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Q: hey
does anyone know any way a 15 year odl can make money except for a job, like doing other things..mmkay thnaks

well..you could do lawn work for neighbors or babysit or something...that gave me money!!

Q: 15/f
okay i moved to a different city about a year ago. there is this guy that is like one of my best friends and everyone knows that he likes me and i like him too((but not alot)). ive gone to dances with him, but im afraid that if he asks me out things will get all weird, and i dont know if i would be able to kiss him without feeling odd.
please help me!

if you're not ready and things feel odd then dont get together with him. feeling odd probly means that you dont like him that much so you shouldnt rush things.if he asks u out and ur ready then defiently go for it but if your not then just tell him that your not ready to be in a relationship right now. tell him that maybe soon you'll like him more. i hope i helped !!

Q: my boyfriend's friend keeps hitting on me even tho he know im in a relationship with his close friend. the other day we were at this party and he pulled me up to this room and he raped me. he grabbed me and touched my body. im really scared and he hurt me. i feel strange. i couldnt do anything hes a football player and he held me down and i couldnt stop him. he shove something in my mouth so i couldnt scream. wut do i do?? i cant tell my boyfriend or he will kick the living shit out of him.the guy said if i tell anyone he will do it again. i know i can get some reasonable advice here.

HELP

i think that you should just not listen to him...tell someone. if you keep this to yourself then you can't stop it. he'll do it again. just tell a parent or any adult and they'll deal with it. just try not to get too close to him. keep a good amount of space between you and him and you should be fine. but definetly tell an adult right away!! dont panic. they'll deal with it. he'll get in big trouble.

Q: I'm kind of a shy type, so I don't really sing in front of people, but when I do I make it sound, like not my best. But when I sing by myself, I think that I may be talented. I also like to dance, and I like to draw and I'm good at that too, and same with writing. At my school there is Drama Club and I froze up and forgot all my lines and absolutely refused to sing. I dont know what to do. I want to be found out, but part of me doesn't. I'm a very split person.

i think that you should tape your voice and show it to someone that can help you. as for the dancing...just dance its really fun. don't be scared. a lot of ppl are afraid to dance in front of people. start out dancing in front of friends and work your way to shows and stuff at school. you'll grow to love it.

Q: i am making one of these things too. the problem is, for some reason, it won't let people ask questions. i have gone into profile settings and said that anyone can ask a question but it still wont work. how did you do it?

you could try just making a new account...see if that works and if it doesnt then its prolly ur computer.

