how lame is that? Dont worry about it if she doesnt like you, theirs plenty of other chicks out their for you to meet. Hope i helped! Good Luck!

-Brina

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What's a really good straightener? I need to find one because the one that I have now isn't that great.

Try finding a ceramic one. My hairdresser says ceramic ones are the best.You could probably ask your hair dresser were you could buy one near you. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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hey everyone!
Well my grandmothers birthday is comming up, octber 23, and my uncle got this idea for her present. All of her kids and grandkids are going to write her a letter and we are going to put them in a scrapbook with pictures and blah blah blah. But I really have to idea what to write about. Im in 9th grade, and im a fairly good writer, but i cant seem to get over this writers block! My grandma lives all the way across the country, so i only see her at Christmas, so i not all that close to her, and i dont see her very often, so I really have no idea what i should write..

Any ideas????

Many thanks in advance!!

Write a poem, saying how wonderful it is to see her on christmas time and that seeing her makes the holiday even more special etc.Hope I helped!

-Brina

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i just broke up with a guy that i was going out with for almost 3 years and this is actually the 3rd time that i break up with him but than the 2 times he started crying and i felt bad and i got with him but my parents dont like him and i think that is enough reason why i shouldnt be with him but than wen i broke up with him today he called me back and he started crying and telling me i'm being selfish i mean i belive im not i hate myself for putting him through this and he dose not understand that i need to be alone right now? Am i being selfish we are not young people we are adults help me

Your not being selfish. Your expanding your horizon. Let him know that your not feeling the same feelings toward him as you used to, and that he needs to respect your decision. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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Yeah I know you's probably hate these questions.
But anyway...

I need a myspace name like those chicks that have like:

stephSYNTHETIC
sophieSEDATED
carlaCOCAINE
etc

Can anyone help me??
My name is Amy.

If you need to know anything about me;
I'm scenish,
I'm a machochist;
I like doing and being scratched and or bitten.
I like gory stuff
I'm shallow.
Um, I dunno what else you need to know.

Well; anyways, please help me.

Kthanks bye,
x

Why be like everyone else? Think of something else thats creative. And don't admit to people that your shallow, that just makes you look stupid and pathetic. And your a MASOCHIST, learn to spell it.

Your myspace name should be...AmyArsenic.

-Brina

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is it bad to crack your knuckles?

People say it is, you could get arthritis. I crack my knuckles all the time, and so far it hasnt dont anything bad to me. Usually everyone gets arthritis when their older from cracking their knuckles, it'll prob show when your in like, your 70's. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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Okay so i was in a really serious relationship and we were in love and the whole 9 yards. but then we just broke up and the day after i was a complete mess, and i didn't shower and went to school, hair up, in sweats, no makeup, looking like i just got high because my eyes were so wore out from crying. ((Completely not me, i'm always dolled up looking like a girly girl))

For guys-- If you were the guy in this situation, would you rather see your ex. like that for a while showing you that you've made her miserable? Or would you rather see her looking better than ever showing her what you've lost? What would hurt you the most? or make you the most jealous?

For girls--What do you think? Should I go on looking amazing or keep looking like crap until i pull myself together? ((read guys question))

I don't know what to do in general either, do i try and make him jealous? Do i just keep living a happy life and show him that i'm doing great without him? or miserable without him? Idk.

HELP!

Continue to look GORGEOUS! Show him what he's missing. Why show him that your so upset about him? You broke up, evidently theirs no point in looking like crap. Unless, he broke up with you, then you can be upset as much as you want. Don't try to make him jealous, its immature, let it be, just let him do what he needs to do, and you do what you ahve to do. Live your life the way you want it, not how you think you should show him how your life is. Live it for you. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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my friend is gay. and i love him.
and everyone wants me to tell him i like him
but i cant. because hes gay, but im the only one
in the entire world that knows
WAT DO I DO?!

