okay so im in 8th grade and i like this boy in 9th, EVERYONE knows i like him, even he knows! but here's the thing, i dont even know him but i feel REALLY uncomfortable being around him because whenever we are around eachother one of my friends yells out something like "hey! there;s your lover" as a joke or whatever but it really embaresses me and i've tried to be normal with him but my friends just screw it up!! also im good friends with his little brother (in my grade), and his brother ALWAYS makes fun of me in like a meanw ay for liking his brother!! and omg i am so confused i dont know if he likes me (the 9th grade brother)! please help, i cant really even understand what i just wrote but all i want to know is :
A:do you think i might have a little chance with the 9th grade brother?
B: how do i get my fried (the 98th grade brother) to stop being immature and mean?
C:how do i get the fact that i HATE it when my friends yell out things infront of him?
Thanks! sorry if its long and doesnt really make sence!
sensiraly (cant spell), confused one.....
Well,sometimes it takes giving someone a dose of their own medicine to make them realize that what they are doing is hurting someone else.And that's not always the most mature and classy way of doing things.If you haven't already,try talking to your friends and explaining to them that while they may think they are just joking,it's really hurting your feelings and embarrassing you.Obviously they don't know how to kid properly-you should both be laughing!Ha!If they don't respond to that,then believe me,they aren't worth the hurt and the time.As for the little brother,let's face it,young guys are immature and silly.They will do anything to get a laugh at someone elses expense.Next time he makes a joke,just say something smart right back to him,and show him that his little grade school antics aren't bugging you in the slightest(even tho they are),in fact,they're only making him look dumb.As far as your crush,all I can tell you is you'll never know if you don't try.Get to know him better,speak to him,flirt with him subtly,and you should be able to tell pretty quickly if he's feelin' you! I hope this helps you out some.If you need anything more,just leave a note in my inbox!Best of luck hunnie!! ;) Remember,confidence is key!
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okay my motto is that I'm young wnough not to know and old enough not to give a ....(fill in the blank)
and u see.. with me that pretty much means that I'm leagle... even though I'm 16
So.. is it bad to have a crush on someone who is like 7 years older than me? And what if it possibly happened 2 turn out to be something in like a year or so... is this wrong?
Well,at your age,a 7 year age difference is a BIG deal.You will change so many times over the next few years as you grow up,and come into your own.You'll find that someone who is 7 years older won't be able to relate to you in the way that you need someone to right now.This is all aside from the fact that it's illegal as well! :( When you turn 18,you are a legal adult and can make your own decisions,just be careful about them and put a lot of thought into something like that before you leap into it.For now,I think it's best to avoid being with this person romantically.I have a close friend about your age,and even tho I've told her the same thing many times,she had to learn the hard way,that those kind of relationships typically don't work.Who knows,maybe in a few years when you're an adult,you two will be able to make it work.But also in those few years,maybe you'll meet a nice guy that's closer to your age!It's not wrong to have a crush,but I most definitely wouldn't act on it now,and he should respect that and do the same.Hope this helps you some!
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Ok, this guy at my school used to be my best friend when me and my ex were going out. Then after we broke up, my friend fell in love with me! I like him too.
But me and another one of my exes have been talking, and he asked me out on a date to a valentine's ball.
I was going until my friend said HE was going to spend that same day with me. I do want to spend the day with both, but when I told one about the other, they were saying,"oh, you can go with him if you want", and i know they didn't really mean that. Who should I pick? Thanks bunches:)
Well hun,as generic and Hallmark sounding as it may be,you just have to follow your heart.Sit down and think about each guy,all of his positives and negatives.Maybe even write out a pro and con list for each guy.Ask yourself who makes you laugh more,who knows you better,who are you more comfrotable with,etc. Think of who will treat you better,and those kinds of things.Personally I believe that the best relationships start out as friendships.And you have to think,your ex became your EX for a reason!But truly,follow your heart.It may not seem like it right away,but your heart will lead you to the right person.Try what I said,sit down and weigh your possibilities,you might be surprised by some of the feelings that come out. Best of luck hun!I hope I helped you some,and if you need anything just leave another note in my inbox! :)
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hey
i'm a 16 year old gurl and i just recently started going out with one of my friends(gurl)and i dont know if i'm bi but i think i like her....anyways when i'm not with her i think about her but when i'm with her it feels odd and i dunno i just dont know how to act.....from what you here does this sound normal to you? and if i get anything like.....no its not normal cuz your with a gurl....i will give a very low rating anyways thx in advance to those who help!
