I just recently emailed you a few days and figured I would email you again with an update!
SO yesterday he got into town an I guess went over to his friend's parents house and played cards all night, he got home at midnight and ended up calling me to I guess see how I have been and check up on me, he mentioned going out to eat tommorow with him and his friend...and I said ya know I would meetup with him an go out to eat but I am not going to go with him AND his friend, because right now...I think his friend and him together have done enough damage already by lying to me and this is about us not him me and his friend. SO, whenever he calls today I don't know if I should accept the offer and go ahead an go to lunch with just him an talk about stuff OR, do I just say something like Hey ya know I have taken a hint in the past 2 days considering you didn't call me nor make any effort to see me your first night in Jacksonville, So just please just leave me alone and hangup?? I want to do something that leaves him thinking damn I f-d u an him come after me, because hell I shouldnt be meeting him ANYWHERE for that matter...He should be coming to pick me up an going out of his way to go to lunch, yes I know he has his friends company truck and can't drive it, but I told him ya know I drove 4hrs away it's not going to kil me to drive 15min up the road to meetup with him an go to lunch or dinner! Sorry for blabbing but it was on my mind because I think he is going to be calling me soon and I want to say the right thing!
First of all, you are not blabbing :) I like hearing from you, and I'm glad you sent me this update. Feel free to write to my column any time you like.
Now, as far as your boyfriend goes, it is understandable that you may not want to go out with him and his friend. Everything you say is true: his friend was involved in him lying to you. His friend did have a part in tarnishing your relationship. Even though all of the lies were your boyfriend's fault and responsibility, his friend sat around and watched it all happen. That in itself is horrible.
At the same time, there seems to be a part of you that wants to go, simply to see your boyfriend and try to reconcile things with him. Do not reject this part of you. This is the part of you that dreams of something better for your relationship. So, you should trust it.
Even though your boyfriend has hurt you deeply, things are never going to get better between the two of you until you express your feelings and demand better treatment from him. The key to doing this is not through hanging up on him or trying to manipulate him into feeling sorry. Telling him you have had enough of him and hanging up on him might make him think for a second that he "f-d up". It may put him into a temporary panic.
If your boyfriend begins apologizing to you out of fear that you will leave, this will become the focal point of his apology: getting you to stay. It will push the real issues at hand (his own behaviour and his lies) out of his mind. As a result of this, any change he says he will make in terms of his behaviours may only be short lived. He may bein his old behaviours again after a certain point, simply because he won't be scared of you leaving him after a certain period of time. Your boyfriend needs to be sorry all of the time for the lies, not only when you freak out at him and hang up. He needs to take a serious look at how he hurt you, and decide to change. He needs to do this not out of fear of you leaving, but out of love for you.
Yelling at your boyfriend, telling him that he blew it and then hanging up would only be appropriate in two instances:
#1 If you actually meant it. If you actually never wanted to see him again. This does not seem to be where you are at, though. You seem to want to improve your relationship, not end it.
#2 If you would be doing so simply to relieve your own stress. If yelling at him and pretending you are done with him makes you feel better, go for it. He has put you through enough. You have earned yourself the right to scream at him for it.
In other words, no. I don't think that telling him you are done with him is a good idea if the reason you are doing so is to manipulate him into feeling sorry for his actions. Do not put that pressure on yourself. It is up to him to man up and take responsibility for what he has done. You shouldn't have to throw a temper tantrum to make that happen. However, if you feel like yelling at him and hanging up just to relieve your own stress, go for it.
As far as the actual lunch issue goes, what do you genuinely feel like doing? Do you want to go? If so, go. Do you want to stay home? If so, don't go. Do you want to go, but do not want to hang around his friend? If so, why don't you schedule an alternativc time to meet? Maybe go for dinner, just you and your boyfriend? If you do not want his friend there, the friend doesn't have to be there.
Now, it is important that you think about what your boyfriend's reaction is going to be to whatever you choose to do. If you choose to go, he may be rude and disrespectful to you with his friend. Or, things might go amazingly well. Whatever happens, you need to be ready to stick up for yourself and express your feelings. DO NOT HOLD BACK. And do not settle for less than what you want.
