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i got like 2 huuugeee blisters on the back of my feet from the new flats i wore on the first day of school. and like even with other shoes on after a while they hurt. so what can i do to make them heal quicker/not hurt as much?? thanks! :] (link)
pickle juice.

believe me it sounds crazy! my cross country coach told me about it because i run an got blisters from wearing these flip flps then i decided to wear the wrong socks to practice so i used picked juice! it stung like 10seconds but believe me the next day it will feel totally better. so i reccommend that home remedie.

stephanie-


Me and my boyfriend have been deeply in love for a year. All we've ever made it to is 2nd base. Yesterday I was talking to him and he asked if I was a virgin,I said I was and he did too. He then proceded to tell me that even if our relationship didn't work out in the long run he'd like to lose it to me. I had been thinking this for months. We both want to make love, not just have sex. The problem is we are NEVER alone. He still lives with his parents and the don't trust us to be alone. Neither does my mom... And if they left us alone he still has a little brother that follows him around every where. I need sugesstions, *sigh* I don't want a 2 minute quickie in the bathroom... (link)
Okay they don't trust yall alone in the house when they KNOW correct! So try gettin to tell his parents he is going to a friends house then he will call when he gets there IF you know they are all worried an shit, so then have him call a friend that he can trust an stuff then tell him to do this...

-call his friend once he gets to YOUR house
-while he is on the phone with his friend
-tell his friend to 3way his mom an give him the number
-then tell him to tell his mom hes at his friends house an he is just gona hangout there play video games usual boy stuff.
-then woop woop you beat the system lol.
-an yall can have privacy!

works everyyyytime!! hope i helped girlie xoxo!!

*stephanie*


14/f
Well, I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and 2 months last night around 11:50. I dont even know what I was thinking! I was confused and I kept thinking about what would happen if he broke up with me. then I guess I started conviceing myself that he WAS cheating on me and I broke up with him. He didnt seem too upset. After I got off the phone with him I balled my head off for hours. I even started gasping for air and then started choking. I dont know what that was all about but thats how much I was crying. anyways then I talked to my friend Zach till i dont know what time but we talked for at least 3 hours. He cheered me up some but I still cant help but think about him. I love him more than life itself! I miss him so much and I dont think he misses me. I want to call him and say sorry and everything but Im afraid he wont care! I miss him so much you have no idea! Please help! should I call him?!?!? Should I just move on??! please Ill rate 5's i swear! (link)
Hey Hun,

It seem's hard you know to deal with not having the person you love around anymore. But I mean you got to loook at it like you were dating 1yr and 2monthes of course your goin to miss him exspecially like looking around in your room just remembering thing's of course your going to be sad,dissapointed,stressed out,crying. It happen's! But if you do still wanna get back with him just call him exsplain your feeling's to him, and if he doesn't listen then maybe it was not meant to be. But at least you said what was on your mind. But im sure he seen it coming if their was no reaction, or maybe he was just shocked. But if you wanna call him go for it!

=]


-Stephanie


my mom is sooo annoing with puberty and stuff. she acts all embarresed when i talk about it (which i hardly ever do cause since her behavior it makes me humiliated) and she reminds me of a 3 year old. I told her i had my period and she's like ok put a pad on and then for the last 2 days she has been acting all weird to me. We had like 3 pads left when i first got my first period and that was 2 days ago and i still have my period. So right now i'm on my last pad and i've been wearing it all day cause i'm way to embarresed to ask my mom if she can buy more cause then it will be awkward and the awkwardness is just beginning to wear off from when i told her i got my period. and also i'm extremely embarresed to go to the store and buy pads myself. I have no older siblings and I don't want to ask my dad to do it. Gosh PLEASE HELP HOW CAN I GET PADS??? Please I know this annoys you but: please dont tell me to ask my parents to buy some. Also please dont ask me to buy some cause when i went to cvs and bought acne wash for the first time the employee was trying to hide a smile. (link)
Well if your mom is acting little shady about the entire situation that's what FRIENDS are for my dear. If you like tell your mom you need money to go on a date with a friend because your wanting to just release some stress n hangout with your friend's. So then go to the store with your friend an pick out some pad's believe me it would be more comfortable if you have a friend with you. If not then just be independant go yourself, tell your mom you need some money because your going to the store to get some stuff, if she ask's what just tell her its nothing important just like you seen a new magazine out or something that you wanted to go get. And then go yourself, an don't worry about what employees say because half of them are bitches and duh obviously they don't have a life if they pay attention to what their costumers are buying an smiling at them. If all else fails she was probably gay lol. Anyway hunnie just do one of the ideas I suggested above but if you have like a light period then just make your own pad with some toilet paper. Anyway hope I helped ya out. Message me if ya need any advice!

