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I can't say my partner is good at kissing. He's not very experienced in that area and I haven't said anything to him about it.
I don't want to randomly point it out and hurt his ego while we're in the mood so what should I do?
He uses a lot tongue and opens his mouth up and little too much, it's really hard for me to follow.
Is there any subtle way to show him or do I have to straight up tell him? If so, how do I do it? (link)
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People have different preferences in this area. You could try to take the lead when you kiss so that he follows you. You could too sit him down and talk to him. Don't tell him that he is a bad kisser, just mention to him that you would take more pleasure if he could kiss you ... (tell him how). If he loves you he'll kiss you the way you would like him to, to please you.
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hii so my mom is allways yelling at me. And I think she is to over protective I can't go to my best friend for a weekend because she have brothers. I told her before that I won't play around like that because im not that sort of person. I try to talk to her but then she is just yelling again.... please help!! (link)
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My mum was like that. There's not a lot that you can do really. You can try what I've tried though. Tell your mum that it's upsetting that she doesn't trust you and that she wasn't such an 'angel' when she was your age. And then just walk out on her. Give her some time and hopefully she'll let you go. Mine did.
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As most schools, my school has some nasty tasting food. My mom told me that it's a waste of her money if I don't even like it. She said to look for some ideas of food to put in my lunch bag because I'm very picky and don't really like ham and turkey sandwiches that much(I'll eat it sometimes though). Any ideas of what she can put in my lunch box??? (link)
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A sandwich with something that you like for example cheese, tuna, chicken etc.
A fruit for example an apple or a banana or whatever fruit you like.
A yogurt.
And then something to drink-whatever you fancy. I would advice some juice.
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Why is it illegal for a 14 y old to go out with a 19 y olad? (link)
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16 is the age that you can legally have a sexual relationships depending on the country. In some countries I've heard that it is 18. Anyway you're 14 and if you had a sexual encounter with a 19 year old it is classed as rape and he might get in trouble.
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19/f I went through a deep, long episode of depression. I absolutely loathed myself. It escalated to where I was cutting, and I nearly attempted suicide. I had a drink and a bottle of pills ready one night, the only thing that stopped me was the thought of being a buzz-kill for my father's huge 50th birthday event coming up. Before and after that, suicide was almost all I thought about.
I was pretty dang overweight. I wanted to get out of this dark abyss, and not that losing weight would be what would make me worth something, but I didn't want weight to hold me back anymore. It's been about 3 or 4 months since I decided to really start losing weight. I've been extremely loyal to my diet, and have lost quite a bit of weight. Everyone is noticing and complimenting me. It used to be just people I hadn't seen in a while, but now even people I see every day are saying I look great. I'm far from done, but here's the issue.
Instead of loathing myself, at the beginning of the month I realized I'm kind of tolerating who I am now. I'm starting to feel proud of what I look like. Instead of staring into the mirror glaring at the person looking back, I'm noticing how parts of me are shrinking and getting firmer, and it makes me feel pretty awesome. I couldn't see at first, but now I'm noticing and it's a pretty awesome feeling. My journey is far from over, but I've made some good progress.
What I'm worried about is, I don't want to equate my self-worth with how much I weigh. I'm worried that my hatred is going away because I'm starting to look good. I don't want to depend on my looks for my worth. SO, is it normal to feel this way when losing weight? How can I differentiate loving myself for real/ just loving how I look that day? I want to be careful, because I want to like being me for me, not for the compliments and approval I'm getting. I don't know, does anyone know how I feel? (link)
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It's all right to feel happy/proud of loosing weight. After all it's quite an achievement. Well done! But you right it normally starts like this and leads many girls to anorexia. You are far from anorexia but just to be sure that you wont be in that position follow these few steps and your weight will be balanced.
1.Eat 3-5 portions a day. Sounds a lot? Eat smaller portions more frequently. This will not only help you with your metabolism but you will also feel full.