If you choose not to go, your boyfriend may be fine with that. Or he may get angry. Or he may say that not going is your loss. If he responds in either of the last two ways, you need to be prepared to say, "Actually, this is YOUR loss. Your lies and innappropriate behaviours are the reason I don't feel like coming today. Unless you shape up, our relationship is going to suffer." Stick up for yourself. You are not doing anything wrong.
If you choose to schedule an alternative time to meet without his friend, your boyfriend may be fine with it. Or he may insist on his way, stating that if you don't come with him and his friend, he won't see you. If he does the latter, he is trying to manipulate you again. He is trying to force you into a situation that you are not comfortable with. This is the moment in which you need to be strong and honest. Say something like, "I do not want to see you if your friend is there. He was with you during the times that you have lied to me and he didn't do anything about it. I do not want to be near anybody that endorses your lies. Also, me and you need time to be alone to work out our issues. We need to talk about how you have hurt me. Our relationship needs to be worked on, and we can't do that with your friend around."
Stick to your guns.
Anyway, I realize that it is 2:00 pm and you have probably already made your decision. Sorry if I did not answer you in time.
The point of all of this is, express your feelings. Even if you didnt read this on time, homefully I still helped you remember to be strong and stick up for yourself in the future.
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Right now we are having a conversation about faith, religion and questioning what one believes. I would love to hear your inseights!
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ever since i've been a teenager i've been having confusing thoughts and doubts about my religion. i'm methodist christian, and was raised that way. we go to church on sundays, but we're not overly religious. like, my parents drink and stuff, we cuss, they party, i party, we're not like all "ZOMG DON'T SAY GOD'S NAME IN VAIN" or anything of the sort. okay in all honesty, i'm probably the worst christian alive. but from what i was raised to believe, that doesn't matter as long as i'm on the right path. and i wasn't worried about anything up until about 3 or 4 years ago.
i had found out that my closest friend was an atheist and it scared me. i didn't wanna picture the thought of a sweet girl like her burning in hell for eternity. but i couldn't change her mind!! no one could. so i finally gave up a year ago and just let her believe in what she wants to. and after i switched to public school and saw how everyone was either atheist or satanist or wiccan or something, and only a choice few were still christian, i started thinking in terms of more of an atheistic point of view, and if not that, agnostic. i want to believe anything will happen to me when i die. i mean, living for however many years and then going straight to the ground for eternity? what fun is that? i mean, i know dying isn't supposed to be fun, but what about those 4 year old kids that get run over or die of pnuemonia or something? they barely have any memories and they're just going to the ground, never to live again? i want to believe that there is a heaven. and i suppose if i believe there is a heaven, then there has to be a hell. but then i started thinking, how could any of this be possible? if god is real, well then why can't i hear him? i've tried to, and at times when i thought he was talking to me, its just been my own thoughts or my imagination. i find it really unfair that jesus was able to prove himself to everyone in the bible, so that they knew what to believe. well what about the rest of us? what do we have to lean on?! i have ABSOLUTELY NO PROOF of anything, and my clock is ticking! i don't want to stop believing, just to find out i was wrong and then go to hell for it, but i don't want to keep believing, and find out i was wasting my time on the wrong god, or that there is just no god, period. i need help and i need it fast. i have other things to worry about and this helps absolutely nothing. and everytime i turn around, one of my friends stop believing. the love of my life just said he didn't know if there's a god at all, and how can i help him if i can't even help myself? i don't want to lose him like i did with my other friend. it was too late to change her mind but i want to save him.
First of all, you need to relax. Faith is not something to pull your hair out about. And when I say that, I don't mean that faith isn't an important thing to think about. It is. What I am saying is that the experience of descovering one's faith should be an enjoyable process.
Think about it this way. Right now, in this moment, you have opened your heart to an infinate amount of new ways in which you can view the world. You are open to the possibility that there is a God, one specific entity that oversees and touches all of creation. At the same time, you are open to considering the possiblity that there may not be a God. You also admit that if there is a God, you are not sure as to what said God is like.
Have you ever heard of the expression "The wisest man is the man that understands that he understands nothing?". Well, that person is you! In contemplating the unknown, you are admitting that you are not sure of your surroundings. You are not sure about how the world works. You are not sure of God. As a result of this, you are strongly compelled to look even harder for answers. You are open to new ideas. And that is pretty damn wise!