It's not odd hunnie,it just sounds like you are,as you said,confused.I think the real issue here is do you have any sexual attraction to your friend? If you're feeling like that about her,then yes there's a good possibility that you're bisexual,and there's NOTHING wrong with that.It's a part of who you are.If you aren't having any physical or sexual thoughts or feelings for your friend it may just be a real good friendship,but since you are confused and curious about your own sexuality,you're starting to question your feelings for her.I think you should take some time alone and just really examine your thoughts and feelings about females in general,not just her.Maybe even keep a journal or something to write down how you're feeling.Ask yourself if you are physically attracted to girls,if you get turned on by females,if there are certain girls you know that you could see yourself being in a relationship with.You may just be curious,so ask yourself,do I really want to be with a female,can I see myself with her romantically,or do I just think she's an attractive girl? Because it is possible to think another female is sexy and not want to get with her,ya know?I'm sorry for rambling but I hope this helped you out some.If you need anything else,just leave a note in my inbox!Take care! :)
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hey i was the one who asked a ? about my bf n sex and how he doesnt wanna rush me...but whats a depo shot? how old do you have to be and is it confidental and how much is it?? thx
The Depo shot is a form of birth control.The Depo-Provera shot.Basically,instead of taking a pill every day,you go every so often and get a shot.There is no age restriction as far as I know,and yes,if you go to Planned Parenthood it is strictly confidential.If you are a student and unemployed it's pretty inexpensive to go to Planned Parenthood.That's the whole point of PP is to have a place where young females can go and be examined and put on a method of birth control,and feel safe in knowing that everything is 100% confidential.The doctors and nurses there are very nice and can answer any questions you have.Check out their website for a lot of information,and to locate the one closest to you.Check out www.plannedparenthood.com ! Hope I helped and if you EVER need anything,don't hesitate to write me again! :)
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ok me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months and weve knnown eachother for a year and we havent really done anything yet...i go to his house every wednesday and we are home all alone..and we just havent done anything...hes not the innocent boy i mean hes not a virgin and neither am i (only once) lol....but i dont knw...weve done handjobs, fingering etc..but not oral or intercourse....he says he doesnt want to rush me into anything because he loves and respects me and my body...im really ready though too and i think he is too...we are only 16...the only fear im having is PREGNANCY! what is the best type of condom, how can you prevent it to break, etc?
Wow,a guy that respects you and your body enough to not rush you into anything...good catch girl!;) Anyway,Trojan,while they may be a bit more expensive,are best in condoms.You can never guarantee 100% that they won't break,no matter what kind you buy,but Trojans are tops.You may also want to go to your gyno or a place like Planned Parenthood(www.plannedparenthood.com for locations) and get put on the pill or the depo shot,just to be extra extra careful!Make sure you use that condom every time!!!Hope I helped ya some,if you have any other questions just leave a note in my inbox! :)
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me and my boyfriend have been going out for like a week now. and the other day he asked me if i wanted sex.
we r madly in love, but im not sure if its the right time in the relationship?
what should i do?
luv nicki xxxxx
A week is pretty early to be getting into a sexual relationship.That's a serious thing,and a HUGE step in a relationship.I would sit down and talk with your boyfriend and let him know flat out that you just aren't ready to do that yet.Let him know it's nothing personal against him,you're just not prepared for that right now and you'd rather take it slow.If he understands that and respects you and your wishes,he's a keeper.If he gets all pissy about it or continues to ask you and/or pressure you,it's time for him to go as much as it may hurt you.You deserve a guy that will respect you and the fact that he has to earn you,that you're special and don't just do that with anyone.He has to deserve it!I hope this helps you out.I know it sounds a bit mother-ish,but it's the truth hunnie!! :)
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does anyone know where to get jeans that are a little below ur waist and are about $15-30? someone please help and i may rate you a 5!
