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Q: if you really like someone and they ask you out how do you say yes to them?

Just smile and say yes. Dont jump and be all excited cause that's kinda weird. You could be cute and creative and do a little "I'd love to" or "It would be my honor" if you're pretty close with them. Good luck!!

Q: have a friend a best friend named sean and i liked him then i thought i didnt but deep down i new i still did today i told him that i used to like him on and off for years including this year and he was like i would have gone out with you why are you tellin me now and do u still like me and i said it dont madder because you goout with jude and shes also one of my best friends and i dont know what to do pls help ps im more friends with sean than jude

Well this is a really hard situation and I hate to say it because I hate getting this advice but you really need to follow your heart.

I personally think that this guy Sean does like you because he told you striaght out he woulda gone out with you and he asked you if you would date him now (meaning if you had said yes he probably would have asked you).

What you need to realize is whats more important to you. Do you still really like Sean and could maybe deal with getting in a fight with Jude (which probably could happen if she does like him). If you want to date him then don't lie to him or yourself. Tell him you still like him (if you do) and then tell him that you don't want to ruin your friendship with Jude. Talk to her about it and tell her you've liked him for a really long time and she should understand if she's one of your best friends.

I hope I helped. Good luck and let me know if you need anymore help!

Q: 15 F Chicago and i'm always hearing disrespectful things about President Bush and how he is so insuboordinate(to sum it all up becuase i probably cannot swear on here) so basically my question is..why do so many people hate Bush? I mean he is our president and its a hard thing to do, i suppose? Just opinions guys. Thanks so much.

There are a lot of reasons why people don't like them and the majority have to be because he put us into this war which a lot of people think wasn't nessicary and he also comes across in the media as a very uneducated man. There are many more things but I could go on for hours...

Q: I haven't had my period for at least 4 months. I'm a virgin. Does anyone know why this is? Should I see a doctor. 15/f Will rate high.

Well, if you have had your period for longer than a year, then yes you should go and see a doctor because you could have some type of infection going on.

If you have just started getting your period, then it is normal for it to stop for a while and then come back.

You could also be missing it if you are under a lot of stress or if you suddenly stopped being active in a sport or running activity.

Q: Kay. Well me and this kid Matt are supposed to be hanging out really soon. We're like not going out but we're basically together. He's two years and 8 months older then me. I wanna make a good impression around him and stuff. I've had so many oppurtunties to kiss him, but I am so scared! I told him I hate making the first move, and I've never done it before so he wants me to do it once. When were gonna be together today I wanna kiss him sooo badly, but like how am I supposed to know when? This is bugging me so badly, cause I don't wanna do it at the wrong moment! Eeek. Advice Please. ♥♥

Just wait for a stop in a conversation and look into his eyes. Stay like that for a minute and then just gradually move in slowly. He obviously wants to kiss you back so you have nothing to worry about.

And like the person below me said, just play with him. When you guys are talking touch him and giggle at whatever joke he makes (even if it is stupid). Good luck and have fun!

Q: My parents are always bugging me about coming home at unreasonable times, and my mom assumes that I am into drugs, smoking, and drinking alcohol. I dont know how to gain their trust, so that they will respect me more. I always seem to blurt out words to them, and they yell at me all the time. I dont know how to handle this situation, because they are destroying my social life.

My parents used to be really strict too. Just sit them down and talk to them. If someone starts to get angry and raise there voice just notice it and say "please calm down". Just be really understanding with them and start out slow at first with maybe a later curfew by a half hour. Then maybe after a month if they know you're fine, raise it to an hour. Just make sure that they know you know where they are coming from and that you understand. It'll all turn out fine. Chances are they just don't want you to get hurt.

Q: does getting a blood test hurt?

It doesn't hurt that much. It's basiclly like getting a shot, just a little more pain. You should be fine with it.

Q: im 15 almost 16 and i am still in a AA-cup bra.

mom is a A-cup, but my sister is a C-cup.

This is completely destroying my life! I have not had a boyfriend cuz' my breasts are tiny now I am old and nobody will want me.

what about breast enlargement?

are there any other wayz i can get someone to love me?

is surgery for enlarging my breasts my best way to get my life back?

i want to have a boyfriend before i get old! am i already too old? none of the boys will want me soon. i am almost 16!

Please HELP ME!

Okay well you are 15. That is what you need to realize here. You are still growing and will be until you hit around 20. That's 5 more years of growing and chances are, you're not staying AA forever.

PLENTY of people haven't had boyfriends until they are older than you so don't even think that that is the problem. Why would you want a guy that only dates you for the size of your boobs? That is one of the most shallow things a guy can do and I have a strong dislike to all men like that.

