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I have this problem with guys. Like every single time I date a guy and I like them lot and stuff. But I end up breaking up with them in the end. It's like I can't commit to just one guy. I want a long-term relationship but I can't cause I can't commit. Its like when I start getting attached I push him away. How could I commit to just one guy and actually stay with him and not break it up? Any advice or suggestions? Thanks in advance! (link)
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Sorry Babe, the only way to make a long-term relationship is to commit, commit, commit. If you push men away at the same time you are just getting to know each other, it could mean a couple of things. 1) you're a little insecure. 2) you're not ready for a long term relationship or 3) you just haven't found the right guy. It could be a combination of these reasons. In order to have a good relationship, you have to be willing to give half, as well as your partner has to commit to at least half. If neither of you can do this, you either need to work it out, or it won't work. Just a little tip. Don't fall for a guy who doesn't respect you. If he doesn't respect the person you are, he doesn't deserve you.
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14/f
I have taken 10 quizzes online to see if I have depression. Each of them said I was depressed.
Most of them said to see a doctor, but i dont want any one to know and my mom will find out if i tell my doctor. And i can't see a therapist because i dont have a way to see one. and i dont want to talk to any one at school because theyll judge me and stuff and i dont want them to know.
What can I do to handle my stress? Because I know I am I've been through a LOT this past year and stuff is still happening and i feel as if i cant handle it anymore.
**What happend this year**
*evicted, then moved (into a small crappy house.)
*step dad in jail
*loss of a very close friend
*lost job(owner moved away..)
*dad moved away (i have 2 "dads" and 2 "step dads"..long story)
*real dad wrote me for the 3rd time
*lost a best friend because of moving situation
*had a love triangle
*best friends betrayed me
*became basicly a full time babysitter for my mother when ever she asks i have to babysit..basicly a (teen) mother to a 1yr.old and a 7yr. old (and the 7yr old my have adhd or add)
*ETC.ETC.
(I cant talk to any one, and i dont have to for yoga or meditation. and i dont feel like crying anymore.)
So any thing to relieve stress?
Thanks in advance! (link)
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I know how the babysitting goes. My mom did foster care for a long time. Since 6th grade, I have been taking care of babies, and since my freshman year, i have become her babysitter. I understand why though. Sometimes, you just can't take a four year old with you. Some thing I did when I was trying to handle way to much at once was find a happy place or read. My "happy place" consisted of my daydreams. Since they are in your head, no one could see them. Reading also takes you to other places, so you can temporarily forget your own problems if you get absolutely absorbed, which is usually what happens to me. what about going to the spa for a pedi? Just close your eyes and let the person do their work. and pedi's only take about 15-30 mins. And don't worry. I feel the same way (depressed, i mean), and I talked to someone about it, and they said that it's a regular phase for anyone from 13-17. I'm so sorry if I couldn't help you. Please, if you need more advice, email me at smarty_pants_2009417@yahoo.com anytime you need someone to listen to you who you won't see at school. ^_^
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can someone read the poem i wrote and make sure it has iambic pentameter and the rhyme scheme- abab cdcd efef gg, like shakespeare's works. also please check and see if its a good poem and any changes i can make. thanks so much
"Love"
Love is an amazing feeling, leaving
A gigantic mark, almost all will face. It
Also can end in some people grieving.
In relationships, you need to commit.
You need to speak up and say “I love you.”
Just remember that it all can be lost;
And keep in mind you will always get through.
You know true love as well as you know frost,
At times it can be depressing and cold,
Especially when its hidden from your
Heart. That’s why you need to tightly hold.
There is no need to start another war.
No need for forcing, your soul-mate will come
Don’t wait for them by being a lazy bum. (link)
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Ok, there are several problems with this. The second line is 11 syllables, too many. the third line of the third verse is only 9 syllables, and the last line of th poem is 11 syllables.
I can help you fix this. Lets see...
"A very large mark, most all will face it." This way, you don't have to change the last word of the line.
"At times it can be depressing and cold
Mostly when it's hidden from the heart's door
That is why you need to so tightly hold
There is no need to start another war."
And the last line...
"Do not wait by being a lazy bum"
I have had lots of practice with sonnets. I have had to write a total of 10 or 11 on my own for school. I am sorry if i could not help you, but other than those little things, its a good poem. And don't listen to Alin. He doesn't know what he is talking about. Iambic Pentameter means 10 sylables per line, and the stress/unstress is something you do automatically when you read it out loud. Trust me. It really does.