2. Instead of having sugary snacks like crisps, chocolate bar etc. try to eat fruit/vegetable. They have natural sugar which will not make you fat. It is proven that fake sugar (found in sweets, chocolate etc.) is bad for you and can lead you to many diseases. If it is possible cut out sugar completely (eat alternatives with sweetner)or pick a day of a week that you will allow yourself to eat it and stick to it.
3. Avoid take-away meals/microwave meals. They aren't very healthy. Start cooking yourself then you will now exactly what you are eating.
4. Do some exercise every day. It really helps.
PS: Remember looks is not everything. Having a good personality is what matters more than anything. Trust me men don't like skinny girls.
Hope I helped.
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I'm fourteen and female and would like to know when is the right time for dating and relationships to start. I feel like I'm on the back of the bandwagon because my close friends have already begun dating which worries me. I don't want to miss out on crucial learning experiences for relationships in my adult life. Is it okay to start dating late, like in collage or even as a young adult? I want to get some advice before entering high school. Thanks for reading :)
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There is no set time for dating and relationships. It's a personal decision really but let me give you a very wise piece of advice.
Don't be influenced by your friends who you say have started dating. For me 14-16 is a little bit too fast for relationships however at the age of 15+ I think that dating is all right. Remember relationships aren't as easy as they look so maybe starting them a little bit later would be a more mature thing to do. It is proven that relationships which have been well thought out and not rushed into last longer. But the decision of course is yours. Just don't do anything that you might later regret.
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I'm 22 year old female. I have been dating this guy since high school and now I'm a year past graduating college. We have been dating on and off since 2007. I broke up with him in 2009 because I felt I wasn't IN love with him anymore. A year later, we agreed to start a casual sex-only/friends relationship, but that turned into an unspoken transition into dating. I was secretly not exactly happy with dating him exclusively again so I broke it off earlier this year. We spent 3 months apart, and I missed him terribly. I asked him to take me back, but he said he wasn't sure if he was ready to take me back. We accidentally ended up having sex again one night and now we are back into the "unspoken transition into dating". We have talked about moving in together next year, but I'm scared that it's not really what I want. I have jerked around this man I love dearly for so long, but I'm afraid I'm staying in this relationship because I don't think anyone will ever love me like him. I'm scared of hurting him. I'm scared that later I'll regret it. I am secretly in love with someone else, but that situation is hopeless. I feel like an awful person day in and day out, but I couldn't stand the thought of hurting him again. What should I do? (link)
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You should have a honest conversation with your partner. You said that you are scared of hurting him, well you'll hurt him more by playing about with his feelings. You have to 'grow up' and decide what is it that you actually want:be with your partner or start anew with someone else. You can of course carry on breaking up and getting back together but in my opinion that wont work forever as earlier or later one of you will find happiness somewhere else-that's when real pain will come. So you are best of deciding now.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. lately I've been feeling like he's holding me back.
I've always wanted to travel and do things with my life. I never wanted to be the settle down get married and have kids type. Right now I work 50 hours a week, I'm barely scraping by. I'm 21 and I haven't done anything with my life at all.
My boyfriend has just graduated college. He lives with me and doesn't have a job, and I'm supporting him, paying all the rent and bills and food and all that. So I can't afford to go out with friends and stuff. Which, for him is totally ok, becuase he's the type that likes to stay in and watch movies.
I just feel that if I stay with him, I'm stuck with this boring life forever. But I do love him for his humor, his personality, his intelligence, the sex is great, and many other things. He is a really great guy. I'm afraid that I've been with him for so long that I've gotten comfortable and wouldn't know how to be with anyone else.
I'm just so lost right now and I don't think this little explanation does it justice. I don't know what to do. Any and ALL feedback would be great.
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I've read carefully your explanations and there are three solutions that will solve your problem. All you have to do is pick one of them. Just to warn you though they all will be quite painful but sometimes we have to change/mix some things up to allow greater things to come.
1.Stay with your boyfriend and continue with the boring life that you've got used to.