I love all the little shops in the mall like Forever 21,Rainbow,Aeropostale,Rave,Deb,etc. Also,I always have had good luck in finding great affordable jeans in the Alloy catalog.You can go to their website www.alloy.com and order online in the online store,or request a catalog in the mail,and then call and place your order.I've ordered a lot of stuff from them. Delia*s is also a great place to look!I hope this helps you out! ;)
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how often a week should you do toning (by this i mean situps, crunches, lunges, and squats)? is everyday okay? and if you're doing these things, do you really need to do weights in the gym?
I've always heard that doing approx. 20-30 minutes a day of situps,crunches,squats,and lunges is a really good workout.That's what I did when I was actually disciplined enough to work out!Haha! ;) As far as the weights,that's really up to you.If you're looking for more muscle definition in your arms and/or legs that's definitely a great thing to do.I reccomend checking out Seventeen magazine's Seventeen Trainer section.They have some really great exercises that I've tried and found to actually work!Hope this helps some!!! :)
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I have hair that is a little longer than shoulder length, layered, and stick straight. I would really like to do shiny mermaid waves in my hair---you know, those waves that are very un-frizzed and soft looking...does anyone know how to do these?
A friend taught me this trick: Wash and condition your hair like normal,and then after you get out of the shower,first apply a frizz serum,like John Frieda Frizz Ease Hair Serum.Don't over do the serum,just follow the instructions.Then apply a curl enhancing mousee,and pull your hair back into 2 buns on each side,like princess leia,lol.Then,finally,take one big scrunchie and wrap it around the two buns to join them together.Sleep on it,and when you get up in the morning,take out the 3 scrunchies and shake it out.Use a pick or your fingers to toussle it and shake it out so that you have some volume at the top.I hope this helps!!:)
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does anybody know where i can get music for free.. i really want to hear this song from like.. a year ago.. but i dont know where to find it?! i will rate 5s:)
Well,you can always check out sites like LimeWire or WinMX!Those are the free sites.If you're not confrotable using the free sites and would feel better with the legal pay sites,check out iTunes or walmart.com!! Good luck in finding that song!;)
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hi... after about a week after i had my period i had sex for the first time.... and i didnt use protection. ( bad mistake) and.. now its been about 4 weeks and ive been feeling abit sick ( but i usually get like this when im going to have my periods) and i havent got them yet and im really scared that i could be pregnant.. and when i felt up my virgina i felt this weird thing inside me.. could this be and unborn baby i might have??? pleace help, im really scared about this
I wouldn't be preparing the nursery just yet.There's no way you could actually reach up and FEEL the baby inside you,even if you were 6 months pregnant.You said that the symptoms you are having right now aren't uncommon for you when you get your period,so it could just be good 'ole PMS.Sometimes,having sex so soon after your period,or even during it,can throw your cycle off track just a little bit.Nothing serious,it just happens sometimes,especially since this was your first time.Typically 4 weeks is too soon to tell if you're pregnant or not,the average menstrual cycle comes every 28 days,give or take a few days.So,I would wait it out another week and half,and if you haven't started or aren't even showing symptoms that you're going to start,you should get a home pregnancy test.And,as I think you learned,from now on,always use protection.If you're planning on being sexually active regularly,you may want to consider getting on some form of birth control.If you have any more questions or concerns,please don't hesitate to leave a note in my inbox!!Hope this helped!:)
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I have just moved to Virgirnia from Oklahoma, and I want to buy a new car. However the registration of my old car is expired. I am wondering whether I can trade-in this car when I buy a new car. If I can not, how can I get rid of it?
