Hey, so i've been going out with my boyfriend for about 8 months and we just recently have becoming open with each other and talking about our past relationships and what we have done with people, and i'll admit i hav hookedup wit a decent amount of people..and whenever i mention a guys name he asked me if i have hookedup wit them..and i keep telling him what happened and i think he gets uncomfortable..so when he asks if ive' hooked up wit a guy next time i mention a guys name, shud i just say no or tell him truth, i do think honesty is the best policy but it seems to be making him more upset..so what shud i do?
If he can't handle the truth, he shouldn't ask.
That's what you should tell him.
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20/F.
So.
I have kind of a unique situation on my hands.
I’ve always thought that people who looked to the internet to find love were pathetic. However, I think it may be happening to me.
I’m not really sure how this happened but two years ago I started talking to this guy on the internet. I didn't think much of it at first as we would only have short, uninteresting conversations and he lives 30 hours away from me.
However, for the past seven months, we’ve been talking at least once a day. We’ve never met, but we can talk for hours about nothing. We have a really great connection and he is probably one of the sweetest guys I’ve ever talked to.
He sent me flowers on valentines day and if I’m not online when he’s about to go to bed, he’ll call me just to say goodnight. For the past month or so he’s even been saying “I love you”, and recently I’ve found myself saying it back.
I know this may seem weird to some of you, but I really like this guy. A lot. We’ve seen each other on web cam many times, so I know he’s actually who he says he is.
Sometime this summer, I’m going to visit my cousin and he happens to live within two hours from her house. We plan on meeting then to see where we stand after we can physically see each other. We’ve talked about this a lot and we both would like to further our ‘relationship’.
My only problem with this entire situation is that I’m slightly hesitant to meet him. Not because I’m worried about the risks that come with meeting people from the internet, but because I find that our ‘relationship’ is moving too fast. He has the next year planned out for us, as far as visits and whatnot, and we haven’t even met yet! Every time I try to tell him that we should maybe meet first before we start planning when we can see each other again, he gets defensive and accuses me of not believing that we’ll like each other. He makes me feel guilty about it because even though I see myself as realistic, he sees me as doubtful.
Oh, and . . .
Please don’t preach to me about being wary of meeting people from the internet. I’m old enough to make my own decisions, don’t bother trying to change my mind. I know there are risks, but I trust him completely. However, just to be safe, we both plan on having someone else there with us when we meet for the first time.
I think we ALL know from experience that no matter what you tell another person, that person will believe only what that person wants to.
If it's really worth it to you to explore what you have, then do it. Even if you believe he's planning too far ahead. I'm sure it's only because he's excited at the idea of seeing you finally. Some of us are more sensitive than others. It might do you well to just let him have his fantasy and go about it the realistic way on your own.
See him once. You've invested alot of time into this Get a feel for the situation. See if the chemistry is there when you're face to face with one another. If it's not, then it truely doesn't matter how far ahead he's planned because it just simply won't happen.
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i was 132 august this summer i am 160. ive never been this big ever and i feel so disgusting and have been crying the last 2 weeks. ive never had roles, ive never felt so unhappy. i know if gaiend this from not being energetic and being depressed but i need to lose weight fast. like alot i dont care if its not so healthy but i need to lose at least 20 by june, ive been trying hydroxycut but seriously i cant feel anything. help me, its a must i lose 20 by then
please help, i really dont know what to do with myself=(
You lose 20 by June, you will not keep it off.
A good body comes with hard work. Get that through your head! Not eating will make you fatter. Skipping meals will make you fatter. Severely cutting your calories will make you fatter.
You are wasting your money using those pills. They don't work...especially when you aren't exercising and eating a balanced diet.
You want to lose weight and keep it off? eat healthy foods and exercise. There you go. There's no way around it.
It's a slow process most of the time but it's never been proven wrong.
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i want to know how to make my bottom eyelashes look pretty.. like when i put mascara on but usually it doesnt look right and it gets all globby and stuff.. any tips?? i rate high
rub some of the mascara off of your brush before you apply it. You need to use as little as possible and build on that. You'll avoid clumps that way.
Also, if you're using a curved brush, use the opposite side. It's easier that way on bottom lashes.
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Okay so i am nearly 200 pounds overweight...i know i need to lose weight but i have no motivation...does anyone know of anything that could really motivate at 15 year old girl? Thanks
It might not seem like much, but I can tell you that getting plenty of rest and eating well will do loads for your level of motivation.
Alot can be lost when you're tired and you don't feel well. You start with one day of saying "Well I'm tired. I won't do it today" and we know how that goes!
