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I have a younger friend which is 10 and going through puberty...but not really but she might sooner or later; but that's not the question. Her best friend has already sprouted breasts and its getting time that she really needs to get a bra. Her mother keeps on telling her she doesn't need one, and I think that's stupid! I see them popping out, and when I got mine, I wanted to wear one because they don't look really good under t-shirts! What can I do? I really want to help her and she needs my help. Should I buy her one? Maybe if she gets one, her mom mot just agree...
Help!

Ask her Mom if you could take your younger friend out yourself to get her a bra and explain the reasons why, like you know how she feels. Then maybe it will convince her Mom.

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is there such a thing that you can delete a Question/Answer on your advice column? I really want to delete this one Question/Answer, but I dont know how... Is it possible?
Please and Thank You!

-volleyball2150

Well your not actually deleting it but it takes the question off your page.
Go to your column.
Click 'View' on whatever question you want to delete.
Click 'Answer Question' and delete your whole answer and press submit.
Easy as that.

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Im a female and Im 15 years old. Me and my boyfriend had sex yesterday and it was my first time. And it was unprotected sex and I was on my period. Is there a higher risk now that I could get pregrant?

Your not at a higher risk but you could still be pregnant. Get a pregnancy test asap.

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is it possible to be born without a hymen because i've never had sex of any kind and i dont have any sort of covering over my vagina

Your hymen is inside your vagina not over it.

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does anyone know where to get inflatable backpacks that look like http://www.inflateus.com/images/dsi_backpack_blue.gif thanks so much!!

Ebay!

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Does anyone know how to figure out your bra size at home? I hate going into the stores and having the people measure you.

What I do is just go to the store, grab the range of sizes I think I am and then find the perfect fit. Its a lot easier then trying to measure or having someone else measure you.

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For a big portion, it's easy to ask your mom for a bra. I only wear a 34A and she thinks I don't need to buy a bra that much. I only have two, and I want more...but how do I drum up a conversation to ask her? I'm almost 14 (I know, I should be already familar with this) but I'm nervous. What's a great way to ask?
*Stupid Question, I know*

A question is never stupid as long as you truely need advice.

Sit down with your Mom and tell her you dont really know how to talk to her about something like this then just come right out and say it. Believe me, its a lot easier than it sounds. Once you get the subject out there Im sure your Mom isnt gonna try to make you feel uncomfortable. If she says you dont need anymore bras say yours are getting worn out. If she says you dont need them explain to her that you are uncomfortable without wearing one. Hope this helped.

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i cant think of what this song is called it starts off saying " i see you windin and grindin" someone please answer me

There is a song by T-Pain that says something like that but I forgot what its called, sorry.

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theres this one guy i like
he tells me he loves me and that wont ever change and that he's so happy he talks to me and he wants to hold me and kiss me
so obviously he likes me too
but when i go to his myspace all these girls comment him
saying i love you
and like text me later
and he says i love you back and comments there pictures saying cute and everything
i text him all the time too and i wasted all my 500 texts in like a week on him!!!!
and also my best firned started talking to him before i did and like he tells her he loves her too and i know its not a friend kind of love
and i dont know what to do!!!!
cause i really like the him but hes suck a little player/manwhore
i wanna talk to him
but i dont know that to say
someone help me!!!

Dont I repeat DO NOT try to get in a relationship with him.
Guys like that end up cheating on you, dumping you after a few days, or using you for something sexual. Bad idea.
Believe me you could do better than someone who flirts with every girl he talks to.
Take it from someone with experience with a situation like this.

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ok well i went on my boyfriends myspace and i saw a message to another girl this was

it she aint 13 but umm its nothing even serious ne more and the girl is suicidal i think so if i try to brek up with her she will do something to herself so im sl;owing breakin that shit off i no i coul,d do better i had u didnt i?


well... that was about me so i confronted him n turns out it was this girl amber who wants torbeak us up now hes saying he cant trust me, and im fraid hes gunna break up with me, what should i say to him when he calls me, and how can i gain his trust?

