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Dilemma
I am in Grade 12 now and will have to leave for another city in a few months. I'm in a very serious relation with my guy since an year. he's gonna be staying in our hometown after he's done with Grade 12. He doesn't want me to leave but it is very important for me to do so because I am lookin forward to become a fashion designer for which i have to be away for 4 years...I'm in a statew of dilemme because I dont know what to choose : My career or My love...!
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As hard as it is to accept, your career is certainly more important than a boyfriend. These 4 years are the beginning of your future. No one can guarantee he'll be there 10-20 years down the road. If he loves you, he won't be selfish by keeping you back from pursuing your dream; he'll want you to go. I'm sure you can work around it - plan trips to visit family & him every so often. If it's meant to be, you two will meet up again someday. This will be one of the hugest mistakes of your life if you don't take this opportunity.
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Honestly, I think you should go to the city. If you don't i'm almost 100% sure you will regret it. If he really loves you he wants to see you happy and pursue your dreams. Explain to him that you really love him and your career is rocketing right now but you want this to work. You can still write,talk on the phone and e-mail eachother and when you come back you can go back to where you left off.=]I STORNGLLYY suggest to go be a fashion designer there with always be more men(if he doesnt work out) but this is a once and a lifetime oppurtunity!! best wishess.<333
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Yes, love is a wonderous thing, but if it is true love, then you two will find your way to each other. Keep in mind that you will have vacations. The career will always be there for you and even though you are sure that he will always be there for you, the reality is, that he might not be. We don't know that, but I personally think that you should go with your career choice because it's successful, and like I said, if it really is love, then it'll find its way back slowly but surely. I hope this advice helps some. :]
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Being a fashion designer is your dream. When opportunities come knocking you can't just let them go. If he really loves you, he'll realize that you need to do this. He'll let you go and trust you to come back to him. If he tries to prevent you from leaving, he doesn't really love you.
Once I read in a magazine that Tyra Banks's boyfriend tried to prevent her from going to Paris to become a model. When she told him she needed to go he broke up with her at once. Of course, she cried and cried, but it turned out for the better. She was a successful model and now has two television shows.
Follow your dreams. If you have the chance to make them come true, go for it. If he loves you, he'll let you go.
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