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I'm 16. I've never drank, done drugs, or done anything with a guy. I'm pretty okay with that because I do really well in school, have never gotten in trouble before, and still have alot of fun with my friends. I actually have a good time just reading a book or watching TV or whatever. Is that weird? I mean, I kind of hang out with a really straight-edged kind of group of people, and I don't really mind that. Am I the only one in high school who actually IS a good girl like that? Because sometimes I feel like everybody's out getting drunk at crazy parties while I'm at home reading a book. Haha. Hopefully good things come to those who wait and DON'T make stupid decisions in high school? I just don't want to look back at high school when I'm older and wish I did crazier stuff... What do you think?
I used to be JUST like you in high school (& still follow rules to this day, just not every single one of them now, ha). It's not weird, it's called being mature & having good judgement. Most 16 years olds try way too hard to act older, when really they are just complete MORONS. You're still young, there are many joys in life you have yet to experience. Never doubt your morals & think you're missing out on anything. You have plenty of time to have a drink or party with your friends, but do it when you're of age. I admire people like you who know how to have fun with their friends without the help of alcohol & drugs. Keep doing what you're doing & you'll turn out just fine. :)
Alright, so I'm going to get my eyebrows waxed for the first time EVER sometime this week, and I'm a little nervous.
1) How long will it take?
2) How do they do it?
3) On a scale one to ten, ten being highest, how bad did it hurt for you the first time?
4) What age did you start getting yours waxed/plucked, etc?
5) How often will I need to get them redone or whatever?
Plz help, I'm a little confused, and really nervous.
1.) Usually takes about 3-5 minutes for the whole process - atleast for me. Depends on the person's pace.
2.) Apply the wax to shape the bottom of your eyebrow, strip off. Apply the wax to the top of your eyebrow, strip off. Repeat on your other eyebrow. Then they'll do in between eyebrows (Don't worry, they aren't suggesting you have a unibrow, haha.) Then they'll pluck anything that wasn't waxed. Thankfully, it's usually only a few suckers.
3. 3. I think it actually feels good now, haha. If it hurts for anyone, it's for 2 seconds.
4. I started plucking when I was about 15. But I switched to getting them waxed when I was 18. You couldn't pay me to pluck them again. It's too painful & more of a hassle, in my opinion.
5. Depends on the person. Mine don't start becoming REALLY noticable till after a month & a half. If you occassionally pluck them to keep their shape, you can go longer without having to go back.
Aw, hey girl you're only getting more worked up than it really is. It's no biggie, I promise. This question reminds me I need to go get mine done. How exciting. :)
is it normal to shed a lot of hair? i usually dont, but in the past few weeks i've shed so much hair. does it just have to do with summer or what?
There are a lot of factors that cause it - from hair product usage to genetics to the weather. It's said you lose an average 100 hairs a day. I wouldn't consider it to be a problem unless you are losing so much your hair is ridiculously thin & you're starting to have bald spots.
The guy I like is hated by so many people at our school. Like he dresses extremely preppy (but I LIKE that stylleee). So I heard he's gonna ask me out, but I don't want to say yea, because then my reputation would go bad. Basically, he acts exactly like a girl, which is why so many people hate him. But we get along GREAAATT!
But I really don't want to go out with him beacuse I'm kinda popular and my reputation would die.
Please don't say "do whatever makes you happy," because its much more complicated than that, and I'm really confused... =[
THANKS FOR ANY HELP!!!
Do teenagers really talk like that? I thought those kinds of lines were only used in Mean Girls. Honey, who cares about your reputation? If you connect with someone & want to date them, DATE THEM! Who cares what the other kids on the playground think? You are the one living your life, not the other people. If you made choices based on other people's opinions, you are only being liked for someone you AREN'T. Who wants to live like that? It's not "complicated"; you are just brainwashed to believe you have to "fit in" to other teenager's standards or you're a loser for life. The truth is, they AREN'T THE judges. When you get out of high school, you will look back at this day & laugh & ask yourself why you cared about what THEY thought. It's a WHOOOOLEEE different world out there & I am THERE. I can guarantee you no one acts or passes judgements like that. I say learn to be happy now & date who you want.
so me and my boyfriend have been together for over 8 months now, and well have done many things sexually. i have yet to give him a blow job though...and i feel like its time. i'm totally ready and really want to. but i just am not sure at all how it goes.
could anyone give me tips on how/what to do?
thanks!