-Stephanie


are there any kits that can help me perfect eyebrows because I don't want to practice on mine.and also how do you shave or get rid of the hair under your armpits.sorry I haven't leanred yet and I am to embarressed to ask my parents. (link)
I don't think their are kit's only thing im sure of is using plucker's yourself but if you don't wanna practice on your own then I would suggest asking your mom to help you believe me she would respect it alot if you came to her with your problem an help ya out! If not then you can always save up allowance or any money you get and go get your eyebrows waxed!! Also about the hair under your arm's you would use a razor of any sort, and just shave the hair away but remember it will grow back it doesn't mean its like completly gone forever but that should work just put little bit of shaving creme about the size of a penny an rub it on each armpit annn mission accomplished. Wellp hope I helped ya dear.

-Stephanie


Well, I gave my boyfriends head. I told my friends. They got mad at me and they told thier moms. Now the whole school knows. All the moms and students hate me!!! Im soo imbaressed what should I do!!!13/f (link)
Well, MOST importantly that is YOUR buisness and not the whole school's buisness. So really that is so ridiculous for your supposively FRIENDS to go an tell their mothers about YOUR buisness. And I dont see how parents and student's can hate you. I mean it wasn't anyone/nobody's decision but YOURS. But I guess in your case it's just a lesson learned not to tell anyone anything personal like that because their are ALOT of drama queens in this world, an drama queens like that just come to show you that you cant trust anyone!

-Stephanie


hey i have a boyfriend i been with him for 8 months and i l0ve him but when he is with his friends he acts weird and shows off...we also fight because i get jealous a lot and dont trust him...we fight a lot and break up but always get back together and he used to be so nice when we first went out how do i get him to be whipped? (link)
HaHa, well obviously you dont have him whipped otherwise he would be devoting all his time to you an not his friends as much.

You cant just magically get him whipped unless you give him your thoughts an opinions about different situations an stuff he does.

But then again you know what is the point of putting yourself in a relationship with someone who acts one way to you, an then one way around his friend's.

Also is their a reason WHY you don't trust your bf. Like what makes you NOT trust him. Because honestly if you don't have trust then you dont really have anything judging by the situation you are in.

I know you say you LOVE him but TRUST is something that is involved with love to. And if you can't trust him as much as you say you love him, then what else do you have to loose? Your relationship??

Really talk to him tell him what's on your mind because seems to me like he is prettttty shady!!

=]


Ok...Is it weird that i can only see myself havin sex with my ex...I mean i have other guy friends and all but i jus can't let myself get closer to them to build a relationship without gettin scared or thinking the same thing will happen to me again...givin my all to have my heartbroken again...But that doesn't stop me from talkin to my ex and still havin sex wit him...i really need advice... it's like i'm drawn to him and i know that we'll never be together again considering he still has a girlfriend...Please be real wit me...i can take it..i really need help...thanks in advance:) (link)
*Hey Hun*

