Just a random stranger who helps out of having a good heart.
Gender: Female
Location: Wisconsin.
Occupation: Changing the world.
Age: 20
Member Since: September 4, 2013
Answers: 63
Last Update: October 14, 2014
Visitors: 5006
Main Categories:
Love Life
Friendship
Families
View All
|
| |
|
I know this may sound like a dumb question but I have dark reddish brown hair and really fair skin (like the skin of most redheads) it has pink undertones and it's freckled. Most brunettes I know even if lighter skinned aren't as light skinned as myself...? (link)
|
No questions are ever dumb :)
And I'm sorry, but I don't know the answer as to why.
It could be because of DNA or you're just born like that :)
|
|
Hi I'm Bhuvana from India. I have a caring lovable boyfriend. My problem is he is too much caring.Its a kind of possessiveness. I'm unable to sacrifice many things for him as he do to me. My nature is to be independent. But he says he is making me to be independent but I'm unable to feel that. Whatever I do casually he is makng complaints out of it and begging me to change that quality. He is ready to change anything for me but I'm unable to do it.At the same time I'm unable to leave him.He is such a nice guy ever. He is suffering a lot because of me but I'm unable to sacrifice my independence. He makes complains if I speak to other boys. He always intend to see my call logs in my mobile. If I ask for, he is saying he is doing everything casually. How should I take this? Moreover, he is getting upset because of me since I'm not satisfying his expectations in talking something dirty like all tat stuffs. I help him in that but he is expecting all that often with which I'm getting irritated. How to deal with this? I have asked for a big gap for this relationship. But its being very hard to handle this gap for both of us. At the same time we are not able to live happily if we are together. Misunderstandings! I'm scared he will find other person who suits his character if I have this gap between us. I'm helpless. Need advice! (link)
|
It sounds like he's just being possessive. And that is never a good sign.
A good man wouldn't do that to you. A real man knows what independence is and they can always tell when a woman is independent. Your boyfriend does not seem like that at all.
Why is he trying to change you when at the same time he wants you to be independent and you ARE? That just doesn't make sense.
You need to have a talk with him and make him understand where you're coming from with your independence.
I am the same way, I am independent and I don't like anyone trying to take my freedom away from me, especially doing the things that I want to do.
|
21/f
I'm having a hard time right now. There are things that are changing in my family environment and now things are changing in my relationships.
There's this guy. We dated when I was 17 years old. We went on and off when I was 19 years old, we weren't really seeing anybody in between those times. Our on and offs were pretty much him saying that he wanted to move on, and three days later he'd come back. We were going through a rough patch of him telling me to move on and then coming back asking me to stay. We fought constantly over the past 4 years... But recently, things got better. We stopped fighting. I thought because we've been through so much we don't fight as often anymore. When we get into an argument, we apologize and we automatically know what to do and we make up within those 1-3 hours. I thought things were going well.
I saw him two days ago and he seemed fine... But after I got out of the car things changed. He avoided me, he barely spoke to me, etc. I told him instead of keeping me in the dark, what was going on, he said he didn't want to "continue this complicated relationship anymore" and that he wanted to "start moving on" again... Since he was planning on moving to Japan.
I hate it when he says that. About Japan, he told me these news sometime last year. He told me he wanted to move to Japan for a couple of years and work for a company before he goes off to medical school because after medical school, he would not get a chance to go. I was in denial.
For the past year I was trying to believe what other people told me. The people that I trust the most and has a pretty good grasp about him, believe that he won't go and that it's just a dream that he has since he has this habit of running away from his problems and trying to escape reality and if he did move, he'd only be there for a month because it's quite pricey and the work environment there is terrible. His friends told me that they don't know what he's going to do, and that maybe he's doing it now because he feels like this is the only time to do it and that he will be back for medical school. Others? They say they don't know him well enough to tell whether or not if he's going to go.
To be honest, I've been having a hard time grasping onto that idea. The more he talks about it, the more he tells people, the longer time passes, it makes it hard for me to try to believe he's not going because I don't want him to. And I feel selfish thinking and hoping he wont go.
I've been needing the reassurance that he won't go but I feel more sad when the time may come.
I fear that if he goes, what if he finds someone else? What if things do work out there and he's there for years? To even think about that, it scares me and worries me. His decision on going makes me feel like I'm not important enough for him to stay and he's leaving me behind instead.
What am i going to do? I've been trying to be the best for him because i want him to stay but it comes off as not enough. Do you really think he's not going to go at this point or is it still a dream he has to escape medical school? (link)
|
Hard truth, if he does go, he'll definitely find someone else. Why? He's already wanting to leave the "Complicated relationship" with you. So, why wouldn't he move on and find someone else? You see where I'm coming from?