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i am new at my school in kentucky, ive made a few friends. but only 2 or 3 friends i am able to get togethor with over the weekends. i feel very lonely and stupid because my other old friends all fit into social groups and have lives outside of school and hang out with their friends, in groups. I feel so low because i dont do much over the weekends..I dont enjoy that. at all. I wish people invited me places, ive invited them places before but they never ask me to go anywhere. it upsets me because all of my old friends have lives, and I do not. I dont know what im doing wrong, Im a nice person and I talk to them and try to be very outgoing. I wish someone could help. (link)
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I'll tell you a little secret. I don't have much of a social life either. I never go anywhere, and all my friends seem to go somewhere. Many of my friends overlap into other groups. Like, I have friends who are anime nerds, "geeks"(even though i don't see them like that), artists, and even some friends who are on the popular side of the charts. Be patient. Give your new friends some time to see what kind of person you are. You'll see. Soon, you will have many friends.
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responding to whitedestiny09... actually this guy is not my cyber boyfriend. we talk almost everyday w/ im because we're in two different places and that's the only way to communicate now. he's in college. its not like we've never seen one another and we don't really know about each other. he's a good, church-going guy and he respects me like i respect him, which is why its hard for us to see other people. this friend, him i still don't know that much about. just that he's nice guy and he's here. i probably should've mentioned that.
sky18 (link)
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ok, well, i'm sorry then. ^_^
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hey.
so i'm a huge fan of "now you're gone" by basshunter.
"find a new way" by young love.
"call on me" by eric prydz.
"put your hands up for detroit" by fedde le grand.
is there a genre that fits those types of songs, or is just like techno? (perhaps with the exception of young love, it's more rock-ish?) (link)
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Ever heard of Cascada? Some of their songs are techno-ish. There are some that may not fit into that category, but a few that i can think of are
Bad Boy
Kids in America
Can't Stop the Rain
Endless Summer
Everytime we Touch
How Do You Do
Hurricane
Love U Promised
Magic Summer Night
Miracle
Never Ending Dream
One More Night
Piece of Heaven
Promised Land
Runaway
Ready For Love
Truly Madly Deeply
These are all by Cascada, and there are many more. I just don't know them. I'm sorry if this is not what you were looking for, but everytime I hear them, there is noting I want to do more than get up and dance. ^_^
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I have this friend who says that he likes me and he wants our relationship to move forward. He's a good guy and I do like him, but I am in a complicated long-distance relationship. We decided to try to have an open relationship, but I know he hasn't been with any other female because he's not like that. He's a one woman's guy and I respect that a lot and me... I want to be with just him. I should've known this distance thing would eventually catch up to me. Now, I'm stuck trying to figure if I should just tell this friend "I can't", "no" or if I should give it a try. We really like each other, but somehow I still feel like I'd be cheating eventhough I was told it was alright. I just don't know what to do.
18/f
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Ok, first of all, long distance relationships really don't last unless you knew the person a long time ago. It's ok for you to remain friends with this guy, but how do you absolutely KNOW he is telling the truth? There are so many hurtful people out there. You say you know what kind of person he is, but what is he actually doing when he is away from the computer? You don't know. You don't know how he treats his friends, his family, his pets, etc. You probably don't even know what he really looks like. I'm not saying that there aren't honest people out there because I am one of them. Maybe you could set up a trial period. You know, a few weeks to a month, and explain carefully to your internet friend that that is all it is-a trial period. Maybe you'll find that you like the guy from your school better than your cyber boyfriend.
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Greetings everyone. My girlfriend (25) Just found out that her father is cheating on her all faithful mother. her parents in the late 40s. Her father is usually out of the country, but comes around like every other month, for a few days. His mistress is in the same town as his family, though, making it more painful. She's not in the other country, that is. Now, my girlfriend is so heartbroken and depressed. What is the best thing she can do. They are a black family. (link)
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Since I haven't been given a lot of information, i'll do the best I can.
The way i see it, there are several options for her. 1)do nothing and remain upset. 2)sit down and talk to them, and hopefully get down to the root of the problem(maybe not at the same time. Maybe separate would be better.) 3)try to get her to talk to someone she trusts, like a grandparent, a counselor, etc, instead of her actual parents. The important thing for her parents to know is that your girlfriend is upset. They need to be there for her, no matter what is between them. And you need to be there to comfort her when things go wrong. (Don't tell her I said this, but if her father is cheating on her mother, it most likely means divorce.)
