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my nose is soo itchy! i'm pretty sure its allergies but how do i make it stop itching. all i want to do all day is scratch it and its kind of embarassing! help please! (link)
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My friend has really bad allergies and she takes a Claritin(allergy medicine) every morning, and it really helps her!
Also, use a moisturizer. Personally I use Olay:Active Hydrating.
Good luck =D
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hello,
ok i've been friends with this boy for a year now..and since May we've been actting like best friends...alot of people ask if were dating.He's amazing. Cute,smart and funny. But like all good things theres a down fall. He's a bit of a flirt and still has many of he's ex-girlfriends in his life. Which isn't a bad thing. I mean i still have ex-boyfriends who i'm cool with...but he acts as if he likes them.All of them.It's like at football games he's all over them...taking myspace pics and so on. Then when were alone he shows how much he cares. He'll give me flowers..and leave a vociemail of the 'Great Escape' by BoyslikeGirls. He says it's "our" song..He'll say things that hit my heart. But i can't tell him how i feel because i just feel so torn. I mean if i want to date someone i don't want them talking to 1543156574 different girls. So what should I do? I feel lead on but i don't want to see it like that...alot of my friends dislike him. I really don't understand him half the time...lame. Help me out.
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Maybe he's acting like such a flirt because he needs that attention. If you guys go out, just make sure he pays no mind to the other girls, because he's got you and remind him of that if he's still acting too flirty for your taste.
A cute thing to do if he's been hanging out too much with other girls is boop (poke) him on the nose or kiss his forehead and say something like, "Y'know, you're making me really jealous."
Best of luck!
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ok so there is this guy, and he is cute and i think i like him. i think he might like me back too. Do you think it would be weird for a girl to make the first move on a guy or should it just be the guy? Also, how can you tell if a guy likes you? i know there are signs to tell you but what are they? i need to know everything. so please give me some advice about relationships in general to. i am a girl who needs to know everything because i haven't experienced any of it yet.
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and also...how do i be more flirtatious if i am kinda shy?? and you dont like to do stuff unless it is around guys i actually know. lately, it has been pretty eaisy because they are so outgoing and stuff, how can i be more like free and more avalable to others. Sorry i keep skipping to different ideas but there is just so much on my mind about all this stuff, so if you could please help me. Thanks in advance. (link)
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It's not weird for a girl to make the first move. Sometimes it's best if she does! (Guys can be soooo unpredictable, can't they?)
I find the most tell-tale sign is when they quickly glance away when you catch them lookin' at you. It's also so adorable! Usually they'll find a way to be close to you, whether it's direct or not.
I used to be shy, like you, unless I was comfortable with the people I was with. Only problem is...I'd fill up with butterflies with the guys I'd like! I just swallowed that awkward feeling and acted outgoing and cutesy. I think the best (and more subtle) ways are smiling and giggling. Make sure to catch his glances and let him see you're looking at him, too!
Best of luck =D
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i need to do more facials while i cheer. i do them pretty good during the actual performance, but i feel ridiculous doing facials to the wall or just to my coach. i feel like i look stupid. and its not as easy as just "not caring how i look" cuz it feels awkward haha. im captain, so its crucial that i have that down! any helpful tips? thanks! (link)
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Just remember that it feels awkward and weird for you to be delivering these facials, but to everyone else I'm positive you look lovely!
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I want a good welcome back present for my boyfriend's return from Asia! I haven't seen him in basically 6 months.
What should I do? (link)
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Well, depending on what he's into, get him a video game, or new sports gear, something that he likes!
But as an added bonus, maybe take him out to get a hamburger or something and be like, "Welcome back to America's food" Something cutesey like that!
Oh, and a backrub, too! He'll be on that plane for a loooong time and I'm sure he'd appreciate it =D
Have fun and good luck =)
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17/f I have a new boyfriend who is really lovely and nice and sweet and is a really decent guy. The thing is, he's not exactly "parent-approval" material, and I just know for a fact my parents would hate him. I don't normally keep the fact I have boyfriends secret from parents, but this time it feels different. For a start, I broke up with my ex pretty soon before I started dating this guy, and my parents LOVED my ex and were quite sad to see us split up! This was still only about 2 months ago.
