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Annoying Friend
Okay i have this "friend" and she's getting on my nerves. the thing is that i know i'm a shopaholic and i shopa nd buy thing a lot it's just the thing i do. so we went to the mall a few days ago and while she has $100 for shopping i didnt so i was like these are nice pants i'm going to tell my mom and we go back to get them and she all the sudden started yelling at me about me going shopping so much and everything and that i shouldnt buy anything from now on because it's way to much money. what should i do or say to her? it just pissed me off that it's any of her business that i buy things because it's not like she's paying for it...please help me if you can. and it feels like she's always competing with me with clothes or something...she doesnt excatly live where i do because her house is like the size of my living room(not to be mean or anything tho cuz i'm in a new subdivision with the nice houses) and she's always like yeah i use to do this and that like she was all rich before and that gets me mad...i'm not rich or nothing but enough to get by yah kno? Please help! thanks!
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to tell you the truth i think she is just jealous that you have the money to buy alot of stuff.tell her to stop acting like shes your parents cause ahe aint the one that is givin you the money.i promise she is just jealous itsa obvious!!! good luck!!
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It really sounds like she's jealous of you, because you have more $ to spend and you have a nicer house and everything. That's probably why she's competing with you. I'd stop going shopping with her. If she yells at you at school, just tell her that it's none of her business and change the subject. Good luck!
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♥ Erin
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It sounds to me like she's jealous of the way you can buy so many things,and her jealousy comes out in anger and rude remarks.But,you should set her straight about telling you what to buy and what not to buy,and what's too much,etc. I had a friend who used to do that to me,and she made me feel bad about the fact that I had the money to buy myself things,and she didn't.It simply is not her place to be worried about how much money you're spending,and it's of no concern to her what your parents choose to buy for you.Let her know that you feel she's out of line for saying things like that,and that it hurt your feelings and it feels like she WANTS you to feel bad everytime you buy something.If she's a true friend she will understand and be willing to back off a little.Unfortunately,if she blows up at you or doesn't change her ways,the best thing you can do is seperate yourself from her.I speak from experience.You don't need a friend who is going to try and control you and the things you do,or change you in any way.A true friend accepts you for everything you are,everything you do,and everything you say,whether it's something they would do or not. I hope this helps you out a little.If you want,leave a message in my inbox and I will give you my AIM name,because this is all SO familiar to me.And at 21,I have stopped letting people like that run my life.And I would be more than happy to talk with you,and listen to you more privately,if you ever wanna chat!Take care hun,hope to hear from you soon! ;)
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shes simply jealous.. serious.. you have all this money to throw around and do what you like with.. but still.. you are acting a bit greedy.. sorry to say this but it is true, the way you said that before sounded like you were bragging.. maybe if you dont talk about shopping near her for a while.. and dont say im going to buy this.. coz she probably cant..
hope this helps! :)
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