If this is who I think it is, first of all, I'd like to congratulate you on finding this... and secondly ask what brought this on. I suppose in regards to answering the question (if this isn't my ex) I'd start with asking yourself how your ex felt when she heard the news that you wanted something better for her. Did she cry? Was she upset? She probably was(if she's anything like me, she was crushed to find out that the person she'd spent so much time and energy on had decided that all she'd done wasn't worth it for you) and it's probably taken her the better part of a few years to get over you. High School romances seem to be the most serious at the time and while she's probably doing just fine at this point, most likely in a good relationship, living half-way across the world from you at this very point.

Still, if you feel that an apology is in order, I'd try giving her a call, or e-mailing her explaining why it is that you decided to drop the bomb on her (especially on the crappy Hallmark holiday) so abruptly, and why you decided that instead of breaking up with her totally, you would try and 'date' her to see if things would work out. My guess would be that it was pity for her in her cry, heartbroken state.

I'd just like to add here, that if you considered breaking up with her before you actually did, and prior to that, had been considering marriage, as is the case with my ex, that turn in thinking should probably be explained.

Hope that helps.

You might try a few of these:
Cake
Better Than Ezra
Dispatch (recently broken up, but good none the less)
Flogging Molly


Hope that helps

if that wasn't it, try "Bond"

Dispatch
Better Than Ezra
The Atomiks (hard to find with shareware, might have to buy it)
Man or Astroman?
Elastica
Cake
Flogging Molly

I've heard this all before. The same thing happened to me with Tequilla. I over-drank one night with it and haven't been able to even smell the stuff since. My suggestion, if you're going to drink is yes, to drink less (not to the "I'm drunk" stage) and yes, to drink something not quite as hard as straight vodka... but also, try switching alcohol. Try drinking 7 and 7's. (seagram's and seven-up) or an amaretto sour, or Captain and Dr. Pepper. Something other than Vodka (much as you may like it) usually does the trick.

Again, it's dependant on what you're into but here's some that you might like:

Dispatch- "Prince of Spades"
Better Than Ezra- "Pull"
U2- "Stuck in a moment"
Cake- "love you madly"
The Ramones- "I wanna be Sedated"
Aerosmith- "Pink"
ZZ Top- "La Grange"
Stevie Ray Vaughn- "Pride and Joy"

That's pretty eclectic.. so good luck

I'd start locally. Go to your city's newspaper website and look in the "Jobs" section, under "Childcare." If you don't see any listings there, consider putting an advertisement in the paper yourself, expressing your desire to provide childcare. Make sure you specify whether or not you can handle infant children, and the hours you're willing to work. Also, if you're a Red Cross Certified babysitter (they offer these programs at places like the local YMCA), you might want to add that. Another option is to ask the people who you already babysit for, to spread the word that you're looking for more work. Ask if they could think of any of their friends that could use a babysitter.

That should do the trick!

My hair is the very same way and I have to say, why are you afraid of letting it curl? You don't have to straighten it, just get it to stop being frizzy, right? I use Fructis curling mousse after my morning shower (let it dry by itself, DON'T blow-dry it) and if it starts getting frizzy during the day, Aussie moisturizing conditioner mixed with water in a spray-bottle will help it calm down. Mix it about 50/50 and spray it on, then scrunch it up.

The answer to your question is one word. Tact. The WAY you tell the truth. If you don't want people to be offended or to get mad at you, try telling the truth with a little bit of consideration. Don't be quite so blunt and just say what's on your mind. Try and tell them in a way that's not accusing ("You're doing this or that") and if it's something that's effecting you, try using the word "feel" ("You make me feel bad when you do this").

Hope that helps!
Bunni

Just be careful and yes definitely be yourself. Make sure that you're meeting in a public place (restaurant, mall, etc...) just to be sure that you're safe but yes, the best way to get someone to enjoy spending time with you is to just be yourself. If you both talked on the phone for that long last night, you're definitely on the road to having a good relationship (friendship, or otherwise).

Good luck!

It's totally possible to like/love someone you've never met in person. Mind you, it's different when you DO meet them in person (trust me on this one, I know from personal experience) but yes, it's totally possible.

One of my best friends is dating someone she met online. She talked to him for 2 years or so before she met him in person, at which point they decided to be "serious" together (not date anyone else), and they're still together. That was three years ago this summer.

It was obviously different, getting used to the physical things that this person does when you meet them, but the great thing about knowing someone online is that there is a high rate of self-disclosure (the things about you that make you special, like the things that you enjoy, the things that you two share in common, etc...) and being that you share so much with that other person, chances are that you're really getting a feel for the other person. This is all of course, versus actual in-person dating, where small talk usually takes up most of the 'alone time' you two will have.

Your cousin suggested that you "defrag" your computer, which is always a good idea if it's running slow. Basically what a defrag does is it consolidates (puts together) all of the files that are broken, or that are out of order.

If your computer is still running slow after this, I would offer that you check your cache (if you're running windows hit start, select "search" and search for "Temporary Internet Files" or "cache" .. and empty those out. Usually that'll help you run faster. Also, I would check for spyware if your computer is internet ready. If you don't have any software to check for that, I'd go to http://www.download.com and search for "Lavasoft ad aware." Download that and it'll look for all the spyware on your computer. It's free, too!

Hope that helps.

Dreams do not necessarily "mean nothing," but I have to agree with the general consensus about not worrying too terribly much about this "Dying dream."

You subconsious(the part of your brain that you can't control) is awake and processing things while you sleep, this is why you dream. Lots of times when you dream about things that are so final, and that you can't seem to escape, your subconsious is trying to deal with feelings having to do with feeling trapped in your everyday life.

Is there a situation in which you feel you don't have any say in what goes on? Are there people in your life that you feel are holding you back (thus, the dreams about killing)?

These may be issues to consider. Also, if I were you, I'd do a google search about the meaning of dreams and dream interpretations and see what you can get out of there.

If you're really worried, the best way to dispell any misconceptions is to research what's going on with your dreams.

First of all, make sure that you're ready emotionally to have sex. Not just that you really like the guy/girl, but that you feel like you're safe with them and that you feel like you're ready. If they're pressuring you into it, then you should take a step back and ask if this is really what YOU want to do.

Also, if you're not on birth control of some form, and you plan on having sex, I would seriously consider that. At the very least, please please use a condom. But! Remember that condoms don't protect you from diseases, just pregnancy... and they aren't 100% fool-proof, either. Just a warning.

It may or may not hurt the first time, it will sort of depend on quite a few factors. Your physical activities in the past (are you active in sports?) because if you're physically active, you are more likely to have already broken or stretched your hymen. It also depends on the man's consideration for it having been your first time. Gentle touches help it to not hurt as much. Bleeding goes right along with this, whether or not your hymen has broken has a lot to do with bleeding.

Hope that helps a little bit!

"Making sense of nonsense since 1982"

I'm a midwestern girl who has mistakenly moved to Nevada. My experience has taught me that you can never underestimate people... but if you overestimate them too greatly, you'll get to where I am now: disappointed with humanity in general.

Still, if you've got a question, anty up. I'll answer it, even if you probably won't like the answer I give. I'm honest because, let's face it, there's no reason to hide on the internet.

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