Also, I've been going to his and seeing him a lot recently. I collapsed about two weeks ago at his house (nothing to do with him!) and lied at my parents about where it happened and said it was at a friend's, and if I told them now they'd definitely put two and two together, and also realise that I haven't actually just been going to a friend's to do homework all the time recently. They would be so angry that I lied!
I know that I have got myself into this situation but what should I do? I've got a feeling I'm gonna be with this guy for a while and I don't want to lie to them forever, and also he has expressed wanting to come to my house etc. But should I tell them that I have been lying to them all ths time? And how do I tell them? Thank you. xxx (link)
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Maybe take some time before telling them, so it won't be so fresh in their minds that you were at his house. And remember! Your parents don't choose who you fall for, you do. If they disapprove, just politely tell them that you're sorry that they had become attached to your ex, but it couldn't work out. Also tell them they should respect your judgement, and to give the poor guy a chance!
Best of luck!
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I have known someone for 11 years, i considdered them my best friend, upon meeting meeting someone that i really wanted to get to know and start a relationship with i decided to tell my friend about this, my friend freaked out and threatened to kill themself, they say that they have known me for 11 years and i should spend more time with them they also want to know where i am at all times, who i am talking to, and they try and keep me isolated from my family and other friends, they have "coerced" me into doing sexual things with them and have lied and minipulated my emotions to get what they want, i know that this is abuse and i know that i need to stop it, i just dont know how without my best friend killing themself, I also feel as if i deserve what i am in now because of something i did when i was younger IE "abused someone" i really need some help understanding why i feel as if i deserve pain and abuse, and also how do i get my friend the professional help they need? (link)
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Your friend has been abusing you in numerous ways, and that has to be stopped. Problems like this are only bound to get worse and even when it may feel like it'll all end and everything'll be fine, your friend's already proven that he's prone to it.
Really, the best thing is to inform someone, either a family member, someone at school, anyone who can help. Tell them that you're being cornered by a threat of suicide, that you've been stalked and munipulated.
Although it'll be hard, it is truly the best thing you can do. My best friend had to tell her mom, and it was good she had because if her ex hadn't been threatened with a restraining order, he'd probably still be tracking her down.
Best of luck.
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Well my parents hate my style(it's just jeans or gray trousers with band shirts and so on(very dark colours)
They want me to change my style of clothes..and I am almost ok with that...
But I'm looking for a style that is like more feminine but also has an edge to it..like rockish/metalish style.(metal as in metal music :P)
So yeah, pictures would be great, but anything is appriciated.
Like shoes( I wear vans and converse) shirts, jackets, trousers, skirts(I'm not really a skirt fan, but i might change :D), accesories.
Thanks :) (link)
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I've seen a lot of new converse where they look frayed and really, really cute! Especially in softer colors like light brown and faded pink.
I also think that black and white (or pink)striped clothing (not like the jail thing, but y'know)looks very fitting.
For skirts, there are adorable ones with netting or lace that can give that edge you want. As far as jewelry goes, I wear a large variety from glittering chokers to skulls with bows and hearts.
If there's a Kohls by you, I'd recommend it! I find that they're cheap and have wonderful clothes. JC Penny usually has a lot of sales going on, too, if there's one near you. I've gotten a lot of cute shirts from both of those stores, from grey to bright red.
Hope I helped! =D
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okay, so i have this really confusing problem.
now theres this guy i was really starting to like,
and he told me he liked me to.
but the other day at school, when i was talking to him, he completely ignored me, or atleast i thought he did. he wasnt like a complete jerk, but i dont know it was just like akward, like he wasnt paying enough attention to me. and then the other weekend we went to the movies with my friends, and apparently when i left, he told his friend he didnt like me anymore. and yesterday, i left early from school, so i told my friend to ask him if he liked me, and she said he said "i dont know." and she said, "its yes or not" and he said "ugh? why? i guess no" but then again, my friend who asked him kinda likes him too, so she could be making this all up. but i wanna ask today on the bus if he likes me, and if he said that he didnt to my friend.
but like what am i supposed to say?
haha like what do i ask him?
should i be like, "hey my friend told me that you didnt like me, and i just wanna know straight up, because i dont wanna just be played. so if you just wanna be friends, tell me, and if you dont, then okay."
