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Him, Him & Her... Caught in the Middle.
I have this friend who says that he likes me and he wants our relationship to move forward. He's a good guy and I do like him, but I am in a complicated long-distance relationship. We decided to try to have an open relationship, but I know he hasn't been with any other female because he's not like that. He's a one woman's guy and I respect that a lot and me... I want to be with just him. I should've known this distance thing would eventually catch up to me. Now, I'm stuck trying to figure if I should just tell this friend "I can't", "no" or if I should give it a try. We really like each other, but somehow I still feel like I'd be cheating eventhough I was told it was alright. I just don't know what to do.
18/f
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i wanted to make something clear - the guy from ny that i have a long distance relationship with, i know him very well and its not like we just met online. where that came from in the last advice answer, i don't know. but its nothing like that. we really do like each other so mauch, we just live in different places. for the friend, i know him good enough, but him i don't know as well as the other but we're here together. i don't want someone where we're contanstly around each other, but i want to see him often. thats my problem. maybe its big - maybe its little, but thats it.
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Ok, first of all, long distance relationships really don't last unless you knew the person a long time ago. It's ok for you to remain friends with this guy, but how do you absolutely KNOW he is telling the truth? There are so many hurtful people out there. You say you know what kind of person he is, but what is he actually doing when he is away from the computer? You don't know. You don't know how he treats his friends, his family, his pets, etc. You probably don't even know what he really looks like. I'm not saying that there aren't honest people out there because I am one of them. Maybe you could set up a trial period. You know, a few weeks to a month, and explain carefully to your internet friend that that is all it is-a trial period. Maybe you'll find that you like the guy from your school better than your cyber boyfriend.
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Mabby you should tell our partener about it that he will know and you wont feel as guilty...and if he said it ok then its ok your not cheating...just tell him about it and tell him that he can make him no that he can as well go out and have a realtionship..but it might be hard when he gets back to you to try to stop your relationship with the other man so you must think about this carefully.....any other questions?? dont hesitate to ask...good luck!
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