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Growing Apart "I need Advice!!"
I have been "best" friends with these three girls for a long time. One I've known since 2nd grade but friends since 6th,(lets call her tibby.) one I've known since the sixth and only been good friends for a about a year, (lets call her lena)and one I've been friends with since 5th grade.(lets call her bee)yes i know that all of these name are form the sisterhood of the traveling pants. I was in the 6th grade when i read that book and i always kinda liked to think of us as the girls of the sisterhood.
but in the last year I have relized that our priorites are not the same. I don't mean just on interests, but on our friendship. for the last 4 years i always have tryed to live up to the sisterhood trying to be the best friend that i can be. I always went out of my way to try and help and be there for my friends. i always thought that they were the same way but now older i realize that this was not the case. they never offerd to help me when i needed it. I have been playing volleyball for the 4 years also my friends have never once seen me play. they dont come to my game because they dont like volleyball well dont they like me? dont they want to support me? I would support them if I could. Bee and lena row but they go out of town and i cant do that and tibby well she doesn't do anything that i can support, no sports or clubs. Now that i'm in high school i feel as if i am wasting the best years of my life on friends who take me for granted.
like i said this is high school, and high school has cliques. there are lots of people i know who id like to be friends with i really like some of the girls on my volleyball team. one of them plays soccer so i try to go to her games when none of her friends go to them. but im afried that im just intruding on their friendships. i dont want to do that.
im I just being paranoid, about others and their friends? am i being judgmental about my "friends"? I need advice!!!
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Many people are going to come in and out of your life. Some people you will form strong bonds with and become close friends with and in most cases you will never forget those people. However, in most cases regardless how close at one point or another you grow apart. Growing apart could just be temporary or it could last a lifetime. Life is too mysterious to tell. Don't force yourself to remain in these friendships, yet don't push them away. Go with the flow and be yourself and see who's there and who isn't. Don't be afraid to intrude on a friendship, most likely the person probably feels the same way you do. Someone has to break the ice! I feel like I went a bit off topic here. Oh well, hope all is well and good luck!
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Sometimes I think if someone's being the "ideal friend" their friends just naturally assume that they'll always be there. I don't think they have even noticed the lack on their part. Maybe say something like, "I really wish I had you guys cheering for me at a few of my games." Something like that. =)
Hope I helped and best of luck!
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