WRITE BACKKKKKKKKKK (link)
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I think that "Hey my friend told me that you didnt like me, and i just wanna know straight up, because i dont wanna just be played. so if you just wanna be friends, tell me, and if you dont, then okay." is the way to go! Especially since he had told you he liked you but is now blowing you off and is sounding kinda like a jerk about it.
You're saying that even though you like him, you're a girl who can stand up for yourself and won't be played. That's admirable =D
Best of luck!
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I've been with my boyfriend for 28 months on the 5th. I love him. I swear I do. I am currently away at college. I try to come home at least every other weekend to spend time with him. Everything is great when I do that.
But then, during the week, when I am hours away and all I have of him is a few pictures and the sound of his voice on the phone, I go crazy. I feel like I need to see him or everything just goes bad. I get strange thoughts in my head and feeling like he doesn't love me or I take the frustrations of college out on our relationship. I know he understands what I am going through, but I don't know what to do because I don't want to upset him just because I'm freaking myself out.
How can I cope without seeing him? How do I prevent myself from going crazy and thinking something is wrong with our relationship just because I cannot see him? (link)
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If you are both willing to wait, you'll find it's worth it, very much so. I know it feels like forever, and you're missing him like crazy...but you just have to trust him and remind him how things'll be after college.
Use the weekends you can get back to him as a motivation to do well in your classes, take it all with a positive perception and be overjoyed when you see him again.
Hope I helped and good luck =)
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two questions on the same topiccc
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•are first time boyfriends supposed to be special in a girls life? like is a big deal to the mom or something?
•are a girls first kiss supposed to be really special? like are you supposed to search for the right dude in order to have you first kiss? or can it be just some dude u like but aren't dating?
thanks so much!!!
as many answers as possible please!
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First time boyfriends are usually special. Of course if they were jerks, then they shouldn't count as the first boyfriend. (Haha, I've never counted them =D)
I think the most special kiss isn't really the first one, but the first meaningful one. I mean that kiss from the guy who lets you know how much he likes you!
Hope I helped. =)
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Ok well this is the first time I'm going to my best friend's house and we've been best friends for years.
We've been discussing what we're going to do at her house and stuff but, she keeps mention-ing about what time i'm going to go home.
her brother just really dislikes me, i don't know why but he does and she wants me out of the house before he gets home.
it's not like he's going to kill me. She invites her friends to her house all the time, her brother doesn't like them either and he doesn't do anything so why do you think she's making a big deal?
Is there something between the lines that I'm missing?
Does she jsut don't want mt coming to her house?
Maybe she doesn't like me anymore?
Am i overanalyzing the situation? (link)
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My best friend's brother used to hate me. He didn't have any reason to, either, but still. Once I was over and her mom went, "When are you going? Phil doesn't like you." (Phil being the brother). My friend and I were like, jaw-dropped in awe that she was so rude. But, then we laughed...kinda weird, I know.
Anyways, he likes me now. But I think your friend's brother is just complaining and they just want to be able to tell him a time that you'll be going.
Best friends for years don't just randomly want you to leave their house early. Her brother's probably just being a bother.
Hope I helped, and have fun. =D
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There's this one guy I like, he's in 2 grades ahead of me but we have show choir together and I see him quite a bit for rehearsals. Well in choir we're doing this swing dancing/grease song and he's my partner. He's always really sweet...telling me I'm beatuful, hugging me, helping me up when we screw up on any of the moves (swing dancing is really hard. I'm a dancer but I've never done this before.) We had to car pool to Pope Joy hall for a concert and there weren't enough seats in the car so he let me sit on his lap and then he put his arm around my waste.
But what I don't get is one minute he acts like I'm the only girl in the world and when I'm not around or off somewhere else in the room he just flirts with other girls like crazy...I mean he doesn't act the same way around them as he does me...but still. I don't know if he likes me or not...and I don't want to assume that he does and make an idiot out of myself.