We can't tell you how to give a blow job, silly. If you are ready like you say you are, you should be open with your boyfriend to where you are able to ask him what he likes. He's the one receiving it. Ah, communication - the wonderful things about being in a strong relationship.
I sorta want to get my tongue pierced :]
Does anybody have theirs done? How much does it hurt, and how long does it take to heal?
I mean, is it kinda wierd, because I'm kind of known as a prep, but I want to get it done...
Also, do guys prefer tongue pericings for kissing?
Like I advise to several other people who have asked this question - pain varies per person. But surprisingly, most the people who get their tongue pierced agree that it's one of the less painful piercings (although it doesn't look nearly as pleasant.) You have to remember that your tongue is a muscle, so it's going to be different than your ear, lip, eyebrow, etc.
I've had mine done twice (took it out the first time & decided I wanted it back.) Both times were a breeze for me. Of course you're going to feel a pinch, but if I were to put it on a pain level, it'd be close to ears (if not less painful.)
Now, on the other hand, the healing process is another story. The first couple-few days are going to be a hassle because it'll be very difficult (& somewhat painful) to talk or eat with a swollen tongue. Technically, it'll take about 6+ weeks to fully heal. But the swelling will go away within 3-7 days.
Who cares what your stereotype is? I am certainly not "labeled" as a person who has piercings coming out of their face & fingers. Piercings are becoming more acceptable in today's society & are no longer viewed as a form of "rebellion." Do what suites yourself as long as it's reasonable & doesn't affect you from getting a job, of course.
As far as guys prefering it - yes & no. Depends on the guy. I know my boyfriend liked it when I had it. Some guys might find it attractive - just depends on who you're kissing.
so i talk to this guy quite often (normally through txts and IMs) and recently we got onto the topic of drinking, and ive drank before, but ive never gotten drunk....well now he talks about how we should hang out and get drunk and stuff like that, mostly cuase he wants to do stuff with me. I wouldnt mind making out or minor sexual things, but i dont wanna go any further...so what should i do to let him know that i wouldnt go very far with him, without making him think i wont do anything...thanks in advance
NO. Don't put yourself in a vulnerable spot. If you already know ahead of time that he's wanting to get you drunk so he can do sexual things with you, you can already tell the whole thing is a bad idea. Even if you warn him of your limits, chances are he won't follow the rules & he'll keep pushing for more - especially with alcohol in his system. It's just a stupid idea & any stupid girl would go through with it. Respect yourself & your safety by avoiding underage drinking all together. It isn't even worth it, girl.
(Sorry this is a little bit long!)
I'm just starting a new relationship with a guy, Robert. He is ten years my senior, super intelligent, heaps of fun to be around and has his life together, from what I can tell.
We have fooled around and had a bit of sex, but not much because I'm not on any contraception at the moment (and like most guys, Robert really hates condoms). I'm looking forward to going on the pill because I think we will have great sex together.
Here comes the bad part: my last partner had an absolutely HUGE penis (it was like a small tree trunk!!). It was totally out of proportion to his body as he was very short and thin. My 5 month "relationship" with him was a joke, however. We had pretty good sex to start with, but then I started to find it painful, and I realised didn't really like him that much as a person! I found him boring and shallow. I had no qualms breaking things off with him - a big penis was definitely not enough for me!
I had told Robert about my ex at some stage, saying the relationship was purely physical and I was never that into him. This was a BIG mistake. Robert wouldn't let it go. He asked me questions about it. I should have refused to answer them but stupidly I didn't. Eventually he asked, "Did he have a really big willy or something?" and I didn't say anything (wish I'd said no!). He keeps asking me about it, and last night, he even said, "How big was it?", which I refused to answer.
Robert has apologised for asking, but he said he feels we can't move on with our relationship until he knows. I've tried to reassure him that I really wasn't that into my ex but he is fixated on the big penis thing. Robert is above average in the penis department, by the way, but now he has a complex about it!