However, at the same time, you seem to be very scared. You say a lot of fearful things, such as "my clock is ticking!" and "I need help, and I need it fast!". You seem to be under the impression that God is a both a mystery and a well-kept secret. You seem to believe that over the course of your lifetime, you either will or will not solve the mystery that is God. You also seem to believe that it is your mission to uncover this secret truth about God.
I can honestly tell you that this line of thinking is flawed. As of right now, you are a human being living on earth who is confused about God. Surrounding you, are a billions of other people who are just as confused as you. Other than that, the world is fairly empty. It doesn't matter that your "clock is ticking". In fifty years, you are still going to be a confused human being, surrounded by other confused people. And that will be about it. The world isn't going to change much as you get older. In other words, you will have no further clues to help you solve the mystery of God than you already have right now. And if nothing changes and you can't figure it out now, what makes you think that you will ever be able to fully comprehend the complexity of devine power?
But, none of that really matters, because faith isn't about knowing for sure. The entire concept of faith relies on believing in something without proof.
In other words, look to your heart. Decide what you want to believe. Even though God does not reveal himself/herself directly to us (provided that God exists, of course), he/she has provided us with excellent intuition and reasoning abilities. Look to those. Even though God (provided he/she exists) may not be coming right out and telling you the truth about the universe, he/she did create you with an abundance of curosity. So go ahead and explore your thoughts and feelings. Begin your journey towards faith; towards believing in something that cannot be proven. And do not worry about being wrong. If God wanted you to know who he/she is, he/she would have told you. Obviously you are meant to struggle through this and think for yourself!
Also, stop telling your friends what to believe. You are no more knowledgeable on the subject of the devine than they are. Please allow them to look to their own hearts and minds, in order to let them begin their own journeys towards faith. Allow them to make their own judgements, decide what God(s) they believe in (if any), etc. Do not deny them a spiritual journey!
Anyway, good luck!
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I'm a junior in high school and i think i have a lot of friends. i'm not popular. but i'm not like a complete loner who has no friends. i have a lot of friends but i'm not like SUPER good friends with them. like say for example, there's an event going on, nobody asks me if i want to go with them, because they already have a group of friends to go with.
I really need advice on what to do.. i dont have trouble 'making' friends per say.. i just need advice on what to do because most of my friends belong with other groups of friends whom i dont know. and most of my friends dont know my other friends. what do i do? By my senior year, i want to have a kick ass year without worrying about which friends are my true friends.
my best friend who lives in a different state than me, told me that i need to throw a party and introduce all of my friends to each other.. i would do that except i SUCK at planning. every party or event i've planned, has turned into dirt and gone down the drain. i can't plan something for my life.. so what do i do??
please i'm desperate.. i've been feeling like this for a looong time since 7th grade and i'm sick of feeling like this. i keep telling myself that things are going to change and that this wont happen again, but it does. helpppp
thank you
First of all, I think that you need to stop viewing your feelings as being negative. You say things such as "I'm desperate" and "I'm sick of feeling like this". However, these feelings that you are complaining about are probably going to be beneficial for you in the long run.
Think about it. What exactly are you feeling right now? Lonliness? Confusion as to who your real friends are? Fear that you may not find out? Frustration at not knowing who your true friends are?
While these may seem like negative emotions, they are actually pushing you to do a very good thing. They are motivating you to take a deeper look at your friendships. They are challenging you to take another look at your life so that you can improve the quality of your relationships. In other words, you may be uncomfortable with the way you are feeling right now, but your feelings are in no way negative. They are guiding you towards more meaningful friendships.
In other words, listen to your feelings. You obviously have a desire to develop your friendships further and create more meaningful relationships with others. The question is, which relationships do you want to put effort into? Who do you believe are the special people that you want to devote your time and energy to? Who do you want to get to know better?
When making these kinds of decisions, it is often best to discard all of that clique crap that you were talking about earlier. Who cares if some of your friends are friends with other groups? Who cares if you do not belong to a specific group yourself?
Relationships are between INDIVIDUALS. The way one person feels about another is what counts. Groups and cliques do not matter. For example, there can be people within a group that absolutely despise one another. At the same time, people from different groups can love one another profoundly. In other words, groups are illusory. Do not worry about them. What matters is how you feel for each specific individual that you encounter.
So, think about the individuals that you know. Who sparks your interest the most? Who do you want to get to know better? Who do you want to spend more time with?
