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what's this girl's problem?it's tearing me up!
go to the encino bally's which is a really middle-eastern area.Ever since i went there 3 years ago,the whites and others have taken a likng to me,even though i'm an eastern-asian-person.During that time,me and her didn't really hit it off,because we had some differences,but i just keep getting people taking a liking to me,and she(even though at times i tried to patch things up and vice versa)still always tries to stab me in the back at times.I don't know if this is a racial issue,because no one else there has a problem with me even thoigh i'm kind of an outsider in a different area(not alot of east-asians there)What;s her deal? I went off on her a few times in the past,but that was because i thought she was being unfair in her actions towards me.She's really nice to every other background,whites,blacks,mexicans,and of coures mid-easterners,.Sh'es tried to make an effort to be nicer but now i just ignore her,I didn't act in the best of ways,but i'm wondering what her problem is?she's even nice to my friends,but i just tell them that i don't like her and i just act like she doesn't exist.Last time she really noticed i blew her off.Anyway,what's her deal deep down?Other people have said that she is a really sweet person..Anyway,i ran into her in the hallway by the elipticals,and i said hi,ands she responded and said how are you doing?i had no choice but to say hi because she was right in front of me when we were passing by,but i'm still ticked at her,it's like she left some scars and doesn't seem to care that she left them even if it was years(2-3)ago..
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Hi there,
You don't actually say how old you are (or this girl) However, just taking a stab at it here........ I think she likes you!! If she does happen to have issues with the whole 'race' thing then she was probably trying to distance herself from you so she couldn't fall for you anymore then what she already had!
Makes sense to me! Just try to think back to see if the pieces fit together.
On the other hand, she just simply might not like you. I know that sounds harsh and it doesn't excuse her actions but maybe that's it.
If your wanting to tell her how you feel why not write her a letter or an email or something. Things are better read when they are written down. You can take back things that you don't mean when you are writing it.
Good luck, hope I helped. Merry Christmas!
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Hi,
Obviously this girl doesn't have that much of a problem if she is reaching out to you, trying to be nicer, and said 'Hi' to you in the hallway. I think you shouldn't hold what happened in the past against her, it sounds as if she is working to let it go, but the only way you two are going to be friends again is if you also try to be nice to her, smile, Do Not Ignore Her, and don't bring up the past. I doubt she has a problem with your race, she sounds like an accepting person. She may just be a little confused about how you feel right now and therefore there is a bit of awkwardness between you two (since you also are confused about her). Another thing is that if you want to be friends with her again, you have to communicate! When you have some alone time with her (or casually/nicely get her alone with you for a few minutes) tell her how you feel. Calmly and firmly tell her that she left some scars on you and that you would like to be friends with her, but you still feel like she hurt you (remember to not meaningfully bring up the past again after this conversation, unless she casually brings it up). Talk it out, listen to her side of what happened, and hopefully you will both come to understanding eachother and won't have to continue going on this way. If you continue to ignore her or not acknowledge her, you will get nowhere. Also, do not tell others you don't like her and then hope that she will stop acting this way, because as soon as she finds out what you said she will never be nice to you. You have to give a little love to get a little love, that is just how life works. Once you talk to her nicely, she will be more nice to you. It may not come right away, but healing takes time. You have to have patience and show kindness towards her. Only then will things change for the better <3
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