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My name is Alex, I am a female, and I’m thirteen years old.
Well I have this friend I knew since the 5th grade, and now we are in the 8th grade, and she has changed, a lot. And she has been telling me I changed but I think it's the opposite, she's changed! She has gotten meaner than ever since Elementary school. Anyways, the day before a dance at our school, I told her that I like a guy that she knows & that is in every single one of her classes. May I add, he is also my ex-boyfriend. But then when the dance came, she started dancing with the guy I like. I got pretty mad, after all, she knows I like him and she just dances with him in front of me! I don’t know what to do, I am not going out with the guy, but I like him. But then I don’t want to ruin our friendship over a guy. But I really like this guy though. Please Help!
Well, since she's being a bitch, fight fire with water! Cause water puts it out. I don't know why people say fight fire with fire, Anyway, back to your problem. I know you don't want to ruin your friendship and you like the guy, she's just trying to make you jealous so, she doesn't like the guy, she just wants him to like her so you can't have him. Alex, you best make a move before she gets him. This sounds real twisted I know. She's your friend, but why isn't she acting like it. Talk to her and if she's like, "Your the problem!" Drop her like a bad habit. Like dropping a bad habit, it'll be hard, but if she's acting like this, is she even worth it?
Good luck!
♥Paige
Could you date someone who had very different or totally contrary views to your own. For example, if you were a dedicated Democrat and they were a Republican, or if you were quite religious and they were an atheist. Would those sort of things be a dealbreaker for you or would you still want to see them?
Do you think relationships like that are doomed or are disagreements like that healthy?
It's perfectly healthy! It's like when opposites attract. If you were in a relationship with someone who believed in everything that you did, it would be boring and you would have nothing to talk about. Having a different perspective in a relationship is good if you can handle it.
♥Paige
13/f
i've alwayz wanted a boyfriend i just don't know why. i get decent grades(A,B,C etc.)and i don't act up in school. i don't have bad friends. i'm basically a good student, but my mom won't let me. she's afraid i might go off and get PREGNANT. at one point i might go behind her back and get one. i don't wanna go behind her back but sooner or later i'm going to get tempted! so what do i do? i don't want to hurt someone i love! my mom said i can't get a b.f. until AFTER COLLEGE!!!HELPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!! please
Oh my goodness! That is just,...ridiculous! You are a reasonable kid that gets good grades and doesn't hang out with the 'wrong crowd'! I don't get it. You need to tell her that you will always be her baby girl, but you are going to have to grow up sometime and that you are responsible and for God's sake your 13! You aren't going to go sleeping around with ever guy u see! No offense to your mom or anything, but she needs to let go some, she's too defensive over you. Maybe y'all ((Sorry, I'm southern lol)) could work out a deal or something? Like, you can have a boyfriend, if she meets him before y'all go on a date or kiss or anything. That's what I have to do and it's not terrible. So just explain to your mom that you love her, and you know that she loves you, but you're growing up and there's going to be drastic changes in your life, that she needs to get used to. Like a boyfriend.
YOU DONT KNOW HOW MUCH LUCK THAT I WISH YOU!!!
♥Paige
okay, i know this is gonna sound like all those other stupid guy questions, but i have to ask. I like two guys. One is my age, which is 13, and he is tall, cute, and athletic. The other is 16, he's not really that good-looking but i think he's really funny and cool. I'm a little afraid because he might expect me to go further than i feel comfortable. I don't know who to "go after". Could someone help? thanks in advance!
Yeah, the 16 year old will expect more of you than the 13 year old dude will. And I think that you shouldn't go out with a guy that is 3 years older than you and that can drive. It's really dangerous is so many different ways. And the 13 year old, you won't go extremely like sex, but I mean you won't go too far where you are uncomfortable. So go with the athletic cutie ;) He's a much better choice!
Hope you are happy with whoever you decide to 'go after'!
♥Paige
13/m. I have a sister who is 14. Where we live, stuff happens slowly. It's not like in NYC where everyone loses their virginity at, like 13. My sister finally got her first boyfriend. I'm not too worried about that. But, they're taking everything too fast: one week, they're dating. Another week, they're holding hands. This may not seem like much to you, but where I live it is. And now yesterday---they've been together 2 months, tops---they both had their first kiss.