He shouldnt be the one mad at you, you should be the one mad at him. If thats how he truely feels about you then why do you want to be with him still? If I were you I would break it off with him. This is probably not what you want to hear but I thought I need to say it. If you guys do end up staying together, he might end up even cheating on you with that girl Amber and that would be worse than what just happened, so my advice is to break up with him.


EDIT: Im not trying to be mean but you are rating everyones answers 1's because it is not what you want to hear and you know it. You like him yes but staying with someone who bad mouths you is not smart. Im sorry I had to write this but felt I had to.

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i mostly shop at ae, but now im starting to like hollister. if im a small in shirts at american eagle, what will i be at hollister? like are the sizes different or the same? thanks a lot:]

You be the same size in shirts but ae jeans are a tiny bit bigger.

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school's coming up..so i'm kind of looking for a new hairstyle..i'm 13yrs.old dark skinned, have nappy hair, and my hair is up to the very end of my neck. what hairstyle do you think would look best on me?

If your face is round, add length to your face by having fullness on the top of head. It can also be achieved by either having no parting or one which is placed to one side. Avoid styles where hair is very long and straight or flat at the top of your head.

For a long face, the forehead, cheek bones and jaw are often of equal width and this can be hard, so a soft hair style is usually more flattering. Avoid center parting and dead straight shoulder length hair but aim at a short one.

Square face has an angular shape and any hairstyle should be gentle to soften the outline. Shoulder length hair, flicking at the ends or straight, is flattering and so is a short style flicking away from the face at ear-level. Hair swept to one side or with a diagonal fringe is attractive.

Try getting side swept bangs and then getting choppy layers all the way around your head but keep your hair the same length, just get it trimmed on the ends. I think that would be very cute.

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Im 15/f, blonde hair, blue eyes, im 110 lbs, im a size 0-3 in pants (depends on store), i have a slim body, im kind've flat chested (A36) and wanted to make them seem bigger haha. I just wanted advice on what clothes to wear, and what kind of make up to wear. I was a tomboy my whole life so, im not good at this. Please help, any suggestions would be appreciated. I have a picture on my advice column if you need a picture.

CLOTHES:

Chic & understated: Black tee with dark denim hipsters, black boots, low-slung black belt, plus an oversized eye-catching necklace in turquoise, silver, or coral. Tres chic!

One part western, one part sophisticated: Distressed boot cut jeans, fitted striped oxford (stay away from plaid to avoid a complete cowgirl look), fringed belt, and pointy-toe boots. Remember to coordinate shoes and belt!

Athletic-inspired: Although a too-cute track suit is absolutely perfect for any other school day, it's just too casual. Instead, wear a sleek, colorful hoodie in terry or velour with a sharp denim mini, fitted tank, and bright new sneaks.

Updated Gypsy: Change the vibe of serious chino trousers (low-rise, a little baggy, but still chic) with a hippie-esque embroidered peasant top. Throw on a few beaded bracelets and add a pair of semi-dressy kitten-heeled sandals.

Add the accessories:
Accessories definitely make or break the clothing. The perfect shoe & belt combination, plus jewelry is required for any great look. Here are five things that you need to fully accessorize this school year:

Fringe suede belt: Adds a rustic appeal to hipsters and a sleek tee. Turquoise. There's nothing better than a great turquoise necklace or cuff with black - such a clean, chic combination!

Chandelier earrings: So elegant, yet so easy to pull off! These gorgeous jewels look just as great with an evening gown as they do with a feminine top and denim.

Trendy sneaks: Required both for those stylishly sporty and those just plain stylish. A great pair of sneaks can take you anywhere.

Boots: Whether you choose a sleek black or distressed brown leather style, the look will definitely be hot!