Now I am awaiting this conversation Robert wants to have with my about my ex, where he will no doubt repeat the size question. What should I do? Should I back-track and lie? I'm scared if I tell Robert the truth or avoid the conversation all together, I will lose him, but I'm also scared that telling him the truth will make his complex even worse and drive us apart :(
Well, you need to tell him the truth. Tell him: "Yes, he did. But the point was the relationship was a failure because there was no attraction to his personality." I can't see what your ex's penis size has anything to do with anything. I mean, everyone knows size doesn't matter; it's how it's put to use. All you can do is reassure him that you are interested in him & him only. & if he can't accept that & be secure, then this relationship won't last for too much longer.
I do not know how to pasionatly kiss! I mean dont get me wrong im a good kisser i just cant kiss pasionatly manely becuase i dont know how i have seen it in the movies in all but i still cant seem to understand how to do it . Can you help me and i need this advice befor tomarro morning if possible.
Thanks in advance!
To kiss passionately, you have to have passion. If you don't feel strongly for the other person, of course there isn't going to be any passion in the kiss. But when you truly care about that other person, it isn't too difficult. All you do is kiss slower & put some emotion into it! :)
okay, so i'm 15/f and my bf is 17.
we seriously are really close and hit it off right away and we're aren't like the normal 'oh i love you couples' that break up and then move on. me and him are each other's first and we really feel like we can last. we almost never argue and we have a lot of fun. and we have a lot of support from our friends. and we've only been together for four months...
but he told me something about a promise ring and i do want one...but do you think it's too young? i mean we are waiting till our 20's to get engaged and married and it sounds a little far fetched, but we really feel like we are that close...
but are we too young? and is that what a promise ring always means? and what finger would i wear it on?
i need and answer soon. thanks in advance. =]
I would never doubt your feelings for eachother, but yes it is a little too soon to be making promises. I guess I've just never understood the purpose of a promise ring. In my eyes, you're either engaged or not. & you should not promise a lifetime together until he gets on his knee & officially proposes to you. Many things can, of course, change between now & 5 years so it's too fast for any type of promise - especially after dating for four months. If you are still dating till you're in your 20s, then great! But don't make any big commitments right now. You're still young & have so much time ahead of you. You'll only be even more disappointed in the end if things don't work out.
like two nights ago me and this guy were hooking up. i know him very well. we're good friends. anyways,
i know that im like really tight down there. and i know he tried to finger me but like..i'm kind of embarassed because idk if he did or not. like if he COULD you know?
it was like kind of sore afterwards for a little while..but i still dont know, it didn't feel like he did it just kind of hurt a little.
help!
should i be embarassed if i'm like really tight?
and what do you think? does it sound like he did.
If you are actually embarassed in anyway while doing anything sexual with someone, you are probably with the wrong guy. You should never have to worry about what he thinks. Keep your legs closed until you are with someone you can trust & are completely comfortable with. Problem solved.
I am in Grade 12 now and will have to leave for another city in a few months. I'm in a very serious relation with my guy since an year. he's gonna be staying in our hometown after he's done with Grade 12. He doesn't want me to leave but it is very important for me to do so because I am lookin forward to become a fashion designer for which i have to be away for 4 years...I'm in a statew of dilemme because I dont know what to choose : My career or My love...!
As hard as it is to accept, your career is certainly more important than a boyfriend. These 4 years are the beginning of your future. No one can guarantee he'll be there 10-20 years down the road. If he loves you, he won't be selfish by keeping you back from pursuing your dream; he'll want you to go. I'm sure you can work around it - plan trips to visit family & him every so often. If it's meant to be, you two will meet up again someday. This will be one of the hugest mistakes of your life if you don't take this opportunity.
is it bad to have just met a guy, and it was the second time we hung out at his house, and he fingered me and i gave him a hj? does that make me seem easy or slutty?
thanks for any help!=)
I don't think "slut" is the right word to use. You're going to come off easy & he's going to get the wrong idea. So in my opinion, it definitely wasn't a good call.