Do you think maybe he's just playing me? That I'm just a conquest? It's to the point where I honestly can't tell and I'm really good at reading people. I mean he always hugs me when he sees me and he always plays with my hair...
Today I walked into rehearsal and he was laying on the couch with this one girl just messing around with her, and then he caught my eye and I just walked out and he followed me but I was already out of his sight. I'm seriously tired of this...what do I do?
I really like him, but if he's going to keep going pi-polar on me then I need to move on... (link)
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It seems like he just craves attention. If so, and you guys went out (because it's completely apparent he likes you) you'll provide him that attention and he'll back off from other girls. But if he continues to flirt with other girls, drop the relationship, it can only get worse from there.
Hope I helped and best of luck!
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I don't know what to do anymore. I'm stressing over everything in my life. Especially about school. I'm constantly distracted about what's going on around school rather than my work. There's a lot of drama going on right now in school and I'm trying my hardest to stay away from it all but I just don't know how to anymore. I hate stressing over things that don't even matter or involve me. How can I be stress free about stuff not important to me? How can I handle stress ? I want to get away from everything but I just don't know how. (link)
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It's always wonderful to have someone to vent to. You need to let go of some of the stress before it overwhelms you!
Try to get a lot of rest! That's what I do. Then you'll feel refreshed for the next day. Lavender is proven to reduce stress, so I have a lavender scented chapstick. Try it out. =)
School drama is horrible, but there isn't anyway to extinguish it. Just continue to try to push it away. If you need any help in classes due to the distractions of drama, stay after class and see if your teacher can help you with anything. That's what they're there for =D
Best of luck and hope I helped!
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there is this guy i like from my church, well, he is like the perfect guy for me, i think he is so cute, the best personality, and hillarious. i just want to know any signs to show if i a guy liked you, because i cant figure guys out easily, some girls can but i cant!!
THANKS :D
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The most tell-tale sign...glacing away when they're caught lookin' at you! I swear, it's adorable, too.
They'll also request hugs, tend to try to sit with you, or find any reason to be close by.
Good luck and soo hope he likes yooouuu!
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I have been "best" friends with these three girls for a long time. One I've known since 2nd grade but friends since 6th,(lets call her tibby.) one I've known since the sixth and only been good friends for a about a year, (lets call her lena)and one I've been friends with since 5th grade.(lets call her bee)yes i know that all of these name are form the sisterhood of the traveling pants. I was in the 6th grade when i read that book and i always kinda liked to think of us as the girls of the sisterhood.
but in the last year I have relized that our priorites are not the same. I don't mean just on interests, but on our friendship. for the last 4 years i always have tryed to live up to the sisterhood trying to be the best friend that i can be. I always went out of my way to try and help and be there for my friends. i always thought that they were the same way but now older i realize that this was not the case. they never offerd to help me when i needed it. I have been playing volleyball for the 4 years also my friends have never once seen me play. they dont come to my game because they dont like volleyball well dont they like me? dont they want to support me? I would support them if I could. Bee and lena row but they go out of town and i cant do that and tibby well she doesn't do anything that i can support, no sports or clubs. Now that i'm in high school i feel as if i am wasting the best years of my life on friends who take me for granted.
like i said this is high school, and high school has cliques. there are lots of people i know who id like to be friends with i really like some of the girls on my volleyball team. one of them plays soccer so i try to go to her games when none of her friends go to them. but im afried that im just intruding on their friendships. i dont want to do that.
im I just being paranoid, about others and their friends? am i being judgmental about my "friends"? I need advice!!! (link)
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Sometimes I think if someone's being the "ideal friend" their friends just naturally assume that they'll always be there. I don't think they have even noticed the lack on their part. Maybe say something like, "I really wish I had you guys cheering for me at a few of my games." Something like that. =)
Hope I helped and best of luck!
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i drink TONS of milk, always have, but my joints i guess (?) are always poppin, especially my knees and ankles. whenever im workin out doin leg lifts [where you lay on your side and raise your leg up and down] my knee pops EVERY SINGLE time i lower my leg. is this bad ?? (link)
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My joints pop a lot, too, and I actually had to go to the doctor because of it. He had said it was the worst popping he's heard, and so I had to get bloodwork done.