MAKEUP:

Use a concealer pencil that matches you skin tone to cover any skin imperfections, acnes, skin blemishes, scars or dark circles.

Use a toothbrush to brush brows into place.

Use a soft gray eye pencil to fill in any gaps in the eyebrows.

Use soft gray eyeliner to line the lashes and blend it well to the outside edge.

Apply one coat of brown mascara but if you have naturally black eyelashes, you may also use black mascara too.

If you have a warm skin undertone, use sheer application of peach blush but if you have a cool skin undertone, use soft pink shade. Blend it well using cotton ball.

Use natural shade of lip color or just sheer gloss for a soft nude look and you are ready for the party, girl.

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I'm a 15 year old girl...and i was just wondering how far you think i should go with a boy (please dont say "whatever i'm comfortable with")

and how far did you go when you were 15??

THANKS

Draw the line at sex.

I think your old enough to do whatever you like as long as this guy doesnt "score." So anything inbetween kissing-sex.

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Why do blacklights look purple?

If its black then why use a light?

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i like to wear long shirts but my stomach is a little chubby so i dont know what to do, because the long shirts make my stomach stick out and look big, what are some tips or suggestions i could do to make my stomach not look that big and still can wear long shirts??

Dont buy those very tight fitted thin shirts.

Go for a layered look with thicker materials.

You could also wear a cute vest over a shirt.

Just experiment until you find a good look for you that hides your tummy.

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hi there. i'm a 15 year old girl, 5'2, with a 36DD bust. i also weigh 142lbs. the thing is though i dont think i look that heavy. i'm bigger framed than most of my friends i guess you could say, but i dont exactly have like..a HUGE stomach. i'm in proportion with my chest, haha. i was wondering if this weight was normal for my age. i've been to doctors and they all said i am overweight..but if i work out i'll gain more by building muscle. i want to get down to about 135lbs by october or sooner. so my questions are.

1. am i overweight? and by how much?
2. does anyone know of any good diets?


thank you all so much

Unforetunately, yes you are overwieght.
A healthy weight for your height would be around 130 pounds.

A good diet would just be normal eating. Ill explain it if you dont know what Im talking about.

You should be able to eat when you are hungry and continue eating until you are satisfied. Normal eating isnt necessarily restricted to three meals a day. There should be no problem with eating between meals provided you are aware of what you are eating and physically make the choice to eat it. One theory says that eating between meals smooths the blood sugar level and is in fact beneficial. In the end, it boils down to eating foods that are good for you and following a regular exercise program. Its all a question of balance.

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Ok. This might be a bit long but please, read.

Since I was so stupid, I decided to SHAVE my eyebrows instead of plucking. So now I'm stuck with little hairs poking around my eyebrows. Then I continued to shave the little hairs and it just looks terrible. So then I started plucking the little hairs like I was supposed to. But my question(s) are these:

How can I make it so it doesn't hurt so badly?

And, when I shaved them, I did them totally wrong and small and they gah. It's just so bad.

How can I get them to look good and thin?

Thanks. :(

For making it not hurt so badly, you have a few options.

Ice it before you pluck.
Put lotion on them before or after, whatever works for you.
Pluck right after a shower.
Pluck in the direction the hairs go.

My advice for making them look good is let them keep growing out but pluck the hairs you dont want. To make them look normal while they are growing, draw them on. Once they are fully grown out and you have been plucking stray hairs you dont want they should look pretty good or okay. Then you can go get them professionally done.

Goodluck!

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I want to make a website but I do't know how to. Someone please help me. Thank you in advance to those of you who answer.

www.freewebs.com

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is it normal for people to cry over nothing? like seriously! i think something is wrong with me, maybe depression or something? but i can just sit here and start crying for hours. and so many things will just run throug my head.. do i need help?!

Welcome to the great world of hormones.

Yup it happens to everyone at some point.

But if you are not a teenager then it might be depression and if it happens a lot then you can get medication.

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