Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
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I have known this guy for a year now we have been talking alot and i like him.. anyhoo he texts me every day after school and wants to hang with me and he says all this sweet stuff to me and was like thinking about someone lately and he finally told me it was me so what does he mean does he like me or what? (link)
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Um yessss! That's exactly what it means. Go for it :)
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19/f - this guy who i went to high school with who's 18 or 19 backed into my car the other day and did $1000 worth of damage. he refused to answer my calls/texts about getting his insurance info and denies he did anything, and his girlfriend is sending threats via facebook. anyways my mom works for a lawyer and we've showed him the pictures/texts and all the evidence and he said he will send a certified letter this week stating that if they won't work it out with us privately that we will have a suit filed. my concern is that they won't reply. being a certified letter, they have to sign a statement from the postman saying that they received it, and a letter is sent back to the lawfirm to confirm that. my question is, if they receive the letter and still refuse to call me or work it out, what can happen? will he get in legal trouble or anything? im not sure how all this works. i dont WANT to get anyone in trouble, i just want my car to be payed for and fixed, but they have me down to my last straw. also, this occured when i was home from college on christmas break, and now i am back 3 hours away so its hard for me to go back at anytime. also, the guys parents are apparently out of town so we can't get in touch with them. (link)
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Hi there,
I also use to work for a law firm. It's not that they will get in trouble but sending a letter from a lawyer may certainly frighten them into answering your calls.
The letter would just state that the lawyer is aware of the damage done to your vehicle and if they do not agree to make suitable arrangements between yourselves then further legal action will take place. These words alone will definitely take the stubbornness away from someone.
If however, they do not respond to the letter or contact you or your lawyer to make payment arrangements then another letter will be sent out with further instructions that will or may take place.
Hopefully they are sensible enough to come to terms with their mistakes and take some responsibility. I know you don't want to take things any further then a letter but the people wont get a strike on their record.
My advice, send them a letter and make them pay for the damage they have done. Might as well teach them a lesson now before next time it ends up being more then $1000 worth of damage.
Good luck. Hope I helped.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating two months or so, and I've known him for a good year. We were great friends while I was in a relationship with my ex, and once I broke up with said ex, he was there to talk to me and make me laugh.
During this period when I was single, I fell for two different guys; one, an adorable lil' guy that was another friend, but he had a boyfriend (bisexual). The other, my best friend's ex, a gorgeous sex god that seemed to be flirting with me a lot more than usual.
Either way. In the end, those two never made a move...but my new boyfriend did. He asked me out, and I can say that now I am thoroughly smitten with him. We've done the whole 'I love you' thing, go places together, and talk on the phone all night. He's also a poet, so he writes work about me all the time ^.^
I couldn't ask for it to be better.
BUT.
Lately, I've been having very vivid dreams. And they all seem to be the same thing; those two guys I once liked. In my dream, I'll either break up with my boyfriend or ignore him. I'm always with one of the other two; talking, making out, the like. In the back of my head, I can hear myself saying 'This is what you really want. What you want is them.'
In real life, I'm not as close to the two anymore. But when I close my eyes...I flash back like wildfire. And I wake up thinking that my boyfriend and I are separated. I have to call him and double check sometimes to make sure that the dream was just a dream.
I don't know what to do. (link)
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Okay, remember that dreams are dreams.
Sometimes they have meanings. I don't think your dreams are telling you to break up with your boyfriend for one of the other two.
It's probably telling you that you desire the qualities that they have. You perhaps find something in the other two that you boyfriend does not have.
This does not mean that you love them or want to be with them anymore. Just a fantasy. I often have dreams where I need to double check if my boyfriend and I are still together. Silly I know but sometimes they do seem so real like you can almost feel it. But when you think about it, you know that it was just a dream and whatever it is wont come true.