I'm also really sorry for the situation she is in. That is horrible for any person to know or go through, no matter what skin color, religion, ethnicity, or culture they may have.
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ok so everytime i shave my va-jay-jay, i always end up cutting myself and i bleed. and i dont even shave it all off, you can still see the hair on it. then it hjust ends up being all prickly the next day.
is there any way to shave it and get a close shave so it stays smooth for a while?
i dont want to wax either.
so anything other than that.
thanks! (link)
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Have you tried using Nair? It's what i used for my legs and underarms, though i've never tried it for my vagina. My mom bought this stuff that was like Nair Deoderant that is specifically for your underams and bikini area, though i haven't been able to find it. The way nair works is you just apply it, wait 3-5 mins(sometimes longer, depending on thickness of the hair), and wash it off in the shower. It works really well, and I love it! (by the way, i've been using nair for about 5 years, so don't believe anything you hear that's bad about it, ok?)
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well me and my ex have been broken up for months now and at first it was nothing and then i sarted getting obssed with him and then i got really angry with him like i would always say man i ahte him and i would talk to his friends bad about him. or ill text him out of now were making up something to see i he would talk to and when i go to his myspace i see his ex third on is top and it makes me very very angry so i deleted him becuase last time i deleted him he added me back but not this time so im gettting very very mad.
then i see him at school and he use to say hi to me but i just ignored him and walked on by. now we dont even talk and i regret what i did to him like ignore him when he said hi to me and all that how do i get back with him? or at least get him to get my attention? what do i do to come down the ex? i just want to talk to him i miss him and i know he is the one for me i just know it i dont anybody else and its not ike i cant just go up to him and talk to him now. any advice? (link)
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First of all, how old are you? If you are younger than 16, i wouldn't recommend saying that you know he is the right one for you. If you are younger than 16, you need to build up other relationships. Second, like the other person said, get over him. If he doesn't want to be with you, it's his choice. Maybe you could leave him a note in his locker or someting saying you only want to be FRIENDS, if you really want to hang out with him some more. From what it sounds like, you are going through and emotional grieving process. here is a list of the grieving stages. if they sound familiar, then yep, your only going through a grieving process. if you're not, i can't help you.
Stage theories and processes
Shock and denial (disbelief)
Volatile reactions
Disorganization and despair
Reorganization
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i cant stand being with my bestfriend anymore we've been close for like 9years now, since forever but she totally pisses me off very so often! like i can never forgive her for throwing things in my face while we were younger, also! she always like the guy i like, last year i told her i like this guy, then she went after him! but he didn't like her, he said she was too weird and not his type, the whole school knows about it, and yeah we have some really good times, but others shes a complete total female dog! i can't stand her gusts! i let her stay at my house after school every day because she lives far away and her mom picks her up at like 8 or 9pm, then a few months ago she told me she can just come and go as she pleases, its her decision that she could stay or not at my house, she acts as if my house is her house and she can come and go as she pleases, i convinced my parents to let her stay, my parents said if it makes me happy, so shes here, but she thinks shes always right about everything, so when she started to go to my school she became worst of who she was! she took all my friends away from me, dyed her hair like 10times to get attentions from others, and she disses only about EVERY guy i like, its soo annoying, i cant tell her to just leave after 9 years, im so confussed, she lies to everyone about her, making everyone at my school like completely hate me and choose her over me, im hurt realy bad of what shes done, and she makes her mother more miserable then anyone, she threatens to kill her self of she doesnt get what she wants, my parents dont like her at all, since we were younger my parents dont like her because she was a bad influence, i got soo sick of my friends staying over for sleep overs and everything and say how great or wonder she is,...she came over once to my house over the weekends and totally liked like bestfriends with my friends, and laughed at me,...she thinks she knows everything about me, well shes wrong i hate her, but i dont wanna loose her, advice please? (link)
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I was in the same dilemma a few years ago, so i know how it is. My best friend and I were like sisters, then she started acting like someone different. I know you don't want to lose this girl as your friend, but neither did i. It sounds to me like your friend is using power and control over you so she can get what she wants. Confront her about it, or if you're scared to talk to her alone, talk to an adult you trust first and have them call her over, so the three of you can talk. Tell her that you are hurt with what she is doing. You miss the old her, and your parents are fed up with her attitude. You do have a right to tell her you don't like what she is doing. Just don't do it in a mean way. If she still continues to act with a horrible attitude, ditch all your "friends" and find new ones. Remember, if someone isn't willing to hang out with YOU because they think someone else is "cooler" or "more fun", they don't deserve to be your friends at all. I found that out the hard way, but you don't have to.