And if it's his "Dream" to go to Japan, he's most likely going to go. If he feels that the time is now, then I don't think anything would stop him. But hey, who knows?
To be honest, I think you should just let him go. What kind of man says that he wants to break up, then come back a few days later only to tell you that he was wrong and you two should be together? Only idiots do stupid things like that.
Love yourself. You don't need any man to love you. Yes, we all need love, but his kind of love? Nah, I'll pass any day.
|
|
Well I had sex for awhile now with different guys. Some guys I started bleeding with drops of blood not a lot but I don't know why? I don't know whats going on? I am scared to go get check out because my mom doesn't know nothing of this. So please help me (link)
|
Sweety, if you're young, you shouldn't be having sex. Sex can cause so much problems. For example, you could get pregnant and not know who the father is.
And of course you should tell your mom. She is your mother for a reason. Out of anyone else in the world, she should be the one you turn to when you need help. A mother will never neglect her kids. It doesn't matter how angry she'll get at you, she'll help you because she gave birth to you and she loves you.
People like us, online helpers really can't do much. Take my advice and go to your mom.
|
Okay so first of all im 15 and let's say my ex is tom(15) and my new boyfriend is chad(16).
So tom and I dated like a little over a year ago and our relationship didn't end too swell. We had lots of fun but every time he'd try to move farther with me in the relationship I would say no and yes he respected that. But the thing is I was an 8th grader and he was a freshman at the time and our schools were different but we saw each other every weekend and sometimes during the week. Then all of a sudden 3 weeks into our relationship he dumped me over a text saying that he can't do the long distance? Lol it wasn't even long distance? We lived like a mile away from each other...it took me awhile to get over him because he was the first guy I actually truly liked. Oh and he has been the first and only guy to ever dump me. Then last summer I met a guy through a friend and we talked and we have been dating for almost 11 months now. We are very serious with each other and tell each other everything and very open but we've never had the chance to meet face to face yet. But this summer we are going to see each other. So this past 11 months its been long distance with Skype and texting and phone calls. So my dilema is I love chad but tom has never fully left the back of my head...I feel like a horrible girlfriend just thinking about tom. Because chad is so perfect for me we hardly ever argue or anything. I want to be with chad I love him (whatever love is at this age) but tom I find myself thinking about.. is this because chad and I haven't been together yet? (Kiss, and hug etc) and the last guy I was with was Tom. Tom and I text sometimes out of the blue but completely as friends, he trys to flirt but I stop it. I want to be with chad once again. I just dont know why I keep thinking about tom. How do I stop it? Oh and tom and I have not spoke of the breakup since it happened. (link)
|
You can't possibly stop thinking about someone whose in your head. It just doesn't work that way.
I think that you haven't fully let Tom go yet. If you did, you wouldn't be thinking about him. And sorry, but if you can't possibly be with another guy if you're still thinking about someone else.
Why be with someone, if he is not the one in you're thinking of and why think of someone whose no longer in your life?
I think you should think things through before you make a move.
|
|
So, I'm 10 and in school. So anyway, this might sound crazy but I think people are gonna hate me. I'm not getting invited to much party's lately, and a girl who acts all friendly to me and we are friends but I'm wondering about it not that I don't trust her,I mean, I've been friends with her since I was 2 or 3, but she's been hanging out with this one girl every Saturday, and I don't see why she would like her more than me because she's a cry baby, and she keeps “forgetting" to invite me over when we agree on hanging out. One boy keeps annoying the hell out of me, and one thing I find suspicious, is that a girl asked me to take notes for her when she had to go to orchestra lessons, but then she said before she left,“you don't have to take notes for me anymore" and then whisper-asked a girl to do it for her. Also, in PE, on the traveling rings, everyone got cheered no matter what, but only about 1/3 of the class cheered me. Also, another friend suddenly ditched me. What is happening? (link)
|
I think you shouldn't care so much about other people and how they see you. Just be yourself.
Why would they even hate you for? Reading your message, I don't think you did anything wrong to anyone. But then again, you're 10. And kids around your age doesn't know how to act right yet. So, don't pay them so much mind.