Decide. Then, go for it :)
Good luck.
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Also, on a side note, Valentine's Day is coming up! If one of the people you want to get to know better is a romantic interest, you may want to check out my blog:
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...Heck, even if you don't have a romantic interest, please check it out :) We are having a conversation about Valentine's Day and any inseights or ideas that you have on the holiday would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks!
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Mmmmkay:)
I Think I Need To Be In Tough Love Bootcamp:)
Alright. To Make this Long Story Short,
I Live with My Aunt, Uncle, Little Brother And Younger Cousin. Recently (A Year Today) My Dad Died. So Thats Why My Brother and I Live With Them.
Okay, So Recently My Cousin Got on the Girls Basketball Team, And I Go Twice a week To Her Practices.
She Has A Friend Who's Brother, Who Is Ahhhdorable;)
But Apparently; Has Never had A Girlfriend And "Doesn't like girls" Said His 10 Year Old Little cousin.
No I Know for SURE He Is Not Gay.
He's Just Really Shy. And Thats What I Need Help With.
What Do I Say to A Guy, If He Isn't Even Interested? Or I Dont Even Know If He Does,
Ahhhhh! Help! Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeee:)
xoxox Cassidy
Just because a guy is shy does not mean he isn't interested in you. So, don't worry about that :). Feel free to approach him and see how it goes.
As for how you should approach him, just relax and be yourself. Do not follow any flirting tips you found in some magazine. Do not play games. Do not dress provocatively. Do not play hard to get. Following tips you find in magazines or sticking to concepts you've seen in movies will only screw you over. You shouldn't have to manipulate a guy to get him to like you. And there is no right or wrong way to approach someone.
Just be yourself and treat him the same way you would a friend.
As for some fun things you could do together, here are some ideas:
1. If he goes to your cousin's basketball games, sit with him! This is the perfect chance to spend time together.
2. Ask him if he would like to see a movie. Everybody likes movies :)
3. Go out for coffee, hot chocolate, or some other kind of drink.
4. Invite him over to your house.
5. Ask him to spend Valentine's Day with you.
In other words, please do not waste your time contemplating how you will approach him. Just do it and then turn your attention to actually getting to know him. That is what real relationships are about. They are about knowing somebody, spending time with them, etc. They are not about luring somebody in, saying things in exactly the right way or trying to be seductive/attractive.
Just get in there :)
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This could be beneficial to you, actually, if you choose to spend Valentine's Day with this guy. I have an article dedicated to Valentine's Day that you might like to read. Moreover, I would love to read your feedback and ideas on the holiday :)
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Good luck getting to know your guy! :)
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Okay, so recently to sum my story up short, My Boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5years. In the past I have caught him maybe 2yrs ago lying about girls he had slept with and he put it all out on the table who and what he lied about. 2 years later here we are he lied to me again saying he was going to sleep Friday night because he had to "work" saturday morning an I didn't trust him at all because his whole story about working had been changing, because he lives out of town also! He just recently moved away as well, so he said basically he couldn't come into town because he had to work. I trusted that he said he had to work even though things were sketchy! SO I called his friend later that night he picked up the phone an hungup an I heard music playing , eventually Travis called an chewed me out saying he was sleeping an stop calling him. I just so happened to check his account and see he was lying and at a nude bar? I kept thinking why would he lie, I caughthim an drove all the way to south carolina to fix things with him NOTE:i didnt do anything wrong, I think any female would have done the same an checked up on their bf of 5 YEARS. So he is wanting to break up because I went on his online banking and he foundout tuesday I tried logging in again and he changed his password so I couldn't go on an I assumed maybe he was hiding stuff and questioned him about it? I wrote him a long email saying if he wanted closure I will give it to him an called him that night to talk, this time he wasnt yelling at me on the phone he listened an just commented saying I dont trust him an never did, an that's why he did it an tried to get away with it because he knew I wouldn't approve of him going out like he did. Well needless to say we ended the convo on good terms he said he would call me and hasn't called yet, it's been about a day now! SO I want to know am I wrong? What can I do to fix it? I told him I would go to counseling to do whatever it took to make it work an would trust him but at the same time he has to gain that back from me? I don't know what more to do I have talked to al kinds of people at work, managers everything and have no clue what to do?? ANY advice would be appreciated , Thank you SO much!