You love your current boyfriend, that's all you need to know :)
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my dad and mom have been together as long as ive been alive. two years ago i caught him in chat rooms, n video sessions with other women. i had a suspicion of him cheating, and walked down on him doing a session with another women. we lost our relaitonshp. its ok now. but im finding more stuff. ive found enough stuff now to make the prediction that he is getting a hooker. like, if i had to guess, i would say 99%. My whole life, people have let me down. My best rfiend gave away his life when he knew i was the only one fighting for him, my first love cheated on me three times.. now my dad is doing this to me. and im the only one who knows. I know what telling my mom will do. My family will end. And im scared if i do nothing, guilt will catch up to him, cause he surely is such a good man. My mom works nights so shes never home to know... hes always out so late, and his job is perfect to find a way to cheat, because he works his own job with his own appointments all over. My heart is being severely torn. im so close to giving in, i just have no clue what i can do. Tell my mom, my dad will hate me, my family will end, and my life will never be the same. Not say anything, my dad will continue to hurt me so badon the inside, and if guilt catches up, he could end his life like two of my other friends fathers have done. This is weird to say, but i had a strong feeling my best friend would end his life... and ive always for years had that about my dad. I have anxiety attacks and severe depression. ive askedmy mom to go back to counseling, but she doesnt seem to trake it seroius and ive asked her three times she hasnt gotten right to it.
please, any advice. anyone thats been in this situation... i have no options left, and my mind is getting into a fix.. its gonna be forever stuck as resentful, hate, sad, pissed, and depressed. It already is, i hate my life. im 18, and i dont even feel like living anymore but i would never end my life.. please... someonee have something reasonable to tell me. (link)
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Righto..
First of all.. NONE OF THIS IS YOUR FAULT! That's the most important thing to remember. Tell yourself everyday!
Second, I do not agree with cheating at all. Once a cheater always a cheater, however, trying to look at it at your dad's point of view, is your parents relationship happy?
Do they fight? Do they tell each other that they love one another? Do they go out together? Do they do the coupley things?
As sad as it sounds, they might just be two people who are living together at the moment. They might not be the couple they use to be a long time ago. Again, none if this is your fault.
Sometime people fall in and out of love. It's not something that can be forced or controlled.
On the other hand, if I am wrong then instead of telling your mum, set it up so she finds out what's going on with your dad.
Therefore, you didn't tell so you don't have the guilt trip of being the bubble burster. This might be your dad's way out without trying to hurt your mum in the meantime. Before you start any of this you need to be 100% sure that he is cheating. No stories worked up in your head, you need to have witnessed it for real. No point in telling your mum that he's looking at women on the internet, i'm sure most men do that.
If he is dating someone in real life then that's when you need to put your foot down. Again, none of this is your fault.
Sometimes parents splitting up is the best thing for a child. The parents have become free again.
I'm not saying that splitting up is what's going to happen but there is obviously a problem somewhere. If you are unhappy about the situation, communication is the key. Talk to your parents!!!
Good luck, hope I helped
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I'm 15/Female
The guy I like, we'll call him Tyler. Tyler and I have a really long history... when we first met, we were living together at a flop house, and ended up sleeping together. Then we fought and didnt talk for a week or two... then I got pregnant, so we worked everything out. I was almost 2 months along when I miscarried our kid. So then we stayed friends, but never really talked much because we both left the flop house to go back to our parents. We came together when he got arrested, and he got out of jail and I went to visit him at his place, and from then on, we chilled every single day for about 4 months or so. Then we got into some stupid shit together, and ended up with a non-assossiation orde and didn't talk for 6 months. On Boxing day, we saw eachother for the first time, and chilled. Then he came out to the all ages club the next night, and got arrested again. We were acting couplely the whole night at the club and I deffinitly thought we might get back together, until he got arrested. I thought he was going to be in for 4 months, but he got released yeasterday morning. So he called me last night and we talked on the phone for an hour and a half, then we talked for another hour today. I think he still likes me, but I really don't know. I just want to bring it up in person, because I cant talk about anything with him in person, but he's on house arrest for the next 5 days, so I want to bring it up on the phone, I just don't know exactly how. I totally passed up the oprotunity yeasterday, when he asked me if I was still with my ex... ANYWAYS ... How do I bring it up ? What do I say ? (link)
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Okay then..
Here's my advice!
