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feeling lonely
i am new at my school in kentucky, ive made a few friends. but only 2 or 3 friends i am able to get togethor with over the weekends. i feel very lonely and stupid because my other old friends all fit into social groups and have lives outside of school and hang out with their friends, in groups. I feel so low because i dont do much over the weekends..I dont enjoy that. at all. I wish people invited me places, ive invited them places before but they never ask me to go anywhere. it upsets me because all of my old friends have lives, and I do not. I dont know what im doing wrong, Im a nice person and I talk to them and try to be very outgoing. I wish someone could help.
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You proabbly don't feel comofortable in the school because its not the enviroment your used to. Your used to walking around the school and knowing who everyone was even if you weren't friends with them. And you become comfortable with that. Kinda like when you sleep over at a friends house for the first time and you have no idea what their rules are and stuff so you try to be like the best you can where as if your at your best friends house you feel much more comfortable.
What i did was i just acted like i was at my old school still. I would show the same confidence i had when i walked down the hallways at my old school where i knew everyone and felt comfortable. And the confidence really shows through to other people. Maybe you can like just ask someone a question that sits next to you in a class that you havn't really talked to EVER. But it lets other people know that your outgoing.
Also, i know exactly how you feel about the inviting thing. Even with my best friends, i feel like they never ask me to do something. They might be like "yeah lets hang out" and then they forget and all get together and when i call they'll be like "oh yeah you can come" kinda thing. You should just show them how fun you can be to hang out with and they'll be like hey i wanna hang out with her again.
Things will look up!!
Good luck :)
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I'll tell you a little secret. I don't have much of a social life either. I never go anywhere, and all my friends seem to go somewhere. Many of my friends overlap into other groups. Like, I have friends who are anime nerds, "geeks"(even though i don't see them like that), artists, and even some friends who are on the popular side of the charts. Be patient. Give your new friends some time to see what kind of person you are. You'll see. Soon, you will have many friends.
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starting a new school can be difficult. I live in Kentucky and people can be a bit scrutinizing of newer people. It's unfamiliar...but just put yourself out there...join some clubs that involve things you like or things you're interested in. It will open you up to new people with similar interests. You probably won't have much to do on the weekends starting out...but over time, as you make more friends you will. The only reason your old friends do is because they didn't switch schools so they didn't have to make new friends. Just always be yourself..People will like you for who you are as long as you let them in. Don't be afraid to try new things and get involved. You'll meet tons of great new people and make awesome friends who like some of the same things you do so there is always something to talk about.
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