2.Leave him behind and reach out to your dreams which in my opinion is far more important than having a partner who is so unsupportive because let's be honest if he was a mature partner he would let you to achieve your life long ambitions.
3.Talk to your partner and explain how you are feeling. Tell him that these goals of yours are important to you. Basically give him a chance to try and stand on his own legs. If he doesn't than either stay with him or leave him (I would leave but that's just me).
Hope that I've helped.
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My boyfriend and I have lived together now for about 6 months. We have been together for 4 years. I feel like has changed so much since we got together. He doesn't like the same things anymore, his attitude is different, it's like he's a different person. We can't hold a conversation now because he doesn't care about anything i do anymore, it seems.
He just did this thing where he searched through my facebook messages and found a conversation with an ex, about a year old. This conversation was my ex trying to get back together with me and me saying "i have a boyfriend, its not going to work". And my boyfriend freaked out. He wouldn't talk to me for like 8 hours. I always tell him that if there's something bothering him to please please talk to me. And he just sat in bed for 8 hours and wouldn't look at me, or talk to me or anything. I was about to leave all together because i thought he hated me. and finally at the last second he said something. He won't talk to me about stuff, for some reason he can't communicate when there's a problem. And communication is a huge relationship factor for me. He always says "ill start talking to you when there's a problem" but then he just never does. And I almost walked out because of it!
Last night he was telling me about how he's sooo unhappy because i annoy him. He said that the reason he's unhappy is becaue I leave my tooth floss out sometimes, i drank milk that he bought, i use the tv to watch what I want when i come home from work, and when we're driving together, i comment on his driving. Which to me are very miniscule things, not things to be depressed about. Plus, he has never mentioned them to me before. If he had said something, I wouldnt keep doing it, im not that kind of person.
And furthermore, its my apartment, i pay full rent and bills, he buys food occasionally when his parents give him money. He won't even go apply for food stamps even though we can barely survive on my income. I own the tv and im only home from work for like 3 hours before i go to bed so he has all day to watch tv. And he just learned how to drive my car, it's a stick. So i do comment on his driving, but only when im trying to help him or if he's doing something wrong. When he moved in, we agreed that I would go to work while he looks for a job and he will take care of the apartment (cleaning) in the meantime. Which he does hardly at all. when he "cleans" he just loads the dishwasher. which is great. But then I get home from a long day at work and I have to sweep, vaccum, wipe the counters down, take out the trash, clean the cats' literboxes. And I ask him to do more but he just doesnt.
Lastly, i have always been supportive and encourage him. He doesnt have a job and he gets depressed when he gets turned down for one. And every time, I say "dont worry, you'll get one eventually, stay positive" things like that. I am extremely supportive and wouldnt ever say anything to hurt him. He says that he is depressed, he lacks confidence, he doesnt know how to interact with people anymore, he can't sleep. And I support him through all of it, but I can only sit there and watch someone be unhappy and NOT try to change it for so long. Im the kind of person that if im unhappy, i find out whats making me unhappy and change it. He would rather just wallow in his misery and be a victim. Im so tired of being a mom saying "there there, it will be alright".
Maybe im being a little harsh, i want him to be happy. But equally important, I want to be happy. It's hard to sit here and watch someone you love become a totally different person.
Im just stuck and not sure what i should do :( (link)
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It sounds like he's much younger than you but that's not for me to judge. I think that there's only so much support that you can give. From reading your story I have a feeling that your partner has given up on this relationship. I mean he's achieved his goal, he moved in with you and to be honest why would he change things if everything is already made for him. You said that he doesn't have a job and that he hardly does anything at home. That's just pathetic and if I was you I would make up some grand rules as it seems that you're doing everything around him. I mean what is e a prince, can't he get off his bloody backside and help you. I mean great that you support him but where is his support or some sort of understanding of your person. I don't think that you're being harsh at all and it's nice that you want him to be happy but what about yourself. You deserve way better than this. So here's what I'd do:
Sit him down and talk to him. Tell him that you don't care, that he either sits through and hears what you have to say or you're leaving him for good. You tell him that you're tired of this relationship where it is only you who puts all the effort. You tell him to get his act together or he'll lose you for good. If he can't find a job than he'll have to do the housework. If he wants to be in a relationship than he'll have to help you out as you can't do this alone. Oh and about that ex of yours use him as an argument. Tell your partner that maybe it wont be such a bad idea to get back together with him as you have enough of this one way relationship.