Do you really want to be with someone who is being arrested all the time?? That's bad news my girl. You are 15 years old. That is definitely the wrong type of people to be hanging around with.
You already fell pregnant to him once, what if it happens again and he goes inside for a long time??? You'll be stuck as a single mum to someone who it in jail!!! What for mind you? Drugs? Fighting? Not something you want to put yourself in danger of or a baby for that matter.
At the end of the day it is your choice, you have a say and a choice in everything you do, however, at such a young age I personally think that guidence is everything.
I would strongly advise for you to get a job, earn some money, stay home for as long as you can (it's a big bad world out there) then when the time is right, move out with a guy who has a stable job who is able to support you. Not one who has a criminal record and has every chance of going back inside for whatever reasons.
On the other hand, your probably not going to listen to me anyway so the best way for a relationship to work is communication!!! If you can't speak to him face to face now about wanting to be with him, how are you going to speak to him about other things if a future occurs for you both?
Just speak to him, act mature.
Good luck!
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I'm pretty sure what this means, but I would rather like to get a second opinion.
This guy I like, Timothy, has been one of my closest friends for about 3 years. We talk every day at school and know each other really well.
The problem is that ever since I met him I've had a very hard time keeping my hands to myself. Not in a, "I'm totally sexually attracted to him," way, either. It's more of having to fight myself to grab his hand or lean my had on his shoulder, or even wrap my arms around him. It's been a problem for a while now, as you can tell, and I would like some people's opinions on this.
Thank you for your time and effort. (link)
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Sometimes when we are close to people in a non sexual way we still show affection like we would as if they were your partner.
You wouldn't think to hesitate on grabbing your mum's hand, a close brother or sister, giving your dad or grandparents a hug from time to time. It's just a way that people show love and affection to the people we care about.
The only reason your thinking twice about it is because Timothy isn't related he's a close friend and your scared that he either might read too much into it or he'll think it's strange.
If you two are that close then it shouldn't be a problem. Just chat to him about it, if he thinks it's strange then you'll find yourself not doing it anymore i'm sure. If not then continue to do so as you obviously care for him as a friend.
Just remember, there will be a time that either you will get a boyfriend or he will get a girlfriend and problems may occur then. Until then remain normal, if you have an open and honest friendship with each other then you should be talking to him :)
Hope I helped. Good luck!
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i think im pregnant. see what happened is i was having sex and he put the condom on the opposite way n then he put it back on the right way. before he did that he already cummed into another condom n put that one on so i think he got semen on the condom that we used on the 2nd round. i dont know what to do im so scared and im only 14! (link)
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Ok, first thing for you to do is RELAX! The more stressed you become the less chance you have of you period coming on time!
Are you on any birth control?
Seem's like there is a chance he could have gotten some semen on the second condom. However, you still may not be pregnant.
When did you have sex? Have you given yourself enough time to suspect pregnancy?
Go to the local chemist, buy a pregnancy test if you have given yourself some time and take the test. If you show a positive sign then you really need to take a lot of things into consideration.
As you said you are only 14. Therefore, do you think you are old enough to look after a tiny baby?
If the test shows positive... tell a parent! That is the first step you should take!
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does anyone know a good exercise to get a lot of arm strength??? anything would be good (link)
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- Push up's
- Chin up's
- Punching a Punching bag.
:)
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19/female. i use to have alot of friends in high school, but now that i'm in college and am doing online i only hang out with one person, my best friend who i've known since 7th grade. i've never had a boyfriend before because everyone i become close with leaves me which is why i have a hard time trusting anyone. my friends will get boyfriends and then invest all their time into them that i'm like whatever ... i try to hang out with them but i just give up because its not worth it. well my best friend, shes never had a boyfriend either so we hang out all the time with no worries. well NOW shes been talking to this guy and they have been hanging out and i feel like she is going to be forgetting about me and always want to be with him. we talked about it before and we both agreed that we hate when our friends leave us for their boyfriends but now that she found someone it feels like shes doing that. shes always telling me about him, which is fine to an EXTENT. i just feel so alone, i dont know what to do anymore or who to turn to.... even if i were to say something to her i know it wouldnt change her mind. (link)
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Okay...