I've been trying to get more info, but she's really private about this. I asked her if it was just a peck or if she made out, and she said that it was about 5 seconds. Is that long for a first kiss? And I asked her when, and she showed me a ring that she got from him. Unfortunately, I suck at taking hints, so I still don't get it.
She doesn't want to tell anyone about anything that happens. My other sister and my parents are still completely unaware that they've done so much as hold hands, and she doubts she'll tell them about kissing any time soon.
So, I was just wondering, is this too fast, am I worrying too much, will she be turning into a sex-obsessed slut any time soon, and how can I get her to communicate more? "Why do you need to know?" she asks. Well, I intend on getting a girlfriend this year, and I'm gonna have to learn somehow, right? No smartass answers. Thanks! =)
Well, in the modern day world, that isn't fast at all. You should be happy for her. And like assuager said, its her business not yours. I mean, the same thing is going to happen to you, and you don't want her all in your business do you? You should think of it from her point of view. It's her first boyfriend that she really likes and they've kissed so what? And 5 seconds isn't making out. That's a totally different story. She's not going to turn into a whore anytime soon. So just chill, relax, and stay out of her business because you don't want her to do the same whenever you get a girlfriend....do you?
Anyway, I wish you luck!!!
♥Paige
15/f
i have never had a boyfriend. Is that like pathetic?? I want everyone to be honest like if you think thats stupid then say it i wanna know your honest opinion i wont get mad at anyone...unless you go like wayy overboard.
5 for anything.
Pathetic is a strong word....it's kind of sad, but not pathetic. I mean, waiting for that one special guy is alot better than goin out with a bunch of shitty ones!
♥Paige
ok so heres the thing.. im going to try and make this short.. i just screwed over by this kid that i really liked...ALOT! And now im really starting to liek my x*boy friend ( we went out for 10 months and have been broken up for about 5 months now...) and i know that he cares about me and he acts so much better now and its like when i look at him now i see everything i always wanted out of him... yea this may sound perfect.. but it gets bad... heres where it does... i like my X alot but Some of my friends dont apporve of us going back out and the other half say its my life what makes Me happy is what i should do.. but i still want to respect the opinions of all of my friends... PLUS there the slight factor of that kid that screwed me over... i still have feelings for him.. idk how but we never got to see each other alot like in person but we talked so much n then he just stoppped liking me n didnt tell me. it wasnt untill my friedn julie told me that i found out and i asked him n he was honest ( un usually for most guys MOST not saying All) n i still like him too but i feel like i should be with mike.. and its like im caught in the middle of two people and im being pressured by everyone else and being told whats right.. i knwo i should decide this on my own cause believe it or not though it sounds like i cant i CAN control my life its just im going through a really confused stage right now... so a little advice would help mne out alot...!
Thatnk you for any help that is given.. and ps.. i rate good for trying...
I think you should go with your ex. Appartently the kid that screwed you over doesn't like you anymore, and why go after the jerk whenever you can have someone you know is great? And the right thing to is, whatever you chose. I know you respect the opinions of your friends, but they can't control your life, no offense to them. I mean it's your life, and you deserve to make the chooses ((sp?)) that you want. I know its alot of pressure, the people in my class started a petition for 2 people to go out but she said no. It was kind of sad. Whatever, Whoever rather, makes you the happiest and makes you feel the most special around them is who you should still like and/or go out with or whatever!
I wish you the best of luck!!!
♥Paige
ok,
this guy asked me out over myspace.
i said yes.
now he dosnt talk to me.
i have to start everything and he dosnt reply.
i met him once before i even found him on myspace.
and i asked if he wanted to hangout
he didnt reply.
then i left a bulletin asking for peoples advice.
and i was like.
now the guy i like dosnt like me.
he replyed.
the guy you like better be me.
so now i left one HOPEING he will see it saying how this guy dosnt talk to me.
so now what do i do.
is he playing me?
i mean.
if he dosnt reply to hanging out.
