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CAn't move on...Still havin sex wit an ex
Ok...Is it weird that i can only see myself havin sex with my ex...I mean i have other guy friends and all but i jus can't let myself get closer to them to build a relationship without gettin scared or thinking the same thing will happen to me again...givin my all to have my heartbroken again...But that doesn't stop me from talkin to my ex and still havin sex wit him...i really need advice... it's like i'm drawn to him and i know that we'll never be together again considering he still has a girlfriend...Please be real wit me...i can take it..i really need help...thanks in advance:)
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You know the saying "You always want what you can't have"? Well I think that your situation is a little similar to that.. You're used to him and used to being with him.. and maybe you're a little afraid to be without him. Since he has a girlfriend, you could use that as a factor to help you. Tell yourself you can't be with him because he's already with someone, then think about how you'd feel if that was your boyfriend with someone else. You probably wouldn't like it very much. And you never know what might happen in the future him and that girl might and probably WON'T stay together forever.. next time he doesn't have a girlfriend, take advantage of the situation. Good luck!
♥ Evy
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*Hey Hun*
- - I completly understand what you mean by not having sex with any one other then your ex. I mean obviously like my friend is in the SAME situation. And no it is totally NOT wierd that you only see your self having sex with one boy whitch obviously is your ex. But you gotta learn how to just go out there an move on ya know. Like you may not want to get your heartbroken, who know's you probably wont get your heartbroken but at least if you did at least it's a lesson learned in life an so yes their is definetly a reason whyy things didnt work out. But I would suggest like going off with your girlfriends even if you dont want to, believe me it will bring no stress to your mind an it will help you not just sit around wanting your ex more and more. I mean dang if his girlfriend only knew he would have nothing. And obviously this boy STILL has some kind of feelings for having sex with you. But honestly what you should do is tell him you dont wanna do anything with him, tell him he needs to tell his girlfriend what he has been doing an he just needs to end things with her before she finds out an then a big fight gets stirred up because he decided to cheat. So just like I know it will be hard not having sex but just say no until he can get the balls an tell his gf he has been cheating on her an his feelings proabbyl werent ever there for her because obviously he kept running back to you. Anyway girlie hope I helped an understood your situation somewhat anyway if you need advice feel free to IM me at OHILOVETRAVIS on aol/aim whatever they call it these days!!
-Stephanie
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hey!
aahhhhh!! ok so obviously your break up with your ex broke your heart... and you are now afraid of relationships because you don't want your heart broken again! right? well, everyone goes through feeling this way after a break up. eventually though, you get over the person, your broken heart heals, and you move on to bigger and better things.
so then why are you having problems? well, it's because your wounds haven't healed yet. you are still hurt by the break up, and that's why you can't let yourself get close to anyone else. you are afraid. but GUESS WHAT!!?? your heart will NEVER heal if you don't cut off all contact with your ex. there is no way you can get over someone if you are still seeing him and talking to him... and even worse having sex with him. you still like him and want him. having sex with him means a lot to you, but unfortunately it doesn't seem to mean a lot to him.
you are hurting yourself even more every time you sleep with him. you are disrespecting yourself, you are not letting your wounds heal, and you are allowing him to see you as a sexual object which he can just use for physical pleasure and then forget about in the morning. it's a win win situation for him. he has the relationship with his gf, and the sex life with you. if she dumps him, he has you. and if you stop having sex with him he still has his gf. it's all good for him. but it's horrible for you and your well being.
you need to get away from this guy right away and give yourself some time to heal. give yourself some alone time. you don't need to try and find a new boyfriend right away. go out, spend time with friends and enjoy the single life until you find the right boy for you. there is no need to rush. if you don't stop talking to your ex right away, you will be stuck in this terrible situation for a long time, you will be even more hurt in the long run, and you won't give yourself the chance to meet a guy who will love you and treat you like a queen.
trust me, as soon as you stop talking to your ex, things will get better and you will be able to get close to other guys. just give it some time. a few months and you will be good to go. good luck and let me know if you need more help!! :) sorry it's so long, i went off like always hahah.
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