First of all, it's very exciting to get a boyfriend or find a guy to talk to for the first time. I wouldn't ruin that for your best friend. Perhaps you could just remind her of your previous conversations.
No one is alone, your letting yourself be alone. Why don't you take up an extra activity where you will meet new people. Your friends all seem to be doing so, what is stopping you?
Just remember, you don't need a boyfriend to be happy. I think a lot of girls forget that sometimes!
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I'm having a candy themed sweet 16 next month and I wanna wear a cocktail dress but my mom doesn't want me to because all my guests will probably be in cocktail dresses. What do you suggest I wear then?:)
xoxoxoxoxo (link)
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I agree with Melody...
A simple full length dress with your hair all done up will look stunning. Don't tell anyone what you are wearing because it should be a surprise!
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The first part isn't part of the question; it's just really helpful to know some background info :]
So, it started off around a year ago. I met a friend through a friend over msn, we got to talking and actually became quite close. We met a few times, flirting absolute loads. We had a kind of weird relationship - I would go through phases where I liked him which only lasted a few weeks. Now, normally this would make me extremely uncomfortable knowing that he knew I liked him, but the fact that I wasn't, made me realise in the end it was just because we were close. Anyway, he introduced me to his friend. We got even closer in 3 months than me and my other friend did in a year or so. By the beginning of January we were going out, and still are. But, before we started going out, my other friend was like trying so hard to stop us from getting together, like he would tell my (now) boyfriend that I liked him (he knew I liked him from the start) then a few days later he would tell him that I don't. He was confusing the both of us and prevented us from getting together. I know why he did this. I know it sounds like he liked me, but he didn't. I have cheated on guys before and he knows about it and he thought that I was just stringing him along, and obviously he didn't want his best friend going out with someone like that. (I'm proud to say I have proved him wrong, I've been together with my boyfriend almost a year and never cheated - we are actually each others first love).
Annnnyways. A few months after me and my boyf started going out, we went for a pizza, just us three. My boyf was messing around and told me to call him this name (not seriously), it was a joke between them and a few mates so we thought it'd be funny. Now, 8 months on, he HATES me. I mean, he refers to me as 'her' when he talks about me to my boyf. I know it kills me when I think about how close we used to be. But, then again I can't stand him myself for what he did between me and my boyf - like telling me he had a girlfriend when I liked him (I only found out a few months into the relationship he actually didn't!).
I got invited by my boyf to go to a gig next march. Of course, I said yes as we haven't been to any gig together yet. He then replied that he has to ask his mate (the one I've been talking about) if it was alright. I was so mad, yet again it's no ones fault but my own; I should of asked who was going first. Anyway, he said that there's no problem (seeing as I'm his best friends girlfriend , I should hope there's no problem!). I know it's going to be soooo awkward. I don't know 2 guys that are going but my other friend is coming so at least I can talk to her if my boyfs talking to him. Now, at gigs everyones pretty close and you can't really 'rave' with someone you can't stand.
So, my actual question:
How do I make this the least awkward I can?
I'm a very shy person, but I know I can make the effort for my boyfriend - as it IS his best mate.
I just need tips/advice just anything really to make sure I survive the night xD
Thankssssss(: (link)
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Hi there,
I really think that before this gig comes around, you and your boyfriends friend need to get together and have a chat.
As you said, you have obviously proved him wrong by not cheating on him. As you shouldn't anyway!
Personally, I think that you need to tell him that for your boyfriends sake, you and him need to chill out. You don't have to be best friends but you both need to be mature and civil towards each other. Otherwise, if things get too bad between you both, your boyfriend will most probably be caught in the middle having to choose between you both.
That could end up really messy. I'm sure you don't want him to loose his best friend and you don't want to be the one who isn't chosen. So for everyone's sake you both need to get together and patch things up. With or without your boyfriend knowing you two really need to sort things out.
Good luck, hope I helped.
