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Please Help =(
My girlfriends bummed because I'm down on myself. She's wondering how she could boost my self-esteem. Any ideas?
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Your girlfriend can't affect your self esteem. Only you can do that.
Of course, having an incredible person care deeply about you will make you feel better about yourself - but at the end of the day, it always comes back to how YOU feel about you.
So think about what she said. ARE you down on yourself? Why? What specifically bothers you?
And now the most important part - What can you do to fix these problems?
No matter your situation or personality, you deserve to be in a place where you can like and respect yourself. You obviously care about your girlfriend; you're caring, concerned about your relationship, and concerned about yourself. Those are big signs that you are ready to make changes in how you feel about yourself.
As to how to do it? Well, there's as many ways as there are people in the world. Write a list of everything you love about yourself. Take a class in something you've always wanted to try - karate, violin, drama, rugby. Keep a journal where you write down your stresses, good times, and questions. Above all, be honest.
Let your girlfriend know that you appreciate her concern and that you are working on the problem. She can't take those steps for you, but she CAN hold your hand while you do so.
Best of luck.
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Well having self esteem and confidence are what girls want in a guy just dont be cocky about yourself and just look at your self and give your self a compliment eachday with out anybody knowing and just dont talk badly about yourself anymore i know this may sound gay but put a postit on your mirror and list ALLLLLL the things you like about yourself*
hope i helped*
Kristen
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My brilliant answer for you is.....
- Put a smile on your face
- Eat Hershey's (no, don't)
- Don't be down. Psychology studies(Yea, I minor in shit load of things, but have only one major) says how positiveity spreads. But negativity spread easier.
- Do something fun together
- Just.. don't make fun of people
- Make something.
- Eat together. That's always fun.
I hope I helped.
~SAM
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Nothing. Only you have the ability to make yourself happy. Self-esteem is influenced by outside factors but cannot in fact change if the person is not willing. They don't call self-esteem for nothing. If others could in fact change your self-esteem, it wouldn't be called self-esteem anymore would it? It would be called others-esteem.
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Well, in a situation like this, there's obviously no 'right' answers, but I'll tell you what Brian (I'm going to call you Brian so I don't get you confused with Trent), I would turn this possibly innocent gesture of concern into full-blown sexual innuendo. That's right, Brian, I would milk that self-esteem crap into three blowjobs a day and a tasty snack of avacado-toast everyday after school/work.
This solution works for everyone. If you really are down on yourself (but i can't see why, being as you have a girlfriend who will go down on you until all the other guys call her 'pussy-mouth'), then this is the perfect solution to your low-self-esteem issues. If you're just pretending (I can read you like a book Brian, you sly fox. You were already thinking this and just wanted validation, didn't you? haha. Well go ahead buddy, the sky is the limit!) then it's all good. You can tell your girlfriend a "doctor" told you "blowjobs" are "guarenteed to increase" self "esteem".
The only thing I could see complicating this is if your girlfriend is hideous, morbidly obese, or has some sort of tropical STD. If this is the case, then I can only offer you the obvious: dump the broad, Brian. I'm sure your self-esteem will skyrocket after that grotesque monkey is thrown off of your back into the murky african waters, where it will inevitably be devoured by piranahs. I saw it on a nova special once. Those little bastards really will eat anything that moves. Even your fat-ass girlfriend.
Mazaltav.
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if she's trying to boost your self-esteem or cheer you up...i'm thinking it would help for you to figure out what would make you happy, and consider what's upsetting you in the first place. sorry but i think only the two of you can fully solve this one. ♥
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This is a really rotten answer for you but the only one i've got. What do you think? You are the only one who can answer that one for her!
How come your down on yourself? Snap out of it okay? She might get tired of trying to boost you if you don't.
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Hey look.. just try thinking positive about your self, its all good to leave stuff inside. Be more athletic, walk around, sleep good and dont let anyhting bring your down. your your own person and you should love what you got. Im sure your girl friend does!
For your gf al she can do is hug you and tell you are beautiful. *winks*
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