As far as I know you can't get the trade-in value of a car that isn't current on it's info.Since the laws vary state by state,check with your local DMV,they will be able to tell you what your options are!Hope this helps! :)
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16/m/tx
lol, as the subject of my question suggests, i um, have a micro touch hair trimmer, i got one for xmas cuz i thought they were cool and i got bored...so...i um, ran to the bathroom and like, trimmed my hedge so to speak? lol, it's not like bald or anything but it's cleaned up and i think it's COOL lookin :p, plus, it makes what i have look like the 8 it is, and not like a 7 :/ , lol, so what i'm asking is should i keep it short and well kept, or, grow it out and just be all natural like the chick on "without a paddle" ?? =O haha :p
xxxkylestylexxx is my advice column, there's a pic of me on there, stop by! :p
thx,
-Kyle
Male or female I'm always an advocate for keeping things neat down there!!LoL So I say,keep it neat and trimmed,just be careful so you don't cause ingrown hairs or irritation down there because that is NOT something anyone wants to experience.A good way to avoid that is to apply baby oil after shaving.You don't want to use your average creams,lotions,or moisturizers because they contain all kinds of scents and chemicals in them that will not only cause even more irritation down there,but will burn like you wouldn't believe!So,keep it trimmed nicely,and apply a little baby oil afterward to keep it soft and clean down there! Hehe ;)
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Hey Everybody!
My High School will be having a Sweethearts Dance in February, and the girls ask out the guys. Well, there's this guy I like and in the past we had our little trouble times, but I think he likes me again! I want to ask him, but I don't know how. So, do any of you know how I should ask him to the dance?
I know I have asked this question before, just a little reminder because I need to ask him, now! So if you have anymore ideas, tell me as soon as possible!!
Love you guys.
~MiSSc~
P.S.~ I wanna do something sweet for him since he's a sweet guy. I want to ask him out that involves a poem, chocolate (because he loves chocolate), or anything special or cool. So, Got any tips?
Ahhh,the dreaded Sweetheart Dances,I remember those well,lol!Well,since you say you want to be creative about this,there are lots of different routes you can take.You can do something simple,like leaving a box of chocolates inside his locker,only take out the chocolates.In each compartment where the piece of chocolate would be write a word on a little piece of pink or red paper,fold it up,and sit it in that compartment.Make it so the words spell out WILL YOU GO TO THE SWEETHEART DANCE WITH ME and then one with your name.That way it's like a puzzle he has to solve.And maybe on top,put a note that says something like "You have to piece together the puzzle inside before you get the chocolates".Only you could be a little more creative with it than that generic statement I just gave you!LoL If you know where he lives,dash on over to Hallmark and buy a Secret Pal card that's suitable for this situation.Get it home,and write him a poem that asks him to be your date,and asks him to meet you somewhere if he's interested.Then tuck it in the card,and mail it to his house.If you wanna be more direct,so he KNOWS who the card and poem are coming from,write the poem out so that at the end it reveals your name(and number if you wanna include that),and then mail that card!! I hope this helped you a little bit,and I wish you the best of luck in catching your sweetheart! ;) Keep me posted!!! :)
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Ok, I recently picked up a couple subwoofers for my car (2 350W 10" Zebras powered by an 800W amp) and now I was looking at my gravy on my plate.. And it seems to be bouncing.. It never did this kind of thing before I got the subs, and I was wondering if they might be the cause?
Sometimes you can experience sort of an "aftershock" type effect from all the bass and volume in the subs,but they won't ruin your eyesight that I know of.Subs CAN have an impact on your hearing tho,so be careful with the volume level! ;) If you're having vision problems,let one of your parents know,or you yourself call and make an appointment with an eye doctor for a check up.You may have a slight vision problem that is totally unrelated to the subs.But in my opinion it sounds like you're still just feeling as if you're in the car with the vibrations of the subs.It'll ware off after a while. :)
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my doctor told me i was anemic, but i have no idea what that means. can anyone exaplain it to me?
Anemia is a common blood disorder that simply means there's a decrease in the volume or level of red blood cells in your body.Usually some symptoms include paleness,feeling tired a lot,feeling weak,having very little energy,and generally feeling run down.It's very treatable,and usually is handled by increases the iron levels in your body,either with an iron supplement,an increase of iron in your diet,or a combination of both.Your doctor will probably want you to come back every so often for blood work to check the level again,and see how things are going.Don't stress yourself,many people have anemia,and it doesn't have them living anything less than normal!! Hope this helps! :)
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im 18 and a virgin and i have a really small penis
its almost 3 inches long when erect i did have a girlfriend but she did'nt stay long when she saw my penis im worried that i will not be able to have a relationship does size matter that much?
is there anyway of makin it bigger?
