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Q: I want to dump my boyfriend...and yes I have my reasons. He asked me if I would go to the movies with him this Friday. And I said I would, but since then I have decided I want to dump him. I don't know what to do now though. Because I went with him to the movies last week and he thought I got mad at him there. But I didn't. His friend told me that my boyfriend was shy last week and he wanted to give me a kiss and everything but he was to shy. And he was going to this Friday. I need advice on what to do, because there is another guy that I want to go out with, when me and my boyfriend break up. I'm not sure if I want to dump my boyfriend before or after the movies. What do you think?

Before the movies. Don't be evil. If you want to move on, have the decency at least to be upfront about it. You will be saving grief both for you and him. Forget about hurting him. He's going to get hurt either way but it hurts more if you prolong it. It's like ripping off a band-aid. It hurts but not for long unlike taking off the band-aid a bit at a time. It hurts the WHOLE. TIME. THROUGH. Do it now and do it quick.

Q: 14/f ok ive liked one guy and only one in my whole life.. we went out before but barely talked it was pretty stupid and now he has a g/f.. guys have asked me out and theres nothing really wrong with them.. i just cant because i always want to be open for him.. i dont want to be this way forever, always wanting him.. how am i supposed to get over it?

Go out with one of the other guys who asked you - simple as that. The more you date, the more you will find that other guys will have qualities that you will find overwhelmingly attractive. But you MUST give them a chance. If you don't give another guy a chance, then there's no way for you to get over the first guy.

Q: 14, female.We recently took a fieldtrip to go to a skating rink at my school. While at the skating rink my friend broke up with her boyfriend. I tried to comfort him, I told him she was retarded and a bit*h, but in a goofy voice so he knew I was just kidding. Well one of her other little friends took it the wrong way and ran off and told her. She got angry and started dissing me behind my back, and saying I was a bad friend. We are sort of getting over it, but now I like her ex. Everyone keeps saying he likes me too and that we should go out, but I don't want to make my friend madder. What should I do?

I have devised an ingenious method for such an occasion. For every week you have been boyfriend/girlfriend (this does not include the 'just seeing each other' period; only official bf/gf status) add 2 weeks of 'mourning' period. For every month add 2 months. If you've been dating a year and you can still stand each other, it's time to step back and ask yourself, 'do I want to date other ppl?' The 'mourning' period is the period of time in which you allow your friend to sob, bitch, cry, and let out any other emotion. It is a way of cleansing one's soul and closing a chapter in their lives and start anew. If they still have feelings after that, then it's borderline stalker crazy. If your friend has been dating this guy for a month and 3 months later she's still got issues with him, she's nuts. She's needy and insecure and needs to get over herself. Go out on that date. Besides, she was the one that dumped him.

Q: OK, I've been dating this guy for about a month or so ...and a few of my friends think he just wants sex and im not quite sure either....One time he asked me to have sex one night but i said no. we've hung out since then and he tried to get me to give him head and stuff but i didnt and we still hang out and whatever but he hasnt asked me to be his girlfriend or anything yet so thats why im unsure nor even have we talked about it . all our phone conversations are pretty short and just consist of making plans and whats up how r u n stuff along those lines however we do talk once in a while for like 15 minutes....so my ? is do u think he just wants sex? and anyways to find out besides talking to him about it

Yes, he just wants sex. Next question.

Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for two and half years, and we are both eighteen. We are both very different from one another. I'm asian, I grew up with strict parents, I don't party much, or go out much. I like to do things around the house to keep me busy, like reading and writing. Don't get me wrong, I'm not boring and I know how to have fun, and I'm allowed to do anything that I want. Whenever I do go out, I'm pretty much the life of the party. Him, on the other hand, he is black, his parents were never really strict on him growing up.. he parties a lot and likes to go out all the time. He gets mad, or annoyed at me because I'm not the type to party and go all out. I get mad and annoyed at him when he parties too much. We both love each other, but it seems like that is what we mostly argue about nowadays. I'm not going to change my ways to satisfy him, and he isn't going to either. We talk about it, but even still, nothings going to change. How can I go about if an argument starts again? It just annoys me when he says to me that I don't know how to have fun, or that I'm boring. We both just have different definitions on the word fun. Any advice will be nice. Thanks.

