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what do you guys think?
hey so i'm just wondering what you guys think of my situation and if you thought i was really in love or if i was just too nice to see the bad in someone.
ok so me and my bf are 17. we dated for 15 months then he broke up with me, then got back together. then he broke up with me again, this time its over for good because i'm not going to keep going through this (even though i secretly hope someday when he grows up a bit we'll get back together)...he was amazing to me...like the perfect boyfriend..he would text me cute notes in the morning, give me his coat when i was cold, all the adorable things you do to someone when you really care about them.(we broke up because he said he didn't like doing these things anymore cause he felt like he had to) but he lied, even after i confessed that i trusted only 2 people in my life and one of them was him...i know, @$$hole right? (now its obviously only one person). they weren't really bad lies...like he would say he had to do something when i wanted to hang out instead of just telling me the truth like "oh i'm really tired i had a tough day let's hang out some other time" he would say "i have so much chores my mom is making me do so i can't go out" ..he's a lazy peice of crap but i knew he loved me...its hard to explain but i just knew it...and i kept forgiving him because, sad to say, i love him too....
this is the weird thing...we broke up about a month ago and i'm already getting over him...the first time we broke up it took 3 months and i still was crying over him. is this normal? i swear i loved him but can love that strong just fade?
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Hi there,
The difference is this time round, you've been there done that. Perhaps your love for him isn't fading but your feelings are stronger and your able to accept that your not with him anymore.
At the end of the day, you are both only 17. You have a long way to go in life and find yourself, find out who you really are.
Have a boyfriend/partner does hold you back from that sometimes. At your age, it's not really necessary to have that added stressors of a boyfriend (lets face it, it can get complicated sometimes)
Just take some time out for yourself. Not saying you can't see anyone but just try not to committ yourself to anyone at such a young age. If it was meant to be you will eventually get back together. At present he may just need time to find out who he really is.
Good luck, hope I helped. Merry Christmas!
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I understand.
I think the way he treated you at times made you realize that he wasn't worth it. I think the more times we get hurt the more we realize that if its meant to be its meant to be. He's not worth your time nor you tears you are so young you need to get out there or maybe just take care of you for awhile. You're right he isn't mature enough right now most guys aren't until they're 30 and wondering why they're still single.
This is going on with me right now as well...I feel as though I'm getting over him to quickly but he's the burning the bridge with me. Its his loss not mine and I feel as though I shouldn't waste my precious time on him nor my energy... I'm still young and theres a lot of opportunity still out there. Hang in there things will get better! Happy Holidays! :)
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