Sorry if it a bit lengthy but we women have to stick together. I mean you deserve way better. Hope everything works out for you whichever way. Most importantly I hope that you'll be happy again. My fingers are crossed for you so good luck and let me know how it went.
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hi we are both married . I have feelings for her but she said no. Inspite of tis she accepts gifts from me .and I have touched her breasts and kissed on her neck .I always think of her but she never reciprocate .I always pay for dinners but she never did bring me anything.now the confusing part is she says she didn't tell anyone that she is meeting me .she let me kissed her on her lips but then got grumpy .any good aadvise will be welomed (link)
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Basically this woman treats you like a toy. She knows that she can have you whenever she wants you. She is aware that you've got feelings for her and she uses that for her benefit. She is definitely manipulative and she doesn't love you back and she never will. As bad as it sounds you are just a sex toy to her. There's probably something wrong in her marriage but it doesn't look like she wants to leave her husband. It's up to you really and to what you want to do/have. It's your decision whether you want to be treated like this or you can do something about it, now that you know. It's really up to you. Good luck!!!
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Hi everyone. I'm thirteen, and I have been struggling with suicidal thoughts and self-harm on and off for a long time now. I really want to stop, but nothing seems to work.
I cut because it relieves stress, I like the sight of blood, and it's a way to punish myself for being stupid. I feel like it's the only thing keeping me from suicide.
Speaking of suicide, I think about that a lot. But it is only a thought now, and I haven't acted on it yet.
I have two counselors and do not like either of them. I have been trying to convince my mom to let me try something else or see a different counselor because they aren't helping. But she always says it is helping and I just don't realize it. (No, that isn't true. I don't like them and they do not help me!!)
I don't feel like I have anyone to talk to or someone to understand me. The only person who is actually helping is my girlfriend. Not my counselors or anyone else.
The other thing that concerns me is how to hide the scars . . . are there any other ways to hide them other than wearing a sweatshirt all the time? I tried using bracelets and concealer, but those don't cover them up well enough.
I guess what I'm asking is, what else can I try to stop myself from cutting and also stop thinking about suicide? And how can I cover up the scars?
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Hi, I totally understand you and I know how you're feeling. Please read this.
Suicide isn't the answer, whatever you're problems or worries about life you can't give up. Now you might think that life is crap but trust me better days will come. You just have to believe that something good is waiting for you around the corner.
I agree with you that counselors are an absolute waste of time. They don't help but make the situation even worse. They are however right with one thing:suicide is not an option and self-harm (yes relieves stress) is wrong and the scars (that you've mentioned) will stay with you for the rest of your life.
How to stop suicidal thoughts? It's not easy but I know that you will be able to do it. I mean you have a girlfriend that will support you (I didn't have such luck). If you don't do it for yourself yet do it for her. I mean she wants her boyfriend alive not dead. Now to get rid of suicidal thoughts you have to block them out (as soon as they pop in your head start thinking about something else-something pleasant such as things that you used to enjoy in life). About self-harm (cutting) try to find something else that relieves stress (don't choose alcohol-not a good option) like exercise. I started to exercise and it helped me to understand a few things+you will be so tired that you wont even want to think about suicide.You might even meet some new people. About having scars, they'll stay with you unless you stop fast enough.
I know that's not exactly what you've asked for but trust me if I'm happy than you can be to. You just have to believe (I believe in you).
If you ever feel that you would like to talk to someone who's been in a similar situation, feel free to email me at:
Natka143@hotmail.co.uk
Hope that I've helped you. Sending you my love xxx
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Tomorrow I'm going to the movies with my boyfriend and a couple of his friends. Well, they're both male.. I don't have a problem with it, but I just don't want to feel left out or something. I don't have anyone to invite, either... What should I do? (link)
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Go along and have a great time. He's invited you and who knows you better than your own boyfriend-he knows taht you will have a great time.