PLEASE HELP ME I RATE HIGH
He is a crappy 'boyfriend' or whatever, just forget him and move on. I mean, obviously he just wanted a girlfriend and/or liked you at first but now doesn't but doesn't want to hurt your feelings...((Well,...he's already done that but you get the picture i hope)) and he hopes that you will get the picture and break up with him. Maybe you should give him a taste of his own medicean. That'll teach him.
&Good luck!!!
♥Paige
i'm going out with this guy and like people are starting to know..... but alot of people are making fun of me telling me i'm desperate! but im not i love this guy but its soo annoying that these people think this..what should i do?
xoxx
You should tell them assholes, "Hey, atleast I got a boyfriend!" lol, well, I mean, if you really like him, just ignore the other people, or you could go with my first proposal. You may not love him, but, he should still be an important part of your life. And if not, break up with him. And if them stupid retarded people say you did good, or whatever just say it wasn't because of them, you just felt like it needed to be done. So basically this is what my ideas are...
1. Tell them off.
2. Ignore them.
3. Break up with him.
4. Just casually change the subject
And last
5. Just explain that you like him and if you don't like it well forget you and your ugly ass self...well, maybe not that last part but you get it! lol
Good luck!!!
♥Paige
i agree that you can be a good advice giver but can never apply it to yourself. thats the same way with me. i can give people advice but when it comes to giving myself advice to help my relationship with my girlfriend i just cant do it.
Thanks,..but who is this? I've followed my advice for myself, and gotten myself into quite alot of trouble. Is this Gav? I bet it is. You've told me this countless times...
ok i really need help ok theres this guy that my friend talk to saying that i like him and she said that he said that he likes me two but than i see him flirting with my friend that talk to him and he flirts with other people and i even hinted that i like him and shit and dont get wrong he flirts with me two but i always feel like hes giving me mixed signals and i need help pleaze im lost
Guys are assholes, as I have recently learned. But, he may like you, but he doesn't want boundries. He probably does like you, but doesn't know if he wants to go into a relationship or not. You should flirt back if you don't. Maybe hint more often, try and make him get the picture. And if all else fails, make the first move if he doesn't. I mean, if you like him, and you think he likes you too, maybe he's worth atleast a little bit of your while before you give up.
♥Paige
whats the difference between kissing and making out? any tips?
Kissing, you just sit there, and making out, you get all into it, you start using your hands, they might go up the shirt or down the pants just depends. So, yeah thats the difference.
Ok, so last summer i started talking to this guy, we'll call him mark. We never met each other or anything, but we talked on the phone all the time. when school started we started dating the 2nd week. we broke up the day before our 3 month. Thing is, there wasnt really a reason, we just did it now so that the break up wouldnt be worse later. We were having a lot of fights and stuff though. Now, we still talk like normal and we talk about getting back together sometimes, and i want to. but he doesnt really know what he wants, our feelings for each other are still the same. but i just don't know if I can wait for him to make up his mind...and advice for what i should do?
Don't tell him it's now or never, because that puts alot of pressure on a guy. I'm not a guy,but I mean, that would put alot of pressure on anyone. Tell him that, if he feels something for you, maybe we can try and make it work this time. Even through all of the arguments and rumors that people will start. If he was worth your while, don't you think he's worth fighting for,...even if it is only for a little while?
Good luck!!!
♥Paige
What do people mean when they say "opposites attract"? Is this statement true?
Like different kinds of people like each other. For example, a pretty laid back guy falls for a up-tight girl. It's like, whenever opposites attrach, the other person fills in the blanks.
♥Paige
Is it weird that im in 7th grade and havnt had my first kiss yet?? i mean, so many people in my grade have been kissed. Am im like, a freak or something?
Ha thats funny! I don't mean it like that though. I too am in 7th grade and have never been kissed. You're not a freak, and don't worry, your time will come with a really great person!
