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Addicted.
I have a 12 year-old sister. I made her a myspace a while back and made it private. She didnt know how to do anything on myspace. Well now shes almost 13 and she is completely addicted to myspace. More addicted to it then anyone of us i bet. She has atleast 5 myspaces of famous people that she made and is pretending to be them and telling everyone she is&& she talks to every single one of the people that Message her. I have told her manny times that she will end up talking to the Wrong person&& he will seriously hurt her.I told her that she has to be atleast 16 to be able to have a myspace and talk to people that are not her friends. She doesnt care. I have blocked myspace && she found away around it. I have told my parents and they tell her not to get on it. She pretty much tells them im not or screw off. She has no respect for anybody in my family and moesnt care what anyone tells her. Myspace has caused her to spend endless hours on the computer. SHe is on from the Second she wakes up to the second she goes to bed. And she will pretend to go to bed and then when everyone in the house is a sleep she will wake up and get on the computer. No matter the time of day. We have a password on the computer but she found it out By watching what my dad typed in.
Im sorry this is long but she needs help.
Please dont just say talk to herand tellher what will happen if she talks to the wrong person. Again she doesnt care.
&& if i tell my parents that she wakes up and gets on she will say no i don't even tho they believe me she doesnt get into any trouble. We usedto have this rule only 30 minutes on the computer at a time but she doesnt go by it but if say i was on the computer and she wanted on she would say kim you have been on for 30 minutes your turn is over.
Yea not cool.
Any answers or advice is wonderful.
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Just watch her type in her password one day or wait til she leaves the computer ungaurded and delete her myspace.
Tell her if she tries to create a new one you will just do the same thing, it serves her right.
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you have many choices:
1) hack myspace (enjoy doing that one)
2) install a keylogger so you can monitor whats on your computer and if you happen to get her passwords and destroy her myspace so be it.
** those were jokes and for the tech savey**
3) Put a new password on the computer. If your parents wont do anything u need to. Get your dads pass and change it.
4) myspace sucks
5) find out all her accounts and tell tom or whoever the admin is to erase all her names.
6) what kind of block did u put on myspace? If you use the ip of the site she may have trouble figuring it out.
7) bitchslap your sister. she needs it.
8) if your computer doesnt already have limits, put limits on your computer so that someone can only be on for so many hours everyday.(there are millions of programs like that, find one)
9) Bust your sister on something else and get her punishment to be losing the computer.
10) tell the people she is impersonating that its her doing it and give her email account out to them.
11) LEARN SOME DAMN COMPUTER SKILLS.
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to answer your questions in order
1) I'm sry for insulting your intelect, how many programing languages do you know? If you indeed had enough computer skills you would write your own program to prevent your sister from being on for too long, or you could possibly go many other tech savy routes.
2) Some of my "retarded" ideas are for A)comic relief. B) probably ideas that would work but cant have to be figured out.
3) im not quite sure what u mean by "i used parental control" this is i believe imperfect tense which makes me wonder if you tried it after reading this or before reading this(this being my original post)
4) im quoteing this one "who can i tell famous people that she is impersonating them?" wtf. I believe you mean how. If you cant figure out how to tell something to a famous person....well for the matter of doing it, ever heard of fan mail? Possible posting on their real myspace which they usually advertise on their homepage to a website.
Heres an idea for you. Get your dad to change his password then force your parents to let you on. Use guilt, "you would let her on." And also asking tom to get rid of the accounts and limiting your sister were some of the more serious ideas i had.
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Talk to your parents- with proof. Maybe show them under History (ctrl + H) how much she's been on. There's been a new obsession lately in the news about how dangerous myspace is and they've probably heard about it.
At the very least, make them change the password again and make sure she's out of the room when they type the password in.
EDIT: Okay, sorry. If you knew how she blocked it maybe you could fix that...As for her spending so much time on the computer, there's a program called Watchdog that limits your time on the internet, your parents can download it (i'm pretty sure it's free) and then set it. It's pretty much impossible to hack (believe me, I've tried). And I think you can block websites with it too...if not, there's probably a program out there that can.
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It seems to me that your sister is, as you put in the title, having a literal addiction problem. Many people think that people can only be addicted to drugs or alcohol, but internet addiction is also a serious problem in today's technologically-based society.
Your family needs to take the computer away for awhile, take it apart, and put it in a box somewhere so that she cannot possibly do it without someone noticing. Also, as with all all unhealthy addictions, the person with the problem needs to get help. There must be a reason she is doing this, but it's hard to say what that may be. She may not feel accepted by her friends, and this may be a way for her to feel better about herself, or it really could be anything. But it's important that she gets help and that you determine what that reason is, then deal with it.
Good luck!
(You can email me if you need any more help. My address is on my column, and I check it multiple times a day.)
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talk to your parents again. if they don't need to use the computer when they're home ask them if it would be alright to get rid of it for some time. viruses, hard-disc failure, etc. are all good excuses to give your sister for the computer being gone. you can also talk to your parents about sending her to a camp without modern conveniences or going on vacation to somewhere fun or enrolling her in summer classes. she's going onto myspace because she has nothing better to do. once you create an outlet that's more fun than myspace she'll stop and do the more interesting activity, but it'll take time and drastic measures.
edited with more information in the feedback: discuss your concern with your parents and explain to them that your sister absolutely must go and do something outside the house and away from the computer. moving the computer to a room that can be locked by your parents during the day and opened for a half-hour every night for your sister's use or having your parents use public computers for their classes are both viable options. YOU, as well, need to set a good example by using less of the computer for a little while and encouraging her to take up a hobby (which you'll take up first). do something together.
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Boy is she headed for trouble.
Next time she gets up and uses it in the middle of the night...go tell your parents then. Don't wait until morning, let them catch her in the act. :)
***EDIT***
Perhaps you could have your parents change the password. They could log her on and off themselves and not tell her what it is.
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