I am 14 and this guy that I like is 17, we both like each other but everyone keeps telling us that it is too weired for the ages too be together what do you all thing it is only 3 years. Im going to be a freshman next year and he will be a senior. So are our ages too far apart?
Three years isn't that big of a deal, but it is looked down upon when you're a minor. I wouldn't consider it too weird or too far apart. I believe the only time the age difference will ever be a problem is if he's pressuring you to do anything sexually. That's a red flag that he's trying to take the advantage that you're younger & more vulnerable. Be glad you have friends/peers who are looking out for you. Unless he doesn't treat you right, there doesn't seem to be anything screaming that this is a bad idea.
ugh i have so much eyeliner and it wont juss stick to my eye....does anyone know a good brand of eyeliner?
I've experienced the same problem with other brands. I guess I am picky about my eyeliner, but I've found that CoverGirl Perfect Point works pretty well. :)
I'm on a diet. For dinner, were going to a steak house type place. Either Applebees, TGI Friday's, etc. Something to that sort. I have no idea what to order. I looked at their Weight Watchers/Low Fat menu & nothing seemed appetizing. I'm a very picky person & not into onions/mushrooms or anything of that sort. I like my food plain, like chicken & salad or something. I heard ordering salad out at those restaurants are actually high in fat because of the dressing & what not. What would you suggest me ordering? Thanks!
I loved Applebee's Sante Fe Chicken Salad. Yes, usually the addings & dressing to some salads can be fattening. But you can have them put everything on the side so you are only eating the minimum amount. Honestly, I think any type of salad is good to order as long as you are in control of what you add on to the basic lettuce & veggies. I wouldn't be too worried if you're not eating something already DRENCHED in cheese, bacon bits & dressing.
im 16/f and i need tips for fighting other people like i mean fighting other girls.
Fighting other people may feel good at the time, but in the end it's childish, embarassing & doesn't solve anything. Honestly, the wise thing would be to handle the situation like an adult. I don't know your situation, but I can promise you there are a couple other ways to deal with the situation besides throwing fists.
Could you guys give me your favorite xanga sites that have cute quotes in them. I like love quotes, and other cute things. Please don't tell me to search it or anything because I have akready tried that.
Thanks so much : ]
I'll do half the "work" for you: search "quotes" under blogrings. There'll be a list of blogrings with 100s of members/sites under each one. I can guarantee you that you will find a handful of sites.
15/f
i want to get my tounge pierced. i have parental consent.
what should i know about it? how much does it hurt? is caring for it easy? what else do i need to know about it?
like, people who have their tounge answer please
I've gotten my tongue pierced twice (but took it out about a month ago.)
You should talk to your piercer. Usually he/she will tell you everything there is to know about the process & taking care of it. Honestly, it didn't hurt nearly as bad as other piercings. I was told the same thing before I got my tongue pierced for the first time & I didn't believe those people. But because it's a muscle, the pain is surprisingly just a pinch that lasts for about 3-5 seconds. The healing process, on the other hand, is a pain. For the first 2-3 days, it's going to be difficult to eat & talk because your tongue will be swollen. It's probably just as easy as taking care of another piercing. But of course you will need to avoid a list of things within those weeks of healing. Again, your piercer should be able to provide you with that kind of information. All I can suggest is - research more on the internet, ask questions & make sure you go to a very nice place with real professionals. Don't have your friend's sister's friend's cousin who's 17 pierce your tongue. Good luck! Let me know how it goes.
Help me! My mom is too overprotective! She told me that I can't get a boyfriend until I'm OUT OF COLLEGE! How do I tell her that I would be WAY TOO OLD by the time I'm out of college to get a bf?
It's possible she'll have a change of mind & calm down by the time you hit college. Legally, you can make your own decisions @ 18. But as long as you are under her household, you must abide by her rules. You have to remember that she is your mother & she's trying to look out for your best interest. But if she's making major decisions like that when you are in your 20s, she's being too controlling & not letting you learn on your own. And if you don't want to be in that type of environment when you are of age, you have the option to move out. That's my only advice for you. In the meantime, you can try discussing this issue with her. Slowly earn her trust & your freedom. But until you are 18+ & move out, there's not much you can do.