You definitely have not done anything wrong.
Do not listen to any crap about your uneasy feelings being your fault. If you feel uneasy with regards to your boyfriend, or if you don't trust him, it is because he has done things that warrant your mistrust. Trust is earned. The fact that you don't trust him completely means that he hasn't earned it. Listen to your gut. For the most part, if you feel somebody is lying to you, they probably are.
In other words, the fact that you check up on your boyfriend is not an invasion of his privacy. He has a history of lying to you. Therefore, it makes sense that you would look to other resources in order to uncover the truth about what he is doing. If he won't tell you the truth, you SHOULD look for it yourself.
To put it bluntly: trusting your boyfriend would be a mistake. And he is the one that needs to change, not you.
You need to start sticking up for your feelings. Do not let your boyfriend tell you that your fears and worries are not rational when they absolutely are. Do not let him tell you that you do not have a right to feel the things that you feel. For example, him telling you that he lied to you and went out SPECIFICALLY because he knew you wouldn't like it is absolutely horrible. Saying something like that is a manipulative tactic, designed to make you believe that if you didn't express your feelings of worry, he wouldn't have done what he did. It suggests that you brought your hurt feelings upon yourself.In other words, it is a way of your boyfriend neglecting to take responsibility for his actions. He hurt you, and he is saying it is your fault. How messed up is that? When your boyfriend says things like that, it also implies that you being uncomfortable with him going out isn't right. It states that if you are worried about him going out, you deserve to be lied to and hurt. It implies that your boyfriend should be able to do whatever he wants, regardless of how it makes you feel. THIS IS ABSOLUTE BULLSHIT. Your boyfriend should be trying to make you happy, not trying to push your limits. In other words, if you are not comfortable with your boyfriend doing something, he should respect your feelings and steer clear of activities that hurt you. He shouldn't be like "well, since you expressed your feelings, I'm going to go out and do exactly the thing you asked me not to do, just because I can". That type of behaviour is vindictive, selfish, and just plain mean.
I think you need to start asserting your feelings. Do not worry about doing something wrong. Do not worry about being the clingy/bitchy/etc. girlfriend. Those are just labels that people use to manipulate women into not expressing themselves.As of right now, you are being manipulated and mistreated within your relationship. You need to stand up for yourself.
If you want this relationship to work out, your boyfriend is going to have to shape up. As it is, he is driving it into the ground.
Let him know that. Tell him how you feel. And DO NOT back down.
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In advance: I get that this "dilemma" may seem ridiculous, but it's been bothering me. If you're only here to be sarcastic, move along. First off, I'm a girl. I've been thinking a lot lately about my HS Prom for some reason, and how it's going to work out for me.
Let's just say that I will not have a date. Not a lot of people really go to Prom with dates at my school, most people just go with large groups.
I mainly hang out with three other girls who, let's just say, are very anti-school event and pretty much everything-event. They hardly ever even go out. Which means I hardly ever hang out with them outside of school. We have a lot of fun when we're together, and we're good friends. But for some reason it never seems like they want to chill on the weekends.
My best friend, Jane, is heavily involved in student gov't so she is on an acquaintance-level with a lot of people. Plus Jane has a friend, Sue who has a lot of friends that Jane kind of knows. Jane will likely be going to the Prom with Sue and her friends. One of the friends that Sue will be going with in this group is Mary, a girl whom I have personally been friends with for a long time but only hang out with outside of school. (Yes, I'm sorry this is confusing.) The thing is: I do know Jane, Sue, and Mary. But I feel uncomfortable with asking to go along with them to the Prom, because chances are they won't bother to see if I want to go with them. Personally Sue and Mary are nice but VERY cliquey. And I could be wrong, my best friend Jane might not even go with Jane and Mary's group of friends (probably about 10).
Now, one of my anti-social event friends, Kate, has been insinuating things about her prom dress every so often. For all this time in HS, she has been saying how Prom is stupid and how she doesn't want to go, and I've been the one trying to convince her to go because, of course, I want people to go with! And this is where it gets even more confusing. Paula, who is a member of the Sue/Mary clique knows Kate on an acquaintance-level and for some reason to me (though I don't know for sure) it seems like Kate is planning on going with the Sue/Mary group because of the way she talks to Paula. (I don't know how I know this exactly, but... it just seems like it. I could be wrong though.) The bad part about it is that I don't think that Paula likes me. At all. She's always been very sarcastic to me. First of all, it kind of hurts me that Kate wouldn't even want to think of me first to go to Prom with me and the other two girls we usually hang out with at school (if they even want to go...). But, I could be wrong... Kate might be thinking that she and I will still go together.