So, you know that he's gay, but no one else does, and people know that you like him, but because he's gay you don't want to tell him. Hmmmm. I say, if you'd like him to know your feelings, say it to him jokingly. Just be like "You know, it really bites that you gay because I liked you." Simple, and to the point. Evidently, because he's gay, it wouldnt work out, but its ok to like him. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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I'm in love, and the guy is a jerk and doesn't like me back.

Why he's a jerk? Because he's cooler than me, and he feels that and that's why he rarely talks to me. BUT he will stare deep into my eyes, ask me for massages (but he never gives me any, but I never ask) make small talk (sometimes) cuddle with me (rarely, at a swim meet, and there has to be other girls present, and he doesn't like any of them). But sometimes if I go to swim in his lane, even if there's people present, he'll go to another land. Once we were having a fun day at swim practice and he was doing dives in the deep section and he was alone. When I came over there he went away. Sometimes he answers my questions warmly, sometimes he's cold.

I am really truly in love with him, and I just don't know what to do or what to think. I have tried dating other guys, but they just don't live up to him. I feel grossed out if I imagine myself kissing anyone but him.

I can't tell him how I feel because he gets scared off easily. A couple girls told them that they liked him and he doesn't talk to them anymore. I have no idea what to do. I love that he is a jerk, by the way, I would never change that about him. Also, he is not a player (he only had one girlfriend, although he does have quite a few lady friends.) and he is not really a flirtsy guy.

I don't know how to interpret his actions. He smiles at me sometimes, but sometimes he acts like he hates me. =( Can somebody help me out? Do you think he likes me? He teases me.. in a friendly way. I guess the best way to describe his actions towards me is that he treats me like a little sister. But not quite.

If I talk to him too much he gets scared away. I'm sorry this was so long, but I've loved him for four years now. It started out as a crush, but in the past two years grew into something way more.

Please don't tell me to just ask him how he feels or tell him how I feel. It will be so akward, and we see each other nine times a week. Not to mention it will probably freak him out.

Help!! =/

Tell him its really getting lame, the way he's treating you, one minute he's asking nice and flirty towards you and the next he's not. Say all that to him and he'll get the jist of it. You don't want to like a guy who only likes you back on his own time and when he wants right? Thats what it seems like hes doing. Telling him how you feel isnt bad. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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15/F

For Halloween, my friends and I are all going as disney princesses. I think I'm going to be Belle. I've been looking for a costume, but I haven't had a lot of luck. I want one that's kind of slutty. Like, not really really slutty, but short and tight and all. All the ones I've found are long. If anyone can find any good ones please tell me!
I'm really thin- a 00 or XS. If that matters.



Also, if I don't end up going as Belle, I might go as Tiger Lily or Cinderella. If anyone could find any cute costumes for them too that would be great.
But Belle comes first :)

Haha, my best friend is 16, like me, and she's still obsessed with the Belle character. I say, find one of the long dresses you were talking about, and just cut it so that its the length that you want it. Its probably the easiest thing you can do. Unless you buy a yellow short mini skirt and a tight shirt...i'd go with getting the regular belle costume and cutting it down. Hope I helped! Have fun! Your my 1,000 ANSWER/QUESTION!!!!

-Brina

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i want to be eeyore for halloween!




any suggestions on how to put it all together?

Get grey sweat pants, and a grey hoodie. Make a tail and bow like eeyore has, and paint a cute little nose on you, and make some ears to go on the hoody. My mom based allll my halloween outfits from sweat suits, i was a grape one year, purple sweat suit outfit, and then she blew up balloons and pinned them all on my outfit! Haha, if you want any other costume ideas, let me know!Hope I helped!

-Brina

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ok so i want to know the name of this song i dont know what its called or who sings it i just know it says :and it breaks my hart, and it break my ha ha ha ha- and thats all i know it was on "Life of Ryan" yesteday i had hurd it before but i dont remeber plz thanx

Oh my, my sister is OBSESSED with that song/artist. It's Regina Specktor, Fidelity.

If you like her, you might also like Colbie Caillat.

Hope I helped!

-Brina

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