If you're going to be hated for no reason at all, you shouldn't even let that get to you. It'll be pointless to care. And when you give in to their hatred, they seriously have power over you. Never let that happen.
|
|
I met the guy through some friends, let's call him A. We began talking for a year, but we never met privately. We would always bump in to each other and talk that way, but never meet personally on our own. Through the year of speaking, we stopped for almost 3 months, and in that 3 months, I got myself in to a relationship with a guy who I were close with. A came back in to my life and I decided to give it another go, then we stopped talking again, and I met a guy who I was interested In. Again, A came back and I decided to give it another go. Whilst I was on these dates and in another relationship, I still really cared for A, he was still my first thought of every morning. Anyway, when he came back, we decided to give it a go in to an official relationship, our first 2 months of our relationship was amazing, pure love everywhere, we were great together and then the arguments started again, I began ending us every time we argued, now we have been together for 6 months and this past month has been stressful, we argue over the stupid of things and we haven't been together for almost one month now, but we do text sometimes. I feel like I've pushed him away because of the fact we kept arguing and I kept ending us. He knows he has me wrapped around his finger and I'm guilty of that, no matter how long he goes without calling or texting me, he knows I'll always be there. I want to re kindle our relationship, I want it to be like it was at the start, but I don't know how to. He called last night after 1 week of not talking and he was being cold, he was asking if I'd met anyone yet. I told him I want to move on and I'd appreciate it if he didn't text me, take care and whatever else and all he said was ok, and that was it. Does anyone have any suggestions or personal experience they'd like to share? (link)
|
First, it's not just YOUR fault. In a relationship it takes two people to start and ruin a relationship.
Well, why did you keep ending the relationship when the road was tough? It's not going to get any easier and you're definitely not escaping by breaking it off. I think that as a couple, no matter how hard the relationship gets, you guys should always fight and pull through. It actually brings couples closer.
I think that you two should try to work something out. And if it doesn't workout, then you're just going to have to let go. Sometimes, the things we wish to last forever doesn't last, but that doesn't mean that we're bound to not have great things in life. Sometimes, you have to let go so better things can come.
Good luck on trying to workout on the relationship. I hope all goes well. :)
|
|
I can't play any school sports until I'm thirteen,I can't get an email account until I'm thirteen,I can barely to anything on this website until I'm thirteen,a majority of the clubs I want to do I'm too young for, it seems like everything I'm too young for! I don't get why. I know how to be safe online, I'm very smart and athletic and talented so I doubt see why there is SO many clubs and after school activities I want to do, and I have great advice to give, but I have to wait for 3 years. I think this is stupid! I know that crazy people are online, but I understand not to fully trust them, and not to meet them in real life. Some say that 10 year olds are too immature. Not always true! Some kids are very intelligent, mature and adult like. She adults can be very dumb immature and childish. So why can't I participate in do many things. Someone asked me a question I can give a perfect answer to, but I have to wait soooooooooooo long. I'm sick of adults thinking that we are all young idiots. I'm tired of being held back because of my age. I'm tired of people saying “you're too young" I want to be treated like I'm old. A teenager. Not a 2 year old. (link)
|
Well, if you're smart like you think you are, then you'll know that the net ain't such a safe place for you. You're only thirteen, meaning you can still fall for bullshit.
People just want you to be safe, and there is nothing wrong with that. You're probably at the stage where you think you're big enough to handle everything that comes your way, but trust me, a lot of us have been there and done that. I wish I was thirteen again, so I won't have to worry about anything. Being young is truly awesome. You don't worry about bills or difficult choices that can change your life drastically.
So, enjoy the things you could STILL do and stop worrying about the things you can't do.
|
I'm 19, female and my ex boyfriend is 20, male. We were together for over 2 years.
He broke up with me a couple weeks ago. In the moment he said it was because he didn't feel the same. He's not very good at communicating, so our relationship was more difficult than it should have been because he couldn't really express what he was thinking.
So we didn't talk for awhile after he had broken up with me. Then we hung out, got some food and talked. He said he was sorry for the way he did it, apologized for not being able to tell me what was going on, ect.
He told me he was stressed and is confused about our relationship. Not that he doesn't care about me anymore, but our relationship had some pretty stressful moments. So we went over and talked through them, figured out where we both went wrong in handling certain situations but in the end he said the relationship was unhealthy.
So at this point, I'm really not sure what to do. We talked about getting back together, giving it more time. But then he said he still doesn't know yet.
So I don't want to wait around because who knows how long, or even if he'll actually want to get back together. I did reflect on whether or not these problems we had can be fixed. I do believe he cares about me. I know he just doesn't want to have the fights we had before. So I've been getting advice from people on how to handle the certain situations we've been having problems in.
To be honest, I'm scared of asking him. If he says no, I'll be upset of course. But if he keeps telling me I don't know, then what do I do? Just let him go and move on? I'm thinking of giving it a couple weeks till we talk again. Good idea or just wait till the next time he contacts me?