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I was looking at jobs. For some jobs i see you need a min. years experience. Actually this is for most of them. How do you get like 10 years experience in the job selected if you need to be in it 10 years before you start? help im confused
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Yes I agree with you. It's not fair to people like yourself who is looking for a job and needs to already have the qualifications.
As far as the employers go, they really need to consider training a younger person who is looking to stay in that job for some time. Instead they are looking for people who have already worked in the same industry elsewhere so they don't have to 'waste time' training them from scratch.
If I were you, I would go a place where you are looking to apply for a long term job and ask them if you are able do some work experience. I know that its taking up your time and your not going to be paid for it but unfortunetly for the people who do actually want to work, we've got to do it the hard way.
Doing work experience will look really good on your resume/CV. Show's a strong will to work and your really keen. It will take time to get into what you really want but it will make you appreciate it more once you get there.
Good luck!
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Well, here is my dilemna in a nutshell....
I'm in my thirties, and I'm going to be getting married in a few months, and I really want to drop some pounds before I do the dress shopping.
My troubling factors are that I am not able to do actual work outs or high impact aerobics, "because" I have had surgery on both feet and still live with lots of pain that does not allow me to be on my feet for a long period of time.
What do you think are some good weight-loss exercises that can be done without alot of foot action?!?!?
I know, tough one, but any advice will be helpful, I'm sure!! (link)
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Hi there..
I might not be a lot of help but i'll try.
How about sit up's and push up's? Even a bit of weights. With the right food action (yes I know, hehe) you may drop a few pounds but with these kind of excersies your body will tone up. You might not look like you've lost a lot but at least your skin will be toned. That always makes a difference.
A lot of girls/women don't actually realise that tonning their bodies is important too. Gets rid of any cellulite as well as makes your arms, legs, buttocks, stomach and thighs look strong instead of flabby and wobbly!
Good luck, hope I helped. Hope your day is perfect!
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ok so last year i had my first kiss. it happened while we were kinda playing around, and i kissed up his chin and our lips sorta met and we kissed. i cant really remember how it went though! i know we kissed just lips at first and then put his tongue in my mouth and i followed his lead.
but i cant remember how it was tho for the life of me!
now im talking to another guy, and im probably going to be kissing him sometime soon. we have been talking and have liked each other for a while, and im really worried about making a good first impression. he has kissed plenty of other girls before though, and i have only kissed one guy and dont even remember how i did it or what it was like!?! this was a year ago. and even after the kiss it felt VERY surreal.
im so scared that im going to kiss bad when i kiss this guy. especially because in my firstkiss we didnt really lean in slowly or anything,and i know that this kiss will be like this. idk how to kiss someone normally! ah!
i dont know. maybe im just overeacting and freaking out for now good reason. but i really really REALLY want to make it seem like im a good kisser and that i know what i am doing. but hes had way more expericence then me, considering i dont even remember how to kiss.
help me please!
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Hi there..
If you really like this guy and you would like to kiss him. I would try to forget about the last kiss you had!
Every kiss will be a completely different experience!
The more you stress about it the more nervous you will become. Just relax and stop worrying about it.
I would give him a soft gentle kiss (no tounge) first time around (leave him wanting more). As things progress between you both then you can start giving a more passionate kiss.
Good luck, hope I helped!
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go to the encino bally's which is a really middle-eastern area.Ever since i went there 3 years ago,the whites and others have taken a likng to me,even though i'm an eastern-asian-person.During that time,me and her didn't really hit it off,because we had some differences,but i just keep getting people taking a liking to me,and she(even though at times i tried to patch things up and vice versa)still always tries to stab me in the back at times.I don't know if this is a racial issue,because no one else there has a problem with me even thoigh i'm kind of an outsider in a different area(not alot of east-asians there)What;s her deal? I went off on her a few times in the past,but that was because i thought she was being unfair in her actions towards me.She's really nice to every other background,whites,blacks,mexicans,and of coures mid-easterners,.Sh'es tried to make an effort to be nicer but now i just ignore her,I didn't act in the best of ways,but i'm wondering what her problem is?she's even nice to my friends,but i just tell them that i don't like her and i just act like she doesn't exist.Last time she really noticed i blew her off.Anyway,what's her deal deep down?Other people have said that she is a really sweet person..Anyway,i ran into her in the hallway by the elipticals,and i said hi,ands she responded and said how are you doing?i had no choice but to say hi because she was right in front of me when we were passing by,but i'm still ticked at her,it's like she left some scars and doesn't seem to care that she left them even if it was years(2-3)ago..