Don't take on too much at one time. You'll never get through it if you make HUGE goals because it really just feels like you'll never get there. You will though if you take baby steps and congratulate yourself on what you've achieved.
Start with a small goal of maybe 5lbs. Eat well. Sleep well. Don't skip meals. Exercise. In time, you'll notice small changes that will excite you enough to keep on going. I promise you that.
For exercise there are alot of videos available like Tae Bo (works REALLY well), TurboJam, mile walks, etc.
Try any of those. But make sure to incorporate variety. Buy a few if you can. It's alot easier to stick to an exercise program if you aren't doing the same thing each and every day.
hope that helps and good luck
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well in the future i plan on adopting a child but I'm having a hard time deciding on where to adopt from.. I have 2 things to consider
1) how bad situations are were the child is from
2) how well they will fit into my family (looks wise)
I was thinking of adopting a baby from china but 1- they wont look anything like my family
2- there are over 50 nationalities in china and i don't know which one to pick
i think i want a baby from Mexico but i dont know! its so hard to decide
if a white female with slightly tan skin and dark hair
I want pics only please! if you can send me pics of coutries that alow adoption and what a child from there might look like that their situation what not that would be amazing! (must have most of that to get a 5)
I'm really open to any country accept like america and canada!
You sound like an idiot.
I hope you cannot adopt.
You adopt a child because you want a baby with every fiber of your being. This isn't a dog. Who the hell cares what the baby looks like? It's a baby and when you take him/her in, he/she becomes a part of you and your family no matter what.
Does it really matter from which country you adopt? No. It really doesn't.
Are you adopting because you truly, in your heart, want a baby or are you adopting because you want a pretty little family unit? Jesus. You sound so selfish and uncaring about the entire thing.
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i definitley have that triceps jiggle going on..im pretty thin all over, but ive got the jiggle going on...any advice on how to seriuosly firm up without weights?
Try the "Yoga Now" dvd's. They're available at Target.
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Okay, this is really really embarrassing but...I can't think of what else to do but ask it on here...because it's anonymous.
I have these little bumps around my nipples, in the areola kind of, and I was wondering if that was normal...? I'm only 16, so I don't think it would be breast cancer lumps or anything like that...
If it's what I think you're talking about, those are perfectly normal. They're just glands.
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f/17 ok so theres this guy and i like him so much i had not seen him a whole year because we moved schools and in january i saw him again! He asked me to go to his house so i went nothing happened we only kissed. But only this time the kissing was better than when we went out before and i know there was a conection.i asked him so are we back together hes like yes. The problem comes now... Afterwards there was a little contact on msn but he never phones me he never has i think its because ive always phoned him.Well i then got the flu and was really ill so we never spoke for ages and now i hear hes really ill someone said urber? ill i don't know if that means super ill but i sent him messages when i found out and hes not answered me hes not text me, hes not emailed me back, hes not even picked up his phone well he came on msn the other day and i was like hello u have had me worried are u ok and i said can you text me to let me know you are ok and ive heard nothing hes been of school a week but i don't go his school anymore so i don't know its from a friend i heard hes not well.Now my question is what shall i do??? also i think i like him more than he likes me although he says he loves me and that he will do anything for me and he has stood naked in frount of me once but we never had sex! i don't think he wants it and im still a virgin at 17 is it wrong?someone help me please i will rate you high for any answers that help.thank you in advance.
He's sick. Leave him alone.
Guys don't like hysterical girls. Give him his space. He'll call you when he feels better.
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Can being sexually active irregulate my period, or if i just started having my period this year can it still b adjusting and i took a pregnancy test and it said i wasnt pregnant so what could be going on?
Usually, during the first few years of your period, it's going to be irregular. That's pretty common. The stress that comes with worrying whether or not you're pregnant and why your period hasn't come yet, can also throw it off.
I'm not sure about sex. It's never thrown me off but that's not to say it can't.
Just chill. Wait a few days. If it still doesn't come, try taking another pregnancy test to be safe.
I'm sure it'll come though if you just give it awhile.
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alright so, me and my bf have been together 2 months. . . im falling in love with him.. you may think oh thats really fast, but then again you cant help who or when you fall in love.. ok but i dont know if he loves me to.. my best friend tells me he does.. that it takes two people. and im scared to say it cuz i dont know what he will say back. . . so what should i do basically
Not fast at all (I only dated my boyfriend 1 month longer than you before we said it and 5 1/2 years later, we're still together). People are too quick to put a time stamp on love. If you feel it, you feel it.
if you don't think it would freak him out, say it. If you totally aren't sure of his feelings (as opposed to not being sure because you're nervous), then wait awhile and get a feel for the situation.
