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i cant stand it no longer!
i cant stand being with my bestfriend anymore we've been close for like 9years now, since forever but she totally pisses me off very so often! like i can never forgive her for throwing things in my face while we were younger, also! she always like the guy i like, last year i told her i like this guy, then she went after him! but he didn't like her, he said she was too weird and not his type, the whole school knows about it, and yeah we have some really good times, but others shes a complete total female dog! i can't stand her gusts! i let her stay at my house after school every day because she lives far away and her mom picks her up at like 8 or 9pm, then a few months ago she told me she can just come and go as she pleases, its her decision that she could stay or not at my house, she acts as if my house is her house and she can come and go as she pleases, i convinced my parents to let her stay, my parents said if it makes me happy, so shes here, but she thinks shes always right about everything, so when she started to go to my school she became worst of who she was! she took all my friends away from me, dyed her hair like 10times to get attentions from others, and she disses only about EVERY guy i like, its soo annoying, i cant tell her to just leave after 9 years, im so confussed, she lies to everyone about her, making everyone at my school like completely hate me and choose her over me, im hurt realy bad of what shes done, and she makes her mother more miserable then anyone, she threatens to kill her self of she doesnt get what she wants, my parents dont like her at all, since we were younger my parents dont like her because she was a bad influence, i got soo sick of my friends staying over for sleep overs and everything and say how great or wonder she is,...she came over once to my house over the weekends and totally liked like bestfriends with my friends, and laughed at me,...she thinks she knows everything about me, well shes wrong i hate her, but i dont wanna loose her, advice please?
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well, i know how you're feeling right now because i had a friend that was the exact same way. she would always try to out-do me. we were best friends for like five years, and then all of a sudden she became so different. unfortunately, people change. i guess she feels like she has to always be better than you. she's trying to show others that she's better than you too. well, by what you've said, i can already tell you that she's not.she uses it all for attention, if she is being mean and putting you down all the time, that bullying and a real friend wouldn't treat you that way. as for the whole thing with stealing the guys that you like, she's trying to make it like a competition. and with dying her hair alot, she's just doing it for attention. when she's nice to everyone else but mean to you, she's trying to make them think that she's better than you. i'm sorry but a real friend wouldn't do that. yes, you said that there were some good times where you guys were just like best friends again, but the truth is, if you think about the bad times more than the good times, i don't think you should be her friend anymore. and even though you don't want to lose her as a friend, you have to think about it: is this really a good friendship?? does she really care about me or is she just trying to hurt me? there's no reason why you guys can't still talk and everything, but i don't think you should keep her as a close friend, and i don't think you should fully trust her either. instead, surround yourself with people who make you feel good, people you can trust, people who make you feel happy. you deserve so much better!! i really hope everything works out for you!! =]
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Hey. I know that you are not wanting to make her upset but I had the same problem. It will only get worse, so I say tell her or if youare worried email or text her telling her that she is making everyone hate you and that you need sometime to think about your choices and if she is true friend she'll totally understand if not she is no friend at all.
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ok this might sound mean but the only way because she needs it blunt and to the point and beating around the bush. tell her what bugs you and all that then let her know what she can do too tone it down a little. but never hate a person ... no matter how much they do stupid stuff or mean things. trust me didnt work out. you can't hate your friend otherwise whats the point of trying to be friends with her right? anyway just be nice and let her know. but from what i hear on that report is that you should just stop being friends with her. because all she is going to do is diss and lie about you later. it can get worse and if she threatens to kill herself tell her that if she does that none of it had to do with you and that she kills herself is what she did to herself not others. i doubt she would kill herself and if she does none of it is your fault for she chose that way and think of it as an enlightment from being lied about. ask me any more or tell me if i am wrong about this advice.
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I was in the same dilemma a few years ago, so i know how it is. My best friend and I were like sisters, then she started acting like someone different. I know you don't want to lose this girl as your friend, but neither did i. It sounds to me like your friend is using power and control over you so she can get what she wants. Confront her about it, or if you're scared to talk to her alone, talk to an adult you trust first and have them call her over, so the three of you can talk. Tell her that you are hurt with what she is doing. You miss the old her, and your parents are fed up with her attitude. You do have a right to tell her you don't like what she is doing. Just don't do it in a mean way. If she still continues to act with a horrible attitude, ditch all your "friends" and find new ones. Remember, if someone isn't willing to hang out with YOU because they think someone else is "cooler" or "more fun", they don't deserve to be your friends at all. I found that out the hard way, but you don't have to.
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WOW,Sounds like you need a break and fast.It would be a lot easier if she wasn't camping out at your house half the night.I wouldn't worry too much about what she telling other people.Your true friends know the difference between what is true and what is not.She's doing that because she knows that your more mature and well liked.Your popularity it seems,is driving her to drive you up the wall.I would like to tell you to somehow distant yourself from her,not totally ignore her,just don't spend so much time with her.I'm worried about that she can come and go as she please.If your the one who convinced your parents for her to stay,then take your mother aside and just say that you make a mistake and let them handle it.It may seem hard at first but I think your peace of mind is more important.It might put some sanity back in your (and your parents)life.If nothing works,kick back,smoke some pot,and mellow out, I'm just kidding.
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