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ok so on sunday I got $60 to turn into my school for a fundraiser then I put it in my binder then on Monday my friend took me to school and I lost my binder ive looked at her house my house all my other friends house and I cant find it I don't care about my school stuff I just want the $60 back im saving up my money but im also saving up for a phone and I cant have both I have to have the money in by the 28th im supposed to get my phone this weekend so do I wait til the deadline and turn in what I got or do I turn in the money on Monday and have no phone or do just tell someone the guilt is getting to me though so I need answers fast (link)
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Don't feel guilty. It's not like you stole the money or have lost it on purpose, you've just happened to lose it-can happen to anybody.
It is however you're responsibility to return the money. In my mind there are three possible things that you could do:
Try to find the $60 that you've lost
Tell your family what has happened and ask if they could possibly give you the money, you might have to do some jobs in return like washing the pots, gardening etc.
Use your own money that you have been saving up for the phone and just buy the phone another time
Hopefully I helped you somehow.
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Hi! I'm thirteen and homeschooled, and I usually get up around 7:30 or 8:00. I know it sounds late to most people, but I haven't really been needing to get up any earlier than that.
But for the next couple of weeks, I will have to get up at 6:00. . . . I'm not used to getting up that much earlier than I usually do.
If you guys have any tips on how to get up earlier, I hope to hear them. Thank you for any advice! (link)
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Well you could use an alarm clock and as soon as it rings get up and maybe do some exercise or have a cold shower. Also going to bed earlier might help.
I know it's not much but I hope that I helped you somehow.
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Ok so...
I am a 15 year old girl and the youngest of all my siblings (20,28,38 and 31) I dont really get to do much with them as they work all the time.
I watch Anime a lot.. and it identifies with me. That's why I love it. But you see, my family is religious so i cant watch anything with religion not present (such as Fullmetal Alchemist) or Black butler.
I feel lonely a lot since my 'friends are sort of jerks.
So, I imagine that I'm talking to the characters I watch and I act out all sorts of scenes. I even had a crush on one of them... My family looks at me like i'm crazy and like I said they dont like the stuff I do.
My question overall is, is it wrong to be imagining the characters talking to me and doing things with me (like being a pirate/detective ) ? Also, is it wrong to feel like I have a crush on one?
(No I am not crazy, just lonely. I read and write fanfiction all the time, which my parents and family dont like either. Also, I have A and B grades.
Please give me some advice, any advice at all is appreciated.. thanks) (link)
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There's nothing wrong with imagining these sort of things. Everyone is entitled to have their own private world as it comforts you when life gets difficult.
You say that you're family looks at you weirdly. In all honesty it is a bit weird but everyone is different right-if everyone was to be the same the world would be boring. You have your own world which is good. I can see you as a very creative person. You have good grades (congratulations, they'll help you to have a better future) and writing is very good for developing many skills such as creativity and intelligence.
Having a crush on certain characters is perfectly fine. You're reaching the age where these things (boys) start to naturally interest us girls. No one will tell you straight but every girl/woman has her own private image of the 'perfect guy' and the stories that come with it. You're having a fascination and that's perfectly all right.
PS: Just remember don't get you're imagination mixed up with the reality.
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I need advice on a very important subject. When is the right time to have sex? All I hear is "I remember prom night" and all these stories from people's collage years. I'm confused about when it would be the right time. I don't want to make any rash judgements or mistakes which I will regret later on. Thanks for reading.
P.s. I'm fourteen and female and know now is not the right time for that relationship, though I would like to know when. (link)
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Very good question.
There's not set time to have sex. Some people do it earlier and some do it later. The important thing to remember is that people (especially teenagers) say a lot of things to draw attention to themselves. Don't listen to them, ignore them, as whatever they say about sex is complete rubbish.