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ok so my little 4 month old puppy has worms i dont have enough money to take her to a vet...im 16 i told my rents but there not doing anything about it.. and everynight like she sleeps with me and i wake up and on my bed were like.. little things that looked like red rice??? what are those they wernt moving and they dont look like worms but i know there coming from her what are they? (link)
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Does this sound at all like what your puppy has? If not, i'm sorry i couldn't help.
"Ringworm is the common name for the skin infection caused by a special group of fungi; it is not caused by a worm at all. The fungi feed upon the dead cells of skin and hair causing, in people, a classic round, red lesion with a ring of scale around the edges and normal recovering skin in the center. Because the ring of irritated, itchy skin looked like a worm, the infection was erroneously named. The fungi responsible are called "dermatophytes," meaning "plants that live on the skin" thus the more correct term for ringworm is "dermatophytosis." The characteristic "ring" appearance is primarily a human phenomenon. In animals, ringworm frequently looks like a dry, grey, scaly patch but can also mimic any other skin lesion and have any appearance."
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my best friend (we'll call him Bob) and i have decided that we both like eachother and we're about to go out. but then i found out some disturbing news. bob has this friend, (Gretta), and they had sex. my other friend, (fred) told me this. it happened about a month ago. fred kept saying that he had to tell me something about bob before we could go out. and he said i really should know because its important and ect ect ect. so he told me that there are two stories to this: GRETTA'S STORY: she fell asleep and bob was next to her. she was drunk-ish. (and shes 13, if that says anything, shes also a real slut. so yeah.) so she fell asleep and he raped her. she called her brother and told him and he was about to come and beat bob's ass for it. bob's brother got a gun to scare him off and it worked. and now gretta isnt speaking to bob. but see, the thing is, gretta has been known to either stretch the truth or lie completely. anyways, BOB'S STORY: gretta and bob were messing around. gretta was shitfaced and pulled his pants off and they had sex. then she got freaked and called her brother and lied to him and then the rest is the same. and the thing here is that bob used to like gretta. and they went out. and it didnt work. and he's allegedly still liked her while liking me. and hes also not known to lie about something like that. he i know for a fact he DID NOT WANT ME TO KNOW. he'd kill fred if he found out fred told me! but i need him to know that i know! i dont want there to be any tension between us because of this! please give me any advice on how to let him know that i know. in a subtle way. sorry this is so long but it was a long story! THANKS! (link)
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I agree with Flawless about Gretta. Don't worry about her. If you trust that Bob wouldn't lie, then believe Bob. However, I think you should confront him subtlety, like you think you should. Wait until you are alone, then say something like, "Bob, there is something I have to tell you. I realize it may be a little personal on your part, but..." and proceed to tell him. Or fib a little and say something like "I heard that someone had sex with that girl, Gretta." See how he reacts. If he acts innocent, he's not lying. If he gets shifty-eyed and fidgety, then he is lying. Just let him know that you are also there for him to talk to about anything personal. You both have to be open to the relationship, and one of the biggest things you can have in a relationship is trust, right up there with honesty, honor, and loyalty.
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by accident i replaced a document with another one because i saved them both as the same thing. is there any way i can get the original document back? THank you SO mucch! (link)
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I'm sorry, but there is absolutely no way to recover a lost document. Trust me, i tried. My mom accidentally deleted something she needed, and we couldln't get it back. At all. Saving a document under the same name basically deletes it. You could try to look in your recycle box. If it was a paper or something you needed for school, i'm really sorry. I know how that is to put in all that work and lose it.
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why would non-married people wear rings? not on ring finger but elsewhere. what does that mean if they have several? (link)
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My mom wears several rings, not on her ring finger, but she wears them. She likes the way they look on her hand. A lot of women like to show their personality through the rings they choose. I don't know about men. I think they just wear rings for the "bling-bling" factor, to be "cool", but if you ask me, it just looks gaudy.
