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Friend or Not?
14, female.We recently took a fieldtrip to go to a skating rink at my school. While at the skating rink my friend broke up with her boyfriend. I tried to comfort him, I told him she was retarded and a bit*h, but in a goofy voice so he knew I was just kidding. Well one of her other little friends took it the wrong way and ran off and told her. She got angry and started dissing me behind my back, and saying I was a bad friend. We are sort of getting over it, but now I like her ex. Everyone keeps saying he likes me too and that we should go out, but I don't want to make my friend madder. What should I do?
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i would have a really good talk with her and ask her how she would feel about the situation...if she sounds kind of unsure that most likely means that she either doesnt want yoiu 2 go out with him or she still has feelins for him and regrets breakin up with him...after u talk 2 her then talk 2 him about it and tell him y your havin doubts about goin out with him after you talk 2 him think really hard about both possibilities and maybe write a list of what good comes out of goin out with him..and the good that comes out of stayin single...if you need me u can im me on aim @ HeartxBreakerx92 (not really a heartbreaker)
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just chose do you want him or do you not want that friend? just go with your instink
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What's the big deal! You were only kidding, and besides, they had no right to be listening aynway. You should tell your friend that you were just kidding, and if she doesn't understand then she's not fully hearing you out anyway and probably not worth getting upset over. As for dating the ex, why not? I mean I know your friend might get a bit mad, but your entitled to go out with someone you like! Good luck! ♥
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STAY AWAY!!! trust me, i know from experience...this doesn't go over well with the friend, even if she has told you flat out she is completely over him. give her time to move on to someone else, and to get over being mad at you. if you're trying to earn back her friendship, dating her recent ex is not going to help your case much, even if she was the one who called things off. sorry hun, but its just a bad idea. especially at 14, she's probably not going to want to be reasonable about it and play the "you're supposed to be my friend" card...and i doubt many people will take your side. :-/ sorry to be harsh, but its definitely not any fun (again...i would know) so please take my advice and just wait! ♥
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I have devised an ingenious method for such an occasion. For every week you have been boyfriend/girlfriend (this does not include the 'just seeing each other' period; only official bf/gf status) add 2 weeks of 'mourning' period. For every month add 2 months. If you've been dating a year and you can still stand each other, it's time to step back and ask yourself, 'do I want to date other ppl?' The 'mourning' period is the period of time in which you allow your friend to sob, bitch, cry, and let out any other emotion. It is a way of cleansing one's soul and closing a chapter in their lives and start anew. If they still have feelings after that, then it's borderline stalker crazy. If your friend has been dating this guy for a month and 3 months later she's still got issues with him, she's nuts. She's needy and insecure and needs to get over herself. Go out on that date. Besides, she was the one that dumped him.
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well.... since he didn't brake up with her and she broke up wit him... then you should definetly be able to go out with him./... i mean,, if she has no feelings for him... she shouldn't care if you go out with him or not... you shouldn't say that about your friend even if you were joking... tell her you were just trying to comfort him and make him laugh and that she's a great friend... you should go out wit this guy cauz she doesn't have any feelings for him left... and if she does, its too late now
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There's no reason for your friend to be mad at you anymore. SHE broke up with HIM, there over, done, through, how ever you want me to put it. There just not going out anymore, the only reason that she would be mad at you, is because of jelously. But then, that would make her a bad friend, so I say GO FOR IT! Talk to her ex, be flirtatious, what ever it takes. Good luck.
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If you dont want your other friend getting more mad, ask her. Really. A lot of people get mad because their friends go out with their ex's, and dont even talk to them first. So tell her how you feel about him. And how he feels about you. If shes a good enough friend, she'll like the fact that you came to her first. And then she'll let you go out with him. Hopefully. If she gets mad, then its your choice to go out with the guy or not. good luck ! hope everything works out :)
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