It shouldn't matter whether you're asian or black or white or green or purple or blue. Fact of the matter is that your boyfriend is still in party mode. No way around it. Don't expect him to even consider settling down until well until his mid-to-late 20s. I'm asian and 28 and I STILL party hard. Marriage is not a consideration for me right now and will not continue to do so till I'm at least 30. Take that into perspective. I doubt that he's gonna settle down anytime soon so maybe you should find someone who has more similar interests. You sound like 2 completely opposite people. Find someone who is more compatible with your interests. While the old adage 'opposites attract' is true, very few people hear the 2nd half of that adage 'but hardly stay together'.

Q: Does this sum up what is going on, or did I miss something?

(This was originally posted in response to a question about why most people here are 13 year old females.)

Hello there,

I have been trying my best to figure that one out...

Have you noticed that girls will tell their dads things that they simply can NOT bring themselves to talk to their mother about? Same thing goes for boys. There is a definate lack of Dad type creatures around these days. Failing to have that person to bounce things off of, they ask their peers.

Why? Because, quite frankly, when you are 13, practically everyone you know well enough to ask advice. Boys and girls all the same.

The difference comes in that a boy can ask his mother: "Hey Mom, what can I do to impress this girl." Mom is a girl, so she knows the answer usually. Don't EVER ask your mother what a boy likes... :-)

A boy at 13 has a number of people around of the male type, varying in ages, which he can ask most everything he would ask a dad if he were there. Pastor/teacher/martial arts instructor/mechanic/barber, etc.

We wouldn't think twice about asking someone we hardly know if we should get roses or chocolate, do we look alright, etc.

People say men don't ask for advice... That's bull. You see, we do. We will ask, get the answer and move on. I remember hearing girls talk about what their friend said they should do, and their friend's friend said this and that and the other.

Men, are very simple in such respects. We don't intentionally ask people we know will give bad advice. If we have a matter of life experience, we like to go to people who have already lived through a few more things than we have. For example: Back when I was 12, I wouldn't go seeking investment or job advice from someone 13. Try 50+ They have already done all the career stuff and if they did it right you get good advice. If however they did it wrong, you get to find out what job you do NOT want to get into. By asking our elders these things we learn something either way.

Today we all have reduced opportunities. When you are little today, you can't just hang out with adults... The news people have everyone convinced that every adult is a predator unless they are your parent. Guess what? The last figures I saw indicated that better than 80% of all child sexual abuse is committed by one or both parents.

What effect has this had? When I was about 6 my Dad went to pick up something from an equipment yard. I went with him and noticed a guy rebuilding an engine. Dad went into the office to pay, so I wandered over and started bugging this guy. By the time Dad came out, I was learning how to use a torque wrench. (The thing you use to make sure all the bolts on something are tight enough, but not too tight.)

Dad asked the guy if I was bothering him. He said not at all, so Dad left me there to learn for about 3 hours. I got a lot of that. Dad was a fair judge of character.

Now, there usually isn't a dad at all. :-( Everyone is so scared of things that kids never get a chance to talk to many people wiser than themselves.

We have ended up in a place where the only place to get advice is from our peers. People your own age usually give bad advice about almost everything. Boys, girls it doesn't matter.

Right now, on this board, there is a 13 year old female asking what she needs to do to start having sex. There are a few people who asked her to think twice, but those in her age range were less concerned with her mental health, and more concerned she get an appropriate condom.

A 14 year old, said something like "Don't wait till you get old like me, get your groove on before you get too old"

BAD ADVICE! Down! Bad Advice, no biscuit!

Adults in general aren't out to get you. It's a fact. If your Mom gives you bad advice, it isn't because she is trying to ruin your life... It is because she THINKS WHAT SHE IS TELLING YOU IS RIGHT. It doesn't make it right. Not at all. Same thing for Dads. (Though I mostly see complaints about mothers here.)

When my parents knew I was old enough to think for myself is NOT when I said I was. It was after I proved it. I thought something my parents said was unreasonable. My dad told me to put it in writing. I did my own thinking on why I felt that way. Then I started researching the idea. What I found out was that my parents were right about that. I wrote it out and handed it over. It was after that that my parents KNEW that if I looked into things for myself I would come to the right conclusion. Even if I didn't like it.

Short version: You want to be treated like a thinking, well read, intelligent and wise adult? Act like one.

Adult life is a lot easier when we spend our youth listening and learning everything we can to make smart choices.