♥Paige
Ok, so i have this friend named *ang* and she was my friend the whole sumer. I was either talk to her on the phone, she was over, i was over her house, or she was at the pool with me. Ok so when school came, this friendship went down, she turned into a wana be popular girl, anging out with them, and turned into a backstabber. We still stayed friends. So i decided to take dance with *ang* and she was so happy and so was I! So tonight is our dance recitle, and she hates me. She caleld me a bitch, she gets into my email account, but then, after, she just comes back to me. and me being to soft harted i accept her apoligy. If i doont, she gets totaly mad and starts spreading bad rumors. ive told my parents, and ive told teachers, and en talked to her, nothing has worked. please help me solve this problem.
I agree with them peoples down there she is not you friend, she is a prissy little wanna-be popular girl backstabbin' bitch. Tell her if she doesn't stop bein' a two faced little bitch ((I'm sure you can find nicer words than mine lol)) then you won't be her friend anymore. And if that doesn't work, just stay away from her, because if she isn't with you, she won't know what rumors to start and such things. And if you want her to stop getting on your email, change it to something retarded like "password" thats what my friend did and no one has ever figured it out. And if you tell other people, she'll know that you are mad or whatever and she'll get mad and start rumors. It's just a big circle.
Sorry if I didn't help much
Good luck with you "friend"
♥Paige
I honestly don't think I like my boyfriend anymore. He's wayy too protective, and he'll always say the stupidest things. I just woke up this morning & I really don't like him as much as I used to. Should I ignore this feeling, and maybe it'll go away? Or, do you think you shouldn't have negative feelings about your relationship when you're dating someone? + I'm NOT Pmsing. (: lol Thanks.
Well, feelings like that just don't happen over night. You must have had them before but never felt them. I know that sounds weird but whenever you think about it, it actually isn't. This is what I mean. Like sometimes you don't like him and you just ignore it, and it gets stored in your brain. And I guess this paticualar morning, you just reliezed it all. It's not bad to have feelings about your relationship whenever you're dating someone. That what happens. Whether its feelings of love or hate. And if you don't like him anymore, then just break up with him. If you still want to go out with him and stuff,..just tell him that, you think he is being too protective and that you're your own person. And for the, "He says the stupidest things" part, guys are retards. They just try to say them to make you laugh. You could tell him just watch what he says.
Anyway,...good luck!!!
♥Paige
ok theirs this guy and we kinda friends..i like him alot. idk if he likes me back though. i overheard him once saying 'she is hott but i can't go out with anyone until....(their was more but i didn't hear all of it) im so confused idk what to do please, someone help. thanks soo much.
Well, the obvious thing would to ask. But if s=you're the shy type and don't want to ask one of your friends to, you could flirt. Drop hints every now and then to keep him intrested if he is now, keep him wondering. And in time, he'll learn to like you back.
Best of luck!!
♥Paige
Ok. I like a girl. She is still in love with her ex-boyfriend. We are kind of friends with benefits and make out everytime we get together. Things haven't been going so great, I want more, she is still in love. Lately I've been hanging out with this new girl, we will call her girl B. she is amazing, and beautiful. She says she doesn't want a boyfriend right now, which I know is girl translation for back off. but I really like her. I like them both, but I'm in a pickle with both, so any advice would be good.
Well,...that is a bit of a pickle huh? That's not always what that means in girl translation. Sometimes it means,...I dont want a boyfriend right now, or i just got out of a bad relationship and don't want to get hurt again. For the girl that's still in love with her ex, I say, stop trying to go after her, since she won't like you back, because she's in love with someone else. Now for B, she sounds good for you, and I'm sorry to say this, but you are just gonna have to wait. And if you're like me, and hate waiting, it's gonna suck big time. But the guy I like, just broke up with his girlfriend, but still likes her, its all very complicated.
Anyway, good luck!!!
Wish you the very best!!
♥Paige
Do you think that giving your best friend a gift card is too impersonal?
Because the thing is even though we are really close I have no clue what to give her. Then any time I ask what she wants she just says, 'Whatever you know what I like.' And infact I do know what she likes but she seems to already have everything.
So is a gift card really something you could give a best friend?
♥ Thanks.
Yeah, I mean, if she takes it like your rude or something just explain to her that, you weren't sure what quite to get her so you got her a gift card so she could get what she wanted.
♥Paige