Any girl that would dump you for that reason is shallow,and not the kinda chick you want as a girlfriend anyway!Of course you'll be able to have a relationship!We all tend to view our own bodies as being ten times worse than other people view them!The whole issue of whether or not size matters is made into a much bigger deal than it really is.There aren't any magic pills or old home remedies that are gonna make your privates grow!You're simply dealt what you're dealt.The real trick is in being confident in yourself,your body,and your ability to use it! ;) Then,trust me,the whole issue of size will be out of your mind!!! Hope this helps put your mind at ease a bit! :)
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ok, well....for the basics..I have had sex with 2 different people in my entire life (and to make things worse, they tell people i did it with them like a WHOLE BUNCH!!!) , and now all of this persons friends call me a slut and say im sloppy seconds (because, i am now dating ther friend.)And, Im going to have to go to school with all these people next year...sooo, basically what im asking is how do i get these people to stop calling me names? I rate HIGH!!! please HELP!
Well,unfortunately,you can't just make them stop.But what you can do is have pride in yourself,and walk down the halls with your head held high.You know what happened,and you know that you're not a slut at all,it's all just some juvenile boys attempt at feeling "macho".If someone confronts you about it,let them know "hey look,nothing happened the way he's saying it did.I know the truth,and in all reality,HE knows the truth.So you can choose to believe what you want,but the fact is,his story just isn't true!" I know it isn't always the greatest comfort in the world,but you know the truth,and you know you're not a slut,you're not a bad person,you're not any of the things these immature people are labeling you as.So,carry yourself with confidence and pride,and just have fun with your friends and new boyfriend.Smile,laugh,enjoy life.When someone confronts you,try what I said.And if someone does something like yelling "slut" down the hall at you,look at them and give them a sarcastic half laugh.The more these people see you laughing,smiling,having a good time with your friends and boyfriend,and letting this whole thing slide off your back,the less fun it will be for them to bug you with it.In the words of Jay-Z "go on,brush your shoulders off"! ;) I hope this helps you and that things get better.They will,I promise!
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Okay i have this "friend" and she's getting on my nerves. the thing is that i know i'm a shopaholic and i shopa nd buy thing a lot it's just the thing i do. so we went to the mall a few days ago and while she has $100 for shopping i didnt so i was like these are nice pants i'm going to tell my mom and we go back to get them and she all the sudden started yelling at me about me going shopping so much and everything and that i shouldnt buy anything from now on because it's way to much money. what should i do or say to her? it just pissed me off that it's any of her business that i buy things because it's not like she's paying for it...please help me if you can. and it feels like she's always competing with me with clothes or something...she doesnt excatly live where i do because her house is like the size of my living room(not to be mean or anything tho cuz i'm in a new subdivision with the nice houses) and she's always like yeah i use to do this and that like she was all rich before and that gets me mad...i'm not rich or nothing but enough to get by yah kno? Please help! thanks!
It sounds to me like she's jealous of the way you can buy so many things,and her jealousy comes out in anger and rude remarks.But,you should set her straight about telling you what to buy and what not to buy,and what's too much,etc. I had a friend who used to do that to me,and she made me feel bad about the fact that I had the money to buy myself things,and she didn't.It simply is not her place to be worried about how much money you're spending,and it's of no concern to her what your parents choose to buy for you.Let her know that you feel she's out of line for saying things like that,and that it hurt your feelings and it feels like she WANTS you to feel bad everytime you buy something.If she's a true friend she will understand and be willing to back off a little.Unfortunately,if she blows up at you or doesn't change her ways,the best thing you can do is seperate yourself from her.I speak from experience.You don't need a friend who is going to try and control you and the things you do,or change you in any way.A true friend accepts you for everything you are,everything you do,and everything you say,whether it's something they would do or not. I hope this helps you out a little.If you want,leave a message in my inbox and I will give you my AIM name,because this is all SO familiar to me.And at 21,I have stopped letting people like that run my life.And I would be more than happy to talk with you,and listen to you more privately,if you ever wanna chat!Take care hun,hope to hear from you soon! ;)
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