Again, you're 15. You're not old and you probably have like another 70 years to live. All that time you have to find a boyfrined. Why rush into it with someone who only cares about your boobs. Don't date a shallow man.

Q: okay, so i'm 14/m, and she's 14/f, and i've known her for a really long time as a friend, and i've had a secret crush on her forever now.
so i said to her the other day, "hey, do you wanna go see a movie or something on friday" and she looks at me like i'm crazy. i've never really had a girlfriend before, and i think i totally f*cked up our relationship. she won't even talk to me anymore. anyone got some advice that could help?

Thanks,
Sam

Well, I honestly don't know why she would act that way if you just asked her to a movie. Tell her you're inviting her as a friend, just the two of you and that you think it will be a lot of fun. Just call her up and explain you didn't mean anything by it. Then maybe during the movie make a move to put your arm around her or hold her hand. Just take little steps and then work up the curage to tell her that you like her. Good luck and don't worry you didn't mess up your relationship.

Q: Hi Im A 21 year old female. and im stressing. I Have a 24 year old boyfriend i have been with for the past 2years and a half. in this relationship i have bin cheated on,beaten up i have practically been abused mentally physically and emotinally. he say he love , i guess in his own ways.but i have been dealing with him and his baby mama to much. dont get me wrong i do love him. but i felt he stopped my life completly. i wanted to go to college or to the military and he didnt want me to go. but i was dumb. anyways i went away for training which i had to beg him to let me go, eventually he did. before i left i found out he cheated on me with his baby mama again. so when i went away i found someone.A 25 year old firefighter. someone who treated me like i have never been treated before, he respects me, he loves me, hes offering me the world, my mom spoke to him and she like him, so i had plan to leave my boyfriend to go to live with this guys now. i would love to be with this guy so much but my boyfriend refuses to let me go. now these days he all of a sudden want me and promises me to treat me good, but he promised that before.everytime i speak to my baby i smile he makes me feel happy something i havent been feeling in a long time, this is my story i dont know what do do, im a Virgo In Distress and i just cant figure out what to do. please help me, this is my future.

Yeah definately go with this firefighter. Your 24 year old is not right or worthy of you and do not go believing his lies again. When he says he wont let you go, go anyways and if he lays one hand on you, then call the police. He has no right to treat you this way and it's illegal. The firefighter is the right choice for you and I hope it all turns out well.

Q: How old is way too young to have sex? my bf wants to with me but were only 15!! is that too young please help... if that is too young what should i say to him..

There really isn't a right age for sex. If you feel that you love the guy you are with and he loves you back and you guys both feel like you have something with each other then I would say go for it. Just make sure, a lot of things can happen. STDs, Pregnancy etc. Like the person before me said, getting pregant young can ruin your life. Use protection always.

Q: ok is it ok to have sex when your on your period?

Well, it would get really messy but yeah you couldn't hurt anything.

Q: But she told me the other day she had got rid of the photo?

I know I shound havnt done it thou but I made a fake email addy to talk 2 her “bf” and I was talking 2 him and he seems a nice guy but when I askd him are you single he said ye iam but iam just getting off with this girls thou. So I think she finks they are seein each other?then I askd her wot is she doin 2nite ( last nit) and she said iam goin out with kris and havin sumthin 2 eat at his,but when I was talking to him askd him wot was he up 2 2nit and he said “ just a quite nite in watchin the football and I was talking 2 him till bout 11 ( at nite)anyways y is she tryin 2 make me jelious? I thought you only made sum1 jelious when you likd them?
help me plzzzzzz

Well, it sounds like one of two things.

First off, the guy she is with is a total jerk and just wants to get some from anyone. Which, in this case, you should forward the emails to your friend and show her that he is unfaithful. You're going to need proof so don't just jump out there and say he's playin you.

Secondly, she could be making you jealous because she likes you. Girls do this a lot. They mess with your heads to see how you will react. If you react a certain way by getting jealous then they know that you like them back.

This is up for you to decided. Which one of these sounds more reasonable? I hope I helped and good luck!

Q: ok well im 13 almost 14 and ive only had 2 boyfriends my whole life guys tell me i look hot although im 5'8" and all the guys at my school are shorter if they like me why wont they ask me out....?

Well I'm really tall too and I went through the same thing. Chances are, they are just intimidated by your height. You are also young so don't rush things. They will come it just takes some time.

Q: ok so i asked a question a long time ago about my boyfriends best friend kinda took advantage of me well to day i was talking to my boyfriend on the phone and he said that we needed to talk so i called him and he said i've been acting kinda shy and he said whats wrong?
and then it was quiet and he said again Your mostly shy when my buddy comes around Did he do something to you? Luckly my mom called and i had to go so i told him i'd talk to him about it later. What should i tell him or What should i do Please help me ASAP!