You're very right saying that you still have time for a relationship. Remember there's no rush (it's not a race). You sound like a clever girl so I'm sure that you'll make the right decision but there's one thing that I want to mention to you. Sex is great when with a partner that really cares about you-someone that you know is the 'real deal'. Just remember you're the one in control (you can always say no and the person that you're with if he loves you will wait for you) so don't feel pressured into having sex because others have and you haven't. Plus sex has its consequences (children+diseases) so it needs to be a well thought out decision.
If you do decide to have sex, just remember protection is key.
Hope I helped. Remember you can be a virgin only once. Don't lose it fast. Many girls do and then they regret it (they want it back) but it's no longer possible. Don't be one of them.
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Hey everyone! So Ive got a boyfriend and weve only been togethr since october 18th.. Hes the most amazing guy ever. Hes not the problem but there was another guy i liked before him named Jacob. Jacob was such a nice guy and he never did anything wrong. But ww had grown apart andi thought wewere both moving on. My parents love jacob and hes been to my house many times. I havent told really anyone in my family about my boyfriend ,only my best friend know. (Also jacob hadnt talked to me in a month).. so jacob texted me the night that me and my boyfriend were official & i think he fot the jist of the fact that Im not into him anymore.. my mom keeps asking when I wanna have jacob over though ans I just want them to forget about him. I know im going to have to eventually tell my parents but i think im going to wait for monday for my older sister to find out. What do u think???? Btw im 14 and so is my botfriend and please dont question our age and matrity (link)
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If you don't see a future with Jacob then there is no point to look back.
About your mum. I wouldn't worry about her, she'll understand when you tell her that you've got this new boyfriend. Remember though the faster you tell her the easier it will be.
I think that there's nothing wrong with seeing new people. As long as you're happy then that's what matters and I'm sure you're parents will understand with time.
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So I would like to know if I'm wrong or right and what to do.... My wife has her best friend of about fifteen years....her friend has always been a bit of trouble .....if it wasn't drugs it was partying and being the village bicycle....my wife and I have been together for 11 of those and I've tried over the years to be ok with her friend in the picture but as soon as I start warming up to her she does something like cheats on her husband not to mention she is lazy treats her husband like servant and is so immature and when her and my wife get together they act like dumb little girls....now my wife and I met in high school and I'm two years older. We have each done our fair share of dumb shit but she 27 and me 29 now , have settled down, have goals that we both work for, but I still have to deal with her friend who is also 27 , that has no job and dresses and acts like a teenager. I couldn't have an intelligent conversation with her even if I wanted. This last weekend I took my wife to a concert and old town Sacramento ...... I decided to invite her friend and her husband along with a couple of our other friends and all her friend did was complain about the other couple, it was an all day concert but the last band she didn't sans see the last act and expected everyone to leave because she was ready.........and when we didn't she complained.....when we went to old town Sacramento........she was up my wife's butt......she gave me a little trinket and my wife one of those best friend necklaces and I notice she had a new purse and I was wondering Wtf then why couldn't they pitch in on gas and why was I feeding the. Come to find out she lifted that stuff and who knows what else? So am I crazy for wanting my wife to put distance at least til she catches up in maturity? Or am I being unreasonable? (link)
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You have every right to feel how you feel, You could try talking to your wife that you don't like how her friend is behaving. If that doesn't work then you will have to accept your wive's friend (not really only pretend to). I mean she's your wive's friend not yours so it shouldn't really bother you. If you're afraid that your wive's friend will get her into trouble then let it happen. I know it's difficult but then you'll have an argument why your wife should break the friendship or distance her friend away.
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We have been in a relationship for eight mounth now and i'm a virgin but my girl friend she's not and we are both 18, i want sex with her but i'm scared to tell b'coz i felt shy,i think she can reject so what should i do! (link)
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Talk to her about it.If she really loves you, she shouldn't have a problem with it.
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i have lost my virginity how i can get it back? (link)
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You can't that's why it is so precious.
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