Q: First of all if you do help me out thank you. Well im a senior in high school, Im 18 years old.
You see I have a teacher well his not really my teacher. He was my teacher my freachmen year, But now were just good friends.
We go out t eat ive been out with him and his and my friends. we have fun. Oh his 26. You see I dont know if he likes me or if were just good friends.
a couple of days ago, he asked me if he thought a student was attractive and if he told them how I thought they woulfd take it.
I sayd I did not know, It all sepnded on the girl.
Then he asked hw i would feel. Well sorry I hav to go because im in his class right at this moment.
Help me.
~~~Chelly~~~

ask him if he has feelings for you because if he tries to make a move you'll regret it.

Q: There are these two boys and they came to live with us they are getting on my nerves hitting my sister yelling in the house and being mean to the animals I need some help any one that answers this question I will give you a five please help me

talk to your parents about it. and have them lay down some rules. make sure they can't get to the animals and tell your sister to stand up for herself and your parents should definetly punish them big time.

Q: Right heres a run-down. Recently i (16) ended a long distance relationship that had been going on for almost a year, to be with someone closer. But it all went horribly wrong( the closer relationship) and i was single again.I felt terrible not because it had ended but becasue of what i'd given up for it. I loved the person who was living long distance away and was ashamed at myself for what i had done. So i asked the girl from the long distance relationship to give me one more chance and thank the gods she did. My question however. Is i still feel guilty for what i did to this girl..Even though its in the past and seh has given me the second chance. I know what i did was wrong and i know that I hurt her. Because i love her it hurts me so badly inside. I dont know how my present gf feels though i just want to know. And i don't know what to do.. Any help will be appreciated!!
anthony

just talk it out with the girls and they'll help you out.

Q: I am 115 lbs and 5'5'' i would like to loose 10 lbs as soon as possible without anorexia or bulimia. i hardly have anytime to go to the gym. please give me advice on how to accomplish my goal.

you could get movies like tae bo and do those every day for like and hour or so and see how ur results turn out. or you could TRY to go to the gym but if you dont have the time then i suggest getting the movies.

Q: okay so basically my dad said he is moving out .. him moving out = me moving some place else because my mom cannot afford this house we live in .. what am i going to do .. im leaving my friend jen if i move and she is basically my only BEST friend right now .. because i dont hang out with any of my other friends because well i dont know why but i feel like im losing all of my friends and that all i have left is jen and now im probably going to move away .. this is so hard for me because i lost my aunt on christmas and she was my best friend and i cant deal with this anymore and i dont know what to do.. please help me ..

try to talk to jen as much as u can when you move. my best friend moved too and we try to talk every day. Also if its possible you could visit her or she could visit you. You could celebrate you moving by having jen over your house one of the last days your there. you'll have lots of fun. just stay calm and dont worry about your dad. you'll get to see him too. this kinda thing happens to a lot of ppl so dont worry about it.

Q:
Ok I'm making felt balls. Does anyone here know a store where you can get combed wool/fleece (not online)? thx so much!!!

♥ Evita

michaels has what your looking for.

Q: does anyone know how to change your screen name on aim? any real answers and i'll rate high!!! thanx

you go to www.aim.com and you go to the bottom to *starting out* and you click on it. then you click on *screen names* then you go to *how do i get an aim screen name?* and click on it. then it says *how do i create an aim screen name*click here* and you click there. it will bring you to wat your looking for. you type everything in and you hav a new sn.

Q: ok im really confused and i REALLLLY like matt ((hes this guy that i goes to the place where i dance and hes always my partner))...but i kinda like Max and MarC ((which are like my BESTEST guy friends)) and like they all like me and i like dunno what to do..if enyone has adive PLEASE HELP..cuz i dont wanna hurt enyones feelings!

well..go for the guy that you think u like most. they should understand. if it doesnt work out with one of them then you could move on to another. they wont feel bad. if they like you as much as u say they do, then they'll get it.

Q: 2 days ago me and my sister were running outside in my uncles back yard and i ran around her and i stepped on a 2 1/2 inch rusty bolt and it went 1 inch *or more* in my foot and i had to go to the hospital. well now im back home and i have no crutches or a wheel chair or anything and i really want to walk around my house but when i hop on my good foot it makes my ribs and knee hurt too much does any one know a way for me to get around until i get crutches?
thanks
i rate 5's for good answers

you could roll around in one of those rolli chairs..like computer chairs until you get your crutches. thats fun. ive had to do it before

Q: Ok well the other day i was at a party and this girl i had just met started coming on to me and when she wanted to have oral sex i backed out but i think i regret itt
im seeing her next weekend what should i do

well..i think that you should talk to her about it. tell her how you feel about it.if you wanted to then tell her. if u didnt want to then tell her. whatever you think is right.

Q: i've had my period for over two years. the last two times i've had it its been really really light. like i don't have to change my pad at all during the day and by the third day its barely there. is this normal?

yes its normal..it happens to everyone sometimes. dont worry about it.

Q: OK, brace your self, a while ago this guy trent ased me out and he was 2 years older. I said know cus i just got out of a bad relation ship. Now hes reallllly good friends with one of my good friends James. James is going out with alexa and trent is going out with alexas friend ashlyn. well me ash and alexa are all 14 ( im not good friends woth them) and james and trent just turned 16. WELL ANY WAY... I have these to other real good friends Morie (girl) and briana. and one day we (james trent bri morie me) were all hangin out at night and out of absoluty no where briana goes Oh My Gosh I LIKE TRENT!!! ...ALOT!!!! A WHOLE LOT!!!!! .. I WANT TO MAKE OUT WITH HIM!!! and i was all confused , she suddenly likes this guy and just goes to atempt to make out with him (BTW bri just turned 13 last week) Well after she triend to and failed at making out with him she told MOrie to do it. Morie said she didnt want to chus this was the first night she ever met him. well bri said if she didnt so wuold kill herself ( she "cuts") so morie talked to trent about it ( mo turned 12 last month) and they went in the back and made out. well over the night trent began to really like her. They made out like 5 time and he followed her EVERY WHERE!! and they flirted alll night. SO me and james were like "trent arnt you going out with ashlyn???" He said " im taking a break" But later ashlyn called james saying "trent isnt anserwing his fone if u see him tell him to call." James asked if they were still going out and ashlyn said yes. So trent is baisicly cheating on her with morie, but Mo and trent arnt actually going out cus mo likes his little brother(14) who likes Alexas cusin mandy and also because trent is almost 5 years older then morie. And latly he is flirting a lot with me to and i keep telling him hes taken and i dont mess with taken guys. but i do like him a little. And I am just soooo lost! what do i do, what should MO do, Should we tell aslyn, or what should we tell trent... or just help!!

sorry its so long. If you actually read this and anserwed you get an auto 5 ( unless your response just SUCKED!)

ok i think that u shouldnt try to get into the middle of his life. just let him be and if ashlyn finds out then just pretend liike you didnt know. Try talking to mo and see if you can convince her to stop making out with him because its mean to do to ashlyn. Also try talking to trent and telling him that ashlyn still thinks they're going out. c wat he says. Just do whatever you can to try and fix the situation.

Q: well tomorrow i'm going to the doctors for a check up and i'm 14/f and last time i went they looked down my pants and i think its VERY preverted! ( is that normal for most doctors to do?) is there a way i can stop them??

signed: grossed out

yes thats normal dont worry. all doctors do that. yea its really gross but they need to do it...idk why but they do..dont worry about it..you could try to talk to your mom about it and see what she can do.

Q: theres this guy i like. i like him a lot but i dont even think he notices me. what should i do because i don't exactly want to tell him because im afraid of what he'd say what should i say?

well...i think that you should just be yourself and see if he notices you. If he doesnt it's his loss because your a wonderful girl and hes not good enough for you.

Q: I went to a friend's camp this last weekend. She told me that there was this guys a few years olded then us but he was annoying, stupid, and ugly.Then we went out onto the lake and he came along. He had this really big tube and we were all just chillin on it and pushing each other off. then one time it was just me and him and i justed to like him but kept myself from liking him because of what my friend said. i know it doens't matter because i probably won't see him again but should i of let what my friend say keep me from liking this guy?? please help!

well if what your friend sed was true then yes believe her...but you should also make your own decisions. dont let your friend change your mind about how you think of him.