I talked to my dad about it. He told me he's a good guy and all that, but if he can't figure out what he wants in two or three weeks, then don't wait around.
I've never been in a situation like this. I've dated quite a bit before him, but was never broken up with. I always ended the relationship or the "talking". He truly is a good guy, just a very confused good guy...he has good qualities and is overall just amazing. Even though I was mad at him for how he handled the break up, I can't really talk trash about him. So hopefully that helps showing you how I feel about him.
Just any advice at all would be appreciated. Sorry it was long. (link)
|
He DOES seem like he is confused.
Maybe you should wait for a week or so and see what it is that he really wants. I mean c'mon, if he wanted to be with you, the answer would of been clear. Usually when people don't know what they want in a relationship anymore, that is a sign that they're giving up.
So, I guess you have to wait and see. Don't wait too long though.
|
|
My jym teacher treats me and the rest of the kids in my grade like 5 year olds. I'm in 5th grade, but he makes us review volleyball skills we've known since kindergarten. He lifts the ball high in the air, or low on the ground, and makes us do the set, or the four arm pass, but never throws a single ball. He also makes us do those two skills as if it was a real game, but not a single ball was thrown. Then, he made us sit down for like 50 minutes reviewing “bridges and roadblocks" AKA, what helps you learn and what prevents learning, for no reason. Can anyone tell me how to STAND THAT FITNESS FREAK? (link)
|
I think you need to calm down a bit. And needless to say, no kindergartners know any volleyball skills. I don't even think they teach kindergartners how to play volleyball.
Help you to stand the "Fitness freak"? No one can help you to bare him if he's getting on your nerves.
And all I have to say is, he's the gym teacher. Repeat, GYM teacher. He can do anything he wants. But since he's getting on your nerves so much, then why don't you just talk with him?
|
|
I was badly burned in an accident. Im recovering but I have noticed that I miss a guy greatly. We were friends and started getting in a relationship but it ended before it started. Its been years but I think we should give it a shot. But we mainly talk in texts. And when I dont get a reply I get really anxious and sad. I feel like its unhealthy.could it be that I need some sort of comforting. I dont want to get attached. Any advice? (link)
|
First off, I'm sorry to hear about the accident. I hope everything goes well for you.
Well, to start, if this is a guy who you liked years ago, then I think you shouldn't bother. Everyone at one point in time will eventually miss someone in their past, but that doesn't mean we should do something about it. It'll eventually go away.
It really is unhealthy. We're supposed to be focused on the future, not the past. If he was meant to be in your life, he wouldn't be in the past.
|
|
I have a crush on this boy, but recently I found out he likes someone else. At first,I told myself I'll find someone else, and try to forget about him. But I can't seem to find another boy to replace him, and no matter how much I try to prevent it,I still have some feelings. How can I get over my first love? (link)
|
You can't do anything to get over him. It doesn't work that way. Time heals all. Time is the answer.
It sucks, but that's the way it is.
When you think about him, just go do something you love doing. Don't force yourself to forget about him though. You can't erase the things in your head.
|
|
My friend, who will be called friend1, and my other friend, who will be called friend number2, hate each other and refuse to communicate. Friend1 is hanging out with a girl friend2 dislikes. So friend2 won't hang out with friend1 and friend1 is getting so angry and taking every move she makes and taking as an insult. They want me to take sides, but I just want them to make up, and they won't talk to each other, do what can I do? (link)
|
Well first of, to tell you to choose is wrong of them because the problem between them doesn't even include you. So, they should fix it themselves. They can't just tell you to choose because you're friends with both.
If I were you, I'd tell them to fix it and leave me out of it.
Doesn't matter what the situation is, friends who are true to each other would eventually come together and solve all problems between them.
|
I've liked this guy for a few months and I've finally gotten up the courage to get his number. When I asked him for it (on Wednesday) he blushed and while telling me he forgot it for a second then remembered. I texted him on Thursday (today is Saturday) and I still haven't gotten a response. He talked to me in the hallways on Friday and walked me to my next class which is weird since we haven't talked much since school started. So anyways, since he hasn't responded, I don't know what to do because it doesn't seem like he's ignoring me purposely and I don't think he'd purposely give me a fake number. He either: 1. Got his phone taken away (I asked him for his number while he was on his way to detention so that's a possibility) 2. Accidentally gave me the wrong number 3. Is doing some psychological thing and waiting awhile to text me back.
I don't know if I should ask him if he have me the wrong number (I'd wait until maybe next Wednesday) or if I should wait it out. If I do ask him how would I do it?
Sorry if this is confusing!
I'm a female, junior in highschool if that's any help! He's the same age as me. (link)
|
Wait ... Did he ever texted you back? Or you just never had a reply from him?