AGH. This was long, and whiney-sounding... but, my final question is: What should I do? I can't go to Prom alone obviously and I can't go with just one person. I feel weird about asking Mary if I can go with their group to the Prom because I know some folks in their group don't like me much. But I think that my two best friends, Jane and Kate, are going with this clique. I feel like I'm just going to end up alone, not even going to Prom.
But the fact of the matter is that I don't even CARE about Prom that much. I just want to go so that people won't ask me later, "Why didn't you goooooo?" "Where are your Prom pictures?" And then assume I didn't have any friends or a date to go with and start to think I'm a loser. But then I think, maybe by that time I'll be so happy about going to college that I won't care about this petty Prom stuff.
Basically, I'm a socially awkward person. Please help by letting me know what you think.
First of all, take a deep breath. Prom is supposed to be fun. It isn't supposed to be a hair-pulling drama. So relax. Once you are relaxed, you need to look at this realistically:
Prom is for everybody. Who cares what car you ride in, or who walks in the doors with you? You should feel confident enough in yourself that when it comes right down to it, you don't need people linking arms with you while you walk across the dance floor. In other words, you don't have to go with a specific group of people. You can go by yourself.
All of that said, if you would prefer company, go ahead and pick a group to go with. But don't be all worried about whether or not they want you around. Why wouldn't they? You seem to be the type of person that has real self-confidence issues. Stop assuming everybody doesn't want you around and start thinking about the positive qualities that you would bring to the group.
I don't even know you personally, and I can think of a couple that stick out:
1. You are a caring person. I can deduce this by the fact that you seem so concerned with the feelings of everybody else. You seem to be constantly thinking about what other people may be thinking, feeling and wanting. That is nice.
2. You are open to helping your friendships blossom. This is evident when you talk about how you wish you could spend more time with your friends. This shows that you are stronger than they are in terms of understanding what it takes to make a friendship flourish.
3. You are inclusive. While you seem to be worried about other people accepting you, you seem to have no problem accepting others. Your question seems to be all about whether or not your friends want you around. You on the other hand, like pretty much everybody. This level of acceptance is rare to find in a person.
In other words, if your friends have a problem with you going with them to prom, that is a reflection of their own personal weaknesses. It has nothing to do with you, or yourself as a person. So quit feeling like you are imposing! And stop thinking that you have to go with whoever wants you to come the most. Anybody would be lucky to have you.
Who do YOU want to go with?
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So I got back with my ex (23/M) and its been almost a month we've been together. According to him, he's going all out on Valentine's Day.
I don't have a clue what to get this guy!
He likes the Bruins (but everything is expensive and he has a lot of stuff)
We tend to joke around a lot with each other so funny jokes and humor are good!
I don't know what to do...its driving me CRAZY!
Any suggestions?
Sincerely,
InSanE
The best way of uncovering what your guy wants is to ask him. Let him know that you are stumped, and would like to know what would make his Valentine's Day special for him. This is the most honest and direct approach, and it would probably lead to you getting him something he truly wants (as opposed to just something you think he wants).
However, if you feel that gift-giving is more fun when it is a surprise, here are a few tips:
1. Start with the classics. Chocolate, candy, card and some romantic time alone. Valentine's Day is about expressing your feelings towards your loved ones. So begin with that. Do something small, with the aim of showing him that you care. Once you know what you are doing to take care of the romantic aspect of Valentine's Day, half of the battle is over.
2. Something related to his interests is always a good idea. If he likes the Bruins, go for that. Maybe you could get him a pair of tickets to a game and the two of you could go together!
3. As far as jokes go, by all means, make him laugh. Buy him something related to an inside joke that the two of you share. Or, think back to the funniest moment the two of you shared and give him something that is representative of that.
4.If all else fails, just go browsing. Walk around your local mall or shopping centre and just see what's there. There may be cool items out there that you never would have even thought of buying him.
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