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im feel totally guilty for what i did
ok so on sunday I got $60 to turn into my school for a fundraiser then I put it in my binder then on Monday my friend took me to school and I lost my binder ive looked at her house my house all my other friends house and I cant find it I don't care about my school stuff I just want the $60 back im saving up my money but im also saving up for a phone and I cant have both I have to have the money in by the 28th im supposed to get my phone this weekend so do I wait til the deadline and turn in what I got or do I turn in the money on Monday and have no phone or do just tell someone the guilt is getting to me though so I need answers fast
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Don't feel guilty. It's not like you stole the money or have lost it on purpose, you've just happened to lose it-can happen to anybody.
It is however you're responsibility to return the money. In my mind there are three possible things that you could do:
Try to find the $60 that you've lost
Tell your family what has happened and ask if they could possibly give you the money, you might have to do some jobs in return like washing the pots, gardening etc.
Use your own money that you have been saving up for the phone and just buy the phone another time
Hopefully I helped you somehow.
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First, try to absolve yourself of your guilt. You did not do anything morally wrong. You didn't steal the money; you lost it. It was a mistake, and mistakes happen. If the biggest mistake you ever make costs only $60, count yourself fortunate!
You are responsible for replacing the money. If this means you can't get your phone right away, then that is how it must be. The phone will still be there later.
If you don't have the full sum of money to turn in by the deadline, approach your parents to make up the difference, then pay them back when you are able.
But try not to feel guilty. As long as you get the money turned in on time, you have made up for your mistake, and therefore have nothing to feel guilty about.
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I didn't think you would be thrilled with my answer. But trust me as I am old enough to be your grandfather that what I have offered you is the right thing to do.
Please talk with your parents about the right way to clear this matter up. In the long run you will be much happier if you follow my advice.
Unless you think someone stole your binder to get the money the right thing to do would be to replace the lost money. I say this for there are only two options here on how the binder has gone missing.
The first you were careless in leaving it someplace you should not have. Upon finding it someone found the money and kept it and discarded the binder. The second is someone knew the money was in the binder took it while you were distracted and some how distracted you from looking for it before leaving for school.
I do not know you so I do not know if you are the carless type and would just leave your binder with $60 laying around for someone to find and steal the money. In the same light I do not know any of your friends or school mates to know if they would steal from you.
What you need to do is talk with your parents and tell them what happened. Your parents I'm sure will agree with me that you have to make up the funds lost or stolen to the fund raising event. Depending on what they believe happened will depend on whether you can make up the funds and get your phone. Meaning your parents help you out with the lost funds. Your parents could see this as an object lesson and tell you to make up the loss out of your phone money and you just have to wait for your phone until you have saved up the money you needed to give to the fundraiser.
Regardless of where the money comes from the fundraiser needs to be made whole and receive the money raised in their name. You were responsible for the money therefore you must come up with the money they are expecting. This may be a hard lesson to learn but it is one you will remember for the rest of your life.
When you take on a responsibility you take on the whole responsibility even if that means having to do something you don't want to do. You may think I am being mean by saying this. How would you feel if a friend did something for you that you were counting on and then at the last minute turned you down. IF you do not make up the money to the fundraising this is in essence what you would be doing to them.
Talk to your parents; I'm sure they will help you work this out.
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