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I have been cursed to be born into a family of six kids, thus making me pretty much crazy. However, some good comes of this: I have a wide range of experiences, from hair catching fire to my mom barbequeing with gasoline (true story). So, I've grown quite a repertoire of knowledge, experience, and wisdom to share with the world! Oh, and I can type in complete sentences, which pretty much rocks.
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Im 13, female...and this guy has liked me for about three years. I didnt find out that he liked me until last year. It turns out that everyone knew but me. Anyway. Ever since fourth grade (until sometime last year) had hated him. But then I went to his bebo.com page and saw that he had called me a "wannabe". I was really mad and I went off on him through and email. So we were sending emails back and forth going off on eachother then somehow we were okay with eachother...I dont really remember how...and then we started talking on aim. At first I would get annoyed when he i/med me. but then after a while I started really wanting to talk to him and...well now I look forward to talking to him. But heres the thing that kicks me in the ass...
I think hes really ugly. Hes overweight and he smells sometimes...but I really like him. Usually I wouldnt mind going out with him but...everyone at my school hates him and if I went out with him, hed probably tell all of his freinds and then everyone would know and then I would be more of an outcast as I already am. WHAT THE HELL SHOULD I DO?
Oh, stop being a baby about it. I'm sorry if I'm being insensitive, but you seem like the type that can handle it. Although it's good that you should want to have someone good-looking, you have already admitted that you are shallow, and I'm sure you've heard it said a million times that looks aren't everything. If you like him, you like him; what difference should it make if anyone else likes him or not? If you are going to let all those other people's opinions affect you, then obviously, you don't deserve this guy and aren't mature enough to be dating anyone.
Don't worry, though. You're still young. You have time to get over this.
Good luck!
I have a 12 year-old sister. I made her a myspace a while back and made it private. She didnt know how to do anything on myspace. Well now shes almost 13 and she is completely addicted to myspace. More addicted to it then anyone of us i bet. She has atleast 5 myspaces of famous people that she made and is pretending to be them and telling everyone she is&& she talks to every single one of the people that Message her. I have told her manny times that she will end up talking to the Wrong person&& he will seriously hurt her.I told her that she has to be atleast 16 to be able to have a myspace and talk to people that are not her friends. She doesnt care. I have blocked myspace && she found away around it. I have told my parents and they tell her not to get on it. She pretty much tells them im not or screw off. She has no respect for anybody in my family and moesnt care what anyone tells her. Myspace has caused her to spend endless hours on the computer. SHe is on from the Second she wakes up to the second she goes to bed. And she will pretend to go to bed and then when everyone in the house is a sleep she will wake up and get on the computer. No matter the time of day. We have a password on the computer but she found it out By watching what my dad typed in.
Im sorry this is long but she needs help.
Please dont just say talk to herand tellher what will happen if she talks to the wrong person. Again she doesnt care.
&& if i tell my parents that she wakes up and gets on she will say no i don't even tho they believe me she doesnt get into any trouble. We usedto have this rule only 30 minutes on the computer at a time but she doesnt go by it but if say i was on the computer and she wanted on she would say kim you have been on for 30 minutes your turn is over.
Yea not cool.
Any answers or advice is wonderful.
It seems to me that your sister is, as you put in the title, having a literal addiction problem. Many people think that people can only be addicted to drugs or alcohol, but internet addiction is also a serious problem in today's technologically-based society.
Your family needs to take the computer away for awhile, take it apart, and put it in a box somewhere so that she cannot possibly do it without someone noticing. Also, as with all all unhealthy addictions, the person with the problem needs to get help. There must be a reason she is doing this, but it's hard to say what that may be. She may not feel accepted by her friends, and this may be a way for her to feel better about herself, or it really could be anything. But it's important that she gets help and that you determine what that reason is, then deal with it.
Good luck!
(You can email me if you need any more help. My address is on my column, and I check it multiple times a day.)
i'm 17. female...me and my best friend *stacy* where always together 24/7 before and after school. then i started summer school. she would come up there and help my mom. well one day she ran into her old boyfriend. started hanging with him. *jon* introduced me to *jason* we started daten. then about a week later stacy leaves jon then jason leaves me. now stay and jason are together. i ask her why she did that she said "s***t happens and to get over it" that really hurt me she was my only and true best friend. now should i be mad at her and have nothing to do with her. or give her a 2nd chance?
-keep in mind when she started hanging out w/ Jon again she changed alot to the point that me and her parents noticed her haveing more attitude and the forbid her to see him but she keep doing it and she is stuck on the fact that she is 18 and she can do what she pleases
Well, dear, it looks like you and your friend have moved in different directions. She seems to have changed into the kind of person that you don't need to be around. This kind of behaviour is destructive and you don't need that sort of thing in your life. She is clearly not sorry about what she's done, so why should you forgive someone who hasn't asked for your forgiveness? As hard as it may sound, you need to move on and find some new friends. Just as long as you do this in a mature, not vindictive, manner then you will be fine.
