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Can't commit


Question Posted Monday April 14 2008, 7:46 pm

I have this problem with guys. Like every single time I date a guy and I like them lot and stuff. But I end up breaking up with them in the end. It's like I can't commit to just one guy. I want a long-term relationship but I can't cause I can't commit. Its like when I start getting attached I push him away. How could I commit to just one guy and actually stay with him and not break it up? Any advice or suggestions? Thanks in advance!

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stella07 answered Wednesday April 16 2008, 12:45 pm:
that sounds exactly like me. just know that your not the only girl out there who thinks shes not ready to commit.

it could be two reasons:

one may be that the guys your dating just arent the right guys for you, and therefore it will never work out. and im really glad that you arent forcing yourself to stay with one guy just because you want a relationship. never settle for just anyone.

the second reason could be that since your telling yourself that you cant ever commit, its stuck in your head that way. you need to not think about it so much, and just let whats meant to be take its own course.

i guarentee if you just roll with what your feelings may be with a certain guy, it will all go into place.

you will find someone who you are comfortable with to be committed to for an extended period of time. sometimes great things take time, and i think thats the case this time.

so dont worry.
be pacient, dont stress yourself out too much and good luck (:

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BabiixoxJen answered Tuesday April 15 2008, 5:36 pm:
wow i just wanna say i feel the same way about myself hahah im just not ready to commit i guess.

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WhiteDestiny09 answered Tuesday April 15 2008, 4:53 pm:
Sorry Babe, the only way to make a long-term relationship is to commit, commit, commit. If you push men away at the same time you are just getting to know each other, it could mean a couple of things. 1) you're a little insecure. 2) you're not ready for a long term relationship or 3) you just haven't found the right guy. It could be a combination of these reasons. In order to have a good relationship, you have to be willing to give half, as well as your partner has to commit to at least half. If neither of you can do this, you either need to work it out, or it won't work. Just a little tip. Don't fall for a guy who doesn't respect you. If he doesn't respect the person you are, he doesn't deserve you.

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