Maybe he didn't get it, or maybe he didn't see it? It could be anything. Ask him.
|
|
So there is this boy at school who I would say is fairly shy around girls and I'm not sure whether he likes me or not (I like him a lot..). Basically I always catch him subtly looking in my direction and staring at me when he thinks I can't see. He also kind of comes over to stand with me when we're waiting to go into a lesson. About 2 months agp he asked me to go to the prom with him (I said yes) but apparently it took him about three weeks to pluck up the courage to ask. His friends tease him about me and him an awful lot and say that we're a good couple and make heart shapes at us.. Whenever this happens he gets annoyed with them and calls them things which are not very nice. I don't know if he likes me because he's never asked for my number, we don't hang out outside of school (although his friends have invited me to go to the cinema with them) and recently he's stopped replying to facebook messages I send him :( I'm confused as I think I'm sending pretty clear signs that I like him and I'm not sure what to do now? (link)
|
Maybe he calls them names because they're making him nervous around you. I've seen that happen a lot.
Obviously, he had some sort of feelings for you, since he DID asked you out to the prom, but for him to not reply back to your messages? Hm? You should talk with him face to face. That way, he can't ignore it. You need answers, so ask him for the truth.
|
|
Everyone always assumes that I'm married or have a boyfriend. When I tell them I'm single they are so surprised like 'why are you single' and I just say i dont know. To be honest im 26 years old and Ive never had a real serious relationship. When ever i am interested in a guy I either get rejected or something else happens where it doesnt work out. So it always surprises me when people assume im taken because of all of the bad luck ive experienced. And if all these people assume this does this means that they are guys that like me but wont approach me because they think I'm unavailable? What do you think? (link)
|
From past experiences, whenever guys think that I am in a relationship, they're interested. So, maybe it could be the same way with you.
But don't worry about past experiences, someone special will come to you. :)
|
13/f (Ik Im young, but I have been through a lot for a 13 year old. This is just a part)
So over the summer me and my crush had a summer romance, we dated for about 2 and a half months then since we didn't go to the same school he broke up with me just saying we should take a break and that it might be the biggest mistake he has ever made. So then about 2 weeks later one of my guy friends asked me out and I said yes but I couldn't help feeling like he deserved better because I was still heartbroken over my ex. So I told my bf about this and he understood where I was coming from so we broke up. And about a month after that I was doing pretty good. But one day I was helping my friend after a breakup and I was trying to help him get over his ex and I kept mentioning my lost love (ex 1) like I got over him u can get over her.. Well.. I realize Im not over him and I miss him a lot. My heart is still in ashes and I don't know how to fix it and I dont want to talk to him about it because Im afraid he doesn't feel the same way even though he told me it might be the biggest mistake ever. I want to be someone's special someone- some of my friends are in there first relationship and it is already like 7 months and I wish it worked out so well with me. I just want to be in his arms and be together with him. He was my first kiss and the first one I said I love you too so he is super special to me. What do I do? Could he still like me? Should I talk to him? Any advice in general about how to get my life together? (link)
|
The first one is always the hardest.
I know you don't want to hear this right now, but you need to let him go. Your both still young, you don't know what you want just yet, especially him, but guys are always like that.
My advice to you is, don't go out with someone when you know that deep in your heart, you still have feelings for your ex. You're just hurting the person you're going out with and you're more miserable.
Time will heal everything. If there was a way to make anyone's life better, it's Time.
I know that when I'm sad, I do something that makes me happy.
|
|
There is a house party at my crush's house. Since we started college I haven't seen him in a while now. This is my opportunity to make an impression on him. I need to look stunning! I have some outfits in mind but I need to know which one to wear! I would really appreciate it if someone could help me out! Thanks :) (link)
| |
I would like to help, but if I can't see the outfit you have in mind, then I can't help.
|
|
my bestfriend for years has been distancing herself from me and hanging out with other people. i have tried to join their group but they seem to have too many inside jokes, and don't really want to include me. i don't want to sound needy, but i have only had that one best friend for years and never had the intention of becoming close with anyone else. i don't have anyone to talk to now, or hang out with, i don't even know what to do with myself, now that i have all of this free time. what should i do? :( (link)
|
You should talk to your friend about how you feel. Don't hide all your emotions inside, it'll only make you miserable.
Let her know that it's bothering you.
|
|
Is there any guys who are single in coeur d alene Idaho I am13 and really want/need a bf (link)
| |
I feel that at 13 you don't need a boyfriend. Why would you need one at that age? Besides, the younger the boys, the more immature.
|
|