Good luck!
im not christian but my gf is, and i would like to know. in the christian religion does the no sex before marriage include oral sex?
Actually, I was always under the impression that one's personal beliefs are something that should be decided by oneself.
So, I think that depends from person to person; if she considers herself to still be a virgin after having done that, then it should not be a problem. But if she considers any sexual experience at all to take away her virginity, then it does count. That is why there are different denominations of Christianity: because not everyone agrees on everything, even within a single religion.
You just need to talk to her and ask her about her feelings on the issue.
Good luck!
my friend is embarrased to walk into a store and buy her own goddamn vibrator so she wants me to buy it for her and im a guy what the hell am i supposed to do......i dont even know where to get one.....please help
Well, you see, she should buy it herself for two reasons:
1. It's not your job to do that for her and it kind of puts you in an akward position.
2. Even if you felt comfortable doing it, there are such a wide range of products that you wouldn't know what to get her, and you can't exactly return one of those if she doesn't like it. Even the thought of that cracks me up, actually. Haha.
My suggestion is just to tell her to buy it online. There are many good sites with a wide range of products, and she can pick and choose what she likes. They may cost in shipping, but there are many sites online that have sales of really popular items, so even with shipping, they would be low-cost. The perks of this are that she doesn't have to actually go in the store, you don't have to do it for her, and they usually come in discreet little boxes.
Just tell her what I said, and I'm sure you will have extracted yourself from this funny situation.
Good luck!
14/f
A few days ago My friend, Stephanie told me that her friend said that I'm not a people person he doesnt like me and kinda piss him off, so I got mad at him and I started to cry. Then he was labeling my dad as a Hippie (I don't think there is anything wrong with hippies but I don't like labeling people whom they don't know well). Stephanie was saying things like "I agree with you" or "you don't need him" Then a couple days later stephanie told me that her 2 cousins whom i've only met on about two occasions wanted to fuck me and they got my home phone number and they were calling me and telling me they wanted to fuck me and I felt uncomfortable so I hung up on them and called my friend Heena to call steph to ask her cousins to stop because I was afraid that if I called her her cousins would answer but steph refused to do anything about it because she was pissed at me. So alex called me and asked me whats wrong and apologized for what he said because I started to cry out of so much stress. He put me on the phone with stephanie (he was over at her house) she said "I don't understand how you could get sad he was only telling the truth." I got sad and a little mad so I was talking to Heena on the phone and we both thought she just contridicted what she recently said. I really want to be friends with steph again and I don't know if I should apologize for being mad at alex or not, or what I should do.
Okay. Two things.
1. You were being oversensitive about your friend's comment. Some people just aren't good with other people. That's nothing to feel bad about. It's just part of your personality. I'm like that too, but I've come to accept it. So you needn't be so sensitive.
2. No, your friend didn't contradicted herself. She she was trying to comfort you at the time, but when she later talked to you, she was merely expressing an honest opinion. She never said she disagreed with him. Although I can't say she was exactly straight forward, I don't think she really did much wrong.
In all, don't ruin your friendship over something silly like this. Just talk to her and let her know how you feel. Also, you need to express to her how much her cousins bothered you and have her tell them not to contact you anymore.
Good luck!
13/f
im trying to become more fit, and i need ideas on how to loose weight on my thight, butt, and loose my love handles. im 4"11' and weigh 98 pounds how do i loose weight??!!
You can not "spot treat" weight. You can only lower the total body mass index. This means you can't just decide to lose weight on your thighs, etc.
Also, you seem pretty light already, if not underweight. If you just want to tone muscles, that's fine, but don't bother losing weight, else you'll be getting to a point where you're unhealthy.
Finally, I must ask: why do you feel that you must lose weight? Do you think you are fat? If you do, that indicates that you have a bad body image, so I think that's more important to work on than how much you weigh. Just remember that the goal is to be healthy, and healthy people are more beautiful anyways.
Hello... I'm 19 years old and taking up tourism sophomore.. I'm now living in the Philippines but i have lived in Netherlands for 1 year and 2 months.. With that time, i have gained lots of friends and learned the language, though not perfect but i can speak and understand.. My stepfather who's Dutch decided that we go back in the Philippines, so now im studying here.. My problem is my stepfather wants us again to go back in Netherlands next year, i'm already 3rd year college that time, one more year then i'll graduate already.. I really wanna go back in Netherlands because lots of my friends are there and i just love Netherlands.. but the problem is i dont know what to do.. I think it was waste of time that i studied then after that nothing would happen.. because ofcourse, when im already in NL, i'll start college again, 1st year and i think it's awkward cause i'm 20 that time and my classmates are 16 or 17.. and it would be hard again for me to communicate because i already forgot some of my dutch. What do u think i suppose to do? Finish my college here in the Philippines or go back in NL and repeat 1st year again.. take note: NL doesn't accept diplomas from different country..