Here's another thought: Travel. Out of this country. See how the rest of the world lives. Most people buy clothes because they are durable, not because they are "IN" (for about a week.) Guaranteed to open your mind to a whole new way of thinking.

Over a quarter million people died in the recent Tsunami... The survivors have NO PLACE at all to call home. And the current threads here are: "Should I wear a thong?" "Where do I get Like size 00 clothes, that are, like, in?" I like this boy...girl, etc."

The best thing that ever happened to me was seeing that almost everything I had been told to believe was important: Cars, clothes, trends, music, hair, team choice, etc. was completely and totally meaningless when you look at the big picture. I would have been right here asking the same kinda stuff(boy version of course) had I not had that opportunity.

Ok, this became a rant. Not against 13 year old girls. A rant against what our society tells 13 year old girls and boys is important for them to be worrying about.

Back to the topic of WHY:

Girls, let me ask you a question: How many of your girlfriends did you tell about this site?

Now tell me how many boys you told about it? Did you tell them there was a guy with 20+ years of computer experience they could ask questions for free? (I normally charge $75.00 per hour in my shop.) Did you tell them there was a place to ask questions about cars and trucks? How about model rockets? R/C cars? Paintball? Airsoft guns? Model building? Sports? Weight training? Hunting? CB radios? Computer hardware/software/networking? Car stereo? Hydraulics? Truck driving scools?

Have you told a single boy you know about any of the things that HE might be interested in?

Do I see one hand raised? Ok, so you get a boy in here and he asks a question. Wonderful! What do most of the girls do? Make fun of him, laugh at him, tell him he is stupid or he would already know and CORRECT HIS SPELLING! I am almost to the point where I have looked at every question on this site. I saw a lot of that on my way through.

What do I do when someone asks a question I don't know the answer to... I research it and post links to appropriate resources. When was the last time you did that for a question you couldn't answer? Saying something "cute" or mean as hell does not encourage the participation of teen boys. Teen boys are actually quite insecure about opening themselves up to be called stupid, or made fun of. They don't handle it well at all. It just guts them and they are never quite the same.

Here is something to consider: You have this guy, who you really like. You set up a date. You go out and buy the BEST outfit on earth. Your Mom likes this guy, so she gives you her credit card, sends you to get hair and makeup done in the BEST place in the city.

So far so good? Ok, now he shows up to take you out, and when you open the door, he bursts out laughing! Pointing and LAUGHING AT YOU!

Your new duds may be stylish, and the hair may be the latest french design but to him it is hilarious. He doesn't know anything about french fashion, or Neiman Marcus so to him you look like a hooker in a clown suit.

How BAD would you feel? Would anything ever make you COMPLETELY whole again after something like that?

Same thing if this site offers to answer questions and then the people here ridicule and belittle the askers. Boys minds work different than girls. It isn't a bad thing, it is just they way we are wired.

I got an email from someone after I answered their question. They said they quit using the site because the response they got to a very well thought out question was: "F***ing Dumb*SS!"

I reported another place this person used the same abusive response, using the abuse report feature, and this was the response:

"Moderator Response
Submitted: by FrEe2bMe
Reponse: While K**************'s response was not appropriate, if you look at their over all rating it is only a 2.21. That is why there is now a threshold where you can set who you want to recive answers from Under Profile Setting adjust it so you only recieve answers from people like 4 or higher or whatever your comfortable with. :)"

This guy, yes GUY, 15 years old didn't know that, so he will never be back.

Did anyone step up to tell this person off? Did anyone else report it? Do you even know where the abuse link is?

It is up to the majority here to decide if this is going to be Advivenators.com or Abusenators.com

Since the majority here are 13 year old girls, I ask you: Which will it be?

DangerNerd

Bravo! Your insight is to be highly commended. Well thought out and articulate. Nothing more to say than that.

Q: Hey im 16 and for my birthday my dad and mom got me a Hummer H2 SUT...and it has a navigation thing in it and its not working correctly..what should i do?

Ask your dad if it's still under warranty and get it fixed. That simple. If it's not under warranty, then get dad to fix it since, if he can afford to buy his 16 yr. old son a Hummer, then he can afford to get the GPS/Onstar fixed as well.