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Hi there,
You don't actually say how old you are (or this girl) However, just taking a stab at it here........ I think she likes you!! If she does happen to have issues with the whole 'race' thing then she was probably trying to distance herself from you so she couldn't fall for you anymore then what she already had!
Makes sense to me! Just try to think back to see if the pieces fit together.
On the other hand, she just simply might not like you. I know that sounds harsh and it doesn't excuse her actions but maybe that's it.
If your wanting to tell her how you feel why not write her a letter or an email or something. Things are better read when they are written down. You can take back things that you don't mean when you are writing it.
Good luck, hope I helped. Merry Christmas!
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hey so i'm just wondering what you guys think of my situation and if you thought i was really in love or if i was just too nice to see the bad in someone.
ok so me and my bf are 17. we dated for 15 months then he broke up with me, then got back together. then he broke up with me again, this time its over for good because i'm not going to keep going through this (even though i secretly hope someday when he grows up a bit we'll get back together)...he was amazing to me...like the perfect boyfriend..he would text me cute notes in the morning, give me his coat when i was cold, all the adorable things you do to someone when you really care about them.(we broke up because he said he didn't like doing these things anymore cause he felt like he had to) but he lied, even after i confessed that i trusted only 2 people in my life and one of them was him...i know, @$$hole right? (now its obviously only one person). they weren't really bad lies...like he would say he had to do something when i wanted to hang out instead of just telling me the truth like "oh i'm really tired i had a tough day let's hang out some other time" he would say "i have so much chores my mom is making me do so i can't go out" ..he's a lazy peice of crap but i knew he loved me...its hard to explain but i just knew it...and i kept forgiving him because, sad to say, i love him too....
this is the weird thing...we broke up about a month ago and i'm already getting over him...the first time we broke up it took 3 months and i still was crying over him. is this normal? i swear i loved him but can love that strong just fade? (link)
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Hi there,
The difference is this time round, you've been there done that. Perhaps your love for him isn't fading but your feelings are stronger and your able to accept that your not with him anymore.
At the end of the day, you are both only 17. You have a long way to go in life and find yourself, find out who you really are.
Have a boyfriend/partner does hold you back from that sometimes. At your age, it's not really necessary to have that added stressors of a boyfriend (lets face it, it can get complicated sometimes)
Just take some time out for yourself. Not saying you can't see anyone but just try not to committ yourself to anyone at such a young age. If it was meant to be you will eventually get back together. At present he may just need time to find out who he really is.
Good luck, hope I helped. Merry Christmas!
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Well, We have been together for 5 years and got married in November. He has been depressed since a week after the wedding.I think he is upset because I cant perform the sexual acts that he wants. He wants me to be with a girl so bad that if I dont "go out" with girls he will be silent for days.A week after the wedding it was all he talked about. I am quite a homebody. He is 45, I am 32. The fact is, I will never sleep with a girl. It was a thing of fantasy for us. He went as far as to text a girl from my phone for a coffee date yesterday behind my back and I cancelled, He is really dpressed now. And of course, everything is my fault. He downloads tons of porn,I have found 3 videocameras around my house, I know he is a sex addict,but he is in denial and wont get help. What do I do??Up until our wedding things were pretty great! He told me that he knows i am to "old" to be with a girl tonight and said young girls would do it. I think I am doomed. I am a very attractive woman I am not old, and very devoted to only him.He always makes comments that nobody wants him enough for him to cheat on me. I am so lost. HELP! (link)
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Wow..!
Your husband does have issues! I think the best thing for you to do is take your husband to a counsellor. If he is making comments like 'no one wants him enough for him to cheat on you'
What if next week someone wants him enough?