If it turns out that he doesn't say it back, it's okay. It doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. He just isn't ready to say it. Everyone falls at a different pace. But let him know it's okay with you. Otherwise, you might make him feel pressured to work at your speed.
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Okay, so I broke up with this guy (almost 2-year relationship) like...five months ago, or something. I fought with him about three months ago and said I'd give him space. Well I did, and I IM'd him tonight on a whim. It was stupid, I guess. I didn't expect him to be hostile, and I wasn't going to bring up the relationship, or the breakup, or anything, and HE did. He brought it up by asking me basically why the hell I was talking to him. I was worried about him when I broke up with him - I didn't exactly consider him the most emotionally stable at that point, and part of me wanted to know if he was okay, because I was the one who hurt him...so I told him that, and he said I didn't get to know how he was because I wasn't part of his life anymore, and shit like that.
Now, I have kind of a thick skin - I'm a performer, so I have to. He said that, and I said "if you can ever find it in your heart to forgive me, then I'd like to try being friends again," and then offered to leave him alone, and he said "thank you," and I closed the window.
...and then I started crying. Lol.
I don't understand why it upset me so much. I've dealt with ex boyfriends before, he's not the first...but he's the only one, it seems like, who isn't willing to try to bring back the friendship.
We're in college, so we're not in a situation where we see each other, and he has to admit that I exist. He doesn't - he's like all the way across the country.
So basically, I guess I'm asking - how do I deal with this? Why did it upset me? At this point, I have no idea what's going on with my head.
Help?
Good spelling and grammar is appreciated...
It's obviously difficult to be such a big part of someone's life for almost 2 years and then be reduced to nothing. Of course that would upset you. It would upset anyone.
You remember the times when you knew everything about each other and when YOU were the person he came to and trusted (and when he was the one you went to and trusted). Whether romance is involved or not, it's hard to lose that kind of closeness with anyone. I'm sure that's what's upsetting you.
Unfortunately, that seems to be the overall situation for the time being. The most you can do to deal with it is to realize that most of what he said was probably said out of anger and hurt. Who knows what the future will bring when you're both on better footing (or he is anyway).
Just try to do as you would do with any breakup. Spend time with the people you're close to. Try to take your mind off of it for now while he has a chance to heal. If the relationship was nearly 2 years, it's going to take him awhile to get to where he's able to possibly befriend you.
If it helps at all, I was in the same situation with an ex boyfriend and we went a few years without talking before we patched things up and became friends again. It is possible. (Only...hopefully it won't be a few years for you two :p)
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ok, so me and my boyfriend have a long distance relationship but i'm seeing him in a week and i KNOW we're gonna end up going far. I love him so much, i know the risks of everything, i just don't like the way i look and don't want him to see me i guess.... i know this is like an awkward question/statement but i don't shave my vagina, is that gross/a turn off(i know they prefer it shaven but... should I)??? and one time in 9th grade i shaved my ass when i was drunk, yeah... i know, and even though there was no hair there then, it grew back gross and thick and i DO NOT want to shave it again and i'm not gonna like go get it waxed thats too weird for me, WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!?!?!?
Not all guys prefer a girl to be completely shaven. It's really up to you what you do with it. If he loves you, it's really not going to bother him too much if you aren't totally shaven. But I would at least trim it down if I were you (easier to maintain if you don't want to go as far as waxing it). No one likes a big gina bush in their face.
Shave your ass anyway. Or Nair it? He will thank you for that.
There's not a whole lot you can do other than that. Guys don't like copious amounts of strange body hair.
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this is probably going to be really long..
ok well im 14/f in 8th grade.
ok so the summer before 7th grade like changed everything. theres this boy, chris that i never really talked to until that summer. i dont kno how it started but one day we just started talking online and he told me how he used to like me and everything. after that we just kept talking throughout the whole summer, and that's when i started to like him.
we continued to talk online, but we never actually hung out. then one day, i told him i liked him. he said he liked me too but i kinda just shrugged it off and we didn't go out or anything.
so then 7th grade started. we hardly talked for the first couple months. then i remember in october, there was a halloween dance, and my one friend, who was really good friends with him at the time, was like oh you guys should dance together.. we didn't. i was stupid and just like stood there. i'm also REALLY REALLY shy, so talking to him online for me was easy, but to his face, i got like speechless. i know that after a while though, i'd become more outgoing around him. but that never happened..