Thank you so mush, your help means a lot..
Dahlia
I think it would be best if you sat down with your stepfather and explained to him what would happen to your education if you moved there right now. You should do your last year in college, and then go right on ahead to the Netherlands, but again be sure to communicate to him that you don't really want to start schooling all over again due to not only the akwardness factor, but the difficulty in speaking Dutch as well. I'm sure he'll understand.
13/f
Me and my mom have always had this sort of best-friend sort of relationship instead of a mother-daughter relationship. I didn't tell her everything, but I did tell her enough and wasn't embrassed infront of my friends with her. Infact, I kind of like to "show her off." She's really funny and basically acts like someone my age would act - only 43 and graying hair. But right now everything sort of changed.
A few weeks ago my mom went out on a date (My dad and her are divorced) and she said she would be out a few hours. Dinner, a movie, the basics. So figured it would be a perfect time to.. well, masturbate, I suppose. Only apparantly the date didn't last as long as she expected, and I didn't hear her open the door. And she kind of heard me, since I tend to get kind of loud. I have no idea what she was thinking, I just know that she opened the door to my room and saw me. Then shut the door and didn't talk to me for the rest of the night. After I got dressed I went and found her in the kitchen, and told her that that had been a little awkward, but she didn't say anything or do anything. She just kind of ignored me. And every since then it's been kind of weird, especially since my mom is one of those pre-martial-sex-and-I'm-sending-you-to-a-convent type of people. She's only had sex once, and that was when she "planned" to have me.
Now, instead of feeling all laid back when I'm around her, I keep getting this feeling like she's giving me a dirty look, like she thinks I'm some kind of skank. And actually, I know that she thinks that, because me, being the curious one, listened in on her phone call with her best friend, who my mom told that I was turning into some kind of slut ever since I started going out with my boyfriend, which really isn't true, since I was doing this long before I started going out with him.
I just don't really know how to make things cool between us again. Or how to break the ice so I don't feel like I'm being watched ever second of every day because my mom believes that I'm doing "dirty things."
Well. You seem to have reached a quandary. This is the point in your life that your mom has to realize that you are growing up, not only physically and mentally, but emotionally and sexually. In my experience with my overly-strict, Puritan-type mother, things like this can be extremely akward, but they must be dealt with. Not only am I going to advise you to talk to her, but I'm going to tell you how to do it in a way that's more comfortable for the both of you.
First, you must find a time during which neither of you feel any sort of stress or pressure. You don't want her to lash out at you for something that you had nothing to do with (work-related stress, etc.). Then, you must pick a comfortable place to do this. Although I generally reccommend looking people in the eye when you speak to them, in this case, I think it'd be best if you were both in a place where you didn't have to look at each other (in the car, or watching a movie at home, for example). This way, the akwardness is somewhat alleviated. Finally, you just remind her that you are growing up and you are realizing that you have certain needs that you must fulfill. But also, reassure her that you are by no means having sex; this is your alternative to sex.
In all, remember to do this with delicacy and understanding. You have to try to imagine what that must have felt like for her.
Good luck!
i work at an ice cream shop and im not allowed to wear nailpolish. my nails break easily and they start to peel off in layers. HELP. what can i do to keep them healthy and keep them from not breaking without nailpolish?
I RATE HIGH. = )
Nails are just an extension of your skin, so they need to be treated with just as much care, so here are some really simple tips that should strengthen your nails without the use of chemicals:
1. AVOID WATER. Water dries out your nails (due to the process of diffusion), so if you must keep your hands in water for any amount of time, either wear gloves or put on lotion often.
2. DO NOT use your nails as tools. For example, opening soda cans with your nails is a big no-no. It will cause them to crack and peel.
3. Buff your nails about once a week. It will smooth them out and remove dead cells, leaving only strong healthy cells and also removing the flaky layers. Nail buffers are extremely inexpensive and can be bought nearly anywhere. On the same note, only file your nails in one direction, as opposed to sawing back and forth. That will keep your nails from weakening.
4. Take your vitamins and drink lots of water.
5. NEVER bite your nails. That's pretty common sense.
I hope these tips helped, and they can all be done without the use of nail polish of any kind.
Good luck.
is there anyway to look skinnier in my clothes? i have like kinda tightish clothes and i dont want to look fat and i dont want to buy more new clothes.. and i cant return them. so what can i do so my stomch doesnt like bulge out the shirts?
Do you have good posture? Do you stand and sit up straight? Well, if not, you should, as it will not only create the illusion that you are taller and thinner, but it's better for your health. Keep your chin up, shoulders back, and chest out.
Have fun looking fabulous.