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I have these bumps like right in the middle of my boobs. I have prom coming up and they have been there for like a week. I wash it everytime I take a shower and I tried putting my proactiv on it even though its not a zit. Nothing seems to help.
So what should I do? (link)
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"People often describe localized swollen areas on, or under, the skin as lumps or bumps. While bumps on, or under, the skin may result from conditions that give rise to a skin rash, many other conditions can result in solitary raised lumps on the skin. Infections, tumors, and the body's response to trauma or injury can all lead to lumps or bumps that appear to be located on or underneath the skin.
Depending upon the cause of skin lumps or bumps, they may vary in size and be firm or soft to the touch. The overlying skin may be reddened or ulcerated. Skin bumps may or may not be painful or tender, depending upon the cause of the lesions."
If you care to read more and possibly diagnose your problem, check out this website where I recieved this information.
http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/forum.asp?articlekey=63964
if this doesn't help, i would suggest going to your doctor.
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13/f
okay so i have only had my period since january 07
so its still irregular and im still using pads. but in april or may my grade [at school] is going to schlitterbahn [galveston] and im scared cuz what if i get my period??
i know id have to use tampons but im scared to use them cuz i've never actually found the hole. so what do i do?
should i start practicing now or what??
help (link)
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I agree with LuvBug, just practice now. But one thing I would recommend is the plastic applicators. They go into the vagina smoother and easier than the cardboard ones. Plus, the cardboard ones just hurt! And, if you are still confused, read the instructions in the box. Don't worry, with practice, inserting tampons will become easier. Oh, another thing, there are many positions you can use. Personally, I like to stay sitting on the toilet and spread my legs, but you need to experiment and see which position you are most comfortable with.
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So I'm 18/f.
I'm in a long-distance relationship right now, with an amazing guy. He's coming to town for a week on the 14th and I can't wait to see him.
But my mom is being a huge hassle. For one, she's making him stay at a hotel on the other side of town (which is 60 bucks a night.) Plus, she read his blog on his myspace and made him add her as a friend on facebook just so she can "know what this kid's all about". I find myself repeatedly apologizing to him because of her invasion of our relationship (she's always asking me what he meant by blah blah blah or teasing me about what I'll leave him for a comment, etc.) It's getting so annoying. I know she means well, but I feel like I'm under constant supervision.
She's insisting on driving me to the airport to pick him up when he flies in, and she even refuses to wait in the car when I go in to find him. All I want is to say hello to him without her supervision, since I haven't seen him in person since December. How can I convince her to just back off?? Help! I'm desperate. (link)
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Your mom just wants to protect you. Trust me, I have sent my email out to a few internet strangers, and many of them sent naked pictures, expecting naked pictures in return! Your mom is only looking out for what is best for you. What if this boy is seeing another girl when he is away from the comp? If you find out, you will need someone to support you. I know it sounds annoying, but there are people out there who find "prey" and kill them. Our parents-your, mine, other peoples-are only trying to protect us from what is out there. There is no need to be disrepectful in your reviews either. Just because you are angry at her does not mean you can take that anger out on us. Find a sport or something, Drama Queen.
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16/F
So i have NEVER had a boy ask me out before.
All my friends have gone on dates etc. I am very socical, and not weird or anything. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?
I havent even had a homecoming date.
and im a sophomore!
how can i become more pleasing to guys? (link)
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I'll tell you something. I am a junior, and i have not even had my first kiss. Don't worry about it. or if you are worried, then just ask the guy out yourself, like WoahThereBabe said.
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Why do some people think that saying Jesus's name in vain is okay while saying God's name in vain isn't? Yeah, God is our Lord but Jesus is still a higher being.
Not that my religious view matter in this question but I am not Christian which might explain my perplexity to the situation.
In class today we were reading a play and my teacher announced that if we come by a profound word we do not have to say it. A student in my class came across "God!" as she was reading out loud and replaced the word with "Jesus!" because she claimed saying God's name in vain is wrong. I know this girl is Christian.
I completely agree that we should not use God's name in vain but why should Jesus's name be any different? I of course snapped at the girl and asked about the situation. She could not give me a straight answer so I'm wondering if someone else can. Or was she just an idiotic high school student (link)
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You have an excellent point. One of the commandments says "Thou shalt not take the Lord's name in vain." Jesus is God's son. Maybe she didn't see it that way because there is nothing saying that you can't use Jesus' name, but believe me, i agree with you.
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