Q: I made some mistakes, I definantly admit that. when u find out when 1 of your friends r goin out w/ a guy that she randomly made out w/ is kinda weird. I mean.. like wasnt it yesterday that she was dyin over another guy, but then the next day, makes-out and falls in love. Wow. An wut bout this guy, yea well he already hurted 2 of my friends &i didnt want it to happen to this 1. He does this to like everygirl, & i admit it, i called him a ? man whore oops, big mistake. but yea, so now we r in this huge fight..i feel super bad

Don't. You're right he is a man whore... but then again, what guy isn't (or isn't thinking about it). It's in their nature. He doesn't have to sleep with every girl he meets but he does only because he gives into his primary instincts instead of knowing to hold back. Even if he hurt 2 of your friends, rest assured, he will continue to hurt more. But that is the nature of relationships like that. You shouldn't feel too bad. You didn't make a mistake. If she's really your friend, you'll be there to support her when she and the guy break up... and it will. Count. On. It.

Q: okay im going to my girlfriends house on sunday for easter and i want to know what exactly turns a girl on like what to do to her you know like kissing her neck. i need all the help i can get!! thanks

angiesue67 hit it on the head:

listen to her. But more specifically, pay attention to what she is saying or doing. For example, if she lets out a 'mmmmmmm' while you're kissing her neck you know you're doing something right and you keep on doing it. Also, ask her questions BUT ask her the proper way. Don't ask, 'Am I rubbing this correctly?' since you sound like a doctor and not her boyfriend. Instead, do something that you think would turn her on and ask (in a sexy whisper), 'Does this turn you on?' If she says yes or nods her head and keep on doing it. If she frowns or shows signs of disgust, then it's time to try something else. Some key spots on the female body (besides the obvious breasts, butt, face):

- back of the neck (specifically the point where the body and neck meet)

- small of the back (about an inch or so above the butt crack)

- inner thigh

- the line that is made at the point where leg and body meet

- slightly below the knees and above the calf muscle

- along the edge of the head starting from the chin leading to the ear

- area around where the breast meets the body

These areas should be kissed, licked, rubbed, and/or gently bitten. Remember, unlike guys whose most stimulating spot is their penis, a girl's whole body is a stimulation spot. Just touching her skin will have an erotic effect.

Q: I am 13, I live in The Conroe area in Texas and I am very sexually active. It seems as if all my guy friends preasure me to do it. Like my friend Kellen... he always pushes himself up on me and I try to say NO but he does it anyways... once we start It doesn't really bother me.. but I really wanta stop!! and every1 asks me if I like Kellen or if we did have sex I always try to deny it cause I don't know what to do... Kellen's friedn Andy, always trys to have sex with me too! but I don't know! I don't want it to happen! what can I do to get them to stop? PLEASE help me!

I can't believe this shit still happens. In case it never dawned on you, you're being raped... ALL the time. Rape, simply put, is when someone forces you to have sex. If you don't want to have sex but it is still being forced on you, then that is rape. You have a brain - use it. It pisses me off that ppl care more about their social standing at the expense of their mental/emotional state. You're an easy mark meaning that any/everyone can get sex from you since they know you won't fight back. It's time to start thinking of yourself before the shit REALLY hits the fan. Your 'guy friends' aren't friends at all. You're just a fucktoy. Sex without informed consent is rape. It's time to a) find new friends and b) call the cops since these guys will continue their behavior until someone ends up either badly hurt or worse, dead.

Q: Well me and my boyfriend have exsperimented "below" the belt. He never said anything before, but now hes complaining about me not shaving. I shaved once before, now i usually just trim. When i shved i hated it i couldnt stand it, it itched and hurt and it was annoying. What should i do?

Turn around and tell him (if he's old enough to shave) 'well, you should too since kissing your stubbly face is pretty much the same thing'. If he's not old enough to shave then tell him, if you want it shaved, then do it yourself. Strangely enough, some ppl find shaving their significant others' pube hair erotic. It shows that you two are deeply intimate and close enough to do such an act. But during the first time, guide him in the shaving since you don't want any nicks or cuts down there. Put your hand over his.

Q: My boyfriend and i have been dating for the past 5 months. We go to the same high school, but next year he is going to a public school and leaving me at the private school we both go to now. He has had sex before and i havent. He wants me to but i tell him im not ready and he says he can wait. I love him so much and he tells me he loves me to, i just am nervous to have sex with him and then he will leave. and i dont want the condom to break and im stuck having a kid. Plus the main promblem is what will god think of me? Please Help!!!!!!!!!