- - I completly understand what you mean by not having sex with any one other then your ex. I mean obviously like my friend is in the SAME situation. And no it is totally NOT wierd that you only see your self having sex with one boy whitch obviously is your ex. But you gotta learn how to just go out there an move on ya know. Like you may not want to get your heartbroken, who know's you probably wont get your heartbroken but at least if you did at least it's a lesson learned in life an so yes their is definetly a reason whyy things didnt work out. But I would suggest like going off with your girlfriends even if you dont want to, believe me it will bring no stress to your mind an it will help you not just sit around wanting your ex more and more. I mean dang if his girlfriend only knew he would have nothing. And obviously this boy STILL has some kind of feelings for having sex with you. But honestly what you should do is tell him you dont wanna do anything with him, tell him he needs to tell his girlfriend what he has been doing an he just needs to end things with her before she finds out an then a big fight gets stirred up because he decided to cheat. So just like I know it will be hard not having sex but just say no until he can get the balls an tell his gf he has been cheating on her an his feelings proabbyl werent ever there for her because obviously he kept running back to you. Anyway girlie hope I helped an understood your situation somewhat anyway if you need advice feel free to IM me at OHILOVETRAVIS on aol/aim whatever they call it these days!!

-Stephanie


I always striaghten my hair because it sticks up everywhere! When I went to get a hair cut the hair cut lady said I was killing my hair by doing this so much! What should I do? My hairs superrr FRIZZZAYYY (link)
Hey Girlie.

Well I HATE to say it's not bad. Techniqually depending on the hair product's you use.

Firstly I would like to add my friend has naturally curly hair like me. We both straighten our hair an believe me we have had bad hair days from the frizz to the dryness.

Now I would suggest CHANGING your hair product I would use *Matrix sleek shampoo && conditioner* because it will help give your hair the right protein exspecially for straghten.

Then after you straighten your hair I would suggest using *John Frieda Frizz Ease Hair Serum* believe me it work's wonders and does magic to hair!!

Anyway Hope I helped ya out girlie xoxox any more questions or anything just message me an I will be happy to help ya outtt!!

-Stephanie-


To start off i am a 15 year old girl. I am living at home and pregnant. I no stress is not good. Living at home i think is stressing me out i cry every day. Im not sure what to do or how to tell me mother i need out. I am not getting along with my brother or my father. Please Help (link)
Hey Hunnie!

Well im sorry to hear that your expierencing pregnency at such a young age. Well I would suggest being straight forward with your mother about how you feel. Stress is something that could make you loose your baby! It sound's scary but it's nothing more than a fact, an if you told your mom im sure she would understand an have a talk to your father and brother about your situation. I think your mom can also relate judging by she has 2 children of her own ((you and your brother)). So just tell her it might feel wierd but it's better said then not said!

-Stephanie


Back to school! I need a really cute and eclectic backpack. Does anybody know any sites/stores I could get one at. Just to give you the idea of what I like, my last backpack was a hott pink, canvas and corduroy messenger bag I decoratd with millions of buttons (pins). LoVe To AlL!!! (link)
Stores that would be real cute considering you mentioned you had a *pink* backpack last year. I would suggest going to like JC penny's in the mall or like sports authority like a sports store an look at the Jansport book bags. They are kinda expensive but it's worth the money for a cute nice looking backpack an they have all kind's from net backpacks to solid an any color, And like multiple colors. Soooo just an idea! Hope I helped ya!!

Stephanie-


I was just wondering,
is vitamin water good or bad for you?
cause I drink a lot of it and I was just wondering.
Thanks (link)
It's not like regular water, but its like gatorade in some sort, it like replinishes your body an gives your body what it needs to like maintain a healthy weight an etc.

-Stephanie


Nutritional drinks.
I'm going to the store tomorrow to get some.
Its my choice, but I'm getting some to help me gain weight.
I'm really skinny in my arms and legs and have a high metabolism.
Will they work? Are they healthy?
And like do you know any that are really good?

ANYTHING is appreciated. (link)
I would suggest like MILK...COOKIES...stuff with fat in it!!

=]


has anyone tried the new herbal essence stuff? i have pretty straight ahir and i want some wave to it, does it work?
thanks. (link)
I dont think its possible for shampoos to give you a wave. But herbal essence MIGHT. But usually if you want some curl use some gel or mouse an run your fingers through your hair an top it off with some hairspray OR if you want wave, I would suggest using mouse an using your brush to like make waves it works believe me. Anyway orrr you could get your a curler....Hope I helped ya out hun.