You need to tell your boyfriend what happened. It wasn't right for his friend to take advantage of you and your bf needs to know exactly what happened. The key point in a relationship is communication and you should be able to tell him anything.

Q: Okay. I was at my friends house and we took her parent's smirnoffs and drank them. Her mom found out and said that if I don't tell my parents about it then my friend's grounding will be even longer. What should i tell my parents? They are really strict about everything. Thanks

Well you don't want your friend to have to pay for what you helped in doing. I'd just go and sit your parents down and tell them that you made a bad choice and that you tried alcohol. Tell them that you have learned your lesson because you can see that consiquences of your action. They will be mad and probably ground you to but it'll all be over after that.

Q: Well, I used to go out with a boy, and he was like my first kiss and everything. And I still love him and its been 8 months. But, he has a girlfriend right now. I know he would go out with me if I asked him, but I dont want to break them up. But, I think I really do love him and he means the world to me. We broke up because my friends were being really arrogant and kept telling me lies and false stories about him so I broke up with him. Do I brake them up? How do I get him back? Please help me you have no idea how much I miss him and would literally fo anything to be with him.
--me

I would just go up to him and tell him how you feel. If he does end up breaking up with his gf because he still likes you then don't feel bad because you guysare just following you hearts and that's what you're suppossed to do.

Q: My friend is REALLY shy..and she wants me to help her get over it..and i have an idea..I'll take her to walmart and we'll just kinda walk around while my mom shops for groceries and she likes to sing and has "stage fright" so i figured what better way to kinda bust her out of her shell by walking thru walmart singing. The reason i say this is because she is shy singing infront of people..even with one person she gets nervous..i was hoping to get a second opinion on this..would this be too hard on her? i figured i would have her sing for me a little bit then maybe for my parents (or go around the block singing) and then take her to walmart..i'm open to suggestions if anyone thinks they have a better idea! Thanks!

Just start out by having her sing in front of you guys' little group of friends (maybe 4 or 5) then bring her to your parents and have her sing then. Then maybe a trip around the block. Then graduallly keep growing the crowd. The best way to get her used to it is by staying gradual. Good luck!

Q: This question is directed toward all you christian colunists. I'm planning to get a tattoo soon and I'd like to get the opinion of other christians. So if you are a christian, I'd like to know how you feel about tattoos.

I think it's fine. There isn't anything in the bible about it that I know of.

Q: me and this girl have been friendly 4 bout 5 months and the other month she txtd me sayin she has no got a bf and that she still wants to keep in touch with me cos she will miss me, and when we went on our date she has kept the photo we had taken of us and she has also kept the train ticket and this boyfiend she has now she says is " the 1" if he is the 1 y keep the ticket and photo of us?

the the other day she was meant to send her bf a txt and it appeard on my phone instead when his name is Kris and my name is Ste but K is nowere near S in the alaphbet is it? is she tryin to make me jelious r sumthin?

she says that the date we went on she will never 4get it was 1 of the best days she had and that when we kiss she went all funny but i still dont understand it? when we talk now we just end up arguing and bitchin bout each other then we say sorry 2 each other and that it wasnt nice but y does she still want me as a mate if we argue and then make up the other day she said she "hated me and that i had "blown it "( y had i blown it she says she dont like me anymre) and told me to "piss off" but then she txts bk and says sorry bout b4 . but if she dont like me and i pissd her off y she wanna keep intouch with me she says I always make her happy and smile isn’t that wot a bf is

Personally, I think this girl has a lot she needs to think about. It sounds like she really likes you but she doesn't want to hurt her now boyfriend or she may have a crush on him still. Either way just try talking to her without yelling and see how you each feel. Tell her that you like her (if you do which im getting the feeling you do) and ask her how she feels about you. It will turn out fine over time, she just needs to think.

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Hey guys! My name is Leah and I am 15 years old. I'm from Maine where it's always beautiful but for some reason, everyone here wants to leave it. I love playing basketball and just hangin out with my friends whenever I can. I am the advice giver in my group of friends and I always help them out with whatever it is they may need. When I get older I want to be a phyciatrist and have a huskey named Isabella. I don't know why but I do. If you have a problem, I am here for you and wont judge you at all. I never pass up on a question passed to me so don't be shy. I've been through a lot in the past 15 years and I'm sure I will be able to answer a majority of you guys' questions. Hit me up and don't forget to live for the moment. It's the most important thing you can do.