so during november, he asked me out again. except it was online and through my friend. i, for the second time, was stupid, and said no. i regret it to this day. like the time before that, he didnt actually ask me out. but this time, he was, and it was soo weird for me cause he would've been my first boyfriend, so i just like freaked out and said no. i regret it soo much. i just wonder how things would've been =[
anyway, i think after that, he had this thing with like kicking me in the hall. lol not like to hurt me.. but yeah soo that was like our thing for a week or two, but then one day i went over to him to kick him and he was like "im not kicking you anymore" i dont know what exactly he meant by that. i dunno if he meant this is stupid, i dont want to get in trouble [cause one time a teacher yelled at us lol] or that he didnt like me anymore. but i duno
after that we continued to talk online still. but it was becoming more me iming him first and he didnt talk as much, it was usually me talking the most .
the rest of 7th grade was just a blur. towards the end he went out with different girls, and rarely talked to me. i still imed him online, but he acted like he didnt care.
i know this sounds weird, but i became kinda like stalkerish online. i like imed him everyday. i regret it alott .i guess i was just desperate for him to like me or something.
the summer was like that too..so then 8th grade started and i dunno what happened. we rarely talk except if he asks to borrow a pen or something. he's only in one of my classes. one time in like september i kinda just like let out my feelings when i was iming him. he told me that im shy, which i know i am..i think thats why he doesnt like me.. he liked me in 6th grade because he didnt know me, and now he thinks he does, but he doesnt b/c im not always shy.
anyway, i havent spoken to him online since september or october. i talk to him in school rarely, but its not even talking its like, him asking me for a pencil and me being like "here" ughh. i just wish things were back to the way they used to be. like the day before 7th grade he was like i cant wait to go to school tomorrow cause ill see you..=[ i miss that.
now we never talk. AND he has a girlfriend..they were going out since october but broke up in february like, twice, but not they're back together. i doubt it will last..
i mean like sometimes i'll catch him looking at me. iduno. i still like him so muchh. he probably doesnt even remember or care, about what happened between us. i just wish he would realize what it means to me. i dunno wut to do. how should i talk to him? i want us to atleast talk more again. i know i should get over him but ive tried and i cant. should i say something to him in class, and what should i say? should i try iming him again? or would that be weird since i havent imed him since september? im desperateee=[ thank you so much
I'm positive he stopped talking to you because he was confused and probably a little hurt. You talked. You sent the "i like you" vibe, but you didn't follow through with it.
It might work in your favor to contact him again (maybe through AIM first since that seems to be easier for you) and kind of explain what happened. Tell him what you told me. Alot can be solved when you just let someone else know what is on your mind.
For all you know, he could have the misconception that he was just someone to flirt with and that you didn't care even though you did.
It's never too late to contact him again. Especially if you feel this badly about it. And you know, if he REALLY didn't ever want to talk to you again he wouldn't bother to ask you for a pencil. He'd just flat out ignore you. I'll bet that if you explain what happened, you two can definitly work back up to where you were. But it will be up to you to make the first move.
If you need a bost, I'd try something like saying hey and asking what he's up to. And kind of lead into it. Sort of like "I've really wanted to tell you what went on *go into what you told me* and tell him that you're sorry you didn't show him how great you really thought he was. You didn't ever want him to think that he was anything less than that.
Good luck
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So, i've been going through some crap. i'm a freshman, and at the beginning of the year i was in a show where i met a bunch of seniors and juniors and sophomores and other freshman and became friends with them. one of them i immediately had a crush on and his name was david, and he's a senior. he's had a girlfriend for almost a year now, but the girlfriend is a sophomore and she is SO oblivious to what is going on around her and she has no social life and she studies all the time, and she's not a very sexual person at all though her boyfriend is. so by the time the show ended, we were all really good friends. a few weeks later, i started another show with some of them, and david was in it and we grew to be even closer. we used to talk online every night about stuff. keep in mind, now, that he didnt get all that much from his girlfriend. after awhile, things began to get a little out of hand online-i told him that i do masturbate, and that's where it kind of took off. we started to like do it together online, and it wasnt all that bad, but it still was wrong. and we told each other everything and talked about sex all the time and fantasies we have and who we'd like to have sex with. he would compliment me all the time, and tell me i'm beautiful and that he would love to have sex with me someday, but he would never do anything right now because i'm so much younger than him (he's 18, i'm 14). so this went on 2-4 times a week, and it slowly got like more intense and we would say what we were doing as we did it and i dont know what made me do it because i know it was stupid and all but i had a huge crush on him and he made me feel so good about myself. and he used to kid around all the time about sending naked pictures. until one night when he actually did. they got more and more "risky" each picture he sent and by the last one was just like him naked and it was so fun but so wrong! and