These are the questions you need to ask yourself and whether or not your going to stick around in an unhappy marriage.
Sounds like you are devoted to him but if your not 'performing' his fantasies then he wont stick around. He needs to understand that you will not make his fantasy come true and he really needs to let it go or you will leave. This may become an eye opener for him and he might realise that what he is asking of you is not acceptable.
You are his wife now and he has a duty to you as a husband. This does not involve a 3rd person to give him the satisfaction he is after. If he doesn't think that your ability to perform is enough then he really needs to seek help. This will end up coming between you if the problem isn't resolved.
Everything I have said, i'm sure you already know. You need to take him to a counsellor and get this sorted before you are made to feel like your sexual ability is nothing.
Good luck. Hope I helped.
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So i recently got a new boyfriend(lets call him M*xx), and a super sweet guy behind his "gangster" act. We have been dating for about three months now. Anyway after a dramitc experiance i made a vow to myself to keep my virginity as long as i can without any boys bribing me into it. M*xx has a diff. plan in mind. Yes, he holds my hand and kisses it, making me blush...but sometimes he tries to reach for my breast iwth his free hand when he thinks im not looking. And of course i push himm away. Sttubborn..he keeps trying. He tells me that one of these days im going to give into him, and i have fears that my vow will be broken before the year has ended. How do i keep the sensual mood going but not resulting in sex??
Thanks in advance.... 14/f (link)
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Hi there.
You seem like you know what is good for you. I think you are a very brave girl for holding onto your vow.
You do not have to give in to your boyfriend. He is in the wrong if he forces you to do anything that you don't want to do.
If he cannot wait for when you are ready to have sex then he is not worth it. He needs to understand that there are consequences of having sex like sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy.
If neither of you are ready for that then holding off is the best option for when you are both old enough to deal with any consequences that may occur.
You need to stick to what you believe in! No one can tell you when you are ready for sex. Only you know the answer to that. Having sex isn't something that should be classed as cool or uncool, it's something magical. You give a part of yourself to that person each time you have sex and you want that person to respect you and your wishes.
Good luck, hope I helped. Merry Christmas!
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OK so I have to ask. My girlfriend has been crazy for me to cum inside her but I am afraid of making her pregnant. She is on birth control and everything but still I feel like she is trying to trap me with a baby. Why? Because this is what she told me: She said that having cum inside her is a feeling of completeness and is 1000x better than orgasms.
Have any of you ever heard this? Is this for real? Do you really feel like that?
Thank you! (link)
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Don't listen to her, feeling completeness by you cumming in her is a load of crock. You do what you need to do but until your ready for the consequences of sex, I wouldn't.
If your feeling like she is trying to trap you with a baby then who's to say that she really is taking her pill everyday like she's suppose too?
Just talk to her and tell her that your not comfortable in cumming inside her until you are both ready to have a baby or make that extra commitment to each other.
Good luch, hope I helped!
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OK now i dont want to sound like a ho but its my last year in highschool and i dont want to have a boyfriend. I just want to get a dude and have him be my buddy(if you know what i mean. Its too much of a hastle to be with a guy and him being on you and you being on him about where hes/you at or what hes/you is doing. You know what i mean? I just dont know if having a BUDDY will change my image tho. I want to just have sex with a guy and him not fall for me or me fall for him. I want to just have sex. Is that bad? Is it nasty? Am i wrong or a ho? (link)
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Hi there...
Personally, I think that it would change your image. I don't think your a 'ho' however, you may eventually get stuck with that name.
You really need to go about it the right way. I'm not saying that you do need to have a boyfriend.. BUT, you shouldn't have sex with just anyone!
Find someone who you at least trust or 'know where he's been' before you start having sex. If you just pick up some random then you are at more risk of getting sexually transmitted diseases.
I'm not about giving you a third degree on STD's and pregnancy but you really do need to take these things into consideration if you wish to be having sex. If you want to have sex then you need to think of the consequences too.
Don't find a random, have some pride in yourself and you'll eventually get your turn.
Good luck, hope I helped :)
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