You're still in school so unless you want to quit (a bad idea) you should hold off. So what if he's had sex? It's not a race. As a reformed young punk, I've had my share of conquests and that's what they were - conquests. Wham, bam, thank you ma'am. After the deed was done, I cared not once what happened to the girl. If you think about the long run, you will most likely have another boyfriend before thoughts of settling down get to you so there's no rush. True love can wait while lust waits for no one. In response to your side question: God gave you a brain for a reason - use it. It pisses me off that a lot of ppl blindly follow what is in the Bible without understanding the reasoning behind it. God says you may do this and God says you may do that. But few will actually listen to what God has actually said and taken into account that what the Bible is (to steal a phrase from Pirates of the Caribbean) is a set of guidelines as opposed to actual laws. As said before, you were given a brain - use it. God also gave you the concept of free will - the able to do whatever you want. But with that free will comes responsibility. You must be responsible for your actions.

Q: Me and my brother are very close hes always there for me and I am always here for him..I am 15 and he is 20 and he just got this new girlfriend and we got along for a while but We ended up fighting and I beat her ass and my brother chose her over me...I told her i didnt want to fight her cause she is my girl but she pushed me and I poured my heart out to my brother asking him how can he choose her over me..Well he lives here and his gf is here everyday me nad her are cool now but I dont feel close to my brother like i did before I dont htink I ever can again. He always told me I was his world. and now this girl is comming between us. What should I do? I dont think i should just forgive him..he rreally hurt me I was in tears for hours the rest of the night and now he is acting like nothing even happend..Should I just say fuck him or forgive him? How can she come between me and my brother?!

Well, you didn't show respect to him. If you want respect, you must give it out first. Doesn't matter if his gf is a biatch or not. If you want his respect you must respect that he wants to spend time with his gf. Plus you're his sister. A gf is something a sister can never be (unless you lived in the Southern US). Jealousy is an evil and shallow emotion. It causes undue stress and drama. Trust in your brother and trust that he cares for his family, including his lil sister. Trust also in the fact that girlfriends will come and go but family is till you die.

Q: i want to have sex for the first time. what are some procosions to take. and does it hurt? i also heard that you bleed your first time is this true? thank you i rate well.

I'm assuming this is hetero (male to female) sex.

1. Condoms

I prefer Durex for 1st-timers since I've had low breakages. Later on, switch to Trojans since they're thinner and feel less like there's a foreign object in your body. The 'ribbed for her pleasure' is not always true. It depends on a number of things such as vaginal lubrication and sensitivity. Make sure that the condom is snug and tight but not choking the penis since it will slip off if it is loose or break if it's too tight. Also make sure you're not allergic to latex. I find it strange that a certain percentage of the human population is allergic.

2. Lubrication

I stress this because it will allow the penis to go into the vagina smoother (thus lessening pain and increasing pleasure). I prefer AstroGlide for maximum smoothness but KY jelly is pretty good as well.

3. Birth Control

If you don't want to be a parent sometime in the next 9 months, this is probably the most important thing to have. At the very least (if you're a girl), get 'The Pill'. It has several advantages. If you're already menstruating, it will regulate your period. A side benefit seems to be a natural increase in breast size. A half-cup size at the very least. The boys will like that, for sure. Also this allows you to time your periods so you will definitely know when it's not a good time to hook up. The only downside is that the pill must be taken regularly while in puberty because once off the pill, you risk having wildly fluctuating periods as well as having an unwanted pregnancy.

4. A Pitcher of Water, 2 Glasses and a Washcloth

Sex is a energetic activity and if the guy does the job right, you should both be sweating and exhausted afterward (but I should warn you that most first timers usually don't do the job right).
The water is there for you to first a) pour into the glasses for drinking to refresh you for (hopefully) another round of fun and b) soak and rinse the washcloth so that you can wipe away sweat and/or blood.

5. Communication

This is very important as well. It's usually assumed that you will talk but, as a reformed young punk myself who's gotten into the panties of many a willing girl, it doesn't take much to trick a girl into having sex. I gotta point out that tricking a girl into having sex is the lowest of the low. Only assholes and horny teenagers trick for sex. Only thing worse than that is rape. If you don't know if your partner has been with someone, you risk the chance of getting an STD. Assume the worst, hope for the best. Also communication is important since you're telling each other how you feel which can highten the sexual experience. I get turned on by intimate talking. It can range from tame 'I love yous' to straight out dirty talk. But the talking itself should be kept to a minimum. I leave that to you.