-Stephanie


15/Female

I guess I am really lonely/bored. I am "popular" and friends with a lot of different people but they always seem to be busy, working or on vacation.

I know I'm feeling desperate but I have been invited to some big parties but haven't gone since I don't feel like lying to my parents (even if I didn't drink or blaze I can't go home smelling like that). I'm afraid that I will get bored enough of sitting at home doing nothing that I will go to the party and get myself into a lot of trouble.

I guess I'm asking what I can do to meet new people if I can't sign up for camp halfway through summer, no sports teams are running, I can't get a ride anywhere to volunteer, I'm home alone all day so I basically can't get a ride anywhere and my parents don't want me to work yet.

I really just don't want to waste the summer being alone.. I spend enough time doing that (I'm an only child). What can I possibly do? I know every person in my grade in my highschool it seems hopeless.

Thanks. (link)
Really I had the same problem but I did little stuff like sports outside in my backyard, arts and crafts, whatch movies, go outside and run, because if you stay fit on YOUR own then you are helping yourself alot because you can tryout for sports at school and hopefully meet you know people an then that next summer you can play sports together and you will have other people in your life besides the same friends you usually devote your time to!!

-StephAnie-


I've been going thru a rough time with losing almost all of my best friends to drugs, sex, and alcohol these past few weeks. Losing them has been so terrible, we've just found the end to our 5 year friendship between the six of us.

I've developed several large cold sores with horrible swelling above my lip. I'm also getting a sty under my eye, and my eye twitches alot too. Big headaches and stomach aches are also becoming a problem. My doctor confirmed these are just stress problems with losing my friends, but what should I do? I honestly cannot name two friends I have right now, nor am I ready to start school again alone.

What should I do? Not having friends has also resulted in loss of appetite, me and these girls were just so tight, and now, we've changed so much, it hurts so bad to lose them. (link)
Well it sounds like you got it pretty ruff girlie. I had the same problem you know until I got in the most amazing relationship ever! It was like everyone around me was changing like doing very negative things and I felt I was the only one doing positive things like not going to parties drinking, not having sex because my morals are TOO high and, not doing drugs because I know the effects they have on ppls body! Best thing you can do is be strong. I know it hurts but like believe me school is going to be ok. You will meet very outstanding welcoming people and everything will be fine. And then yall can relate your problems to one another. Believe me girl it will get better xoxo!!

-StephAnie-


how do you download movies to your computer? (link)
Well if you have something like a MUSIC downloader you can do that. SO that is a possible way of downloading movies! BUT most of them are bootlegg like ppl went to the movies and recorded themself so they may not be as good to whatch as you would on a tv or something. But for the most part they are ok!

-Stephanie


my boyfriend is about to leave for basic and i want to get him something he can use daily or see or whatever to remind him of me...any ideas? (link)
If yall take photos together with a camera or ALREADY have pictures. Think about like getting a like u know them little boards you stick thumtacks into. Like kinda big or whatever well get a collage of pictures an make something out of it on one side an then on the otherside write a long note telling him why you love him. OR if your really good at computer make him a cd like that plays as a video that he could whatch everytime he misses you and add like music to it. I did that for my hunnie and he LOVED it!!

-StephAnie-


Whenever I drink soda, (I only drink diet), when I swallow it after the first few sips, it burns my stomach really bad. What's wrong?? (link)
Same here. But I choose not to drink it because im an athlete but too much sodium isnt good for ya. But best bet is to go to your doctor orrr look online. If anything best for you an your body is maybe stick to water, an juices an stuff carbonated stuff. Hope I helpedd!!

Stephanie-


I was wondering if anyone knew the minumum age of workers at these stores:

Kroger
Targer
Tom Thumb
Chickfila

Also does anyone know companies that hire 15 year olds? Thanks! (link)
I do know that to work at Target you have to be at least 16 of age. I do think that chicfila hires 15year olds!

And I do know for a fact if your 15 an love the sun, try being a lifeguard. You have to take a few tests but its worth it if you love to swim an love the sun!!

x3

-StephAnie




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