he asked me to do the same..so i said i would..but i was so afraid because im self conscious and naked pictures are just a bad idea in general. so the next night i did it and sent more teasingly pictures than completely naked ones, and he sent more, and the next night we did it together at the same time and did the whole cyber thing. he also sent a video and asked me to do the same the next night..i was so stressed out every day because i didnt want to take the pictures but at the same time i did and i loved his compliments and i wanted to please him and a video would be just awkward you know? but the night before we did he went to a party, got drunk, and kissed another girl and had to tell his girlfriend and it was this big to do so i told him we need to stop and we did. so then i was like alright we'll still be close and all will be well. yeaaaa right. he didnt talk to me that much at all and he told people he was sick of me and he totally ignored me for a week and during that week i figured out from talking to other people and through whats been going on that he was just using me and he never actually cared about me and was only nice to me and pretended to be my friend so id send the pictures and cyber with him at night. not only did he do this to me, he started to do this with another girl within the past week. and shes 14 too. it sucks and it hurts a lot and he IMed me this morning and said "you are really mad at me huh?" and i just let him have it and i felt so great but he was sweet and said he really does care and really is my friend and all and feels guilty and like..w'ere going to talk later tonight..and i still like him..and i dont know what i should do now! not be friends with him anymore? be aquaintances? be friends? let it all go? be mad or upset? i'm so confused. sorry this is so long, but any help/advice would be greatly appreciated!:)
He was using you hardcore. Don't even talk to him. There is something VERY seriously wrong with an 18 year old boy who requests naked photos of 14 year old children.
You probably won't do it, but you SHOULD call the police on this pervert.
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will first time sex hurt even if your hymen has broken? will you still be tight or will it be good the first time?
My hymen was already torn by the time I lost my virginity and it still hurt. Just instead of a sharp pain like with your hymen it's just a slight stinging instead. It's really not that bad as long as you make sure that you've had enough foreplay and you're not uptight.
Unless you've stuck an elephant up there or something, yes you will still be tight. Your first experience with sex is never mind blowing. It's awkward to say the least.
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Who sings the song 'We're going to be Friends'
Its in the beginning of the movie of Napoleon Dynamite, thanks.
-The White Stripes
"The Promise" -When in Rome
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where are some places to buy good hair dye? like I'm looking for normal colored stuff (like brown) but the fun colors are fine too (as long as they have reg colors there!)
because when i got to grocery stores and get like loreal or revlon hair dye they never turn out like they say and fade out of my hair real fast and I'm looking for more professional hair dyes to do myself (well my mom who knows what she is doing)
do they carry them at places like sallys?
ohh yeah web sites are good as long as they have stores too!
( i live in PA if that matters!)
You could try buying some dye from hair salons. Though most of the brands you buy in stores make formulas for salons anyway. The only real difference between the two is the application process (so actually going to a salon and having your hair colored might be worth considering).
It could be that your hair just doesn't take color that well because it's too dry. Make sure that your hair is very well conditioned before you color it. The better conditioned your hair is, the easier it will take to coloring. It will also last longer.
You could also try layered coloring (so that even if the color DOES fade, it won't be as noticeable). But you'd probably have to go to a salon for that. It's too hard to do on your own.
Herbal Essences and Garnier, in my opinion, sell the best hair dyes. They're gentler and the color is bolder and lasts longer (at least for me).
The best way to keep your color vibrant is to use shampoos and conditioners made specifically for colored hair (or the gentlest shampoo you can find) and to wash your hair every other or every few days (depending upon the type of hair you have). Also protect your hair with caps when tanning and swimming because both fade your color very quickly.
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ok well i have like soo many pimples and i have cream but does toothpaste really help them go away? please ii need help. this guy said he likes but i have too many pimples&ihate them too so please help. ill rate high.
Toothpaste does absolutely NOTHING for pimples. Don't even try it. It will only dry your skin out and waste what you could be using on your teeth.
Proactiv works very well. It is expensive though. So if it's out of your price range, try Booth's Cosmeceuticals (I use it and it's GREAT). You can buy specific products for touble areas or a starter kit that mirrors Proactive. You can get it at Target for about $15
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ok ... well i got my period in 6th grade. im now in 8th grade and i don't use tampons. is this bad? should i start using them? how do i start? i'm kind of scared to .. i tried once but chickened out. all of my friends that have their period, even those who just got it, say they use tampons. with the summer coming up &all .. should i start? thanks
You don't have to wear them if you don't want to. It's not a big deal. Though it would probably benefit you to learn how just in case you decide to swim or participate in any type of sport while you are on your period. Believe me, they come in handy then.
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