6. Mental/Emotional State

It somewhat ties into communication but deserves its own category. Simply put: are you prepared, mentally and emotionally to go through with it. You've got to be 100% sure. Nothing less than that or else you'll be in trouble. I guarantee it.

The first time doesn't always hurt. The bleeding doesn't always happen. Usually, it will but if it doesn't, don't freak. I've heard that horseback riding can actually break the wall that would normally be broken during first sex. If you're pretty much like 80% of the female population, then it's a good chance you'll bleed and it'll hurt. But the precautions I've suggested should minimize the pain and bleeding. Another thing to keep in mind is location. I'm assuming you're having sex on a bed. Remember to rub detergent on the bloodstain on the blanket and immediately throw in the laundry.

Q:
Is it possible to be suicidal, but to not have attempted suicide...?

Yes. Next question.

Q: My girlfriends bummed because I'm down on myself. She's wondering how she could boost my self-esteem. Any ideas?

Nothing. Only you have the ability to make yourself happy. Self-esteem is influenced by outside factors but cannot in fact change if the person is not willing. They don't call self-esteem for nothing. If others could in fact change your self-esteem, it wouldn't be called self-esteem anymore would it? It would be called others-esteem.

Q: I really like this one girl called Nicole but from what i hear she hates my guts i want to ask why but shes a bad girl always skipping school and stuff (nadda really bad no durgs that i know of) it could just be because shes Goth i dunno. anyways my query is how do i make on friendly terms not a relationship without doing something corny, cheap or expensive(sp?)

thanks a ton
13 male
Solemnstar

Answer: Reciprocate

re·cip·ro·cate

1. To give or take mutually; interchange.
2. To show, feel, or give in response or return.

In other words, give back that which she gives to. Human beings, strangely enough, are like animals when it comes to mating rituals. Some animals show their affection for their mate by copying movements and gestures. If one animal drinks from a river and then howls at the sun, the mate will mirror this afterwards. Strange? Not really. The purpose of this is to associate oneself to whatever makes their mate comfortable. Sometimes the gestures can be obvious. Other times, it is subtle. Women are no different. But, take care and err on the side of caution and go with subtle. It's the small gestures that are really important. If she blinks, you blink; if she smiles, you smile; if she leans back, you lean back. Get the picture? What you are subtly doing is associating yourself w/ gestures and movements that she herself feels comfortable doing. It then translates in her head that 'yeah, this guy's cool to hang out with.' Be warned, however, that considering she's also a 13-14yr old girl she might not respond due to the fact that 13-14yr old girls are shallow and generally have no concept of what true love is.

Q: ok...there is this girl at my school who is like friends with everybody...and shes is friends with me ...well at least i think... but everytime somebody has a party she is the one who hands out the invitations and she looks right at me and doesnt give me one (we talk all the time ) does she have a problem with me?

That biatch! Don't sweat this. If this person was truly your friend, you would've been the first one she gave an invite. A verbal one - not a piece of paper. A verbal invite indicates the closeness of the speaker to the listener. Two ways to go about this:

1) Confront her directly and ask her if she has a problem w/ you.

If yes, ask why. Depending on how bad her answer is should tell you whether or not she's really your friend.

If no, ask why she didn't invite you at all. Depending on how bad her answer is should tell you whether or not she's really your friend.

2) Ignore her and find some new friends.

Remember, kiddies, a good friend will bail you out of jail with his/her last dollar. A GREAT friend will help you dump the body.

Q: i have a really close guy friend we close but we cant be nothing but friends because on long distance and i hate long distance realtionships because the never work out. ok but n-e-ways sometimes we act like lovers and sometimes like friends but even when he had a gf we did the samething because he always liked me more then his gf even though he broke up with her for me but i still didnt go out with him and like now i dont know what to do i do love this guy and like he perfect for me and all but i am really confuessed?can you plz help i wil rate! thanks!

You're not really in love with him. I'll tell you why. Ever hear the phrase "Distance makes the heart grow fonder"? Well, you're a textbook case. You just want to hit it, split it, hit in the back; Thing's so big you need a carjack. So why not just be FTF or FWB? If you don't know what they mean, ask another question.

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