He had said that a lot of athletes' joints crack a lot, though he didn't go into much detail on it (I told him I'm not even close to being an athlete) but the cracking could be a sign on Lyme Disease. I came out fine, but it's best for you to have a doctor check it out.
Hope I helped! =D
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well, i have a boyfriend, and he really likes me and i really like him...the thing is that one of my best friends really likes him (i found this out through one of my other friends, and that my friend that likes him said " i really wanna go out with him, but i dont wanna hurt her (me) feelings") im not supposed to know about this bbut now i do and it really bugs me because i have to pretend that i dont know and im really scared that my boyfriend will dump me for her...i really wanna be nice and considerate, but at the same time i just wanna be like "Back Off!" so im really confused as to what to do and im really stressed out from worrying and keeping it a secret. (oh yeah and its like really hard for me to talk to her face to face without feeling angry or like im gunna spill that i know) what can i do for this to die off and that my friend will stop liking my boyfriend?! its just really hard for me because i have has numerous boyfriends who have dumped me for my best friend...and i just dont want that to happen again....what do i do???? (link)
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I'd talk to her about it. But first I'd confront the friend who told you that she liked your boyfriend. If you go and start saying that you're really into this guy and that you know she's been flirting with him, she'll get the clue that someone told you, and then everything will be said secretly and there will be more of a lack of trust. Ah, I'm so sorry that sounds confusing.
Basically I'd inform the friend that told you that you're going to talk to the other friend about it. When you talk to her about it, just say something like, "I've heard you like him," or "People have been saying that you've been flirting with him...what's up?"
Best of luck. =)
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Ok, please help me because i have no idea why I'm like this. i will sometimes (esp. as of lately) get really mad and bitter for no reason. i just get so frusterated things arent going right and the way i want them too. i am not like 'emo' or whatever actually im usually a really happy person (at least around my friends) and enjoy life but i get mad at the whole world other times. Most people dont know this or believe it haha but i can get really mad and hateful and upset sometimes and be really negative and angry. I have NO IDEA why i get so angry but sometimes i just cant stand it! I have 3 younger siblings who never listen and always make things worse because they cant ever do anything right or help or do something without attitude (well sometimes they are good but more likely they arent) and i just get so mad and stressed out and frusterated. i do have quite a temper but im generally a good, nice, outgoing, happy, upbeat, go get 'em person and when i get this mad i just dont understand. its never around my friends only at home. i love my family very much and they are very important to me and im a good, strong christian girl and i try to be happy but i cant when im so upset. i just hate life and the world at that point. i dont want to be like this! i want to be happy and enjoy life but im always getting stressed out! Please help me because i dont know what to do and sometimes i get so angry i want to cry like a few minutes ago.If you have any suggestions please help me! thank you so much!
PS its highly likely that its related to stress but i cant drop any of my responcibilities because they are pretty much only chores, and taking care of my siblings and cleaning and stuff like that and school work. (link)
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Try to get some extra rest, because you might be irritable because of a lack of sleep. Also, siblings can really get to you, and that's a load of extra stress right there. It's kind of inevitable. =/
I know that Lavender is supposed to be stress-reducing, so I have a lavender scented chapstick. I can't say I've noticed it to be relaxing, but it's always worth a try. =)
Good luck!
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My parents are paying for me to go to private school and im feeling esp. pressured now to get straight A's and its really hard but i know i can just EXTREMELY hard esp. with math so if anyone had some tips and things to try to manage my time and get an A please share! I care very much about my grades but usually have a B or two on my report card (always MATH) and.or something else and i only got straight A's once last yr out of the 4 quarters. the curriculum might be even harder and i heard the hw load is A LOT and im really bad at managing my time and doing hw so please help me and tell me what works for you, ect.! Thanks so much and i will rate all helpful advice!!! :) (link)
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Try to make a little schedule for yourself. Like, spend a half hour on homework, and take a small break before starting on it again. That way you don't get overwhelmed, but you also don't take forever doing it.
If you need extra help in math, don't be afraid to ask your teacher to repeat anything or show you how to solve a problem again. It can really help!
Best of luck =D
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